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All of us May mummies are BACK like the Terminator only less deadly (unless preggo rage strikes and we're within waddling distance of sharp things)

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Have a , some , and TELL US EVERYTHING ~listening intently~

Thinking of you dobe - let us know how you get on.

Glad you got the funeral plan sorted moomin.

Gosh, in-laws are a nightmare aren't they? My dad and bro are nearby and it wouldn't occur to them to want to come to hospital, so I think they'll be fine with popping over for a short time when we're home and settled. The in-laws are further away so I don't think they'd expect to come to hospital either. I plan to leave dh in charge of organising visits. I think the main issue is limiting the length of time of the visit - eg for the first visit I would want pils to maybe come for a couple of hours - they live over 2 hours away though so maybe that's unfair? SIL is lovely but tends to stay longer than expected so we'd need to tell her she can only come for, say, an hour, on a different day (she lives closer). I'm hoping they'll be understanding and won't mind the long drive just this once. I really don't want them thinking they will come and 'help' - I'm a bit particular about things and generally get a bit irriatated when they 'help' clear up after dinner etc. Normally I can contain in but I'm not sure I want that stress so soon! It's all a bit delicate really! Your dh sounds amazing kally - I may need him to teach mine!

Still in hospital ....

Glad you've managed to reschedule your midwife appointment Moomin and that you & your OH have talked about things.

Sorry to hear that Thistle, how're you feeling?

Good that you are getting checked out Dobe. Hope it is all okay.

I will probably only tell my friend that I'm in labour. And the PIL as they have to mind the dcs. Here, they don't allow anybody except the Partner in for the birth. Visitors after are limited to DH only in the room/ward and grandparents may visit but only outside the ward.

Love that your DH sets his DF straight Kally

Well the fetal medicine dept said they don't do anything if the baby is less than 28 weeks. So I can go see the midwife tomorrow and that's it.

Now lying on my side after drinking ice water to see if he'll wake up. Thought I felt some movement on the way home, but now I feel so anxious, I can't be sure. I want a big baby knee sticking out of my stomach and then I'll be happy.

dobe please don't think im taking the piss but have you tried putting on your favourite music, something that you really like. Whenever I do the ironing I play 30 seconds to mars probably too loud and same as his sisters this little one goes nuts. Also rest something on your belly, a plate or anything they dont like the invasion of space thats why lauing on your side often does the trick. Babies movements do slow down a bit but they do also get stronger.

Sorry to hear they're not helping dobe. Do you not have an antenatal day unit at your hospital? Mine says if you've started feeling movements and they stop, they'll see you and check heartbeat etc.

Things that sometimes get mini moomin going -

• Laptop on bump. Vibrations get it going.
• Lying down on my side, getting up, going to the loo, cold fizzy drink and then lying on back.
• Music playing through headphones.

Thanks everyone. I'm going to try ALL those. 30 seconds to Mars is a good choice too

thistle so sorry to hear you're still in hospital - you feeling any better??

dobe how frustrating that they won't do anything to check, will keep fingers crossed you manage to encourage your little bean into action - sure all is fine but I know you must be getting worried, let us know

I've just felt some unmistakable big kicks!

Feel a bit relieved! Still annoyed he's not as active as he has been though. If he's still fairly quiet, I'll get the midwife to have a listen tomorrow.

Oh dobe that's BRILLIANT see we all knew it'd be fine
As a suggestion I genuinely think maybe find some music that Bean responds to? I know it sounds daft but mine LOVES Daft Punk, specifically their Discover album (the one with Bigger Harder Faster Stronger or whatever it's called) and also some of DH's favourite classic hard house choons. Clearly going to have a boogying baby

Phew, dobe. How rubbish that the hospital won't do anything! I don't understand - given that 24 weeks is considered viable surely there must be some place that they'd send you to if you went into labour or something happened? I really feel like I don't know who I would contact or how in times of needing reassurance or an emergency, it's very confusing! Anyway, glad mini-dobe is making his/her presence known.

Sorry to hear you're still in hospital thistle - hope you're on the mend.

Just popped up to the midwife as haven't felt baby move much today but all is fine, he's started wiggling now so didn't need to panic! little monkey even kicked the doppler!
glad to hear you've had some movement dobe hopefully that will put your mind at rest a little.

