October 2014 thread 4 - scans, scans scans!!

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New thread ladies. I should really leave it to someone who can link the old one. Can someone add the edd list and whatnot? Or maybe we should start again now edds are changing after scan.

Bumpbangbump dc#2 EDD 2nd October

Pebble if you tell me where she lives can I please go and punch her??? What a silly cow, first of all for thinking it, but worse still for saying it out loud!

Pebble we weren't married with dc1 registry office were really pushy that baby had my name, I refused. I think it was more so tk protect mum but now laws have changed anyway with the dad being able to have a sAy when not married.

Partner and I have different surnames pebble and it's completely normal these days. I will be giving DC my surname as a middle name (or DC can use it as a surname if he/she chooses to later) - as apparently that eases the passport process if just you and child are travelling to a more conservative country

How lovely and tactful your colleague sounds

She's just a bit narrow minded and not too open to the fact other people can have different opinions to her without be wrong. I don't think she means to offend but just never occurs to her that she's being the opposite of helpful.

The middle name idea might be a plan. I'll have a think.

On the lifting front, I moved house when I was about 4+4 or something, and helped carry a piano... erk. Since then I've gone back to weight lifting classes at the gym, and the general feeling seems to be that do what feels comfortable. I don't do any abs work (yaaaay!).

Surnames - boyfriend is already double barrelled (his parents aren't married), and I have a simple one syllable surname. Child will get a combo of mine and part of his, because there is no way that it'll get just his, and quite reasonably, boyfriend similarly doesn't want it to have just mine either. The combo is actually quite nice - better than the surname of both its parents.

Scan next Thursday at 12 +5. Keep having nightmares that there is nothing in there and I have just gotten ridiculously fat!

My scan is in a week - woo! Though still have my concerns that there isn't going to be anything in there. Though my boobs have become really sore at the sides I'm the last week so am taking that as a good healthy symptom sign.

Hope you don't mind me jumping on the bandwagon, been a lurker for a I while!!

Have my scan on Thursday and I am petrified. I literally can't sleep or concentrate on anything!
Had an early 7 week scan for viability, all fine but now I feel like I've made it all up. Then because I am an anxious lunatic I paid to have a private one at nearly 10 weeks and there was the bean waving and heart beating, but... I have not even the slightest bump or hardness and I'm 12 weeks today. Doesn't help the only symptom I've had has been sore boobs the whole way through...so scared it's not grown :(

Eeep....

DD has her fathers surname, think its important for fathers to have some ownership in those early days - i am too unmarried but been with him for 10 years, i think it would it would be more strange to give the child your surname and not the fathers? I also think we will be married one day and she has my surname as a middle name.

Fortunatly no one has questioned me on this, people should keep their judmental opinions to themselves! She sounds jealous???

Stargirl that sounds exactly like me, no bump or hardness (just felt bloated!) at 12 weeks but now I'm 14+3 and now I'm starting to see more defined roundness that's beginning to firm up a little. My boobs have been sore but intermittently, which I used to get as PM symptoms too anyway! I wondered if getting the scan was a bit of a psychological release, as once the world knew the news I could heave a big sigh of relief and let the bump happen haha! Good luck on your upcoming scan, and to you Mrsf

Thanks Kirstipops! That's made me feel a little better. I stupidly googled '12 week bump' pictures and freaked out when I saw how big they all were.

Ooh mrsF we're scan buddies!

I feel like this week will totally drag til then...

Morning everyone.

We gave DD DP's surname because it's easier to spell/say than mine. No one has ever said anything. That woman sounds so rude pebble. This DC will also get DP's surname. I'd give them mine but I've never liked my surname and it's always caused comments/problems.

I like what my friend did with her children's last name Pebble. both parents use their own last names but they hyphenated them for their children. I know sometimes this doesn't work as the last names don't mix but it is something to maybe think about.

Stargirl with my first I didn't really have any bump until I was around 5 months. I know its exciting to start having a bump but trust me (I am having my 3rd) you will eventually look back and think what was the rush....

Hi guys, I'm 14+1. I am definitely getting fatter! I have lost a considerable amount of weight with the hyperemesis from everywhere but my belly is definitely there. Mostly still wobbly and bloated but getting more solid. I'm managing to sleep a lot better now which is nice
Has anyone elses skin gone really scaley and dry. I feel like a snake!

