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MrsFooCough · 24/01/2014 14:13

All of us May mummies are BACK like the Terminator only less deadly (unless preggo rage strikes and we're within waddling distance of sharp things)

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Have a Brew, some Cake, and TELL US EVERYTHING ~listening intently~

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mumof2aimingfor3 · 30/01/2014 07:03

clearly your baby, your rules. And I totally agree with a new mattress. My dads cousin borrowed the 'family crib' from me back in October and the first thing I said is, you'll have to buy a new mattress because its been linked to cot death (regardless of her son bringing the baby on occasional weekends). She didn't even question me and said she will. Think the word death hit her hard enough.
Ive got a perfect mattress which has been used by my own dd2 washed at 60 degrees and all that (it has a removable top section) but I still wont be using it! Ive ordered a new one from mothercare, one of the really nerdy ones.

Irisheyessmiling · 30/01/2014 08:30

Bloody hell what a day. Spent yesterday afternoon in hospital after student kicked me in the stomach. Baby ok thank goodness but need to watch for bleeding, loss of fluid etc so still feel very scared even though I 'know' baby must be fine.

Am so angry I had raised this child as a risk countless times, got told just to keep out of the way and let others deal with him (he's in my class how on earth do i teach a child I'm supposed to keep away from?) kept raising he was unpredictable and violent and now this has happened which could have had a much much worse outcome. Keep bursting into tears at the shock and rage! Dh livid ready to call a meeting with the head or just go down there himself.

Sorry for rant just outraged that I've been so poorly looked after since I told them inward pregnant. Duty of care my arse

Mrsfoo so glad you sound brighter. I'm an anxiety ridden depressive sort myself ( can you tell?!) though much much better since years on venlafaxine and cbt so know it's sometimes the tiniest things that make a difference, positive or negative. And I'm north Kent and very intrigued...the size conundrum and double ordering, especially of trousers is something that annoys me greatly!

loopylou52 · 30/01/2014 09:21

You poor thing irish that's awful. I can't imagine how vulnerable it must make you feel about having to be around unpredictable kids like that. I hope now they'll take him out of your class or something.

I agree about the frustrations of maternity shopping online, especially with trousers. It's hard when you don't know what kind of fit you want (over/under bump etc) so have to order several different styles in different sizes to get something that will work.

I've wondered about mattresses that are ok with the movement monitors too.

clearly - did you get my reply to your pm? I use the app and there doesn't seem to be any kind of 'sent items' so no confirmation that it went anywhere.

I'm getting lots of kicks really low down, which have started getting a bit intense at times. I guess this may mean baby is breach at the moment? I haven't had anything under my ribs but I think my placenta is at the top so I guess that might provide a bit of a barrier.

ThistleLickerIsGoingToBeAMummy · 30/01/2014 11:00

Oh my egging god!!!! Some of the
Name suggestions on the baby name threads make me want to pull my hair out!!! How can people think that some of these names are suitable for a child!!! I know it's personal choice an that but really???!!!

Clairededare · 30/01/2014 11:13

Hi May mums Smile Mind if I join you? You are all so supportive and lovely on here. Been lurking for too long but super cautious as this is my first at 40! Just had midwife appt (24+2 ) and all great, baby so wriggly Grin. Sending you all Cake. Am just on shopping quest to find decent mat tights - wish me luck!

Irisheyessmiling · 30/01/2014 11:15

I asked before but they just said to keep out the way! Hopefully this will force something to happen as the stress and anxiety prob just as bad as getting booted! Going to Dr in minute to get them to add weight to duty of care argument with school, write a letter or something,not quite sure but dh coming with to help as my thoughts none too clear atm!

mumof2aimingfor3 · 30/01/2014 11:19

Haha thistle you make me giggle! How are you feeling hun?

Good luck Claire and welcome. After your shopping trip settle down with a Brew and have a chat. Do you know if your team blue/pink/yellow?

mumof2aimingfor3 · 30/01/2014 11:20

irish did they do risk assessments for you?

ThistleLickerIsGoingToBeAMummy · 30/01/2014 11:21

I'm much better thanks mum!! Just getting ready to go work! Mini thistle needs to have a wiggle before I ask my midwife friend to listen. In!!

impatientlywaiting · 30/01/2014 11:22

Welcome Claire, glad you are joining us. I bought 2 pairs of Isabella Oliver tights from eBay (think they are about £15 each new) for £10. They seem really good and stay up! I'd had enough of hoisting up my cheapy primark ones every 5 minutes.

Hezbean · 30/01/2014 11:26

irish that's really awful, I hope you're ok and the school do something about it. Let us know how you get on with the doc and the school.

