RM OCTOBER 2014 thread - Today we are pregnant

[TinyTear]

Hi
This is a thread for people due in October with past miscarriage issues, so we don't scare the 'regular' October people and we don't annoy the RM thread with our pregnancy talk...

TinyTear MC May 2010, MC June 2010, MC November 2010, DD Jan 2012, MC October 2013 ADD 6th October

I've just looked on the scan prints, Bugs - 0.71cm is the only measurement I can find.
Brings home how teeny tiny it is

Glad to be of some help

The reassurance of seeing the little blob is amazing, but it's straight back to worrying again afterwards, isn't it?

Shire glad to hear you had a good scan. The fear doesn't go until after the date of a previous loss... and then a little thing (as I found yesterday) can bring it flooding back! It's quite natural to feel like that.

Been knicker checking like crazy, so far so good. Pink mucus not back (although told to be on knicker alert till Monday) and I even passed a bowel movement still nothing. Hoping like mad it was like my last one- a fanjo nosebleed caused by heparin + poop pushing!

Welcome shire and great scan news! It is such a relief, isn't it?

squiz Glad that things have calmed down again, it is so scary, isn't it? Hope you can relax a bit until your next scan now...

pickle I have been exercising regularly (running and Bodypump), and if at all possible, I intend to keep going. It makes me feel better, I enjoy it, and it is a great way to get rid of tension that builds up with all the stress. Of course, I am careful and will adapt intensity, but I did the same when I was pg with DS, no reason why not to (unless your doctor advises against it, of course!).
However, now that the sickness has hit me, it might pan out differently... Will have to see!

Well, after getting worried about disappearing symptoms yesterday morning, the sickness returned well and truly just in time for me to have to go out to the shops with DS I had to strap him in his buggy, for which he is now way too big, because I could not face running after him. Thankfully, he behaved beautifully.
DH is back, and it is such a relief. He is currently cooking lunch I feel so yucky, I think I will spend the rest of the day on the sofa, he can entertain DS.

The great news just keeps on coming- congratulations everyone with a good scan and good luck to those who have one coming up soon- I am on countdown till my next one (2 weeks on thu).
So I am now 13w1d and part of me wants to tell people but the other part is scared to death. I am still so nervous about the next scan that I don't think I would like to tell before then but could I or should I hang on to the one after that? That one will be at 20w5 days and at my next one I will be 15w 5d. Obviously it may become obvious so I might no have much choice. Just want your opinions really.
All previous mc before 7 weeks and consultant said I have the same odds as anyone now (although it doesn't feel like that) xx

It is difficult, Milly - I had to tell people after my 7wk mc because I was unwell and I think many friends would have preferred to have known before (that I was pregnant, before I lost it).
I have had a successful pregnancy that led to the arrival of DS and I was able to keep that hidden (for work purposes) past 20 weeks, but it took a lot of strategic dressing (scarves, cardigans, empire-line dresses and tunics...etc)

We told people very selectively, as I was totally on edge and anxious, right up to 24+ weeks (then was weirdly overcome with a zen feeling of calm!) and their support was great.

Have you a gut instinct to tell or not and who?

This time I have told a few people very early on. I think it is important to have friends who know where you are at - they will be very happy for you when it works out, but will also be understanding and will be there for u if it does not. I didn't tell anyone at work before my 14wk mc, and it was terrible. I went back in and felt very alienated from everyone, and didn't say anything. This time I will let people know from 12-13 weeks. It is helpful with planning, and understanding why u r off more than usual. But also I think people will be there for you and it's important to have support networks around u.

My instincts are similar to Tayto and Shire - having some people who know can be a help and less of a worry in a weird way.

My losses were all early too. The RM Clinic nurse was all chilled out at 10 weeks (we'll forget about Mr "knock your chances down to 65% just to undermine the boss the day he's out" I met at 6 weeks). So I guess I will be deciding who to tell if this next scan works out.

Right now, having a massive emosh wobble though. The one bloody mucus episode yesterday morning has me questioning every twinge (I get a lot of twinges but have since bfp) and I'm unable to focus. Constant knicker checking. :( Want to wash my hair but for some reason even that is scaring me (??) like the hot water or something will do something.
Deep breaths.