Pebble what a cow! I have to admit I would have either punched her or cried, depending on how my hormones were feeling!

MrsB I'm onto my second tub of E45 lotion in about as many months. I always have really oily skin but have now gone dry and scaly. It was a nice change at first to lose the oily skin but feeling a bit flaky now!

Well after announcing our news on Facebook last night, I am actually shocked and amazed and the number of likes and comments it got. It amazes me at how excited other people are that we are having a baby. I'm always like 'oh that's nice' when friends have said they are pregnant, but people seem to be actually over the moon. It worries me a little that other people seem almost more excited than me! But then I suppose they aren't throwing up and watching their middle get bigger each day.

Oh my lovely new Blooming Marvelous maternity trousers are driving me mad itching! They felt fine in the shop but drove me mad being itchy on Sunday. Washed thrm yesterday hoping they would soften but now sat at work scratching my legs to pieces :-( V disappointed as the waist is soooo comfortable!

stigz we won't be taking dc1 as its his day with the childminder but at 18 months he would be none the wiser. For those with other dc I did find it a good excuse to get time off for appointments/ scans.

Second harmony test failed but I'm not to worried as I was given a really low risk for the NT.
OBEM was so harrowing last night I cried every time the family with the poorly baby was on I was relieved that he pulled through!

How awful pebble. I know a few married couples who have different names anyways - different strokes for different folks and all that. Names work differently all over the world as well, there's not a one size fits all.

Some of my coworkers are pissing me off big time today. I'm not sure if its hormonal rage or if they are nobs. Probably a bit of both!

With DC1 DH and I were not married, though been together for years and had been discussing marriage before the surprise BFP. I did not want DS to have a different surname to me.. purely a personal preference but I felt as I was carrying him for 9 months, and would do all the medical appts, etc etc in his first few years I did not want us to have different surnames. DH agreed, but we both said we would definitely be married before he started school, and then would all have DH's surname.

Emotionally I don't regret it at all.. but from a practical perspective it has been a bit of a pain, as now we are married I don't particularly want to shell out £50+ (on top of the £90+ to change mine) to change DS's passport.. especially as his changes when he is.. 5(?) anyway.. I will get round to it I'm sure.. but an added expense I did not consider.. also it has caused confusion contacting places to say his name has changed. Even though we have jumped through hoops providing all the necessary paperwork at the GP's they still have the wrong name when we see them.

A 'helpful' friend did point out to me when DS was born that I had done the right thing insisting on my surname as if DH and I broke up I could legally change DS's surname to whatever I want, whereas if he had DH's surname I would need DH's permission or something... Not something I had considered, or that mattered as we were married soon after..

Just another perspective anyway

My Harmony results came back as 1 in 10000 for everything, which is a good thing. At this point it was only really for confirmation, after the combined nuchal stuff was OK, but it's still good to have.

Interesting to hear all the name discussions. I'm married but didn't change my surname and the kids have DH's surname and I don't mind (also don't mind when people call us 'the DH surname family' on post or wherever).

But remember when travelling into the UK - it is big on child trafficking and will question you (and your DC, if old enough) about your relationship to the DC if you're travelling without your partner. May ask for proof of your motherhood. Heathrow in particular is a hassle. Just remember to pack a copy of the birth cert(s) (yes I once got stuck coming back from ireland and they phoned dh! Have always remembered the birth certs since then though it's only a problem with UK - not for entering US or Ireland).

Also good to hear scan news and harmony test/nuchal results. I'm also low risk.

I'm suspecting a girl this time, as not been sick in nearly a week (yay!) but still quite a lot of nausea and only put on a couple of pounds (put on a stone in first trimester with DS!). Still in regular jeans, though all my remaining maternity clothes (the dregs! Gave away the best stuff as never thought 3 would happen!) are washed and ready to go. Tummy starting to round & harden a little. 14 weeks today.

We told DS and DD (just 4 and just 2) yesterday and they're quite smitten with the idea.

Just realised I said I was 14 weeks today - I wish lol! 13 weeks today.