April 2014 Thread 4 - We're almost in Trimester 3!

[LeeHandy]

Here's to fantastic 20 week scans, feeling baby move and other exciting milestones and best of all, the end of sickness!

I am so ashamed of myself and really too. Dd was in daycare the whole day but from the moment i fetched her i was off with her. I was just feeling pissed off and finding my patience gone. First when we were passing through a small busy area, she insisted on going her own way, started running and fell, cue crying and me getting pissed off. I then lectured her on how if she had stayed with me and let me hold her hand she wouldn't have fallen.
Then it was about her packed lunch. If i put a joghurt then i always put a spoon for her and 7 times out of ten she does not bring it back. Normally i don't mind but this morning i told her many times to put the spoon back as soon as she is done. Well, she did not eat the joghurt but the spoon was nowhere to be found. I flipped and told her she would not be getting any joghurt. The girl has balls. She told me" don't give me the joghurt then, let me have banana, sandwich and egg". It made me sad that of all the things to mourn about a spoon was on my list. She is a wonderful 3 yr old.

I then put her to bed and suddenly the floodgates opened. I can not remember the last time i cried, let alone sob like someone had died. I am filled with the greatest remorse and am waiting to tell Dh what a horrible person i was. Where was the irritation coming from? I felt so out of control and it really bothered me. Sorry for an off topic long post. I just wanted to offload some of the guilt.

Oh blessed please don't beat yourself up about it! It's just hormones. Things that usually don't bother us seem to take on new annoying qualities we didn't know existed xx

Thanks Cannot. What hurt me was after i apologised for being mad at her she said"" mummy, you are not angry you are just tired", which is true but still. Thank God i have tomorrow to try to be a better mum.

Oh Blessed please don't beat yourself up
My hormones have turned me into a vile, unreasonable, irrational bitch this pregnancy!
It's mostly been my poor husband who's had to bear the brunt of it but I can't deny that my boys have also been on the receiving end of my poisonous tongue
That includes my just turned 3 year old for simply being a normal question asking, attention seeking repetitive 3 year old.
It feels like I've got permanent PMT and I know I'm being vile even while I'm saying these things but I can't seem to stop them spilling out !
Usually, as with PMT, a bloody good cry calms me right down and then the guilt sets in.
Ive made a point of saying sorry as soon as I could to whoever I was mean to and assuring them that I im not gonna be like this for much longer. (hopefully)
All you can do is put today behind you, give your dd a big hug and a sorry in the morning and try have a nice day with her tomorrow. She has probably already forgotten all about it you know.
Kids are very forgiving and resilient and still love mummies who do so much worse.
And if all else fails you'd better get some bananas in xx

Oh and yes blessed we have found out that this baby is a girl
Which my husband says explains my bitchiness - double female hormones!
How rude!!

Patsy at your DH. Thank you so much ladies for the support. I feel so much better and yes it is the guilt that is so difficult to shake off. Before DC i read a thread here about how toddlers can drive a person bonkers with their chattering. I thought all these mothers complaining are horrible little did i know that in a space of ten minutes i would hear about all the world problems while being asked to give marks to some drawing not finished but being shown every sec, then her calling mum 33times and asking a whole lot other questions i can not answer because my Norwegian is not as good as hers, then i explain in English or my mother tongue only to be told" it's alright mummy,i will ask daddy". Cheeky bugger. She is getting that banana today...

So how is everyone doing this morning? My baby is having a ball. He wakes up around 6pm and from then on it's party time. The whole night i felt my ribs being kicked while down there he was making his presence known. So much for them slowing their movements at this stage. Mine have their own schedule. Dd was a little alien too till the day they took her out and she has never stopped moving. It's like holding a worm even at 3. They take their time though to come out. My hips are not that ok now. When i get up to go to the loo or just get up, wow..

Patsy congratulations on your little girl. Anyman who might have any plans to mess her up, be warned. She has three lovely big brothers in her corner

blessed your dd also sounds like she understands that mummy is tired and not really angry so don't feel guilty. I think the moods we have now are completely out of our control. patsy give your dh a kick and then blame it on the hormones as well!
yesterday, I was crying buckets watching davina mccall's sport relief show! hormones are overflowing every where I think.
I was in so much pain last night I was sure I was going into labour but I am fine now in the morning.

Just wanted to send a hug to you Blessed - sometimes we all have horrible days, try not to feel bad. I can't even imagine being responsible for a 3 year old all day, although I guess I will have to learn to do it soon enough, but it definitely doesn't look easy from the outside! We are only human and this baby-building stuff is not easy is it?

Churros - was just thinking the same re: work. Doing lots of annual reviews today, but should have a bit of time with no urgent jobs so am going to do first draft of handover papers. Just have to get my bills out first - exciting .

