October 2014 thread 4 - scans, scans scans!!

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New thread ladies. I should really leave it to someone who can link the old one. Can someone add the edd list and whatnot? Or maybe we should start again now edds are changing after scan.

Bumpbangbump dc#2 EDD 2nd October

I guess it depends which hospital you go to but I wasnt offered any intervention. ..would have loved some though lol!

Dp slept on the sofa last night :( couldnt handle a 3rd sleepless night...i feel bad but not sure what I can do! Ive tried elevating my head, I sleep on my side but its made no difference!

Oh we're in separate rooms quite a lot at the moment. I'm 'breathing' too loudly apparently. Thing is, we're in separate rooms fairly often anyway, because boyf is a really light sleeper - but also snores really loudly when he is actually asleep. I don't mind it - I have no idea why the shared bed thing is the norm - it's nice for cuddles, but neither of us are interested in that while asleep. We start off in the same bed, and one of us will go into the others in the morning, but other than that, if separate rooms makes us sleep enough, and not grumpy, then I'm all for it!

I'm also hoping to give hypnobirthing a try this time. I didn't know it existed last time and I really think how scared and panicked I was is what got DD's heartbeat all over the place which started off a string of interventions.

I'm starting to feel really down with how crap I feel all the time. It's so relentless. Every single day now for 6 weeks I have felt dreadful. Dreadful enough that if I didn't know I was pregnant I'd have put myself to bed and refused to come out again.

I don't know how far along you are carebear, but I felt like that until about 12/13 weeks. Suddenly after that it all sorted itself out. I still have the random day of feeling sick and generally crap, but mostly I feel fine. Tired in the evening, but fine. It's as if I'm not pregnant really (which is annoying/worrying in itself).

I didn't do hypnobirth but I did have a Doula who was a lifesaver for my DH. I also had a homebirth which I am doing again as the experience was amazing. I did find yoga helped near the end of the pregnancy and also with working through the contractions.

I know how you feel carebear I'm 11 weeks and still suffering. Not as bad as it was as I was being sick all day but still bad enough. Let's hope we see the back of it soon x

Scan today at lunch time, won't be back on here until this evening but I'll let you all know how it goes.

Carebear, that sounds really shitty. All my nausea has gone in the last week and you're two weeks behind me so hopefully you'll only have one more week of this. Is there anything that makes you feel better? Can you call in sick and watch films in bed for a few days? I didn't have a single day off with my awful PGP (worked a lot from home) and look back and think why?! It's just a few days and it could make a world of difference to how you feel mentally. Doesn't even go on your sickness record! Anyway, sorry, I'll stop trying to persuade you to skive! Sending decaf , non alcoholic and nice .

Im getting slightly annoyed at feeling rubbish all the time too! Im 12 + 4 and although the sickness has got much better (less of it) I do get tired quite quickly which I find frustrating!! Also I can only do things in short bursts, it's like I have zero stamina. For example, when Im getting ready in the mornings I have to do it in stages - shower first, sit, make-up, sit, hair, sit, get dressed, sit... Takes twice as long!
On top of that I've had an irritating cough for nearly 3 weeks now and it just doesn't seem to want to shift!

Anyway, on a positive note, we have our first scan today, whoop!! Can't wait - though do feel nervous. Just want to see a little developing wriggly baby, fingers crossed!!

Sorry you're feeling rubbish too toffee but good luck for your scan today- enjoy!

Thank you for sympathy DP doesn't seem to get that I just need a bit of sympathy sometimes. He always seem to think I need a solution. I did call in sick on Monday but my boss was really bitchy about it. Unfortunately I just have to soldier on for the days I have DD. Fingers crossed I'll start to feel better soon.

Good luck for scans today.

And yes toffee to have to do everything in stages! It's so frustrating, I have to have a proper rest after I have a shower, it's ridiculous.