Welcome claire and congrats! I've got some opaque maternity tights from Boots that are really comfy. I also have some seraphina ones which are good too. Good luck shopping.

re cots etc - we have limited space being in a flat so I was thinking about using the Uppababy cruz carry cot as the moses basket for the first while, as apparently it's approved for overnight sleeping. Does that sound like a good idea? And then move them into a small cot which I will have space for next to my bed (when I've moved a chest of drawers!) which will be Ok for the first few months. We do have a spare room but are thinking of just not converting it into a nursery until baby is ready for it's own room, as we'd then lose the bed in there which is so handy when people stay over.

dobedobedo · 30/01/2014 11:32

Irish how awful for you. Your employers really should be used to pregnant women by now - they sound shocking. Get a sick line from your doctor - I got one. It says I'm fit for work ONLY IF certain conditions are met, and then the doctor lists what I shouldn't do/what situations I shouldn't be in.

PixieBumbles · 30/01/2014 11:45

Irish that's terrible! I hope your Dr can help back up your argument. I take it the school didn't even think about this in their risk assessment despite you raising it several times (if they did a risk assessment that is. We all know employers are supposed to but I'm learning that when it comes to pregnancy, antenatal care and maternity leave etc what employers are supposed to do and what they actually do are often rather different!)

I'm getting fed up with work again. I saw my midwife on Monday to have bloods taken prior to having my anti-d injection. She said she'd just found out our local hospital have changed how they deal with anti-d, and that rather than having the injection within a few weeks of having bloods taken they will now only do the injection within one week. They have one anti-d clinic a week on a Friday afternoon. I told the midwife that was fine, and I should be able to make an appointment this week. So she took my bloods then rang the hospital to arrange my appointment.

I got back to the office to find one of my colleagues has booked the same afternoon off as leave. Only one person from our department of three is supposed to be off at any one time. I told my boss I have this hospital appointment which is time sensitive and will mean I'll be out of the office for a fair chunk of time as the hospital is almost a 2 hour round trip away. I also offered to make up the time (even though legally I don't have to). He said that was fine and not to worry about it (muttering under his breath about how he was going to have to put up with this until April Hmm). Then I notice in his diary this morning that since finding out about my appointment he's arranged meetings out of the office all afternoon tomorrow, which means there will be nobody covering one of the departments my boss and I work across, and only one person covering the phones for the other department we deal with (and she seems to have an aversion to answering the phone anyway).

When the director with overall responsibility for our departments finds out he's going to have a shit fit. And you can guarantee the person who bears the brunt of his anger won't be the male Chartered Surveyor who booked himself out of the office knowing there wouldn't be anybody else in, or the male graduate surveyor who booked leave just because he wants an afternoon off. Oh no. It will be the pregnant woman with an important medical appointment to go to which she can't change at such short notice Angry.

I'm getting really fed up with all my boss's little comments and asides about my time off. I've not even taken that much, I used my holiday allowance for my routine scans and GTT as it's just not worth the hassle from work.

PixieBumbles · 30/01/2014 11:46

Wow, that was really long! Sorry, feel free to ignore and move on Blush

mrsmummytobe · 30/01/2014 13:15

Irish that is absolutely horrible for you! You poor thing. Which year group is your class? What is being done about the boy now? I hope they do their best to make sure you're never in a situation like that again.

Welcome Claire :)

Pixie sorry to hear you're having a hard time at work. You've got the best excuse for being out of the office though.

I think I'm in need of a slap please! After hearing from loads of people that babies love baths, I had one. It's actually the first of my pregnancy as I usually have a shower. But the baby didn't really move around or kick at all while I was in it. I got really paranoid as the water was quite hot so put some cold in. Then she was really quiet for the rest of the evening. Today I have felt some movement but I think she's quieter than normal. Am I worrying about nothing or could the hot water have been a risk for her??

dobedobedo · 30/01/2014 13:25

MrsMummy It was after a bath when I noticed reduced movements in my baby. I went to the midwife as it continued for a few days and it was because baby had turned himself transverse, and you can't feel them just as much in that case. If you're worried though, see someone.

PotatoPolly · 30/01/2014 13:29

Oh Irish that sounds terrible, you just don't need the worry of it all.

and Pixie sorry to hear you're having hard times at work, just try to think, only a few more weeks to go! From the outside it's clear that it's your bosses issue if he wants to leave the office empty, but like you say, that's not likely to happen.

Welcome Claire

The baby has decided to become so wiggly he's made my bump really tender... surely that's only going to get worse as he gets bigger??

Looking at tights, I've found my old faithful tesco ones have been brilliant with my bump, although I am short and round so wear a size for taller people which I guess must mean they come up higher, iyswim?

Had my 25 week appt today, midwife is sending my urine off as there was blood and protein in it, UTI maybe? Anything else it could be?

impatientlywaiting · 30/01/2014 13:36

Mrsmummy, I've never noticed increased movement when I've been in the bath.

I don't think there is anything to worry about regarding the bath, as long as it wasn't so hot that you were overheating?

