Pregnant after MC due December 14

[Penguin13]

If you're pregnant after a previous MC and due in December 14 this is the thread for you.

If you're an obsessive knicker-checker or just want someone to chat to who knows where you're coming from you'll fit right in.

Looking for a pregnancy app, can anyone recommend a good one?

I will get 12 weeks paid (plus 4 weeks before edd so will stop at 36 weeks) then I will probably extend by at least 5 weeks with partially paid ml (need to work out how much I'm entitled to..think 200 hours paid and 200 unpaid parental leave, which with my current contract of 3 teaching days would be ...).. That would take me to the end of April and dc would be 4mo. I went back to work when ds was 4 and a half months. The last 2 months are a bit dossy here...tonnes of school holidays, week of exams, activity week, week of meetings so no kids. But it all depends 8n childcare. I need to meail my nursrey to see if/when they have a place.

Penguin look after yourself -that sounes super stressful.

Baby was kicking me in the wide earlier when I was driving. Definitely didn't feel ds this early. Knackered but looking forward to spending the weekend with my mum but not the drive to england

11w+2

Basgetti sorry to hear your sickness is back. I hope your new meds work and you can avoid a hospital visit.
I appear to be very lucky as although I am back to all day nausea the vomiting has stopped. Back to a diet of lemonade and ice lollies for me!

I decided to bite the bullet and get properly measured for a maternity bra yesterday. Oh my days the comfort is amazing I had gone from a 30C to a 34E!! No wonder I was in agony. I'm getting quite excited about scan next Monday, slightly nervous but not as bad as I expected to be.

Franks great news that the vomiting has eased up. Hope the nausea does soon too. Basgetti you poor thing, I hope the new meds work for you.

Where did you get measured Franks?I need to do that too. I tried using the better bra campaign guide to fitting but although it's quite supportive I find the tighter band they suggested quite uncomfortable.

How exciting to feel baby kicks already Engels! I thought I'd been feeling the first tiny flutters of movement this weekend at 14+6, like little bubbles, but have since concluded it was probably gas!

Got my SIL's angel sounds monitor yesterday but she cautioned against using it before 20 weeks (which struck me as quite late) now I'm torn. I've had some niggly anxiety over the past few days that something has gone wrong but know am probably being irrational. If I try to find a hb and fail I feel it might make my anxiety worse. Should I just wait till my 16 week mw appointment next Thurs for reassurance?

Personally I would wait Penguin and talk to the midwife about it, but if you're really worried, maybe give it a go?

My positivity last about four days, but yesterday I got a whole load of appointments in the post for the consultant, with a note from the midwife saying that I won't be seeing her at all because of my bmi and history. My glucose levels indicated a raised risk of gd so I have the proper two hour gtt on 9th July as well as a 2 hour appointment with the consultant. I feel awful, like I've let this baby down before I've even had it. That it was selfish of me to get pregnant when I'm so massively obese (size 16, imagine). I'm going to end up having a giant baby that will get diabetes and a highly medicalised birth with no choices.

I can't help thinking that sending all this stuff through and then saying we'll see you in four weeks, with absolutely no guidance about what I can do to help myself or the baby in the meantime is fucking lame.

Bollocks, I've made myself cry now.

On the subject of maternity leave, I'm planning on taking a year and won't be back in the office until January 2016, thanks to the 30 days holiday I'll accrue during 2015 when I'm off. Aiming to go off on 21st November, unless all of the above indicate an early arrival. Saving a bit of this years annual leave to add onto the front so that I'll get paid for longer. I get 18 weeks on full pay, 21 on SMP. We are saving like mad to cover the last three months unpaid.

Thanks for the advice President I think I might spend my time researching into relaxation techniques instead to help me positively deal with my concerns.

President I just want to give you a big hug. Completely understand that it is so stressful being told you'll be under consultant care but you have done nothing wrong. Size is not a very reliable indicator of overall health and even if it were size 16 is not very big anyway! It may not be what you hoped for but try to see it as good news for you and your baby that you will be monitored. The ultimate goal is your baby arriving safely. Are you still able to contact your midwife even though you are now under consultant care? They may be able to offer some advice on managing the next four weeks.

penguin if I were you I would try it keeping in mind that if you can't find HB it means nothing, and if you hear it then it's great. Best relaxation is breathing deeply.

president you're active and caring and your baby is lucky to have you, and listen to penguin, it's great that a consultant will look after you

Thank you both, I was so upset last night, and I still feel a bit delicate. The midwife didn't include her number, just that she runs a clinic down the road from my house (no details of the times or days obviously).