Just had my shower and a pep talk from DH "It makes no odds whether you're in the shower or not - you cervix won't know. You just need to check every few hours till Monday. So you can be worried, or worried and smelly..." He is finding me something easy to watch on Netflix too.

Hi ladies, squiz glad your husband is helping to keep the sanity so you can get some clean hair!

I'm the same as tayto. I Tell my best friends as they are here for me whatever - so they all know about my mcs and so have no issues telling them when am preg again as they been on this journey with me!! I also told work about both mc as I needed the time off work and I didn't want to lie. My boss knows am pregnant now, I felt the need to tell him as needed time off for scans. I didn't tell them about my first preg til 15 weeks tho for pay rise / bonus reasons!

I have my 12 w scan tomorrow morning. IF that works out ok I will tell 5 of my closest friends. Then the next batch after we have had our 20 week scan.

Work know I am pregnant as I am signed off with these migraines but not my team, or my colleagues. Again I will probably leave telling them for as long as I can. xx

squiz Your DH is right. No point feeling anxious and smelly Hope you'll feel better soon! I can heartily recommend Despicable Me 1 and 2 as easy watching option, I watched them last week when I was feeling so shattered.

So far, I have only told 3 close friends. We have supported each other through various miscarriages, so I wanted them to know. My boss at work know because I have a million medical appointments at the moment, but no family.
We're going to see my mum in a couple of weeks, and we'll probably tell her then - I don't think that I can hide it if I feel as bad as I do at the moment. Then we'll have MIL's 70th birthday do just after the 12-week scan, so I guess that'll be as good an opportunity to tell them as any... Feels surreal, though. There will be no Fb announcement this time (well, that's what I think now, might change my mind about that...).

My boss/HR manager knows, my parents and 3 very close friends who have also had pregnancy issues (infertility, recurrent premature delivery and one who just has awful pregnancies). Waiting till T2 to tell more folk.

A few close friends know and my hubby of course! My boss and my teaching assistant know because of appointments etc. my TA covers my class and lifts the heavy stuff plus she went through a difficult time when she had her family. I just feel no time is right as I don't know what will happen. My best friend is 12w pregnant and is telling everyone now. I am so jealous I feel I can't. She hasn't had any complications previously.

tum I hope you are feeling calm and wish you lots of luck for tomorrow xxx

I have similar BUggs

1st mc - a bleed at 10w discovered didn't grow beyond 6w
2nd mc was a bit confusing but no development past 5w anyway
3rd mc - a bleed at 8w and hadn't developed past 5w
4th mc - reassurance scan at 8w saw no hb and a 5w one...

So I am hoping the fact i saw a 6+2 one with hb this time will be a good sign...

26 hours (ish) until my scan... so so nervous and scared

Bugs, yes, very similar - I've had 3 mcs, and none of them developed further than 6 weeks. With the first one, they did find a heartbeat, but the embryo was measuring more than 2 weeks behind (just about 6 weeks, but I was 8 weeks). No heartbeat with the other two when I had scans at 7-8 weeks So like you, I'm hoping that the fact all was bang on at the scan at 8 weeks and I have not been bleeding is a good sign for this pregnancy!

tum Good luck with your scan today!

Good luck today tum

Bugs I've had 2 losses at 6-7 weeks too (both spontaneous though). One MMC that was quite complex (partial molar they think though naturally vanished HCG after ERPC phew).

Now (fx) at 12+2, only 2 incidents of minor spotting, scanned up to 10 weeks all well.

FX your pg occurs in the same way as mine (minus the spotting even).

Good luck with scan today tum. Thanks for the advice about exercise,I def need it to stay semi sane. The clear blue I did said 2-3 weeks i only missed period last week how many weeks does this make me? I'm trying (really hard) to wait till beg of April to have a scan. I've previously had mmc the last pg had got to nine weeks it is all so hard.

Hi ladies please may I join you? I am new! Have been lurking for a while and have just plucked up the courage to join. I am 7w 4d and keeping everything crossed til my 12w scan!

Pregnantagain7
April2005 dd born
June2009 mc 6w
Nov2009 mc 5w
Oct2010 dd born
Nov2012 mc 6w
Sep2013 ds born
Edd 15 October

Good luck to anyone having scans today x x