June 2014 thread 5: 12-wk scans and leaving the 1st tri behind!

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Thought I'd get us started

MTMD show off!

Morning all, just catching up.

Bee - sorry but chopped liver made me LOL - dads can be so insensitive! Loving the name with accent included Clutter. Eliza, well done, fab!

Seat - really glad to hear things are going ok for you, and for you too Liquid, yay! Good luck for your scan too Clutter.

Haha Gilly - I don't think I've got a bump yet (13+1), think it's all fat but weirdly I do seem to look a bit bigger since I have told people, almost like the babies have said "it's ok, we're not secret now, lets relax and stretch out!" Of course it's much more likely it's all in my head

Great that you're feeling a bit better today MTMD, and funny that our scans are at the same time!

I feel a bit of a fraud, haven't had any morning sickness at all. Apart from feeling very tired for a few weeks (which seems to have improved now) and a few days of tender boobs, I haven't had any symptoms at all

My 12 week scan didn't work out on Monday. Practically the second they looked she said 'I'm sorry...'. Growth stopped at 7 weeks. Missed miscarriage.

It seems so cruel. I still feel pregnant, have morning sickness and never even a spot of blood or cramp. Not a single idea anything was wrong. The sac is still growing, even now.

Now I have to have an operation to remove it, which I am terrified about. And I am angry my body couldn't even miscarry 'properly'. I spent over 7 hours at the EPU yesterday waiting, having more scans and waiting more. I can't have the operation until Tuesday, so life is on hold till then.

I feel majorly sorry for myself and my poor partner. We had so excitedly been making plans, even in the waiting room before going in. You try not to, but I thought I had made it to 12 weeks.

I had really enjoyed reading all your posts and wish you all lots of love and luck.

Gilly, at 14+1 I'm pretty sure I've got a tiny bump, but it's mostly just my fat being pushed upwards I think. If I lie flat I can feel it, though. Definitely not going to be wearing my regular skinny jeans again for a while.

Riblet, I agree about looking bigger since telling people. But it's really more that I'm not disguising my normally tubby belly anymore!

Tron, so so so sorry!! You are right, it isn't fair.. Please look after yourself and take it easy.. I know it's easier said than done, last week I was dying inside at the thought if loosing this pregnancy, nothing can ease your pain.. Big virtual hug xx

So sorry tronbear!! Look after yourself xxxx

oh, tron, I missed your post. I'm so sorry!

Tron

I had an ERPC 5 years ago after MC - you won't feel a thing as it is done under GA, but expect to be physically wobbly afterwards.
and of course it will be emotionally draining so allow yourself to grieve and look after each after.
I'm so sorry for your loss, it's a horrible to loose a child at any stage
(I still miss her every day)

*each other

so sorry tron. Best of luck and look after yourself.

Oh Tron, I'm so sorry. It just seems especially cruel when there's been nothing to suggest there's a problem. Very best wishes for a quick physical recovery and take it easy with the emotional one. Thinking of you.

So sorry to hear that Tron, life is so unfair sometimes. Big hugs for you and your partner and look after yourself xx

Tronbear, I am really sorry, I hope you recover well - big hugs.

Liquid, great to hear about the good scan! My placenta is anterior as well, not that anyone told new I just saw it on the Nuchal letter. Hopefully it'll move a bit, mine is low, as well.

I have a real rage towards DH atm, just add will I won't be on tonight when he comes home. We're in NI in the Coast within view of the sea so the storm is beastly - he told me he had made sure stuff is secure and so far I've been out three times righting overblown bins, collecting all the waste glass, rescuing cat litter boxes and securing the tarp over the bikes. I am .

But then, he did just email to ask me about what cl Christmas pressie to buy, only I want something naughty and he used his work email. Jeeze!

MTMD - I'm not NHS, but am only allowed to carry over 5 days annual leave. Our annual leave year starts in January - so I have to take 22 days between January and my due date. Its annoying as I'm not allowed to take any Jan or Feb. A couple of weeks before due date would be ok - and as my first I might be overdue - so that could mean up to 4 weeks at home which I think is more than enough. So that still leaves me with 12 days to take between 1st March and 15th June. Ideally i want to use it to work three days a week for my last 6 weeks at work...as I;m sure it'll be the commute that kills me. Not sure my work will agree to that though

Liquid - congrats on the scan! That must have been so nice to see!

Good luck wiht the scans Gin and Chesnut

So sorry to hear that Tron. You're right - however much you try to be cautious...if you think everything is ok, your mind starts planning ahead, even if you don't verbalise it. Hope you have the support you need and get back to trying as soon as you feel comfortable.

Good luck with the storm Bee

Oh Tronbear, I am so sorry to hear that. Life is very hard sometimes. There are no words really, except look after yourself and each other. I hope the next stage is not too difficult and you can move on to grieving properly for your baby.

Torn- what horrible news. I hope next week comes quickly for you. We are all thinking of you.

my sympathies tron I was like that eight years ago "but nothing's come out and I'm twelve weeks....."
worst thing that ever happened to me and dh never talked about it with me
bloody hell...well sorry again and take care of yourself x

tron so, so sorry about your little one? Feeling sorry for yourself for a while sounds completely appropriate. I hope Tuesday comes and goes quickly and that everyone at the hospital is sensitive and caring.

tron I am so so sorry. Thinking of you x
I feel so sad that there have been so many loses on this thread.

Spoke too soon, sick again. Bought really expensive lunch and can't even face it.. Need to get better by weekend, we're going out for a curry with friends and family - that's where we're planning to break the news - but now I'm annoyed I suggested curry, can't even imagine eating it. I thought I'd be much better by now..

Seat, my best friend has two kiss and never ever experienced MS. Which is ironic 'cause she spent much of her teenage years with tummy bugs / food poison

poisoning and generally has very high maintenance stomach. But both her pregnancies were bliss.

Kiss=kids

Just back from my booking appointment, the midwife was lovely which really put me at ease. She's booked my scan for Tuesday, finally I have a date!! Am nervous and excited as I know full well anything can happen. Am just trying to think positive and hope for the best.

Me too MTMD. Am back on the cheese in toast as I can't face anything else.

Two steps forward, one step back...