April 2014 Thread 4 - We're almost in Trimester 3!

[LeeHandy]

Here's to fantastic 20 week scans, feeling baby move and other exciting milestones and best of all, the end of sickness!

I regret it already lol but see how it goes. Feel really teary today. So don't even wanna think about mil!

weetos sorry you are feeling sad. Pleae try not to stress. It is not too late to change your plans but i guess you don't want to create an awkward situation. Hope it all goes well. Cheer up, it might not be so bad.
churros ouch. That was crap and that is my fear this time around. I was angling towards an ELCS this time but in Norway you can forget. They don't just hand you one because you want one. There has to be a medical reason and right now my only excuse is i got one the first time which is not good enough. They will expect me to try VB first then if it doesn't work then CS.
runninggirl. Congrats. We now have a little baby. Our very first baby..
pretty i will use a sling. Used it with DD but can't recommend as it was handmade when i bought it. Sorry.
Demented hope you sleep better and i watch OBEM whenever it is on. DH does not want me to but meeh i can not help myself.

Anyone struggling with names. 4 weeks to go and he has no name. DH loves vetoeing but never comes up with names so he is going to be called kid..

blessed yes we are really struggling with names. We have a few but not found the right one. I have given up trying to come up with names as Dp says no to them. So we shall decide when she is here.

Pretty I have bought a sling on e-bay (much cheaper than new and it looks as good as new!) It's a Tricot Slen Sling which a friend recommended (I asked her because she carried her kids around in hers until they were toddling even, so I knew it would last!) Seems pretty easy to wrap, though so far I have only tested it on a box of tissues, so I am anticipating it may be trickier to get a wriggly baby in there.

Blessed We are a bit longer off but haven't really come up with names either. We have a short list of a couple that we came up with "off the top of our heads" but not sure about either... think we need a longer short-list and then we can decide when we meet her!

pretty I borrowed a wrap around sling for ds3 when he had colic and it was great. Meant i could have him upright and close at all times which he seemed to like but also let me be relatively hands free to get on with things round the house. Fully intend on buying one this time.
l agree with light, try ebay, they have lots on there both new and used in lots of different colours
34 +1

I was so looking forward to my baby shower but not so much anymore. Here's why. First i invited 4 friends but I knew they would not come if i didn't invite their sisters so i invited the whole lot making it 8.One of the women is even bringing her husband, she brought him to our girls night out that there was no way he was staying at home . OK.

I invited another friend who said she was coming but could she bring her mother:-(. At first I said she could not this time around but maybe next time but I felt guilty and said they could both come. OK.

Another invited friend just said she would love to come but asked if she could bring her friend. I know the friend and she was not invited. What is wrong with people? It's like they all have to be in pairs and normally i don't mind but this time i am 37weeks pregnant. They all didn't want to help with the food, fine by me and I don't even need the shower. I have everything I need for this baby. It was an excuse to meet before the baby comes and it has been ages since we met. Why do I bother? I am thinking now of cancelling the whole thing. All in all there will be 13 people but I know someone will ask to bring a friend at the last minute giving me no chance to refuse. I feel really pissed off by this. May I say they will also expect to have a proper dinner and dessert. I was supposed to have just 6 people not 13 and more. Gerrard. Rant over.

Sounds really annoying blessed. If you're not looking forward to it just say sorry, you're not feeling up to it after all and cancel. Some things just aren't meant to be ( or maybe a couple of them will step up and come and make a fuss of you instead?).

They probably all think they are being reasonable individually, but as a group it's too too much!

wow, there's been a lot of activity suddenly on the thread!
blessed that's a bit rubbish that people want to bring random people over to your shower! maybe you should ask them to bring one item of food as well so it's less work for you! I had a nice activity at my shower which was each person got a plain white onesie and they could draw on it with fabric markers to personalize it for baby. useful and fun!
congrats to runninggirl!
weetos I think you are being very generous having your mil over but I think you should have a talk with DH as well. he needs to be protective of your feelings at this stage not oblivious!!
3 more weeks left at work! can't wait to stop. the train journey home is becoming harder. it amazes me when people see a baby on board badge and then completely ignore it. I have started asking people to give me a seat now because I just cannot stand for more than 5 minutes.
Cannot and blooming hope you feel better soon! it's hard being sick at this stage.
pink if you are near south London, there's a group called the south London sling library where you can try different slings and carriers and even rent them for a small sum for 2 weeks to see how you and baby like them. I plan to drop in there after my baby arrives. at the moment I am thinking about one of the stretchy wraps but am uncertain because I definitely want a structured carrier as well that DH and I can both use.
35+1 not long to go!

That's what bothers me most Lee, that a small group has turned into a huge one
They won't want to bring anything or dish because they said they would be working, fair enough but don't you go and invite someone else. Dh says no problem because he shall be making the food, bless him. They have done this in the past and i didn't mind but now I have been europeanised :-) so feel they should show some respect and stop being so rude. I will not respond to the last girl who wants to bring her friend. She can make her own decision but I won't make it easy for her.

Oh, Lee you still have 3 more about weeks before you finish work!! That is horrible and the commuting doesn't help much. I can't understand people who let a heavily pregnant woman stand while they sit and read their papers. Norway is like that. It's very rare that someone will offer their seat thank God though that trains in Oslo have so much room. London trains are too small and when they are packed it is very uncomfortable, worse if you are pregnant. Hang in there, 3 weeks will fly by so quickly.

Blessed hope the shower will be ok! It is deffo rude to add all those extra people esp if you don't know some of them that well. I didn't have one last time and won't this time as far as I know. Would be nice to have a meal or something with friends but I don't live near anyone now (only 30 miles but too difficult to get everyone together at the same time) x

31+3

Thanks cannot

36+2

blessed I think they are just being rude. how can they say they are too busy to help but still create additional trouble for you by bringing more people? makes no sense at all! Your dh sounds lovely, bless him.
I am counting the days till I finish to be honest. I don't feel tired at work and I know I will be bored if am at home, but it would be nice to skip the commute.