I keep loosing this thread somehow, think if I havent logged on for a while it seems to dissappear from my (I'm on).
Anyway found you all again, glad everyone is doing ok. Iam feeling like things are all in place now, all my next few appointments are all booked, so next appointment is 16 week midwife check up, so iam feeling that times passing fairly fast, but suppose am pretty much pre occupied with my 7 month old at the moment, and on a plus side all sickness seems to have disappeared keep getting slight migraines though.
20 week scan appointment is 22nd May, cant wait to see our baby again Has anybody thought about finding iut the wex of their baby before there 20 week scan ?? I didn't find out last time but enjoed the surprise, so thinking maybe a surprise again.
Well my sister is having her baby in 2 weeks and ive already given her some clothes as she is having a girl, but lucky enough its was just the summer stuff so I wont be needing them anyway if I have a girl, soo exciting our forever growing family x

carebear and toffee I'm feeling for you. I'm 12+5 today and although I'm definitely on the up (managed 2 days of shopping this weekend!) I'm still having horrid days. Monday and yesterday I was really sick and had a little breakdown last night in front of DH. I just felt like I couldn't cope feeling this rubbish any more and not knowing when I was going to suddenly gag or throw up at something.

Let's all hope this is just the last few weeks of feeling rubbish, I do have the occasional day where I feel great, just wishing it could last now!

Just want to ask as I don't think it got answered before, does anyone know at what stage can you start hypnobirthing? Could have done with it last night when I was having my melt down

Care bear & toffee hope you start to feel better soon. I'm 13+1 and definitely feeling better than even a week ago (still some nausea and knackered in the evening but still on the up).

Binky I don't think there's a best time to start hypnobirthing. When we did our course (which was actually a weekend one) I was close to 30 weeks (had been doing Nct for 4 or 5 weeks already) but there were couples there from 12 weeks to 35 weeks. If it's a weekly course then I guess starting earlier makes sense as it will take longer. You could check when courses are running close to you and decide what works.

Hi Binky, I don't think I started my classes until I was 6 months+, and most women there were about the same (though some further on).. I can't remember whether they said that was when you should do it, or because the classes were so booked up in advance (a bit of both I think)... I did book the course very early though.. I emailed when I was 7 weeks to ask about it, and booked after my 12 week scan.. (I had to pay a deposit for the class), and then was sent the Marie Mongan book and CD so I could start studying up on it at home. You can buy the book on it's own from Amazon, and download similar 'rainbow relaxation' music online.. Flip mentioned Caroline Graves(?) you can get her stuff online which is supposed to be just as good, though not the Marie Mongan relaxation music.

The relaxation stuff really does help though.. I would definitely start with that if you can, even if you don't get the book or book the class yet!

A website I was reading last night said a good time to start is 20 - 24 weeks. Don't know how 'correct' that is. Seems about right though - until then I hope to feel relatively normal, and not be too concerned yet about the birth bit.

I think I read last night that from 24 weeks is a good time to start. I really like the sound of it, how much (approx) are the classes? Wondering if I could get away just with the book and tape, my intense driving course and buying a car this year is going to eat into my money a wee bit!!

So we had the scan and all was well with BOTH babies!!!!!!!

Congrats on the twins wiggy are they identical?
I think your our first thread Mum expecting twins? :)

wiggy both babies?!? How exciting, did you have any idea you were having twins? Congratulations x

Ive been thinking about looking into some kind of relaxation techniques to get me through the elcs I had thought it would be a epidural again which I was happy with but apparently with a planned cs you get a spinal block im not looking forward to being paralysed and the last thing I want is to get a panic attack as I know they will then knock me out :(

Eek, congratulations wiggy! Were you expecting that?

Congrats on the twins "wiggy"!

Yes twins, none identical and had no idea! Knew I was a bit bigger but figured that's because dc2 is only a year. Scanner couldn't believe how calm we were but I think it will take a bit of time to sink in. To be honest, know so many people in re who have lost babies that just grateful our (two) are there and well. Think our parents may be in for a shock and hope they can cope as grandparents provide childcare for 3 days I'm at work- couldn't afford nursery!