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February 2014 - We've got big bumps and we cannot lie...

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DawnOfTheDee · 29/11/2013 19:44

You other mothers can't deny,
When a girl walks in with an ever expanding waist
And a round thing in your face
You....'d better give her some cake....

etc, etc,

New thread! Enjoy!

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KalevalaForMePlease · 15/12/2013 23:23

Yeah, I'm trying not to let it get me down too much. DP was insisting that he'd eat the same stuff as me, he lasted two days. At least it's not for long, there's an end in sight!

I have so much cleaning to do as well, the spare room is covered in piles of baby clothes I have to sort, and a pile of Christmas presents on top of them. MIL is coming to stay tomorrow night as DP and I are out to a concert, so I HAVE to tidy it today! Put it off all weekend! Arrrrggghhhh!

Littleen · 15/12/2013 23:55

I've got another glucose test on Tuesday, as the first one was clear it's standard procedure to test again 5 weeks later! Not looking forward to it, felt ill the whole day after that sugar water! Sorry to hear some of you are stressing with inlaws - mine have been really good about the whole thing, but then again we've only seem them once since BFP and they live in a different country :)

Ding 30 weeks today, and baby has been very active, especially when I had carrot cake :P

KalevalaForMePlease · 16/12/2013 03:26

There's a lot of nasty MIL's out there, but can I just say that I have a good one. She was looking after DD this morning while I went to midwife apt. Was supposed to be staying over tomorrow night to babysit while DP and I go out to concert. Now, I don't know if she had a sneaky look in the spare room while I was here, but has offered to take DD to hers for the night instead. Now I don't have to clean the spare room! Hurrah!

marzipanned · 16/12/2013 09:19

Shrops Grin I too am very relieved I have an early in the month EDD, though everyone in my NCT class is due in January damn them.

Don't get me wrong, my MIL is fantastic. We have very different personalities but she makes a massive effort to be lovely to me and would drop anything, anytime, if I needed her. She's just massively over excited about this first grandbaby and it is manifesting in slightly strange and sometimes irritating ways!!

misskatamari · 16/12/2013 09:33

Sorry to hear about the GD Kalevala,, hopefully you don't find it too tricky to manage.

Glad the move went well Littleen! I bet it's lovely being able to get settled into your new flat in time for Christmas.

My Mil is luckily lovely - my mum does my head in tho - she decided she was calling baby "Gertrude" at one point and now I think she's into "Eleanor" - no idea why. She has also told me that baby looks "just like me" and "has my nose" based on my blurry crap scan pictures. This makes me absolutely seethe irrationally as the baby looks like every other baby in a scan. Who most certainly does not have my giant nose as all babies have the same tiny little nose anyway! Grrrrr. I swear if when she's born anyone dares to say she looks "just like" me or DH i will probably punch them. Babies look like babies!!! (This I have realised is one of my irrational pet peeves, along with people who don't put their trolleys back correctly!).

camwombat · 16/12/2013 09:46

miss I completely disagree with you on that. Numerous friends babies look like them, their second looks nothing like their first, and certainly in one case baby is spitting image of mum when she was born.

I heard that they often have more characteristics of dad, to "prove" paternity.

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DawnOfTheDee · 16/12/2013 09:55

The frustrating thing is my MIL isn't a bad person in general. The problem is with both MIL and FIL btw. It's just that we very rarely ask for help....when we do they'll help where they can..it's just we are very much further down the list and our very rare but important requests for help tend to get bumped because BIL is (allowed to be) a useless fuckwit.

We have been invited to feel sympathy for BIL because a) he's a teacher b) he had to spend a whole afternoon with his children and c) because he sets off for work at 7 in the morning. It's weird because they're fairly rational people the rest of the time.....it's just like a blind spot they have for BIL and his kids.

I just have to have a rant every so often then i feel better. Aaaaahhhh...

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misskatamari · 16/12/2013 10:05

Ooooh that's interesting about the dad features cam! I do vaguely see it when babies are a bit older they start to have parent features - just when they're first out I just think they look like a baby and can never see anything remotely like parental similarities in them. Maybe with my own I will Smile (shes still not gonna have an identifiable nose tho I am sure of it lol)

Dawn - sometimes a rant is just what is needed! x

notoneforselfies · 16/12/2013 10:12

It's true that you don't get your 'genetic' nose until you're a bit older - babies all have tiny upturned noses to enable them to get right in close to the breast and latch easier. But yes I have also read that newborns are inclined to look more like the father initially, to prove paternity and enable the father to bond easier. I also think it's impossible to tell until a few days old as generally their faces, if vaginal birth, are pretty swollen and puffy! But once that's gone down I think it starts to emerge... Not always though! I have never looked like either of my parents and for years was convinced I was adopted as a result!

Julietee · 16/12/2013 10:20

Dawn That does sound pretty infuriating as blind spots go!

My MiL is expecting to visit us after the birth and she is too poor to stay in a B&B and I reeeaally don't want her in the house so soon after the birth - she is disabled and we don't have a spare room with a bed in it - she'd have to sleep on the sofa, which because our house is so small would vastly reduce my space to just chill and try to establish BF. Plus we only have 1 very small bathroom and I don't want to share it when I'll potentially be bleeding and exhausted!
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LovesToBake · 16/12/2013 10:26

I'd agree with you notone that it takes a few days for babies' faces and head shapes to settle after being squished during birth, and I also think there is something in the idea that they tend to look most like their father in the early weeks to help them bond and prove the dad is who you say he is! Even now, people constantly say that DS looks so much like DH and I still can't see it. They do say he looks a bit like me as well and I can see that he looks a lot like I did as a toddler - as in blond and chunky - but it's funny how I find it easier to see resemblances in other people and their babies than me and my own. Wonder if it will be easier this time as I'm having a girl...

