RM OCTOBER 2014 thread - Today we are pregnant

[TinyTear]

Hi
This is a thread for people due in October with past miscarriage issues, so we don't scare the 'regular' October people and we don't annoy the RM thread with our pregnancy talk...

TinyTear MC May 2010, MC June 2010, MC November 2010, DD Jan 2012, MC October 2013 ADD 6th October

tum so pleased for you. Yeah. In the same boat- no kids and things ok so far. I was being to think I wasn't going to have any xxxx really pleased for you xxxxx

With my Daughter even after successful acana at 6, 8, 10 and 12 weeks I didn't buy anything until the 20 week scan. I felt I jinxed it when I got maternity clothes at 16 weeks...

I think I only enjoyed weeks 20 to 30 last time.

Acana = Scans
Fat fingers

When did you tell people tiny? I am feeling better after scan but no where near telling people. Probably having scan at 13 weeks then one at 16. Is it likely I could last to 20 without showing ? Luckily I put weight on due to stress of the last year so not particularly noticeable- esp in pants. I don't want to jinx anything. It doesn't feel real. You said you enjoyed 20-30. That gives me hope as I wasn't expecting to enjoy by of it except a few days after a good scan xx

I'm not planning to tell anyone except some very chosen few friends who already know now - they have been so supportive during my mcs, they know the deal. No family will know until I have seen a heartbeat.
But I am planning to tell my boss prob next week, just so that she can be prepared that I might drop off the face of the earth suddenly

Last time I told some friends at 12 weeks and didn't make a fb announcement or anything, just let it drop on conversations. JUst one of my friends knew from the start.

This time the same, only one of my friends knows from the start

Milly i probably would have enjoyed more, but at 30w was diagnosed with gestational diabetes so had to rethink my whole way of eating and it was tiring, and checking the blood 4 times a day and so on...

yes, might tell the boss next week so he knows. he was very supportive in all the miscarriages especially as in the days of the ERPC i couldn't call in sick on the day as i was in hospital from 7h30, so told him in advance so we didn't have to follow protocol

I have seen the heartbeat 3 times now. My boss knows and my teaching assistant at work ( so she can lift the heavy stuff for me) plus she is a good friend. My best friend and my sister knows as they have been very supportive through the miscarriages. As for everyone else I am leaving it as long as I can. Hubby would like to tell a few of his close friends soon but they don't know about my miscarriages. When I tell people I want to be able to get excited but am not in that place yet. I am too worried still. For most people 12 weeks is when they tell but feel it's different for me x

My mum hasn't been great through the miscarriages. I told her after number 3 and she just said that loads of people have them so stop stressing. Then she wouldn't discuss it anymore. Know I will get- told you there was nothing to worry about! The thing she doesn't realise is all the stress etc it has caused. Think she will be one of the last to know. Normally we are very close. It's as though she has just blocked this out. X

I told boss early last time but as on mat leave going to leave it as long as I can.
Going to tell parents when we see them in a few weeks.
I've told a couple of friends as needed to tell someone. I'm excited but also scared about mc.

Milly sorry your mums not been very supportive. It's sometimes difficult for them to realise what it's like I think if they haven't experienced it. Even DH, he gets upset but obviously doesn't have the hormone changes etc too.

Congratulations all those with positive scans and thinking of those of you who are experiencing scary stuff, I wish there was some way of knowing or predicting that things will be okay or not. The uncertainty is bloody painful.

I thought I would share my insane worry of the day and hope you can all slap me and tell me not to be stupid. Am currently 8 weeks. Have loads of sickness, all the other stuff. Yet am worried because I do not need to wee a lot. And stomach flat except bloating, should I be able to feel uterus? Sure with my first that I did but maybe not until 9/10 weeks? Can't remember with 2nd or 3rd pg. Can anyone help?

Sorry for being an idiot when other people have real worries.

Junior I have only just started to wee loads and I am 10 week (& had a good 8 week scan). Also only getting stretching pains for a fortnight. Hope that's reassuring!

I never weed a lot in any of my pregnancies, successful or unsuccessful. I've also never felt my uterus (but to be honest, I never tried to!). Everyone is different. Are you drinking lots?

