due in august - part 7

[janeggybee]

hello bellies!!!

ahh hi hun , be 2 ticks

hi guys & so plsed to hear you are feeling a bit better mel

I too am now in complete denial about the impending arrival!!

re the dog, DH is vetoing the very idea that we take it, as basically he is never around to help due to work & he said that we would be taking on too much

however, I am both and that the PIL's took the dog when to some of us it was obvious they wouldn't cope ... I have said to DH that if it cannot be rehomed properly & quickly we have to think more seriously about taking it on. I cannot bear the thought of it being unloved and homed in a refuge for months ...

muminaq - why not help them find a home for it? Help by advertising (eg co-ops let you put ads for free, friday ads etc) then you won't feel guilty.

My plan was to get a puppy when we had this baby, which would be the present from the new baby to ayd, plus then it'd get used to having babies and toddlers and older kids (my mindees around)

Now I'm just thanking God we couldn't afford it... I don't think I could cope. I told dh I'd take it for walks as it was my idea.... but I can't even walk atm!

melsy - I have to admit I struggled shopping, we only went to a Boots, two mothercares (only in one for 10 min and spent that sitting down drinking!) and then the other tiny hot mothercare and toysrus.. went throguh around 10 drinks in this time!

On our way back from our holiday we went to bluewater for the first time.. I nearly died walking around that. It was horrid.

forgot to say, olivo, so sorry about your nursery place. Hope you find another you like as much if not better.

It's so hot today Ds wanted to go in the paddling pool (full of bugs urgh. Hate living in the south stupid hose pipe ban I'm not strong enough to fill it up with buckets like dh does) and he was in 10minutes but it wasn't really warm enough though stinking hot in the sun. Had to bribe him with his thomas dvd to get him inside so I could flop on the couch! No idea how I'll keep him inside for another hour till lunch (we have friends coming over after lunch so he'll go out then) he's on the second run of the dvd bad mummy alert.

Feeling a bit upset too, when we moved here when ds was 5 months I found a good mum&baby group (meant to be for 'young parents' which meant the youngest was 21 and the oldest 35!) and made a few friends. We spent last summer when ds was 1 having fun and spending time together, but although we went on holiday with one to butlins last year we don't spend time on weekends etc together. It's very much just a lack of anyone else around here to see or anything to do.... and one is a CM like me and we had a mix of kids all around the same age.

This year the only mindees I have are older ones (7 or above) and so we can't go to the drop in or round these peoples houses as they have nothing for older kids as their own are all little) so I'm barely going to see any adults this summer as it is. And now I'm panicking once I have this baby at the end of the holidays, once september starts neither of the 'friends' I see will want to do anything weekdays as their youngests start school then, and it seems to be very much a convenience thing. I'm dreading having to do the mum and baby group thing again, but the one we all met at closed down.

Sorry Just feeling a bit lonely today

luna - I am trying to encourage them to get back in touch with the breeder, as the dog is still v young

hello everyone. sorry to hear people are struggling - i can totally empathise. was woken up by being sick with acid last night, it was grim, am now armed with my gaviscon tablets but its totally wiped me out! its hot and sweaty here at work and just heard the forecast is for 36 and no wind tomorrow - why oh why dont we have air con?!?!

miaq - have to say i agree with the others about the puppy, but as has been mentioned, maybe you could help them find a place for it?

am getting over my about the nursery, several people here at work will be affected by it as it is one for teachers. its closing for financial reasons but dh has been in this morning to another one we thought about and said he loved it - i have a friend who used to work there and another friend whose dd goes there. we wont know if they have places till after xmas but hopefully.......

must stop now, have managed to munch my way through half a packet of mini gingerbread men while typing, they were meant to be for a meeting tonight !

luna - sorry to hear you're feeling lonely but I'm sure if you do brave the m+b groups, you'll find some like- minded people ( i'm trying to convinve myself here too, as i know hardly anyone around here!)

Just managed to make my last post disappear--don't know how I did that! Anyway, hello everyone.
I've just done the Brent X thing like Melsy (it's a shopping centre in N London) and althogh I enjoyed hitting up the storecards I was shattered by the end. Enjoyed Rigby & Peller, though. My bra wasn't even as expensive as I thought it might be--the cheapest style ended up being the best fit.
Right, this is definitely pack hospital bag and get organised week. Have achieved part one of the plan which was retrieve enormous bag from dusty cupboard and hose it down. Next step, fill with comedy granny pants, unflattering nightwear, bottles of water, sanitary towels, V-shaped pillow, arnica tablets, gin and tonic......arggggggh.
BTW got my taste back for white wine and am having a big glass of something every night. Really helps with the anxiety.

Sorry to hear about the nursery Olivo. And the potential lack of social life, Lunavix. I've been kind of worrying about that as I'm so much older than everyone else and don't really want to do the NCT thing 2nd time around. So I might be back on the drop-in circuit if I can find one laid-back enough.

