BFP wishes came true - thread 3

[RedRobin1]

A big fat welcome party for twinkle and just another thread for us all to keep in touch

I've missed loads. Been busy with the kids - dd is ill again honestly I'm starting to get seriously worried about her. I've heard it's normal for kids to get constant colds but this takes the piss.

Woo hoo on dtd winkle I've forgotten it's fun instead of just for reproduction

thingy I've seen him on Facebook (sooo cute) but congrats again and I love your birth story.

red I can help you with subtle breast feeding. I don't embarrass easily and never gave a hoot about bf in public. What I would say is that it isn't that obvious, I've had strangers come over to chat and they haven't realised I was feeding.
If you feel shy just pick a quite corner in a cafe to do it. Go out in the mornings first of all as it will be quiet

I'm impressed, winkle!

We don't DTD while I'm pregnant as we don't want to induce a bleed. As I had a cervical ectropian last time I've been til to expect it this time, so I'm just waiting for the day that I bleed now, which isn't great. But at least I'll have a vague idea what it is, even though they said I will have to get it checked out just to confirm it.

Having said that, we did start again at 37 weeks last time to try to move things along. And failed!

It's only fair you have a nice easy pregnancy, winkle, after the hard work getting here.

Are you ready for tomorrow, Fatas?

Yeah we didn't dtd when pregnant as was worried about my cervix, and neither of us liked the idea of it. That was until she was overdue haha! We dtd a few times that final week and it didn't freak us out at all in reality. We haven't dtd since we had her 9 weeks ago - when she goes to sleep at night, I'm terrified of waking her and getting a bad night sleep, so I don't dare even turn over in bed yet alone get some action going ha!

God just realised that means in one year, we've dtd 4/5 times during one week and that's it!!

We haven't dtd for 7 months I think. DP went off me in pregnancy and/or became scared of hurting the baby after a second trimester bleed. I doubt it'll pick up anytime soon either because we are both just besotted with ds3 right now.
How are things fatas? Are you ready? Excited? Nervous?

I bet he didn't go off you thingy! Probably just the idea of the baby being right there, that's what put us off as well as the cervix stuff.

We're not going back on contraception now as I don't want to be on the pill again (had PCOS and long cycles/fertility probs so don't want to be on hormones again). However this means we could accidentally get pregnant again if we start dtd and I'm def not ready until I've enjoyed the summer with S and a friends wedding at the end of August!

We haven't dtd for a year almost either. Come to think of it we attempted it once in second trimester and it was so uncomfortable didn't enjoy it one bit.

Alex I'm with you on tiptoeing around in my own bedroom at night for fear of waking her up! Haha
DH and I are too shattered to even contemplate sex right now!

So true red when she's asleep my first thought is def "ah I can sleep, please don't wake up" and not "hey hot stuff DH, let's get jiggy" haha! (I don't really say things like that by the way!)

I have a free day today so am trying a rough sleep routine (have been reading the dreaded gina ford!) Anyway apparently at nine weeks, she's only meant to have 3.5 hours sleep in naps during the day - that's a lot of entertaining her in between though isn't it?! Although I guess the theory is she then sleeps a long night sleep from around 7pm. Anyway I'm really pleased as usually I let her sleep on me as she just won't settle for day naps if she isn't on me or moving in her pram, but she's gone down in her Moses in the front room with just her dummy. Yay she isn't on me!! Don't get me wrong, I love her napping on me but it's good to get them used to napping on their own isn't it?

red how are you getting on with yours generally? Mine was really smiley this wkend and more chilled which is just lovely. Of course we still had tears but we seem to have more and more good times and not the lengthy inconsolable crying we were getting quite often before.

That doesn't seem a lot of sleep Alex ? The book I used days let them sleep as much as poss, sleep breeds sleep and they should still sleep 12hrs at night, on a good day dd2 has 4 hours and she's 9 months, she sleeps from 7-7 at night aswell
I hate gina ford though and she doesn't even have kids!
You "should" be ok not using protection if your bf for around 6 months anyway please don't hold me to it if you acidently get pregnant but on the whole it does seen to work for a lot of people
Oh and I'm in the no dtd whilst pregnant camp so well done winkle were ok now, I have mine in there own room from an early age

I'm also a no dtd when pregnant person - part paranoia and part feeling disgusting!!!

Am beginning to get lots of good luck messages from friends about tomorrow so I'm starting to get a bit nervous! Plus I've just noticed the hospital kept my maternity notes at the appointment on Friday (the ones that are supposed to stay with you all the time ) but I'll be waaaaay more nervous tomorrow morning!!! And glad to be a bit closer to meeting our new little boy...!

fatas good luck and hope everything goes well tomorrow. Make the most of newborn snuggles - they really grow up fast.

alex dd is very cuddly at the moment and yes she loves falling asleep on my chest. I love letting her do that. Just want to freeze time as she's so cute and tiny I don't want her to grow up.

