September 2014 - Holding hands and 20 week scans...

[BexBoo12]

New thread for our chatty bunch :-) x

Bex

I didnt think anyone was being offensive either. I can completely see the appeal of a hb, and I agree you'd definitely get better care and attention, especially as you get two midwives. Out of my three births the only one where the MW was always present was when I was alone because DH was still on his way. With my first DH even had to press the call button to tell the MW I wanted to push

I'm not in a position to advise on classes as I never went to any. But I bought a book on pregnancy and birth and tons of a few magazines and I certainly don't think there was anything I didn't know or struggled with.

I don't know much about nct classes Nazly but I think the free nhs ones I'm going to do are just fine really. Do you have those in your area?
My mum says nct really push breast feeding and all things natural (not suggesting anything negative about that either :) ) I think nct also organise coffee mornings and social things with other mums too.

I went to Dublin a little while ago, I'm not a big drinker but visited the many pubs (gosh they were crowded!!). Went to Dublin Zoo as well which was fun! Im guessing you might have been to the breweries too, I didn't drink the free drinks they give you either, not due to pregnancy but due to them being gross lol.

Thanks lilone, glad it's not just me!

We also have a dog and have started teaching him now that he's not allowed on the bed etc. to try and make it easier once the baby arrives so it's not too much change for him all at once. He's the baby of the house at the moment!

I went to Dublin a couple of years ago, back when I was thin (well, thinner) and could smoke and drink! It was lots of fun, and Dublin zoo was good! Ah, i'm longing for a sunny holiday in Spain but sadly don't think it will happen for a couple of years now. I have heard it is going to be a very hot summer this year so will recreate in my garden with non alcoholic cocktails!

On the subject of classes, i'm only planning to go to the nhs antenatal ones. It's a two day 'intensive' course across two Fridays as I would not have managed to do a course of weekday evenings.

Has anyone read 'What to Expect When You're Expecting?' I am beginning to find it quite preachy and annoying...

I'm starting lazy daisy classes on the 25th, not sure what to expect but heard good things about them, was planning to do hypnobirth classes but for £200 I think I'll pass!
Feeling little movements now, very reassuring :) hope everyone is well, I'm sorry I've missed a lot again
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I personally find most pregnancy books preachy and annoying, but that is because I have a rebellious streak and they remind me of teachers. It's completely puerile and immature I know but I can't help it, most of them just seem so patronising to me!
This is purely a reflection of my own personality though - please don't think I'm in any way bad mouthing pregnancy books or anyone who reads them!
The only one I now own is The Rough Guide to Pregnancy and Birth by Kaz Cooke. It's both informative and hilarious, I would reccomend if you find some of the others a bit like you are being lectured.

Emma's Diary actually made me feel nauseated (or that could have been the morning sickness!)

Hello all :)

I've been experiencing extreme joint pain in my knee, I plan to go to the dr next week. Was just wondering if anyone else is suffering. I have had problems in the past but the psin I feel when it's bent is like nothing before!

Ow

I havent had any joint pain, sorry. Hope thw doctor can give you something to help with it.

I bought 'what to expect' but stopped reading after the first few chapters. It was too gloom filled for my tastes. However I have 'French chuldren don't throw food' on my kindle and ive read it at least four times already. It's definately not a parenting book in a step by step way but it's a commentary on the french ethos of child raising which has given me quite a bit to think about regarding the choices we're going to make in the next few months. I definately recommend. :)

I read what to expect before you're expecting. Most of it was common sense tbh and perhaps a bit on the preachy side so I haven't bothered with the next book. The only pregnancy book I have is a day by day pregnancy guide which is written in a quite matter of fact way so suits me quite well.

Although strangely I feel like the last thing I want to do right now is read books about pregnancy, birth or parenting. Hope I'm not alone in this! I find it all a bit too much to take in at the mo. Hopefully I will feel more inclined to do this when I finish work, nearer the EDD!

dinah I've previously recommended on here the hypnobirthing CD I used, I honestly couldn't rate it highly enough and I'd say it definitely works if I compare the birth of DS to the DDs. It's by Maggie Howells, think it's around £11 on Amazon.

I can't remember what my pregnancy book is called but I was leant what to expect and didn't manage more than a couple of pages.

Nazly I loved my NCT classes, we both felt they were worth the money (you used to get a 'health in pregnancy grant' which I used to pay for the classes). I had a lot of pain with my pelvis (SPD) and was very anxious about birth and the classes really prepared me well. DH is painfully shy and even he enjoyed them. However, the best thing about the classes was unexpected - I now have 7 wonderful friends. We started meeting after the classes for coffee, then at each other's houses as the babies started arriving. We would email at 3 in the morning when sleep / feeding was difficult and have instant support. Over 3 years on, we are still meeting up several times a month, and have joint birthday parties for the children etc.
In contrast, the NHS in my area offered one 90 min Q & A session that covered c-sections and epidurals mainly, with nothing about feeding or very very little about how to manage pain in ways other than epidural, nothing about active labour positions other than to say they were good (no examples etc). I would have felt very anxious with just this support, and didn't get to meet any mums either, it was a bit like a lecture with questions.

Did you know that mn do a pregnancy book
I did buy it first time round with ds1.
It was mainly different quotes of mn about pregnancy and all that iirc

wrt quinny buzz you can buy the car seat adapters so you can just stick the car seat on the frame when your in a rush. I usee that combo for around a year with ds1and now I've lost 1 of the adaptersand didn't buy new ones as ds2 is biggerthan ds1 but still fits nicely in his car seat at 9months old. Very good investment.