Lee i just developed a backbone and said no to the last one. The worst part is i asked her to help with food, she then told me she couldn't because she was busy planning G's henparty. I said no problem just come and enjoy the eve with the other girls, to which she replied can i bring G then? I just sent her a text saying she could NOT bring her because other people have already asked to bring their plus one and seeing i am alone and hundred years preggos, nope. She can cancel if she wants to. I have made peace with the whole thing. They can come,eat and go and never to be invited again. I blame myself. Before kids i used to have these extravagant parties where i would invite people, they invite their plus one,eat my food then bugger off and never hear from them again so it is a well known fact that if and when Blessed is having a party she has lots and good to eat. This will be the last time though then i will leave them alone..

Now back to more important issues.Lee you and i are quite close to each other. Aren't you nervous? I am. I am just hoping that this time the baby will have pity on me and come out before they induce me. I want to experience my waters breaking and contractions starting on their own. Last time was horrible. I got induced at 42 weeks and soon after strated contracting. 5 min later i was howling for the epidural. I did not open so waited for 5 hrs to the required 3cm. Got the epidural and the baby's heartbeat slowed. Ended up having an EMCS.

I have an appointment tomorrow with my midwife so looking forward to it. It does not help that i am watching OBEM but the Swidish one. Why oh why am i torturing myself?

i caught up with obem and I don't cry but for some reason I did after first birth it really caught me off guard.
33 + 6 weeks

Hi all. We survived the trip to Spain! Flight back was a bit stressful though as they asked me for fit to fly cert - even though customer services had confirmed I wouldn't need one! luckily! I'd already got one from my gp. God knows what would have happened if I hadn't...

Does anyone else feel like the baby is in the top of their legs?! When I get hb the tops of my legs go tense as well as bump. Makes it a bit hard to walk! She's head down now at least.

blessed sounds very stressful all the baby shower stuff; hope it goes ok for you.

Can't believe there's been a birth on the thread already! I'm assuming it's a wee bit early? Hope the mum and baby are doing well.

Right, I suppose I ought to go to bed not that any actual bloody sleeping happens there
Hope you're all doing well :)
33+6

Hb = bh (Braxton hicks) bloody iPad autocorrect

welcome back misty. Glad that it wasn't too bad. The shower will go as planned but with some boundaries.

blessed I totally agree with Lee, your DH sounds like a star but your friends, hmmmm..... glad you are putting your foot down and hope it is fun in the end and not too much like hard work!

misty glad you survived your trip ok and hope it was worth it.

pretty I have 3 slings! I have a ring sling which is lovely for newborns to just snuggle in around the house when I'm doing things. A wilkinet which is really comfy but a bit of a faff to do up (both of them I used with DS) and I've just bought an ergo as I've heard it is best for back problems and I don't have the best back so I'm hoping that will be useful.

For anyone having trouble sleeping I downloaded Andrew Johnson's Positive pregnancy yesterday and listened to it for about 5 mins before it sent me off into a deep sleep! My doula recommended it as a change from the other hypnobirthing ones I have but it was definitely worth the £2 even if it never works again! I normally sleep well but have real trouble getting comfy enough to drop off.

Been having heaps of tightenings after dinner the last few days and just feeling really uncomfy. Not sure if it is BHs as they are kind of constant. Maybe I just eat too much!

31 + 5

churros stop eating too much so that you can feel proper BH[ grin]. There has been so much drama at this shower but help has come from an unlikely source. A work mate is coming to sort the whole food out. He heard from another mate that i needed help and he came and told me he was willing to help[God bless him]. These friends churros are not married,maybe one or two are, have no kids and pre DC we used to hang out. I thought since we last saw each other ages ago and with DC2 on the way and all that. Oh well one thing is for sure, this will be the last party thrown in my house. If they want to meet at my house then they each have to bring a dish..Like normal people do..

churros I have the ergo and love it. Me and DP can both use it with minimal faff even though we are different sizes. It kept me sane in early weeks with DS as he would fall asleep in it, so could go out without missing naps. And you can use from newborn till they are proper toddlers.

Anyone else getting a lot of pressure on the cervix? Can't remember experiencing this with DS, keep getting very sharp painful jabs low down. Feels like baby is trying to get out

mama I've had some stabby cervix pain like in being poked hard from inside I was sitting on metro earlier when it happened was horrid

mama i am getting those a lot..

blessed I am glad you are finally getting some help with the shower! my biggest fear is actually the opposite of yours. I am scared that I will go into labour while I am still at work! my mom was 8-10 days with both hers and they say these things run in families so am only hoping my baby will hold off until my maternity starts.
a colleague's wife had her baby on Friday and her birth story is both reassuring and a bit . She started contractions in the morning and went into to hospital but was sent home at 4.30. But by 7.30 her waters broke and they got back to hospital at 9.30 by which time she was 8 cm dilated! she had the baby at 11.30 after just 2 hours in the hospital. I am a bit at the way hospitals send women home but glad hers was so quick and hope mine goes as quickly as well.
welcome back misty hope everything went well in Spain?
mama I also had the stabbing pain today! doesn't help my fears of early labour any!

lee thank you but wow at your collegue's wife. That is the kind of birth most women dream of. Lets hope baby will stay inside till you are on ML. You must be nervous. I agree, why do hospitals send women home who are in labour? They should say stay in this room, we will check up on you every half hour for the next two hours, if nothing has changed then you can go home. Many of the women sent home have given birth before and obviously know their bodies well but they still get turned away..hmm