Hi all :) hope you're all doing ok. Haven't checked in for ages, work has been horribly hectic and stressful post Xmas, so looking forward to finishing now, 11 weeks to go :) (if I last that long!!) I'll try and catch up with news over next couple of days.

Just had a total breakdown in the kitchen. Had just helped DH with a mix (DJ stuff!) and I realised I felt very alone and unloved for some reason. Being alone at home all day and very emotional is not a good combination for me, it would seem. Usually dad is around, he's retired so he doesn't work, and he decided to drop mum at work and then not come home all sodding day except to take me to a choir rehearsal and drop me home again. Then he was off again. Absolutely drained now, no energy to even cry any more. I am feeling really fucking low these days

On the movement front, I was told that when you are moving around a lot, the motion often sends baby to sleep so best thing to do if you think you haven't felt anything for a while is to lay very still (guess this explains why lots of women say their babies keep them awake at night kicking!)

Ok I have to ask the question. why is just one of my nipples incredibly itchy? driving me crazy!

23+2

Glad to hear you've felt movements now dobe :)

We've just got back from seeing Russell Howard. Bought the tickets ages ago - never imagined OH would need the lift as much as he has done this week, but it's been a while since I've heard him laugh that much. And even baby got in on the act, kicking away

Argh MrsFoo, I just wrote out a long reply to you and then my fecking iPad died just as I was finishing!! I probably should've heeded its "5% battery left" warning... So sorry, but it's 1am and I can't re-type it all!

It sounds like the isolation is really getting to you, it's really hard to make that change, and definitely contributed to my PND with DS. Is there any way you can get out more. Join an antenatal class or a Bumps & Babies group? Any chance you can get your dad to take you out in the mornings as well when he takes your DM to work?
I know it sounds trite, but just getting more daylight could help, even if you just make yourself go for a walk every day.

Also, can't remember if you've checked already/already taking supplements, but maybe see if your iron levels might be low?

Hope you're asleep now and feel brighter in the morning. x

I'm laid here having precious moments with my boy kicking away!!! Bittersweet day as my grandada funeral today and I'm stuck in hospital

Sorry to hear that Thistle, it will be a hard one for you.

The moments of feeling the kicks and movements of your darling little one will help and, you're right, they are precious moments.

How're you feeling?

I'm awake with pregnancy insomnia as usual at this time, accompanied by wicked heartburn!

what a hard day for you thistle, I hope you get out soon

so relieved for you dobe and polly glad to hear you got some hefty kicks too!!

AliOH 11 week countdown? wow... thats getting really close!!

blue no itchy nipples here but one is a different COLOUR than the other!!! honestly even DH commented on it - ones brown/pink and the other looks practically blue!!!

mrsfoo sorry to hear you're feeling down and I know you're struggling without an income, but I'd second long and say a. take supplements and get your iron checked and b. get outside as much as possible - a walk is free and will do lots to lift your mood - you have a little dog yes, so I assume you're taking him/her out every-day - just try and extend that as much as possible - do you have any other friends with dogs you can arrange to meet up? Being alone is never good for anyone - if your parents/DH fancy helping you with a present then some antenatal classes would be great so that you can meet some other mums and avoid being alone too much when little one arrives.

Anyhow, hope you feel a bit better today

moomin glad your OH got a much deserved lift from the show!

hi to everyone else!!

Morning all!

I was woken up at about 5am by my tiny daughter deciding to have a party in my uterus! Lots of kicking going on! Can't get back to sleep & have to get up soon anyway.

Mrsfoo sorry to hear you're feeling down. I second what others have said about getting involved in antenatal classes & more fresh air. You could maybe even try some sort of volunteer work somewhere local for a month or so to get you out & about.

Thinking of you thistle. We are all here to support you.

Dobe, glad to hear you're feeling movement now.

Hope everyone else is ok!

25+2 today :)

Aww thistle, hope you get out of hospital soon!
MrsFoo - if you keep feeling down, come on here and talk. Talking helps.
Just a flying visit as I'm at work and shouldn't even be on here - I have an office full of directors today ARGH!