K.clover what type of birth are you having this time round??

Am I the only one not feeling movement? This is my third, so I thought I might have something by now, I'm just over 17 weeks, I know I didn't feel movement with the other 2 until around 20weeks, but I can't help but feel a bit anxious, a girl at work tried to find the Hb with a Doppler but couldn't (not a mw tho) so I'm trying not to be over anxious about, but I have that niggle in the back of my mind

I'm not feeling definite kicks yet Boo, and I'm 20w tomorrow. Have felt bubbles/weird vibrating feelings though so I'm hoping that is the baby!

I havent had any joint pain, sorry. Hope thw doctor can give you something to help with it.

I bought 'what to expect' but stopped reading after the first few chapters. It was too gloom filled for my tastes. However I have 'French chuldren don't throw food' on my kindle and ive read it at least four times already. It's definately not a parenting book in a step by step way but it's a commentary on the french ethos of child raising which has given me quite a bit to think about regarding the choices we're going to make in the next few months. I definately recommend. :)

Boo at 17weeks baby is still small and finding hb is hard for a mw nm a non mw. Try not to worry too much about it. If your still worried speak to your mw who might be able to fit you in and check for you?
Im definitely feeling baby move more but still not lots! Atm its morning and evenings when I can feel baby.

Morning ladies hope you're all okay?

17weeks on weds and felt some definite movements last night rather than the bubbles I've been feeling :)

I showed dh this in last pregnancy. ..

ps its not my bump mine is bigger when baby when baby is that big

boosurprise this is my 4th dc and I'm 18 weeks and I haven't felt any movement yet really, possibly a couple of flutters but nothing I could definitely say was the baby. I think I felt them earlier with my other 3, but apparently I have an anterior placenta this time and that can stop you feeling the baby until later (or so I've read!). It is worrying me a little though, I have that niggle too... It's just really comforting being able to feel them in there isn't it! I have my scan next Tuesday and am already starting to worry, just want to have it now. I am a born worrier though :)

isitme1 that is freaky

I did NCT classes and found them really useful. We all met up for coffee every week after the classes when we were pregnant and then when the kids were little and have stayed in touch the last six years, joint parties, bbqs etc. Still in touch now despite the fact I emigrated, bit far for meet-ups though!

I did nct with my first and got a lot out of it. I was young and nervous so the extra time and information gave me more confidence and the small group made it easier to ask questions and get to know the other parents. I'm doing an nct refresher this time as well as Nhs class - I'm pretty sure ive forgotten loads since dd2 was born 11 years ago.
I'm off on holiday - so excited, and a bit nervous. I haven't flown in pregnancy before and will be going long haul. Also, since the SPD has kicked in, I'll need to request a wheelchair for the airport which seems a bit dramatic but I won't be able to walk for days otherwise and don't want to spend my holiday in pain.

I did NCT classes and didn't find them terribly informative as I had already read a lot (probably too much!) on my own. However, it helped give me the confidence that I could do a home birth, which I was leaning towards when I started the class, but wasn't quite decided. But the biggest thing for most people is that it gives you a group of local friends who have kids the same age as yours. I still meet up regularly with about half of my group three years on.

I also did a free class at my hospital and it was really a waste of time. It was just a one-off, three-hour session, with no tour of the facilities or anything. The information covered was very basic, and people were asking ridiculous questions, like at what age it would be appropriate to take the baby to a football match (seriously). However, I'm going to give it another go as my hospital due a four-week course specifically for expectant parents of multiples that includes tours of NICU/SCBU and etc. I hope it will be more useful.

As for pregnancy/parenting books, I know what you all mean about the tone in the 'What to Expect' books, but I thought it was more tolerable than most. I really dislike books that advocated particular parenting styles (Gina Ford & etc), so prefer something more factual, like 'What to Expect'. I haven't done much reading this time around except for on twin-specific stuff.

boosurprise I'm 18 weeks today and still haven't felt anything. I'm trying not to really think about it. I am sure everything is fine with your baby especially as you didn't feel anything until 20 weeks with the others.

My midwife wouldn't even attempt the doppler at my 16 week appointment as she said that it can be tricky to find and just causes stress when she can't locate it. Whether that's more a comment on her skills I don't know...

Has anyone looked at the mothercare Orb pram? First one we looked at and I love it (not at all biased by colour choice) but love the rotation and it turns into a pushchair, and it's got good height options for my 6'3 DH!

Feeling really blue at the moment. Still got the MS(I'm 19 wks now), had lots of time off work for it, missed loads of social things, tummy issues, backs aches, and now a UTI with antibiotics that smell like cats pee! not sure where the second trimester glow thing is... I just feel a mess and want to sleep till September :(

Also doesn't help that I hate my job and don't want to return after mat. Leave, but don't feel like I have a choice.

Someone please tell me it's going to get better!

Poor you CoolCat, really hope you turn a corner soon. I was just looking at the Mothercare Orb yesterday and also really like it. I'm going to show ny DH on Thursday and hopefully persuade him. He likes the Mothercare Xpedior as its 'better value for money' , which may or may not be true but I like the Orb! :)

I've been waiting in for a delivery of Next maternity clothes since 8am and still no sign. Scared to go pee as sods law it will arrive at that precise moment!!