Part of the problem is that I used to be bulimic, and I'm worried that this is all a bit trigger-y. I'm too scared to eat. Forced down some avocado and tomato on rye bread, hopefully that's ok.

I suppose I should be grateful that I'll see the doctor more often and probably get more scans, but it's not really the way I'd always imagined pregnancy and birth. Oh well.

President you are doing really well coping with what is a stressful time. Just to be 100% clear I'm absolutely not saying 'you should be grateful what are you complaining about?'rather trying to find the silver lining to a difficult situation. Given your history you may well find that you need support and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You are managing to eat healthy nutritious food which is great but I would suggest that if you feel able and if you feel you need it you ask for help sooner rather than later.

Oh no, I didn't think you were Penguin, it is a good thing it's being kept an eye on.

I have a form to refer myself to the psych people if need be anyway, due to a history of depression (mainly caused by not being able to conceive, so no longer really an issue!)

I need to toughen up. I suppose that, because I actually feel really well, the thought that something unseen or unfelt could cause such problems is a bit of a worry.

Oh no! If toughening up is a requirement of pregnancy then I'm in serious trouble! I had a meltdown yesterday because the cafe had put a tuna sandwich in with the veggie options and bacon in sandwiches which were supposed to be chicken only for our conference lunch (not ideal when based in East London!) and I felt like I had completely messed up the entire day .

Ahaha...thank you for that, that's made me laugh a lot.

president maybe you could check the NHS website to see how you can lower the risk of GT, and remember it's only a risk at this stage. But please don't be scared of eating, as long as you make healthy choices you will be fine. I hope you get your positivity back for good soon.

I went for a 'water workout' class, was a bit early so couldn't resist a little swim, managed 600m, started in the slow lane but was back in the fast one after 4 lengths, always shocked at the lack of lane etiquette . Not sure about water workout, I might just stick to swimming.

I'll get the standard 6 weeks maternity pay + 33 weeks statutory peanuts, but i've never been a big spender and have saved enough to take the full year.

Starting to talk like it's seriously going to happen this time. 14w tomorrow.

Good idea Covent. I've cut out all sugar for a start, no more ice pops or San Pell Lemoncino.

I am desperate for a swim, bloody JojoMamanBebe won't even consider giving me a refund or replacement for the swimsuit that hasn't turned up until it's been 10 days from despatch so I've missed two weeks of pool time. When I went a few weeks ago I stuck to the medium lane, but had to keep overtaking (men, ha). Lack of pool etiquette drives me loopy, glad I'm not the only one.

President, I'm an ex-anorexic (11years recovered now) and I've found pregnancy brings back all those ed related anxieties, I write a food diary when I'm pg so I know what I've eaten, it's hard to push past to 2000cals but doing it for the baby has been drilled into my head (by myself).
Well done for beating bulimia & if you want someone to talk to about it, here for you.

Glad you're taking preventive measures to GD, but please try to remember it can happen no matter what size you are. x

Paranoid, is that some positivity I can read? so very glad if it is!
We're talking baby names here

I was measured at mothercare Penguin the lady that did it was lovely and gave me a couple of different styles to try. She then checked that they were fitting correctly and there is a bit of room for next major growth spurt.

President Please don't be so hard on yourself, GD can happen to anyone, any size, any age etc. I'm also under consultant led care due to previous issues in my DD pregnancy/labour and I am looking on the positive side that they are the best of the best and also slightly higher chance of extra scans!

Also President and DrFunkes A great big BLOODY WELL DONE for getting through your eating disorders. You should both be flipping proud. You are strong, incredible women.

My mother came to visit today, first time i've seen her a few weeks. First thing she said when she arrived.... Ummm are you sure its not twins! Cheers for that mum! I do seem to be rather big but i am normally quite slim so showed early with DD. Now panicking that i am too big iyswim. Early scan makes me 11+2 where as my dates make me 12 weeks today. Ahh well scan on monday, fingers crossed all is well and i am just super bloated!

Wow I am off here for a few days and the thread has moved on loads!
DrFunkes great news about your scan I'm so pleased for you.

Sorry to hear you are still suffering basgetti. I hope the doctor has been helpful in giving you something else to try.

Hope work is a bit less stressful for you now penguin. Glad the pregnancy hormones were good at getting you in for those lanyards! I don't know how you can have a heat monitor in your possession and NOT use it! I used my Angel Sounds one for the first time at 15+2 and heard a hb. It was right down by my pelvic bone and is usually a little bit to the left. Make sure you use plenty of the gel if you do decide to try it.

