February 2014 - We've got big bumps and we cannot lie...

[DawnOfTheDee]

You other mothers can't deny,
When a girl walks in with an ever expanding waist
And a round thing in your face
You....'d better give her some cake....

etc, etc,

New thread! Enjoy!

inc rant! So it's our 4th anniversary today and we're moving house later on. He's not actually packed anything whatsoever, apart from taking screws from drawers that needed to be done. So he starts the morning by letting me know that he should have gone to bed instead, as he was so tired, and now was tired in the morning. He had plenty of time to do it earlier in the day, and it's not fair that I have to ask other people to help me because he just doesn't! Gah. Need to talk to him, but I just don't think he will get it at all. He's got his priorities all messed up!

Oh god Littleen I bet you want to punch him! I know how you feel - when DH and I moved in together I was all packed, went round to his flat and he had done bugger all and just faffed for hours putting wires in boxes whilst I sorted out most of the other bits. I think it's quite easy to not actually "see" all the things you have that you need to pack - that's me trying to be understanding of their ineptitude! I hope you manage to give him a kick up the arse and get moved okay. Get a nice take away for tea and hopefully put your feet up

Thisis - I can't believe how rude your MIL was! I don't know how you didn't bloody punch her! Unplastered - I think you win the prize for weirdest food combo thus far!

Wow I slept through last night (bar loo trips). Amazing! Still feeling tired but I think that's just a given now isn't it!

Hope you're all safe and sound where you are in the crazy horrid weather!

Just had a look at m&s and they have 10% off women's nightwear and there are some brightly coloured maternity things so not too crazily granny hopefully. I think I need to get some maternity pj pants too as my giant primark ones are now very tight! m&s nightwear

Oh my god I want to eat some mini sausage rolls too - the frozen ones you cook at home and have cold at a buffet!!! I'm not letting myself buy any as I would cook them all. Then eat them all! I think one of the main reasons I want a home birth is because I'm having fantasies of making said sausage rolls when I first notice labour is starting then I can have a nice buffet when I'm done. Lol!

I wish my DH understood my need to buy things - I suggested to him today that I might go to Primark for big pants and new nighties, as it would be time to pack my hospital bag soon. His response - what's wrong with the pants you already have? (do I really have to justify buying new pants?!) and haven't I got enough nighties already, didn't I buy a load of new ones when I had DD. (er, yes - nearly 5 years ago!) I actually hate it when he's at home on call on my day off!

Littleen I hope the move goes well and your DH gets his bum in gear!

So far today sticking to a normal diet - porridge and tea for breakfast!

Wow, what's wrong with the world these days?!

thisis unbelievable behaviour. I don't even know what to say - because I know in your shoes I would have been way too gobsmacked to say anything at all. Wow.

thingy well, if you are being hormonal, it's entirely reasonable. DH is away a fair bit for work and if he so much as broached the subject of being away for something fun at the moment I would completely bite his head off! And I don't even have little ones to look after.

littleen GAH I feel for you. My DH is also completely disorganised. In fact the last time we moved house I just sucked it up and did all the packing because I knew that would stress me out less than trying to get him involved.

We have single glazed windows and it's absolutely frigid in the house, BUT that's not because of the glazing, it's because it's a detached stone house in NE Scotland and when the owners decided to renovate it 5 years ago they didn't put any insulation in the walls. So I think you'll be fine gnitting

Well, back to three vomits this morning. I hope this doesn't mean I'm getting a final trimester uptick of gruesomeness.

not a single one of those M&S maternity bras go up to my size. I'm big for me but I don't think I'm that unusually large for a preggo? I'm currently sitting very comfortably in an Anita nursing bra anyway - thoroughly recommend them for those well endowed as it also makes me look much smaller! I have tried a LOT of maternity/nursing bras and this is the winner. Marvellous.

litleen - happy anniversary! I did all the packing when we moved. It took me about 6 weeks. DH chipped in on the day before by throwing everything into bin bags
I now have a new rule where I ask three times and then just do it myself (otherwise I get called a nag) and hope the ensuing guilt might help him move faster in future. Yesterday saw me balancing on a chair with a tube of polyfilla fixing the ceiling where the plaster had come away after a leak. He's yet to notice!

littleen Congrats! and good luck with the move..... My DH is like misskat's in that he needs to sort out his cables properly first, but I think that's a techie thing. Deep breaths, and lots of chocolate. (and you'll be in before Christmas!)

