April 2014 Thread 4 - We're almost in Trimester 3!

[LeeHandy]

Here's to fantastic 20 week scans, feeling baby move and other exciting milestones and best of all, the end of sickness!

Happy New Year! Has suddenly hit me, this is the year when everything happens!! Also bought some mat clothes for the first time yesterday (H and M: small selection but found plenty I liked and everything fitted... It's even all long enough!). Which is great, but having just been in normal baggy clothes until now I suddenly look properly very pregnant... Definitely can't just blame the cake any more!

Hello, can I join you?
I'm due with my second on the 25th April when DS will be 2.8years. Didn't have a great birth experience last time so hoping it will be more positive second time round.
Wishing everyone a great 2014!

Hello Everyone, happy new year! It's seeming much closer now we can say we are due this year!

This little boy bean is moving so much and with so much strength! It's so different having a posterior placenta this time!

Counting down the days to mat leave (even tho I only started back 5th December!)

DS is poorly again! So I can't go to work tomorrow! Poor boy has cold etc and explosive poo nappies! I hope he gets a tooth soon!!

23+4

Hi churros and welcome.
I had my second and 2 years 9 months after my first horrible birth experience.
Now pregnant with my 3rd with a 7 year age gap between DS1 and DS2.

Welcome Churros! Hope you have a better experience this time.... Second ones are supposed to be easier aren't they, so maybe that bodes well?!

welcome churros!
everything definitely feels closer now that it's already 2014. less than 3 months to go! we spent last weekend painting the nursery and I bought my first set of baby clothes in the sales.

for those who are still stroller shopping, a few sites like pramcentre.co.uk and babynest in croydon are doing packages for stroller + car seat which are good deals. on the uppababy Vista, I am essentially getting the maxi cosi car seat free.

Thanks for the welcome! Yes, clinging on to the idea that second ones are easier

never did you have a better time second time round? Any tips on staying positive? I'm going to try some hypnobirthing and I'm being well looked after by the consultant and counsellor at the hospital but still feeling anxious and even though I could have an elective C-section if I wanted this time I really want to try and have a natural birth if possible.

Lee I know what you mean about it seeming more real now it is 2014. I've been putting off thinking about getting anything ready until after Christmas but now I really need to get myself sorted out!

Hi, I used to be on this thread but have up and stuck to Facebook instead. I've just found it again so thought I'd post.

So I'm due 05/04/14. Am having a girl. Ds will be roughly 19months when this ones born.

Feeling so sorry for myself. I've been up all night vomiting. Managed to fall asleep around 6. Then started gagging again this morning.

Think I want food but I'm afraid to vomit again. Anyone on here that could advise me on what to do? Should I chance it?

Is it nausea and vomiting, or could heartburn/ stomach acid be making it worse?

cat I have been getting heartburn/stomach acid, I got rennies and stuff for it. I took some before bed and then when I woke up I took some more.

Then it just hit me and I threw up, couldn't keep water down just kept throwing up.

I fell asleep around 6 this morning was up around 9.30am. Gagged/wretched a few times.

Since then I've had a slice of dry toast and it has stayed down, some water and some very flat lemonade.

Might try another slice soon. Not sure if I'm hungry or what.

cheers lee move went fairly well other than the ferry being cancelled and us having to get the eurotunnel and driving all the way to Portugal got here 10:30 last night. exhausted but in one piece. its feeling very rwal now and baby moves lots in the evening and im getting bigger every day I feel very pregnant bump getting in the way of reaching for stuff etc. have to wait for stuff to arrive from England in next 2 weeks and then all go getting house ready and getting all other baby things ready hopefully baby won't come 2 early so have a couple of months.
26 + 1 weeks

Welcome churros do you mind me asking what happened last time? Or would you rather not say?

DS1 was born by emergency section with Group B Strep and developed pneumonia and septiciaemia. Born not breathing, it took 5 minutes for him to breath, he then spent a week in intensive care. His second night we were prepared by the docs and nurses that he may not make it through the night. I also had septicaemia from wound infection and we were in hospital for 2 weeks. Then there was the PND and the feeding problems from having been tube fed for the first week. We got there in the end but it was far from the natural process I had hoped for. And he was 6 months old before I allowed myself to believe I was getting to keep him and that I wasn't just loving and looking after him before he would die.

Naturally I was terrified second time round. I attended the classes and had an appointment with the midwife who talked me through the details of the first experience. That helped a bit. But at the consultant appointment the decision was made that an elective section was the way to go. I was disappointed but the experience was so much better I really find it hard to disagree with their decisions.

DS2 was born at 39 by elective c-section. He was healthy, feeding was easy and the recovery from the section was unproblematic.

I've always had that niggle that I would like to experience vaginal birth after having come so close with DS1 (dilated to 10cm and pushed for ever before they had to do emergency section), but having discussed the risks with the consultant I'm not keen on the odds. After 2 sections there is a much higher risk of rupture of scar tissue and we've gone ahead and booked another c-section for 39 weeks with the possiblity of a trial of labour if it starts before then.

I think I'm more accepting of the decision this time as my own. While I would love to have a natural birth, comparing my two experiences make it easier for me to accept that the section is the right decision for me this time. Although part of me still hopes i go into labour and it all happens so quickly the surgeon never gets his scalpel near me .

