June 2014: New Year, new trimester, new thread! June bugs no 7!!

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Ding dong!

I'm thinking co sleeping isn't an option for us. I'm a toss-and-turner, and I can't sleep without a duvet and multiple pillows, even when it's hot. We will have the Moses basket next to the bed so I can just reach out, though...

wispa I hate co sleeping. I genuinely hate being restricted when trying to sleep and if there is any alternative I will definitely take it this time!

Jaykay sometimes little ones don't like the feelings of space when placed into the cot so early yet like the Moses basket as it feels smaller and more secure so they feel safer.
We used Moses basket with both dd and ds and both settled really well and then we put Moses basket into cot to get them used to the feeling of the cot and then when they were about bursting out of Moses basket (about 3-4 months) we put them straight to cot and they settled well and were used to it.
Obviously all babies are different but know mine would of hated to go straight to big cot.

Bumble That's really rubbish, esp. as it's hard enough filling forms of this nature in once, never mind dragging all those thoughts to the forefront twice!

I wouldn't have baby in the same bed as me, cot next to the bed is as clingy as I'm willing to get - I know my parents had a hard time getting me out of their bed when I was little, but German double beds are two metres wide, that's much easier to cope with!

I quite like a baby bath, I have fond memories of mine, and it might be needed to 'code' babies - on baby pictures of my brother and me my mom can only tell us apart when we're in the bath by the colour of the tub.

I do want to pump if my milk comes in (my mom's never did...) because I want DH to do some feeds.

Wow busy chat day on here!

I definitely liked my moses basket as I could just grab ds out of it and plonk him on the boob in the night without getting out of bed!

We had a baby bath and it was always dh's job. Actually it still is! It's when he and ds bond most I think. He loved having a set job to help support me from the start.

Totally cannot decide about prams. I wasn't completely happy with my last one plus I want a new one so am on the look out. Limited budget though as my old one would do so can't justify spending loads.

oh dear you have been chatting a lot

I will try to catch up.

bumble I'm so sorry about the appointment. I work a lot with those types of questioners and questions and I know they can reliable, but yes... some of the questions are a bit annoying.

vicky glad you were able to sort everything

Does sound totally rubbish bumblebees, especially when you've done this part. Would make sense for agencies to work together and make the process smoother for you and less traumatic. Agree sounds crap :(

Hi sareva Im o negative and need to have anti d. my dh is o positive so baby could be either. I don't think its anything to worry about is it? X

MrscharlieD - no nothing to worry about! Just a couple of injections and to be honest for what it does, it's worth it!!!!! Are you due to have it at your next appointment?

No i was told id have it at 28 weeks, unless i have any knocks to my bump and then i need to go in and have it done straight away x x

Bumble - that really is crap, hope you manage to get seen a bit sooner.

LadyGG- that's really interesting, have never heard of the antibodies disappearing but then these kind of random unexplained things do happen - you were lucky since your brother was so ill, as it does normally get worse with progressive pregnancies. There's 6 years between middle bro and me and they still recommended that my mum have an abortion with me - thankfully she told them where to go

Have got back into the baby shopping mood after reading this thread today! Am now considering a different pram, one that might actually fit through doorways and in the car. Anyone had a Baby Jogger City Select? We'll obviously have it set up as a twin but any experience/opinions welcome!

Unfortunately I'm high risk, so am expecting consultant next week to tell me mwlu and home birth are out.

So......whose next for their 20week scan? (Mine is forever away so I plan to live vicariously through everyone else!)

Riblet - I was thinking about either the baby jogger city select or icandy ... Thinking about going to have a look at both at the weekend to see what they both look like folded down etc

The are two of us with scans next Tuesday that I know of. Mine is 9am, and I'm counting down the days!

Depends what you are high risk for, Jaykay. I was high risk for thyroid in first pregnancy and so consultant led but as long as everything is ok at about 35 weeks they were happy to refer me back to midwife led so I could have try for a home birth. Ended in transfer in anyway but couldn't be helped. Second pregnancy they wouldn't risk it as had developed GD by that point and they wanted to induce me. Worth asking though if you feel that's what you want.

