January 2014 Thread 17 - and the final babies will be here any day now!

[Frizz1986]

Thought i would start up the last thread before we move over to postnatal thread.

Ooh, I'm very jealous sunshine! DH slept in the nursery with us until 2.30am, when he went back into his our room because he was tired. I've had DD on me all morning, and now he's gone for a nap because he's still tired. I've had three hours' sleep . I know it isn't a competition, and he's not well, but still...
To his credit he got me a present yesterday - a chair and footstool to go in the nursery for breastfeeding. It is really nice and I think I'll use it a lot :)
Hope everyone managed not to get blown away last night!

Alice had been super clingy last night and today, feeding all the time and only calming for me and my even dh. Been a long day.

I bought the wonder week book a while ago but it doesn't seem that great, I'm also a bit confused if you count from edd or actual birth date.

I had to call dh for backup today. Ds1 threw a massive temper tantrum, screaming and throwing himself around the floor, in asda and I struggled with what to do. I had my mom with me too. I was in floods of tears.

it wasn't nice. Some people were really nice (one guy said that his kid does the same) it was just awful.

I'm really wobbling about being out alone with them and mom leaves Monday morning at 6am to catch her flight. Anyone else worried they have made a mistake? Henry was our 10th pregnancy and is very much loved. I guess I'm just anxious

Fly - from the edd, not the birth date

enormouse thanks for the tip. Have tried sitting with him in a steamy bathroom but doesn't seem to have made a difference.....

frying bless you! Lots of times so far I have thought "what was I thinking? I can't possibly handle this!" I am sure there will be plenty more moments like that too. But, I have also had some fab moments and break throughs which are gradually building my confidence.... I shit myself every time I go out in public....but force myself out in the hope I will shit myself less and less...!

humpty what a fab valentines you had! Awesome! Shame about the bf cafe, but at least you found it helpful (despite the batshit crazy bubs and tears!)

Henry has been quite unsettled tonight and I asked DH to try and calm him while I went to pee, bearing in mind as usual I have done everything with Henry overnight and most of the day and ate dinner again one handed. Well Henry apparently did a massive burp and then fell straight to sleep on DH! So I am taking the opportunity to drink my drink and chill before I take Henry upstairs and hopefully settle him for the night.... Am soooo tired!

I tried Henry with a faster flow teat earlier as he seemed to be getting frustrated feeding and was sucking the life out of the newborn teat. However the faster flow teat overwhelmed him and he probably took in double the air he normally does bless him! Back to newborn teats tonight!

Doh! He is up again.... Bless him! No rest for the wicked!

frying, DS wasn't often given to tantrums, luckily, but if ever that happened I always just abandoned whatever I was doing and went home. Even if I had to dump a trolleyful of shopping, as happened on a couple of occasions.

Thanks frying. She might be going though her first leap then which could explain done things.

I'm also worried about being on my own come Monday and I only have one. I think it's normal to wonder how on earth it's going to work and think it may have been a mistake while still loving them so much. It's such a big change.

frying I think that at least 3 times a day..usually when DS is playing up, or Lara is in meltdown mode. But then it's interspersed with thoughts of how lucky I am, how I love my little family and how I can convince DH we should have number 3!

Next week is 1st full week on my own. Got some toddler groups planned and Pepper pig DVDs at the ready. Hope weather is dry so we can at least use the garden. Nervous but actually looking forward to getting into my own routine.

Swimming with DS was a success! DH took him in when he realised it was a shallow, very warm pool, and there was a lot of laughter and smiles from both!

frying I also think that regularly. In between, when she is being gorgeous, I think I want two more of her.

DF and DM visiting today, Alex decided to be on best behaviour all day, but has reverted to type since 10pm so that they don't think I was exaggerating about the screaming.

fly I thought WW was crap too, but A has def just gone through her first leap, as she now follows objects with her eyes and cries real tears (both 'abilities' gained from leap one). We'll see if it proves accurate.

Good grief, Meredith was unsettled last night! She started screaming at 5pm-ish, stopped briefly for a bath, then continued until about 11.45pm. Woke to feed at 12.30am, and came in with us because I was too knackered to stay awake. Then woke up for another feed and a massive poo at 4.30 and is begrudgingly and restlessly asleep on my chest now.

Tarka good luck for your GTT
It took just over a week to get my test result back-good news the gestational diabetes is gone! I have my fingers crossed for you

Humpty glad to read you finding some happy times.
I find that even just a few minutes peace helps my mood brighten

Frying wobble away and do your best is all anyone can do. You have 2 precious humans to look after. I've only got 1 and have no idea how I would cope with a toddler too so I take my hat off to you

I have loads to say but wee spud is asleep again so I must go and try to join him, wish I could get into a milk coma However it would be great if he would sleep for longer than 2short hours

curly they phoned me back last night! I had chatted with the nurse doing it about how it hadn't fully gone away after dd, how I'd had it so early in this pregnancy AND had high readings (22!) after Alex was born so was expecting bad news. She was lovely and phoned me to let me know both results were normal!!
I'd been checking my fasting levels up until a few weeks ago and was still getting 6+ so I'm amazed. I was expecting to be at least pre-diabetic like after dd.

curly and tarka yay for good GTT results!

curly, yes, exactly. Two mins to myself can be like a reset sometimes. I put on mascara this morning and it's brightened the whole day for me.

toby must be catching. Alex was a tiny bastard little madam all night. Woke for feed-screaming, wouldn't sleep because of her blocked nose etc. Got some saline drops up her nose just now, so hopeful of her being less grizzly now. DH objects to the smell of olbas oil, so had to take the flannel with that on out of the room, are there other decongestants I can use?