We still have breast feeding issues but going to a la Leche meeting tomorrow to see if they can help. I will only bf in public when these issues (latching on and off, choking on foremilk, crying and fussing at the boob) are ironed out.

kitty what age did your dd move into her own room? I can't wait to move her out as she's so loud at night and makes constant noises which ends up with me and DH having broken sleep mostly. She's cute and all smiles and love waking up to her pretty face..but I think when she's 4 months I will be looking at transitioning her out of our bedroom so we can sleep peacefully.

I can't wait till she does 12hrs. I'm not a Gina ford fan either but whatever works! Dd is 5 weeks old and she has a total of 4-5hrs at the moment in the day (7am to 7pm) and 8-9hours in the night (7pm to 7am)

Thanks red. Can't sleep at all. Too nervous and back so painful - keep thinking would be so ironic if I went into labour right now!! Lol! Oh well, only 3h To go til I will be on the ward...

I'm not surprised you can't sleep. Exciting day. This time tomorrow you will be holding your baby boy and complaining about feeding with the rest of us. Can't wait to hear your story and see pics of course.

We had a bad day yesterday. We took ds3 to have his name registered and decided to go to a nearby café afterwards as he was fussing for a feed. We chose a quiet, secluded café (only two tables full and one had a small baby) and I very discretely fed ds3. My top was scrunched up over so no one could see a thing. Half way through, a woman sat down opposite me and stared at us. I just thought she was admiring the baby but after a while I realised she wasn't happy. After we left DP asked if I noticed the woman shaking her head in disgust at me and complaining. I went home and cried for 20 minutes straight. I can't believe that in this day and age people would be so rude and insensitive to a newly bf mum. I'm not going to let this stop me from feeding him in public though. I know I've done nothing wrong.

Stupid cow. thingy you ignore her and well done for caring for and feeding your baby despite what some ridiculous, old fashioned, stuffy woman thinks. I genuinely think she should be ashamed of herself [anger] And I'm usually a bit of a prude but bf is just totally different - discreet and natural! Luckily a lot of my friends bf and don't run into such ridiculous rudeness often.

Good luck, Fatas. Not long! :-)

Thingy, how bloody rude. Don't let the stupid, ignorant bitch get to you. That kind of behaviour is disgusting and she should be ashamed of herself. How old was she? Grrrr...I'm angry for you.

It's also really annoying she did that in front of your DP as he might start thinking it isn't socially acceptable when generally it is, I hope he's on your side about it. My DH dos get a bit embarrassed when I whip my boob out so I wear my bebe au lait hooter hider generally when I'm out with him and also when I'm talking to certain other friends/family just to be a bit more discreet and avoid embarrassment - not because they'd judge at all if they do see my boob out the side. When I'm out on my own surrounded my strangers, I don't bother with the hooter hider. If you don't like it, don't look!

I'll stop ranting away now

Good luck for today fatas! Xx

And good luck fatas sorry was too busy ranting but wishing you heaps of luck!

Thingy I'm so disgusted! I can't believe anyone could be so rude in these days! Don't let her ignorance change a thing, you are doing the best for your son, makes me so mad! and more determined then ever lol I've never had any negative experience but I would love to have put her in her place for you!
Fatas good luck today, I bet you didn't sleep but you will be having a big cuddle in a few hours
Red mine were very early, dd1 6 wks and dd2 4 wks, they are just too noisey and I'm such a light sleeper! In fairness there not far away, the nursery was originally designed to be my walk in wardrobe oh those child free days so it's literally off my room, with the door open it's like they are in it just further away but the door didn't stay open long lol

Thanks everyone. It helps to talk about it and see I haven't donr anything wrong. She was an older woman so probably has very outdated views on breastfeeding so I'm not going to pay any attention to her. She certainly isn't worth my tears. DP was mad because he felt he couldn't help me and didn't know why I'd be upset by someone we didn't know. He is fully supportive of breastfeeding though and has been really helpful so it hasn't put him off at all. It was such a strange reaction really considering you couldn't see a thing but I guess she was bought up in a very different era. Obviously an era full of really rude people.

Good luck fatas!

Oh what an absolute bitch! That makes me so mad. Wish you could get in a time machine and stare her down and ask what her problem is. Bitch! Sadly some are not as evolved and wonderful as we are....

Am last on the elective list which means I rushed in here for NO reason, exhausted, ad will probably not be done til after lunch AND they randomly changed all my records to my maiden name for no reason so stress and crossness levels are running high (perfect time to shout at horrid anti-bf woman methinks!!)

She sounds like a stupid cow thingy! How terribly rude! She can buzz off where the sun don't shine...snooty cow!
I tried to attempt my first ever bf in public but dd stayed asleep the whole time we were out so didn't get to try.

Kitty sounds like bliss to have them out of your room. I'm going to try soon as she grunts for a whole hour while passing poos!

It is red we kept each other awake too much, I know a lot of people wouldn't advocate it but personally that's what works for.
Fatas how anoying and totally typical!

Yep, not being done til after lunch.

Aww fatas that is sucky! They could have informed your atleast! Have some decent light lunch if you can. I remember being very hungry and being offered rubbish hospital food.