Saying that you can't be too careful with any issues around movement so why not keep an eye on it today, maybe note down any movements so you can check they are regular and if you are still worried definitely get in touch with your midwife.

loopylou52 · 30/01/2014 13:49

I've never noticed increased movement when in the bath either. I can't imagine the water was hot enough to do any damage (unless you felt really hot/overheated from it too but even then I'm sure the risks are very small). Please don't panic but, as others have said, if you're concerned then better to get checked out than carry on worrying.

Sorry you're having such issues as work pixie, but you've got a very good reason for being out of the office. If it hasn't occured to them that there won't be enough cover then tough - in a few weeks they'll have to think about these things for themselves so best they start getting used to it!

Irisheyessmiling · 30/01/2014 14:40

Signed off for two weeks with stress affecting pregnancy. Did do a risk assessment but it's pretty sparse, basically keep self out of way of challenging behaviour and don't do swimming lessons. It's a special needs school so challenging behaviour pretty much daily occurrence! Pupil is 7 but very strong no limitations as no social awareness to hold back behaviour! So off for two weeks and working out what to say at meeting I'm determined to have before I agree to go back!

pixie sounds like you're having just as nice a time of it. Shouldn't be this hard to be treated properly at work! Maternity action is proving quite a helpful website...

Hello Claire welcome to the May thread! Will try not to keep moaning not the best welcome for you sorry!

PixieBumbles · 30/01/2014 14:43

mrsmummy If anything my baby seems quieter during and immediately after a bath, but if you're concerned I would suggest giving your midwife a call if just for peace of mind.

My last day at work is 10 weeks tomorrow. I can't wait to get out. I've been unhappy here and looking for other work for a long time so I'm glad to have a chance to get away for a while!

It would be easier if they were just outright discriminatory as at least then I'd feel like I had a real complaint! I just feel pathetic as it's only little things that I'm struggling to deal with. All the little snarks and comments, even tiny things like losing my place in the unofficial, unspoken parking hierarchy and being pushed back down to the far end of the car park, and being left out of tea rounds. It's just really getting me down at the moment. Nothing has been done about maternity cover yet, but they have form for that. One of my colleagues left for good in the summer and gave two months' notice. They only started interviewing candidates for her replacement in her final week Hmm

MrsFooCough · 30/01/2014 14:47

JESUS irish that's appalling. Mum used to work in a special school, basically one step down from a PRU or secure unit (for those who don't know that's a unit for kids who are too young/not quite awful enough for borstal/juvenile detention centres) and she had a colleague who had such trouble when she got pregnant that she just left in the end. The head wouldn't accommodate her by lightening her duties or removing violent pupils so she just had to go. If your dr's intervention is noted by governors maybe, you might get something done about it?

Claire/Clare (I'm useless with names) HELLO and WELCOME. Take a seat and let us know how your shopping trip went!

In boring news, the Gap size 20 overbump jeans are FALLING DOWN. The underbump bit that's still normal denim is too long from the crotch up to the bump band, so they fall down and I look like I've sht myself. I'm keeping them as I NEED some clothes, but they are NOT COOL. Hopefully I've got some Vertbaudet ones coming too, but I think if they don't fit comfortably I may have to live in shtty leggings and joggers Sad

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dobedobedo · 30/01/2014 15:13

mrsfoo Wash your jeans on a 60 degree wash and tumble dry them. That's what I do when mine are too big. It shrinks them slightly. Not really permanently, but enough to get a day's wear out of them without constantly pulling them up!

PixieBumbles · 30/01/2014 16:41

I don't bloody believe it. I've just managed to get the lovely midwife in the day assessment ward to agree to do my anti-d injection first thing Monday morning so I don't have to have my bloods redone (even though that's outside of the clinic time - I was very grateful. There were tears. Goddamn hormones)

Five minutes later I get an e-mail saying the whole office is having a breakfast meeting on Monday morning [headdesk]. I can't win! At least the meeting isn't very important and the director's secretary has said she'll fill me in on what's discussed, although I will miss out on a free cooked breakfast Envy.

I was feeling bad for crying down the phone at the hospital midwife over a trivial matter, but then I remembered that her job is dealing with women who are hormonal timebombs. She's probably very used to it!

mrsmummytobe · 30/01/2014 21:51

Irish I really hope they make it as safe as possible for you to continue working there. Sounds like a good idea to have a meeting before going back.

Pixie sorry you're having a hard time at work. Feel free to vent whenever is needed!

Thanks everyone for the support. I was just told by a few people (including my mum) that babies always kick lots when they are in the bath so it really freaked me out to feel reduced movement. Good to hear this isn't actually the case for lots of people! When I got home from work today we got out the angelsounds Doppler we got on Amazon ages ago but haven't used since about 14 weeks & it was really reassuring to hear baby's heartbeat. I've been feeling more movement too so I'm feeling much better now. It's so scary though when there is a change in the baby's movements. I think I prefer it when all her kicking & wriggling is keeping me awake at night!