Que sera sera and all that.

patsy no, I don't mind telling you about it at all. Compared to some stories it's not so bad.

never I can't imagine how that would have been, I was so lucky in that DS was always doing fine, I can't imagine dealing with a poorly baby and fearing for his life but I'm so glad that second time round went well ad you all had a good outcome.

I had a back to back baby that everyone just presumed would turn. I had wonderful care in a MLU but eventually had to be transferred to the labour ward when things stopped progressing. I had an 8 hour second stage (2 hours of which was waiting for an epidural as I refused to go on the drip until I had one) and then several failed attempts with the ventuose and then a forceps delivery. It transpires the Registrar used the wrong forceps though and I had a bad 3rd degree tear and serious haemorrhage that took a lot of recovering from. The worst thing was the Registrar though who really hurt me and was very rude the first time he examined me and we basically (and correctly) had no faith in him. Even though we begged for some one else to do the delivery we were told that he was the only person available and he ended up delivering my DS and stitching me up. Just left me with very little faith in the people taking care of me and feeling a real lack of control. Cried for weeks after and feel like I lost those precious weeks with my son.

I have a great consultant and we are going to keep options open and have an extra scan and appointment at about 37weeks to check babies size, position and how perineum is holding up and make a final decision from there but I really want to have the birth I tried to have last time (even if I do have to go straight to labour ward this time which I'm not very happy about...)

penguin Sounds like if you can keep some fluids and toast down you might be ok but I'd be really careful not to get dehydrated and call NHS direct or see a doctor if you don't feel better in the morning.

3rd degree tears make for a rough recovery churros so hardly surprising you are worried. FWIW a friend on mine went on to have a natural normal delivery with her second after a similar experience.

Hi, can I join you too? Am due on 28th April with DC2 - don't know gender! Also have a DS who will be 2.7 yrs at due date.
So far so good although heartburn is worse this time round - bizarrely often several hours after eating??
Anyone have any advice on double prams? DS1 is a good walker but if he throws a wobbly I will need to contain him somehow or I'll find myself abandoning baby in pram to hurtle off round the car park after him! I don't like the look of the ones where the baby kind of slides in underneath, practically on the floor. Also don't want a side by side as it will be too bulky. I've seen a Graco one where the baby sits in front but it looked quite old and I didn't get a look at the model type?
A friend dropped off a crib for us today - first piece of new baby equipment in the house, yay
23 + 3

ahh all your stories sound scary but its really useful for me to hear to know what can go wrong so im less worried or paniced if it happens to me

Hi all, haven't posted on here for ages so welcome to the new joiners. Had our final specialist heart scan and all clear - but have been advised against a home birth :( just because they can't 100% guarantee there are no problems (can they ever?!). I'm thinking the mlu but haven't decided yet.

It's all seeming so real now; it's getting harder to bend over and baby's kicking and moving about so much. Anterior placenta again but ds was never this active! He was obviously just lazy

Just bought tandem buggy today and quite excited about it. Went for the babystyle oyster max tandem after a LOT of online research as it seems to have the most room between the two seats and can be used as a single when ds finally decides to walk a bit more (he'll be 2.7 when this one is born). It's so pretty too :)

Hope you feel better soon penguin

26+1 (I think!)

Welcome to the newbies!!

I'm expecting ds2 on April 26th. Ds1 will be 12 months old! Eek!!

Double pram wise I got the oyster max have a look at it.

Newbies PM me if you want to join the Facebook group

23+5 (nearly +6!)

misty are you due on 9th April same as me as im 26 + 1 weeks

Welcome to all the newbies

Hope you're feeling better today penguin

Hope you're move went ok vikki and you're getting settled in!

It's starting to dawn on me that this is the year our baby will be born and I'm getting a tad nervous! It really doesn't seem too far away now. Bump is getting bigger and I feel our little lady kick everyday.
We have got quite a collection of the babies things now, including the nursery furniture and we ordered the Bugaboo Cameleon 3 yesterday. Is anyone superstitious about the pram being in the house before the baby is born? We think we will leave ours at a relatives house.

25 weeks today!

Hello pretty! Not superstitious ... more wondering where we will put things, as we still haven't got decoration sorted (house hasn't been painted since we moved in, and in a couple of rooms previous people gave it a fresh coat around their furniture ... so it really needs it!!) It's going to be hard enough to move all our rubbish between rooms so they can be painted as it is (and one of the rooms to be painted is practicaly empty)... I need to be throwing stuff out, not adding stuff in!

Hopefully the only "big" thing we will get much before due date is the buggy (going to look for the fist time this weekend) - a friend has offered us a cot, but that might even arive after the baby. Other than that I'm planning just a plain chest of drawers and an arm chair for nursing (or might just move one we have) - so those can both wait until after the painting is done, or even after baby arrives if need be!

jen we're due date buddies :) I don't know what I'm having either :)

vikki yes I'm due the 9th - though I'm being a bit vague with the exact date when people ask as I think she'll be late like her brother was!

cannot what colour did you go for with the oyster max? I'm ridiculously excited about having bought this pushchair and can't wait to use it! Went for red initially but have just changed it to purple after dh surprisingly had an opinion on colours clashing .

Does anyone else get a lot of Braxton hicks? Finding them quite uncomfortable.

26+2

Misty I went for lime as have the ocean in the regular oyster. and think lime will suit a girl if we ever have one.

I got it whilst mothercare were doing 20% off so in effect the second seat was free!