Today I'm off sick after a horribly violent 24hr sick bug that hit me on Saturday night - up all night puking (and cursing my pelvic floor fail each time) and then in bed feeling dreadful all day yesterday. Thankfully I feel loads better today - up, showered, dressed, took DS to nursery so DH could get into work early and now contemplating having a crack at some of your candied clementines, notone. Bought somebody bargainous reduced boxes of clementines in Waitrose on Saturday partly with that in mind.

Feel guilty being off sick in my last week but on the plus side, only 3 more working days to go and only 2 in the office!

EeyoreIsh · 16/12/2013 11:39

I'm about to use gloss paint, it's not that bad if it's only for a little while, is it? DH had painted the windows and fire surround but left lots of bits unfinished Angry so rather than nag him I'm going to just do it myself.

We're making good progress getting the nursery ready, carpets arrive tomorrow so we're now busy trying to finish everything off first.

Julietee · 16/12/2013 12:49

You're well past the window of any significant harm from most common chemicals, Eeyore.

Loves Aww, glad you're feeling better! That sounds horrid.

jazzcat28 · 16/12/2013 12:58

kalevala we should start a GD club with gnitting Smile I have been googling and fretting all weekend and have my consultation with the diabetic clinic tomorrow morning. So hoping that lots of my questions will be answered then. I think it's a lot tougher this time of year to think about eating healthily so hoping for some good ideas for meals. Also have extra scan on Friday which I'm actually quite pleased about (as long as they keep to the Team Yellow programme!)

On the plus side, I have gone into organising overload and did my first baby clothes wash yesterday. It was so lovely to be standing in the nursery putting it all away in drawers

jazzcat28 · 16/12/2013 12:59

eeyore I glossed all the white wood in the nursery about 3 weeks ago and so far bean is still wriggling away. I just kept the room well ventilated and made sure I took plenty of breaks outside/in another room to avoid getting too much exposure.

EeyoreIsh · 16/12/2013 13:21

Thanks jazz, julietee. painting doneSmile I couldn't ventilate the room as I was painting the bits of the sash windows that needed the windows shut. I'm sure it's fine too, DH is annoyed with me for finding fault with his painting and using gloss whilst pregnant Hmm Honestly, it was the tiniest amount that needed doing, he does like to worry.

lastnightopenedmyeyes · 16/12/2013 15:31

Apparently it is true that firstborn children tend to look more like the father as it's natures way of proving paternity and improving the bond between father and child. My DS is an absolute double for DH. If you compare photos of when DH was a child you simply can't tell the difference Smile

Julietee · 16/12/2013 16:24

Apparently I am the image of my mum, but apart from the glasses I don't see it! I do have my dad's build though, and his dad's family eyes (if that makes sense. We have a picture of my grandpa and his Polish-Jewish family as a child, and they're all staring at the camera with these big, dark, sad eyes, and I have the same eye shape and colour).

I put on my shoes and coat to go for an exercise walk after a weekend of sloth and it started tipping it down! Now I feel lack-of-exercise guilt. My swimming costume, despite Figleaves emailing me thismorning to tell me it was out of stock, should be here next Monday latest.

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DawnOfTheDee · 16/12/2013 16:48

DD1 looks like her dad.....now. When she was born she looked like a fat chinese man (and dh is neither fat nor chinese). No lie. There a couple of photos of her at 2 hours old on my profile if you want to have a look...Grin

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tinypolkadot · 16/12/2013 20:11

misskat my mum said exactly the same two comments about our scan photo (looks like me and my nose) it infuriated me as well!

sunflowered · 16/12/2013 21:15

misskat my mum keeps getting out baby pics of me and lining them up against my scan 'because it looks just like me' at a certain angle if you ignore the blurry bit and the hands in front of the face

Bump has been going crazy today - the whole bump's been bouncing from side to side and up and down, interspersed with kicks in every direction. Reassuring after a quiet weekend, but distracting trying to work and seeing people's attention going to the bump gymnastics... Now I'm at home though it's playing musical statues - it wriggles, I tell dh to look, he looks, it stops, he looks away, it wriggles... and so on.

I'm interviewing for my maternity cover tomorrow (finally!) I hope they're good candidates - I don't have the energy to go through the process again.

HarlemWobble · 16/12/2013 21:32

Sorry about the GD Kalevala, chin up!

I had a busy but productive weekend. Living room decoration is finished (used gloss with no problems Eyeore), Sky tv broadband and phone have been installed, washing machine is plumbed in and dishwasher is being fitted on weds. Just a few bits to sort in the master bedroom then we can start on the nursery! Feeling a lot better about getting it finished by feb now.

Had killer leg cramps last night, so painful they brought me to tears. Did someone say bananas are good at preventing them?

Good luck with the mat cover interviews tomorrow Sunflowered.

4 days and counting till my Xmas break! I'm pooped, so it's an early night for me

Julietee · 16/12/2013 21:54

Harlem Magnesium supplements can stop them. I took magnesium for the first 12 weeks, but I have no idea if it's generally ok in preg - I just went by what the nutritionist told me to take.

gnittinggnome · 16/12/2013 21:54

harlem yay, great news about house progress! Re cramps, yes, bananas have lots of potassium in them, which is what helps with the cramps (I think). Banana milkshakes in your immediate future?

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