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Easter is approaching, and the PESH are laying all over the place!

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maamalady · 09/03/2014 19:29

Antenatal fred fun for BESH graduates

CRESH

Faith - pinky faithlet arrived 14th April 2013
Pinkr - suitably pinky one arrived 25th August 2013
Jethro - blue one arrived 23rd September 2013
Noks - pink one arrived 12th January 2014

PESH

Frankel - EDD 4th March ANY TIME NOW Grin
Sinky - EDD 18th March
Merks - EDD 21st March
Driz - EDD 7th June
Draf - EDD 19th June
Kat - EDD 20th June
Winks - EDD 26th June
Dor - EDD 18th August
Ginger - 20th August
Euro - 28th August

PESH-in-hiding
Bugs - EDD approx 21st October

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ALittleFaith · 02/04/2014 20:47

Oh that takes me back Sinks :( this is the hardest part of BF. Getting established, miniSinks is establishing your supply. I'd say FF is easier in the short term but long term it's so much easier to whip a boob out than to faff with sterilising bottles. My advice would be to hand him over when he's not feeding I was tempted to give Faithlet to passing strangers get family/friends round. I used to book my Dad in once a week! Just knowing I'd get an hour or so changed my perspective on everything. I know it feels agonising right now but it will get better and soon! I posted a lot in the CRESH about this and the support was what got me through.

I really missed pâté when I was diffed. Ate it several times soon after having her then haven't had it since!

FriendofDorothy · 02/04/2014 20:53

The Little Mister fed like a demon for a while. I really did feel like he had a nip in his mouth forever, but at some point it eases up somewhat. Feeding lying down really saved me and I also propped myself up with shed loads of pillows and kind of napped.

SinkyMalinks · 02/04/2014 20:54

It's been like this for 2 days and nights. It's just too hard.

ALittleFaith · 02/04/2014 20:56

I used to set a timer - 15 minutes per boob and then switch. I read somewhere they get the milk they need after 15 minutes so you could swap over. Sometimes that would be enough to settle her. Sometimes I'd just keep swapping sides!

ALittleFaith · 02/04/2014 20:57

Oh I'd snooze til the timer went off.

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SinkyMalinks · 02/04/2014 21:59

I've now been feeding in bed for 90 min. Before that I was on the sofa. I'm feeding at least 20 min from each for the hound milk, and hand expressing into his mouth in lulls to get him going again.

I haven't managed to put him down in hours. Suggested me and ghj do shifts, but he doesn't think he could cope without a boob to silence him. Neither of us feel able yo drive to quieten him.

Additional problem is he's dirtying and wetting masses of nappies due to the milk volume. He won't settle in a dirty nappy, but changes make him wild. I'm at my wits end.

FrankelandFilly · 02/04/2014 22:07

Oh Sinks, I'm sorry Sad It sounds like the 1 week growth spurt, combined with a hormone crash. I remember it vividly, the feeling of helplessness and utter exhaustion. Hang on in there, honestly it does get better. Are you able to express some milk so MrS can feed her for a bit? If not, ask him to just sit with you and keep feeding you and giving you water to drink. You're doing a brilliant job.

FrankelandFilly · 02/04/2014 22:10

If it's any help I spent much if the first two weeks on www.kellymom.com which has a wealth of breast feeding information.

Regarding switching boobs and fore milk/hind milk this is a really interesting article.

KatAndKit · 02/04/2014 22:28

Try a dummy? Worked for us but I know some babies aren't fooled by them. Ultimately he does not need to be boobing non stop and you need to sleep. If ghj perhaps tried to put him in a sling with a dummy in his mouth and walked/rocked him like that he might settle for a bit? Cluster feeding is entirely normal but sounds like you really need a rest. Hopefully tomorrow will be an easier day.

CatsCantFlyFast · 02/04/2014 22:38

Also I found miniMerk cried more for food while I was holding her due to the smell....VVTM was better at settling her when I was out of range. You are going to have to persuade him to have him on his own (even for short periods of time) for the sake of your sanity. Can he walk for 10 mins with him in the pram?
Try to establish what would help you right now. A break? Sleep? Food? Pick the most important and do what it takes to get it, this will mean mr sinks needs to help. Take it an hour at a time. Sending mental strength

FrankelandFilly · 02/04/2014 22:41

If it helps, you can always come and join us On this thread. It's actually proved to be great for moral support in the middle of the night.

SinkyMalinks · 03/04/2014 00:44

Thanks guys. Can I try a dummy - I thought it would affect his latch?

Managed to get minisinks down for an hour so not feeling quite so hopeless.

I have a sling. Maybe tomorrow is the day to try it.

FrankelandFilly · 03/04/2014 01:13

At this stage an hour can feel like 6! Well done.

There are conflicting reports re dummies and breastfeeding. I've bought some MAM ones, but have not used them yet. At the end of the day you do what works for you, sod everyone else.

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FrankelandFilly · 03/04/2014 09:30

Sinks I hope you had a good night. I was up every 2 hours again, though thankfully E only fed for 20 mins at a time. As we have nothing planned this morning, breast feeding group this afternoon, I decided to stay in bed and doze with E so we only got up half an hour ago Grin. I think I just need to remember that I don't need to get up at 7am every day and take the opportunity to sleep when I can.

SinkyMalinks · 03/04/2014 10:10

Oh and frank, thanks for the thread link. Was reading it overnight. Will join in!

Bugs. GP is being a arse.

KatAndKit · 03/04/2014 10:10

I gave the mini kit a dummy from as soon as he had his tongue tie revised. He was a very sucky baby at first. For us it didn't cause any problems and we also introduced a bottle shortly afterwards.

SinkyMalinks · 03/04/2014 10:12

Still in bed here... A better night but feeds still very loooong. And the little monkey is able to sense that switch from old nappy to new and the millisecond his willy is exposed... No eye shots last night, but several changes again.

FrankelandFilly · 03/04/2014 10:25

Have you tried using a flannel Sinks? My BF swore by it with her little boy - as soon as nappy was open pop the flannel over his nethers so that if he does pee the flannel absorbs it and prevents the infamous fountain impression Grin

SinkyMalinks · 03/04/2014 12:15

I do that with a wad of cotton wool frank. It's just the second it takes to take that off to do up the new nappy. Seriously. This boy can time his ewes to the millisecond. I'm sure I'll get quicker with time..

SinkyMalinks · 03/04/2014 12:17

His wees. I don't think he's keeping sheep.

ALittleFaith · 03/04/2014 12:22

Oh gosh boy baby nappy changes. I had brand new DNephew yesterday. He pooed so I went to change him. He then proceeded to poo and wee again when the nappy was off - twice! MSB heard me shouting Help! There's too many bits!

We tried a dummy from 3 weeks onwards but Faithlet wasn't interested, she spat them out. A while later she discovered her thumb which she now loves.

FrankelandFilly · 03/04/2014 13:02

Oh dear Sinks Grin. On the frequent feeding issue, have you read this article? It gave me some comfort during the early cluster feeding sessions.

eurochick · 03/04/2014 13:06

faif that plea for help made me laff.

sinks I'm sorry you are having such a rough time of it. I hope some of the PESH suggestions help. x