President please don't beat yourself up - as others have said GD can happen to anyone and lots of people are under Consultant care for a number of reasons. I am under consultant and I had the most straightforward birth possible - didn't even know I was in labour until I was 9cm dilated and ended up having a 9lb 8.5oz baby with no pain relief other than a TENS machine and only 2 stitches for a 'graze' (they didn't even call it a tear!) I had a vein in my leg that swelled up after delivery and I couldn't put any weight on it so I had to stay in hospital overnight much to my disgust. I think they are worried about DVT or something.

Covent great to hear about your harmony results. I never even considered it with good combined test results. I guess you can never test for everything but I'm glad you can relax a bit more now.

I've been to Mothercare too and found them really helpful with bra measuring. I've got my first pregnancy yoga class next Tuesday and I'm really looking forward to it. I did it last time and it really helped me.

Sorry if I've missed anyone out on the name checks - I'll try not to go missing again so I can keep up properly!

Thank you all, you are all so lovely. I am trying to calm down about the possibility of gd, bearing in mind that stress is also bad for the baby. Had some sweet messages today from people my mum has told, and a beautiful letter from my aunt. It's so nice that everyone seems so happy for us.

Thanks for the offer DrFunkes and well done on getting through that.

Franks that is exactly the sort of thing my mum would say! I haven't seen her since I was 6wks, so I'm sure she'll come out with a few clangers this weekend.

President try not to worry about GD. I had it with DS and I fully expect it to reappear at some point in this pregnancy. It isn't ideal but it's probably the thing I remember least about my pregnancy and it disappeared again straight afterwards. I was also given extra care including additional scans. It does limit choices regarding birth but although I needed an induction it worked well and I had a good labour with just gas and air which felt pretty natural. It's hard not to get stressed at the prospect of any complications but I just wanted to try to reassure you that my experience of it was okay x

I agree with Franks. You both deserve congratulations on making it through your illness and coming out the other side President and Funkes.

Mothers eh Franks!? They do come out with some funny things. I'm sure your bump size is just perfect. Everyone I know has showed more early on with their second anyway. I was worrying about being huge for my first for this stage (under no circumstances should you Google week 12 bump - 90% of those who post publicly are practically concave to start with so it's no surprise they just look like they have eaten a few normal sized meals at 12 weeks!) but now I have accepted that my bump will be the size it is meant to.

I must confess MrsFtn that I lasted just one day before trying out the doppler. I went in with the attitude that I probably wouldn't hear anything which meant I was quite relaxed about it. First couple of times I think I came close but I was searching too high but even hearing the swooshy placenta sounds was so cool! Tried again using your tips and boom! There it was, really low down and in my case slightly to the right. So amazing to hear and very distinctive from either my hb or the other sounds in my belly. Can see how this would become addictive!

This is an end of day bump and I think my posture is exaggerating it a bit but check it out! I am in H+M and on that note do not expect to be the same size in their skinny mat jeans if you are a pear. I tried on a 14 and could barely wrestle them on!

president that sucks about the swimsuit, hope you can get back in the pool soon. I'm going tonight, women only hour on Friday night, men problem solved not that I want to make you jealous or anything

ftn welcome back, let me know how pg yoga is please, have you done other type of yoga before? How does it compare? I don't want to go back to my usual ashtanga (love it but crazy instructor ). About the harmony, it was offered as part of research so obviously we jumped on it as it was one of DP biggest fear (age+family history)

penguin awww, cute little bump , and congrats on finding the HB. That must have been amazing!

drfunkes congrats for being in the clear for years. An ex-borderline eating disorder here, I had a wake up call 6 years ago when started TTC, 60 days cycles were not helpful.

Hi ladies, wow I have lots to catch up on! I'll quickly post and have a proper read.

I may have accidentally booked a private scan this morning for when I'll be 16+1! The paranoia in me booked it for the day after my 16 week appt so hopefully I'll have heard the heartbeat already and won't be as nervous. 1 week 5 days to go!

Penguin I took this photo of my bump last week in a very similar outfit! Excuse the dirty mirror and off centredness.

So so tired and no energy after a very stressful 11 hour shift, I can't do these anymore, I've had to miss my f-i-l's retirement party this evening. I'm going sit and cry into a bag of maltesers as I finally like chocolate again. Sob!

Hope everyone else is well and happy!

Good to see you Strawbs funny I was just wondering where you'd got to today. You're looking gorgeous - what a cute bump! What a shame you had to miss FIL's retirement party, probably a good idea to have a rest though 11 hours sounds pretty brutal!

Morning all! We have made it to another weekend and this week has been HOT! How is everyone feeling?

I am still ridiculously tired, zonking out as early as is possible and still feeling nauseous and throwing up in the evenings. Such joy.

Bump is definitely there now which is funny. Most people now know but a couple of clients I will need to manage soon!

Have a great weekend all!