Good shout on the M&S nightwear misskat - I have the M&S floral maternity pj bottoms and they are very comfy on the bump. They are the only things I can wear to bed at the moment with one of DH's T-Shirts as a top. Have also got one of the maternity nightdresses coming my way for hospital bag.

littleen happy anniversary and moving day. I also have a DH who doesn't do anything unless I ask him (then moans that I'm nagging). From the routine (have you put the bins out it's Friday) to the one-off stuff like nursery prep. Not sure if it'll help you today but recently I was huffing and puffing my way to sorting out our spare room and ended up with a sore bump so did a dramatic yell for "help" which had him running and made me sit down for the rest of the day. Perhaps stage a hurty bump mid-way through moving day to give him a kick up the bum?

I got one of these night dresses for after the birth, it's lovely and soft and a bit sparkly.

www.bhs.co.uk/en/bhuk/product/women-1020590/nightwear-1765673/nightdresses-1020884/nightdresses-1020884/blue-multi-yarn-dye-stripe-woven-nightshirt-2480019?refinements=category~%5b471232%7c1073991%5d&bi=1&ps=40

I also found a long button up pyjama top from Primani for £7 which I bought as well. I was expecting more from Primark, but all they seemed to have was onesies!!

littleen congrats on your anniversary! I hope the move goes well, remember to delegate all the heavy lifting to your other half

Friday at last, roll on 5.15 and I'm just about to go and post my secret santa. Ho ho ho

Sorry haven't read all of thread since last on. Ill save that for tonight if I have the energy.

I like that pink spotted nighty misskat

unplastered my DH is exactly the same. I have no hospital bag packed as I don't actually have anything to put in it. I keep saying to him I need to get XY&Z he will say the same "what's wrong with the PJ's you have" etc etc!

It's so bad I don't even have a winter jacket and I am starting to freeze. My old jacket is now completely too small and I must have got fatter elsewhere as the shoulders have become too tight and it's now ripped at the top of the sleeve. Even in this state my husband says "oh it will do, just wear a scarf and you can't really see the rip" em thanks but I would rather not freeze or look like a homeless person.

I have realised its no fun being a SAHM with a husband like mine. i need to be earning my own money. I am just going to have to make a list of everything I need so he has it there in front of him and then I will email him said list on pay day 10 times.

Somany - glad I'm not the only one! I'm not a SAHM and I work pretty much full time. He's not protective Of money or anything, it's just that since he is quite happy to live in craghopper trousers and ancient shirts, he thinks I should be as well. And I'm not! I just took myself off shopping in the end and have come back with a couple of nighties, big pants, an some baby bits as well as a Moses basket stand on rockers. I think I've got pretty much very thing I need for me and the baby now, at least for the first couple of weeks, just a few sleepsuits to get. I will have to restrain myself from sale shopping when I've finished work in January!

Awww glad you got some goodies Unplastered! I am rather loving the sexy belly hugger pants I got from primark lol! Just ordered the M&S nightie and some pj pants too yaaaaay.

Oooooh bargains of the day! I went in to home bargains and noticed they had a baby section and I got a 5 pack of muslins for about 3 quid and some packs of 2 fitted moses basket sheets for about the same. The sheets are nice and soft too (Jersey I believe it says). :D Super chuffed. Plus I got some bright dylon dyes so I can start dying my baby grows/muslins/anything else white and cotton pretty bright colours!