Brown discharge has increased again, and today I have a backache. I am beside myself with fear, this is going exactly like in all my previous mcs.
EPU won't be doing anything, so I don't think I will call them just yet. But wondering if I can try to book an early scan directly, or if it has to come from the midwife. I'm 7 weeks today, so would like one in a week's time...

Another one that doesn't wee loads until baby is so big it's pushing on my bladder.

jbrd a side effect of progesterone suppositories is spotting. I learned this in my last pregnancy when I had brown spotting, freaked out, and went to epu. Then a friend who had IVF had the same thing happen to her. We were both told its a side effect of the suppositories. I didn't have any this time (knock on wood), but I still had a successful pregnancy last time. I would also think the fact that it's not getting heavier is a good sign and more likely to be a side effect.

Nausea has ramped up again since Friday. I have eaten wheat though when I should be gluten free so I think that's a lot of it. Booking appointment finally came through for Friday with a scan the following Thursday. OMG I'm so close to 12 weeks...so scared but trying to be hopeful. I'm getting a bump, which I hope means good things!

Ive started to get sinus pain under my right eye today which I know is the start of a sinus infection...GP tomorrow before it gets worse I think!

I'm scared today as my nephew launched himself at me today and my lower belly took quite a hit. I know everything is protected in there but I can't help but worry.

I also look pregnant. My bloating is ridiculous. Doesn't even go down over night now. I know it's bloating and not bump cos at 6 weeks that's ridiculous / impossible plus can't feel uterus but not sure I ever have!!

I am a big wee-er anyway and this preg is no more than usual. So nothing changed. But it's usually when there is someone squashing my bladder when I get that urge to wee every 5 mins!

You can book a private scan jbrd yourself. Or if you are still having the brown discharge the EPU will see you as they like to check out any blood. I thought they wouldn't see me when I had brown blood at almost 5 weeks and they called me in. Just try them... See what they say.

Jbird fx it is just the pessaries irritating you, and that the EPU will see you.

Fedup I wee a lot at the best of times too. Slightly worried how bad a wee-er I might become!!

Absolutely knackered today with slight nausea and stupid emosh feelings of dread. All of which I guess are symptoms - my scan is Tuesday I think I'm just getting myself worked up.

Our neighbour's wall got blown down Friday night into our garden, too. Perhaps lack of sleep is adding to tiredness. Thankfully it's all in hand!

Jbrd I think the fact it's not increased is a good sign. Just a complete bitch you can't get EPU support. Fx for you.

I'm having a hopeful day. Can we import some fish? I am in need of a slap across my deluded chops.

I've been siversmithing all weekend to distract myself. It has helped.

And totally unrelated but I have come down with tonsillitis too.

Scan and an end to all the roller coaster emotions on Thursday, and I don't think I'll be going back to work before then.

I hope everyone continues to do well.

silversmithing tanny that sounds fantastic! Did you make something nice? I'm thinking of trying crochet as an evening switch off /distraction but recently I haven't been awake long enough.
I am 12 weeks tomorrow. And a scan booked for Tuesday. I booked it for the evening so dh could attend but now I'm wishing it was first thing. I've been feeling pretty rubbish today with what I think were palpitations and then dizziness on standing. Nausea is coming and going now instead of all day. I actually can't believe I've got to this stage.

Exhausted here too. I also keep getting dizzy/light headed. Not sure if it's worth making a dr appt? Possibly low bp?
I've tried to start knitting but once ds has gone to bed I'm just too tired. I've bought the wool now though so I'm determined to knit something!

Thanks allisgood and squizita. The MW said in my last pg that I won't relax until the baby is born, so I guess I just have to accept this anxiety and try to laugh off the worst of the madness. tannyloo wet fish slaps may help all round. Distraction ideas are good, I have loads of work on which is weirdly helping. Jbird I hope things ease up for you and you find someone to help, maybe EPU could do HCG tests?

Think anxiety comes with the territory for us ladies. Let's just hope it gets easier the further along we get. Have finally convinced hubby to have the next scan and check for downs syndrome. Am going to ring up and book the scan later today. Tempted to ask for early next week but seeing as only had a scan last thu I should hold out longer as it will make it easier to wait till the 16 week scan they have given me. Don't want one at 13 weeks. I had 3 miscarriages in 2013 so have suddenly become very superstitious !!!
If I leave it till thu next week it will be 12w5d and next scan is going to be 15w5d (which will feel like a lifetime).