August 2014 - 12 week scans and holding hands!

[BunnyBaby]

Hello everyone, off we go again...

Glad I'm not the only one in maternity clothes already! I dug out all my ones from last time but they are really stretched from late pregnancy and the trousers just fell down so had to buy some more .

Having said that, this bump is not a real 'bump' cos I can suck it in! It's like my muscles have just given in.

Hi All,
I was hoping I could join this thread - my edd is the 12th August and I have my 12 week (well 13 week) scan on Monday which I am stupidly paranoid about. Due to a previous miscarriage at 5 weeks and a missed miscarriage at 6 weeks (never seeing a heartbeat), I have had a number of scans including a 10.3 week scan (all showing healthy heartbeats) but I still can't stop worrying.
I completely get the paranoia about loss of symptons as well....nausea all gone and boobs no longer hurt - I keep looking at them in the mirror thinking they have shrunk!
Will be really nice to talk to people going through the same anxieties and worries. If you hadn't already guessed this is my first : )

Hi Caz, congrats, welcome and lots of luck for monday, I'm sure all will be well, especially because of your 10.3 week scan and I really don't think symptoms abating is anything to be worried about. I stopped feeling sick around my 12 week scan and my boobs are only occasionally tingly, having said that I have had a bad week this week so seem to have regressed back into sicky-land!! enjoy any respite you have from hormone madness!!

Hi to all the new people. Welcome!

TC80, I've still got 2 packs of pregnancy vits left so will be taking those and then I'll go onto the Healthy Start vitamins which are C, D and folic. I like to take zinc throughout baby's intense growing / developing stages.

You don't have to take it, but it won't hurt if you do.

I was wondering what the deal was with continuing with vits, I still have a 90 pack of generic pregnancy ones though the midwife said "you can stop taking folic acid now" and I thought, eh??

It's only thought necessary to 12 weeks as any issues will be there by then, so can't be prevented anymore.

Hi Caz, welcome and as Flymo says, it's a really really positive sign that you had a scan so recently. I do understand how worrying it is when things have gone wrong before though. I had a miscarriage at five weeks last year, and I felt very nervous up to the 12 week scan. My symptoms definitely eased off around the 12 week point. I'm sure you'll have happy news on Monday.

Okay guys so I'm seeing my friend tonight, she has been ttc for a little while (nowhere near as long as we were) we both know each other are ttc she keeps asking me if we've been lucky yet and seems to genuinely want to know. But she has had a mmc and a very early/chemical pregnancy in the last few months and when another friend at work told her she was pregnant she told me she cried after. Do you think I should tell her tonight or text her after my scan? I think she'll be happy for me as I was so happy for her when she caught...tricky isn't it!!

I say play it by ear. And if she asks you outright then tell the truth, as it's hard to skirt round it / lie face to face.

It's so hard in those situations wondering what's best to do.

Morning!! welcome to caz - good luck Monday, as the others have said try not to worry about symptoms...my boobs never grow just feel tender!!!

Im stopping Pregnacare tonight its making me feel so sick in the evenings yuk!!! well I feel sick this morning too but having evening sickness is just too much!!!

Ps owly - I would be honest with your friend it sounds like you are very close

Wow! I go away for one day and miss two pages of news! Can't remember exactly who, but congratulations on good news scans! I get stupidly pleased when I know someone else has gone in a nervous wreck but come out very excited! And welcome newbies!!

Can I ask you all something? I seem to have a lot of cervical/vaginal mucus and have done for a while. It's not smelly or otherwise offensive it just doesn't seem quite normal. I will mention it to midwife in two weeks but I wondered if anyone else had this? Also I have constant pelvic ache. I didn't get this with dd. It's quite bad in the mornings. Movements which seem to make it worse are lifting up one leg to put underwear on for example. Again I'll mention to midwife but does it sound like something you have/ have had?

Hi 2beornot I've had so much CM from day 1, I mentioned it to my MW at booking in at 11 weeks and she said totally normal, it's your body doing it's job keeping your cervix clean. I have so much, TMI but I sometimes have to go to the loo to make sure i'm not bleeding because it feels like there is so much there! Gross. I wear a panty liner every day to keep fresh.

I've been suffering with my pelvis too, I'm really struggling to sleep, I miss sleeping on my back :(

owly, I would tell her, otherwise you're going to have a "when do I tell her??" situation... but I appreciate it's very hard. I was a bit upset by lacklustre reactions from friends who are ttc, but haven't had any tears yet. The closer you are (i.e. if you're closer to her than the "friend at work" she might feel she can just have a cry on you or get it all out in the open.
2beornot, I haven't had anything with pains but have had quite a bit more cm... ask your midwife, they may not be related so she will likely ease your mind. stretching and aching is supposed to be normal I think. I've felt twinges when I cough, sneeze, yawn etc, sometimes quite sharp but always a one-off.

I could have written the same post Pina! My cm is exactly the same...and wearing pantyliners too!! So glad you guys are here to share info lol

Thank goodness it's not just me! I also had that "am I bleeding" panic but have got used to it now!

Yes, loads of mucus. It gets worse in the last trimester, or it did for me last time! Totally normal. And if I were you I would have a look on the pelvic partnership website - if this is the start of PGP you need to be doing everything you can to minimise it and stop it getting worse.

Welcome Caz!

I've not had too much extra CM but it's been mentioned in a book I've got that more is quite common.

Owly, I think tell her too, it won't be easy but I agree that honesty is the best policy.

Sooo, my office now knows. Sent an email in the end with a picture of the scan so all knew at the same time . Attention was soon deflected when my colleague's DW arrived with their 6 month old little girl (yay!) She's such a cutie

Owly, I'm sure this won't be the only pg announcement she will hear and knowing what that can feel like when ttc, and are thinking about how to tell her, already means you're going to make it easier for her than average!

The best suggestion I've heard for this situation is telling her in such a way that she has some space to get through the painful bit privately so that the first rush of "why not me" can be experienced and wept for, without the pressure of feeling she needs to be happy for you straight away. In time I'm sure she'll find the bit of her that's able to be genuinely happy for you. Then each time you see her take it entirely from her whether and how much she wants to talk about either her ttc or your pregnancy.

Good luck

Thanks guys they haven't been ttc long and have caught twice, although unfortunately didn't work out well so hopefully they'll have a healthy pregnancy soon! Then we can celebrate together. We had been ttc for a nearly a year when she caught the first time and she was very happy to tell me so hoping she will react same as me! Think I'll tell her tonight as I know she will ask! She's been asking me over texts but been able to skirt around the subject

I have had lots of cm and have the 'oh no am I bleeding feeling' because of it at least daily and doctor at hospital said it was very normal!

Good luck Owly. I'm also nervous about this as have hot 2 friends in their forties who've spent thousands on IVF. Plus another 2 friends trying to conceive. I think I'm going to cl them before other friends so they don't feel like they're the last to know. Worst was my ttc buddy a good friend who's been trying for 5 yrs. I had to tell her as our cycles were in synch and she thought I'd get lucky in Nov. We both cried

It's hard being told someone is pregnant when you have been trying for ages. I don't think there is any easy way to break the news.

Was someone asking about generic multi-vits? I was told not to take them because of the high levels of Vitamin A.

Pregnacare is ok for that Friend, no vitamin A.

Hope it goes ok owly. After my MC I found any pregnancy news hard but it helped to know the people were there for me.

I have to tell my friend after my scan. She had 4 miscarriages in 18 months and I'm one of the few people who know about it. I have no idea how I'm going to do it... : (

I know Pregnacare is ok but further down the thread someone was asking about normal multi-vits.