Ooooh more good news too - I spoke to the loss adjuster people and they have said they will replace the carpet and that we can either get them to do it or they will give us £846 to sort it ourselves! woo hoooooo!!! I'm hoping that is plenty of budget as I'm pretty sure buying this one cost about £900 with all the underlay and grippers and only a tiny bit of the underlay actually needs replacing. Part of me is tempted to wait until after the baby is born in case my homebirth gets "messy" but DH wants to get it sorted asap which I guess is more sensible! Now we just need to decide on colours and keeping fingers crossed we can get something good quality in budget!

Littleen - I hope the move is going well!

somany speaking as a kept woman (I may be starting up a small craft business, but it's definitely taking some time to come together, and I haven't worked formally since I left the UK to live overseas with DH about 7 years ago) I would say get it sorted out now, rather than when you're knackered and drained with a new baby! Even if it's access to a joint account and a clear-cut budget for "baby" stuff, "you" stuff (to top up maternity pay), "house" stuff etc. If you need to pay it back into a joint account when you go back to work, go ahead, but having him be the purse-keeper is going to be hard when you're used to your own cash. I'm guessing SMP isn't going to cut it 100%? I hope you can get it sorted out properly, as nothing works best to undermine a relationship than tension about money.

(ps, my New Look maternity coat was around 40 quid, is actually very comfy, warm and whilst it's not my regular style, I'll take being warm and cosy over belly poking through my old winter coats any day.)

I'm another mostly kept woman and we're the opposite way round. DH is always trying to buy me stuff and I'm the one who says I don't need it (and gets annoyed when he buys himself the billionth identical polo shirt). That said he is a bit of a spendthrift.
Although I have now bought nearly everything the baby needs, we were watching some baby documentary together and he was like "have we got one of those? We need one of those! And one of those!" about EVERYTHING.

Yey gnitting that's amazing! Proper made up for you.

petty am sure that you would have had some funny looks if had been in work. Fx it was just an evening thing. I haven't had any leakage or anything to date that I've noticed, another joy to come!

Wow don't know why it reposted my msg from yesterday my phone must be having a meltdown. A slightly more appropriate msg for today would be as follows...

Congrats on the anniversary littleen! Hope your DP sorts himself out so you can move ok. Lovely you'll be in the new place for Christmas.

Also great news for the carpet Misskat am glad things are getting sorted for you. And that you can get something lovely in place.

Thanks for all the nightdress links, some nice.ones on there as well as the obligatory granny ones!

Is anyone else having problems sitting up but a but slouchy. I think my bump is finally starting to get in the way and it's starting to make sitting at my comp at work all day get super awkward and uncomfortable. Any ways around it wouls be awesome...

Ih and thisis I am still in shock about the stretch marks top lifting incident!

Ugggh think I may have mild food poisoning After dinner started feeling sick and then stomach and back felt tight and painful then was getting stomach pains. Was really starting to panic but now been violently sick and feel a lot better for it. Dh informed me that he hadn't wanted to mention it but he ate a mouthful of my leftover pasta with pesto and spat it out as tasted off!!! I didn't even think pesto could go off. I'm hoping that one lot of vomiting has been enough to get rid of it and that now I'll be able to get some sleep.

Oh dear sassy, I hope you're not too ill. It could be the pine nuts, they can harbour salmonella and/or be toxic. Get better soon

Morning preggos! I say morning, it feels like the middle of the night as I went to bed at 11.30, dozed fitfully and have been awake since 2.30am. My throat kills, I am full of cold and short of breath as if someone is sitting on my chest. I am at my mum's and in a couple of hours have to be up and get 2 trains and a coach, then work til 10pm! Waaaah. Just wish I could phone in sick but if I do my boss may insist I start my maternity leave...

Sorry for the self pitying post. Feeling kind of crappy.

Thanks Champagne. I did wonder if it was a bug but had just the one bout of vomiting (touch wood) and would have expected more if it was a bug.

I did eat a sausage earlier in the day - maybe it was that!

Hope you're feeling better soon Sugarmice x