Great news, tarka :)

Sorry to hear that, humpty :(
My own tiny bastard cherub is still asleep.
I would imagine that most decongestants smell like Olbas oil, so would politely suggest that DH leaves the room.

frying I feel like that about 4 times a day. Ds1 has his moments but I just try to tough them out any way I can. I focus on the good moments with both boys, like when DS1 reads an upside down book to Cal or strokes him on the head when he cries. Or when someone came up to me in a cafe and told me my boys were beautiful. Those moments make the times I want to kill the pair of tiny bastards or die of embarrassment in public bearable.

So i have just caught up but failed to remember anything except pidgy asking about bleeding.
I am almost 8 weeks pp and still bleeding. Enough to change my pad 3-4 times a day. It seems never ending and am a bit worried about it now. Mine is still red, it gushes after a feed and it hasnt ever stopped. Have aurelias jabs on thurs tho and its at a clinic so we see hv, then doc, then nurse so will ask then.

Thanks for the birthday wishes. Dh was uber ill so spent the day looking after him and bubs. It was a bit manic but i got through it. I had his left overs for my tea so it wasnt very birthday like. Plan to have a nice meal another time instead.
At least dh had got me a present, he got me netflix so i can have plenty to watch if bubs is in one of those dont put me down or leave me moods.

Had the family to visit this weekend. My parents came up along with my dads parents. Was lovely for everyone to see bubs. Meant i could get other things done as they held her all day! She was so alert it was amazing. She was the most awake she has ever been. She was really interacting with everyone. Then she slept overnight in 4 hour intervals. Hoping that her night feeds have gone up from 2-3hrs to 4hrs.

Am currently relaxing on the sofa with bubs asleep on me and pooch asleep under my legs as dh has gone put gaming! (He is better now of course)

For anyone who hasn't tried it yet, white noise is blinkin brilliant! It doesn't settle Sophia if she's crying, but if its on when I put her in her cot sleepy, she dozes over and stats asleep ages. DP will be pleased as normally I just put her on the boob to settle her but he was a bit stuck at night when letting me sleep.

Looked up that wonder weeks book- what's the next leap after 5 weeks? Wondering if I should purchase urgently or wait for request from library. S is following around room with eyes since 3 weeks and real tears started in last few days...though she rarely gets chance to cry so could have been possible for a while.

toby meh, will make DH sleep in spare room tonight then. Poor little thing, she's all snuffle like a truffle hunting pig!

frizz sorry you had a not v festive birthday, but hope you get a lovely meal out to make up for it!

blue next leap is at 8 weeks, you could easily wait. A has done real tears since week 3 and now follows people around with her eyes at week 4, so I think leap one is done with. Happy to look up and send you leap two info if book doesn't arrive in time.

Well we have tears but we've had those since day one, though I would say there are more the last 2 days. Makes me feel horrible!

Not really tracking things yet but moving her head loads and starting to launch herself off shoulders and laps...

Humpty hope you get some sleep as well as your dh, I'm mean but is probably make the whole flat smell like olbus oil if it helped and ignore dh's objections.

fizz sorry everyone was ill for your birthday, hope your meal out is lovely.

I've got the first "I'm going to work, you need to do the night shift" bit tonight. Already had an argument that Alice full time during the day by myself is hard too and needs sleep.. Oh well.

Hmmm, since yesterday my c section incision has got a red swollen hard part along the middle and seems to be more sore. Looks like a visit to gp perhaps, hoping it's not infected. Anyone know if antibiotics are ok when bf'ing?

What is this wonder weeks thing people are talking about?

Dh isn't working at the moment as he has surgery week after next, better to have the extra pair of hands after my c section as there isn't a lot in walking distance so I would be going loopy.

Bit of a me me post but my brain can't remember what you all had said anyway oops.

pops mine did that and the gp gave me stronger pain killers and sent me to mau for further tests (bloods, swab, urine). All came back clear but was good to be checked. Are you still under mw care or have the number of your hospital maternity assessment unit? They may be more helpful / knowledgeable than the gp.

Wonder weeks is a book with website and app charting developmental leaps in the first year. Not sure how good it is yet as Alice is only 3 weeks.

Pops, I'm on antibiotics as my stitches are infected. Some are fine for breastfeeding, my GP looked it up in a little book which said which ones go into breastmilk and which are fine. He did try to put me on different ones and suggested I didn't bf for a week but I refused!

Yikes - 8 weeks - where did the time go?I'm hoping all this chat about crying peaking at 6-8 weeks is true as the witching hours of 5 to 8 are a bit grim. The little tears break my heart too.
Are big sicks a developmental stage? Used to be able to wind fairly safely cloth free and now see my precious milk smilingly regurgitated down my cleavage...it amuses DH though
Anybody had success getting their baby off their chest to sleep? Little puggle flippered about for half the night nipple hunting then falling asleep when nipple steered into gob- grr!