Hello ladies,

Just popping in to say hello! A long time since I left the group...

But just wanted to wish you all the very best with your births and precious newborns.

I'll be back to TTC once I'm past my old due date (mid-April). Quite nervous, but also excited!

Take care all x

Kitty wishing you all the best ttc xxxxx

Thank you ladies for your kind words, Dd is mature beyond her 3 yrs for sure. Knows when mummy is having a bad day.
Kitty all the best with ttc.

Lovely to hear from you Kitty! Will keep everything crossed for a speedy BFP. xx

Nice to hear from you again kitty. Good luck with ttc. Very exciting .

Good luck Kitty.

I had drs appointments yesterday and they from 37 weeks do a trace of babys heartbeat each week to see all is well. Mine went fine and included having contractions every 4-5 minutes almost like clockwork. I knew i was getting a lot of braxton hicks i didnt realise how often they were happening tho. Now If i pay attention i notice them still every 5 minutes im wondering will this continue all the way to due date on 9th or will baby come a little earlier as its been practising so much.

also baby isnt huge around 6 1\2 pounds at 37 and 2 days so a normal size not massive like they thought he would be

37 + 3 weeks

Wow vikki - contractions every 5 mins sounds like a lot! Glad your baby isnt too big. I was terrified of giving birth to a huge baby, so very relieved to find he's measuring on 65th centile!

Hope everyone's having a nice weekend.

38+2

Tinpy i am having a nice weekend just a bit pissed off with my baby. Friday i got such strong contractions from 3am to 5 i thought yes, finally. Kept me awake the whole time and had to go on all fours from the pain. Saturday morning they had gone. Where did they go to? Due date is thursday but still. I am so impatient this time around. Just want it to happen naturally i guess..

Sounds like something is definitely starting to happen though Blessed. Hoping it won't be too much longer for you!

Thanks Tinpy..

ive had a yucky night and day. was out with friends until 3am nothing heavy just a few drinks and chat bh still every 5 minutes and strong but no pain. woke up feeling a bit ill and had really loose number 2 a couple of times. Back in bed bh continued and I got a really painful bh 4 times in a row I grabbed my oh arm. then it went away and I slept for hours. tummy still a bit upset bh still every 5 minutes dunno what's going on.
37 + 4 weeks

Good luck kitty wishing you a speedy BFP!

Wow blessed and vikki it sounds like things are really starting to ramp up for the main event for you! Exciting times ahead for us all

Does everyone get braxton hicks? I don't think I've had any yet??? I've had the odd bit of cramping occasionally but don't think this was them.

Starting to get excited now, I want to meet her!!!

36+2

Ooh, blessed and vikki sounds like your bodies are definitely getting ready. Vikki a loose belly can definitely be a pre-labour sign.

pretty I'm not sure about bhs either, I've had a few cramps and hardenings but not sure if that was it. Also starting to feel excited - although i made a list today of all the things I need to do before the baby arrives and it is long so I hope they don't arrive too early!

Has everyone had nice weekends? We've had a quiet one as DS has had a bout of conjunctivitis and his last set of molars coming so has been a bit out of sorts.

35 + 2

I am pretty sure I am getting BH, but luckily just hardening/tightening for me, no pain!

Has been a busy but good weekend. Did a baby first aid course on Saturday and put lots of the baby clothes we've been given through the wash. Then today went to a friend to pick up a cot and car seat she offered us. She gave us loads of other stuff she was getting rid of too, including a lovely changing bag, a gorgeous soft sheepskin type thing for baby to lie on, and quite a few books and toys.

Came home and sorted out (ish!) nursery, which feels lovely... It is starting to look like a proper kids room! Of course still no maternity bag, and my room still looks like a bomb hit it as I haven't properly unpacked after the decorator... But still, getting there!

Those bh sound promising Vikki - might be the start of something.

Sounds like a difficult weekend Churros. Is your ds feeling any better now?

What was the baby first aid course like Light? How did you find out about it? I do love all the freebies you get when you're expecting a baby. People are so generous.

I have my theory driving test in half an hour. I've been practising like crazy but I'm still so nervous I'll fail! My instructor is worried I'm putting myself under too much pressure with the driving test and the degree and the baby. But it's taking my mind off actually giving birth, so I'm happy carry on!

38+3

Trinpy, you aremy hero. All that and almost 39 weeks pregnant? That is really wonderful and i envy you lots right now that you will get your driving license and what freedom it gives. I still have to do it myself not only does it cost an arm and a leg in Norway, it might be difficult with no one to take care of my baby that one hour i have to drive. Can't think about it right now though..Good luck and i think you passed already so congratulations in advance. We could do with some positive news.

40 weeks today and no baby!!!! Grrrrrr..