On the pumping front I used to try and express enough so DH could give a bottle every other day or so. It takes ages though and makes you feel like a cow. Much prefer breastfeeding, so much quicker and easier. But it is worth introducing a bottle after the first three weeks or so. We got lazy with DS and he never took a bottle again. We were determined with DD and she was always fine with them - so much so that she decided to stop bf'ing of her own accord at about 9 months which I was very sad about.

My scan's not until 5th Feb!

Expecting - if you do try them would be interested to hear what you think. Haven't looked at icandy because of price but all the bits for the Baby Jogger add up quickly too.

My next scan isn't until 22nd, seems like aaaaaages away!

I don't know much about it other than some stuff I've read, but I'd like to express sometimes if possible so DH can feed them, maybe late evening. Would be good for him to do it but also I'm very much an 'early to bed, early to rise' type of person so am already fantasising about being able to sleep while he does the late feeds

i thought you need to express regardless of bf to keep milk going and to avoid breast related health issues?! sorry if im a bit daft

mylittlel you never need to express. Babies managed fine before pumps were invented.

I got better at pumping for cereal etc as dd got older (she was allergic to dairy and soya) but it took me ages to express a bottle when she was little.

I hated pumping as felt like a cow and to

Took ages to get anything out!

My scan is next thurs- am also counting down days.

Pram wise- we had mothercare my4- to be honest, used the car seat on wheels most of time and then at 7 months, had Mcclaren as more lightweight.

Didn't bother with baby bath- dh used to bath with him or had a raised cushion thing in the bath. Ds also didn't like Moses basket and preferred sleeping on my chest. Eventually got him in it by stroking his head!

lots of great info on pumping. Thanks Lady - really helpful.

In my dreams (I appreciate real life is unlikely to adhere to it) DH would be able to do a feed every day or two. Plus, ideally I want to be away for one night - but baby will probably only be 7/8weeks. I might change ny mind after the birth - but I'm currently desperate not to cancel.

So wispa - you might be first scan then?

Mine is 4th Feb so still a little while. Hoping midwife lets me hear the heartbeat next week so I stop worrying a bit!

We bought the Mothercare oOb. It's not being delivered until the end of May so at least we don't have to store it for long (good job as we're hopefully having building work done soon). Seems to handle quite well, converts into pushchair later, it's not too heavy (which counted a lot out) and it was very reasonable. Hope we won't regret it..!

So tired tonight, might go to bed now!

I didn't particularly enjoy pumping as it was a faff on top of breastfeeding... also my milk was always sour when defrosted. Apparently this happens to some people?! Anyway, there were times when it was necessary though so I could go to the hairdressers etc as DS fed ever few hours for months! And it was worth the bother to have a proper break.

My scan will be 22nd Jan... not tooo long now - less than 2 weeks!

I pumped last time as I wanted DS to be able to take a bottle, so that like other posters say DH could do feeds, and also just for general practicality, so that when my mum or mil were visiting they could do feeds (and I could leave the house for more than two hours at a time!). I second whoever said get electric not manual.

I think if you are breast feeding, and ever miss a feed then it's a good idea to then pump so that you are keeping up the supply. I was never able to get DS into doing a night time feed (or dream feed as some call it) at about 10pm. He didn't tend to wake of his own accord, and if I tried to wake him for it he would scream blue murder, refuse to feed and never go back to sleep. So I just gave up trying to do it and would express instead.

Regarding bathing, we put DS in sink until he was too big, and then bought this for the big bath. Dead simple, easy to wash and cheap as chips.

bumble that's just rubbish about your therapy.

Agree that expressing was such a faff that I gave it up pretty quickly after both mine which was a shame as like LadyGG when I tried to give them a bottle later on they refused to take it, with my 2nd I was so tired (toddler as well) I started weaning her at 4 months. This time I'm going to try my hardest to give expressing ago.
MrsCharlieD - I have to have mine at 28 weeks as well, that's my next MW appt, do you have another before then?