SnowBoo - I havent read the whole thread again but I meant to say last night - we have a mothercre 3-way carrier & we can scan the instructions in and email it to you if you want or Sal can try to just explain it!

Olivo - that is very strange about you being sick in the night from acid. My hyperemesis is starting to get bad again lately, I guess because little Alex is getting bigger and pressing on my stomach, I dont know. But I had a very scary thing happen in the night last night, I woke up because I was kind of choking on sick! Sorry if tmi. I flew out of bed and finished being sick in the bucket I keep by the bed for that purpose but it really scared me as I had actually started being sick while I was still asleep. That's never happened before and I am still feeling a little shaken up about it tonight.

Melsy, Sal is going to see Superman tonight with a friend of his! Glad you enjoyed it.

Luna - your shopping sounds fun!! Sorry your DH is being no help at all, he sounds like he is being a bit of a baby himself! I feel for you about the problem with making friends and things, I have the same around here. Try a M&B group though you might find one person you really click with!

muminaq - That is a shame about the dog. I have to admit I would be the same as you and be very seriously thinking of taking it in. I know its not a sensible time to do something like that and Sal would say no I am sure but I am such a softie for animals. I think what the others have said about helping find a place for it is a good idea. Supposedly if you charge something for animals rather than give them away for free you are more likely to find a good home for them as only people who realy want them will pay for them. Although having said that my perfect little cats were free and they couldnt be more wanted!

Olivo the other nursery sounds good! If your friend worked there it is probably a lovely place! hope they have a spot for you!

Arabica I was just thinking last night how close you are to the birth!! Must be doing your head in! You know what we will all be thinking about on your big day!

morning all

don't laugh but i'm much more relaxed today a i realised last night the baby can't possibly be born in the next week as he's absoulutely got to be a Leo (dad and dp both are) not a Cancer (don't know anyone that is) so i've got at least a week to relax and enjoy my time with dd. crazy i know but it's amazing how relaxed i feel now i'm not panicing everytime i feel a twinge!

olivo i forgo to say, sorry the nursery closed down... hopefully the one your dh looked at today is nice though and you'll get baba in there

melsy... sorry your feeling stressed again sweetie.... know how you feel though, it's all getting so real isn't it? god i miss the blissful ignorance of first time round!

pink you are funny, the whole leo thing!! hey whatever works and destresses you is cool!

hey, i never claimed to be sane!

no that's true!! and we never expected it of you

I meant to ask you all for your opinion on something. Yesterday at the baby dedication I was at I talked to 2 people who I had never met before. Both of them, within about 2 minutes conversation with me said they were completely shocked that this was my first baby as they had assumed I was on baby number 2. What would make someone assume that just by looking at you and a very brief conversation? The second one said something like 'you are carrying it so well' - but EVERYONE remarks on how huge I am and I look like I am going to pop any minute. So what's the deal? How can you tell a 2nd time mum? I was getting paranoid about this.

the only thing i can think of is the way alot of first timers can be a bit ott about their pregnancy... won't talk about anything else, shoving their bump at people and telling complete strangers in a gushing voice 'ooo, it's kicking again', expecting to be waited on hand and foot, whereas when it's your second you tend to forget your pregnant til someone poits it out and your more realxed about it all. does that it explain it maybe? you seem quite calm on here so i presume your like that in rl too?

maybe that is it pink. I dont know if I am calm or not, I guess I am! I try to talk about other things because I remember before I was pregnant how annoying it was when all pregnant women talked about was the baby. And we were ttc for nearly 4 years so I heard a lot of pregnant ladies in that time!!

But having said that, at that point of getting to know these 2 people all we had so far talked about was the pregnancy as the bump was basically a talking point. So I dont know, I certainly wouldnt have come across as over worrying or anything because I wasnt. Just seemes weird that they assumed from looking at me and so little talking I was a 2nd timer. I would only assume that if the pregnant woman also had a small child attached to her leg!

lol eeny. i wouldn't let it bother you sweetie, people say the oddest things sometimes and don't really mean anything by it.

yeah, like water off a ducks back just got my curiosity up!

why on earth does the best summer we've had for years coincide with the one year i really don't feel like going outside?! just went outside with dd and lasted a grand total of 2 min before scurrying back inside to the relative coolness. feel like such a horrible mommy now as she was delighted to be brought out and can't understand why we're back inside.

oh Pink I'm sorry you feel bad! I know I would too but you really cant help it! Can your DD play outside with you watching from the inside?

nope, we're in an apartment complex with huge grounds and gates that are broken an therefore permanently open to the road. we're on the second floor. there are benches outside but dd tends to run around like a mad woman and you have to keep close to her for when she tries to escape out gates/falls on her ass. i'll make another attempt in a few mins... probably!

oh yeah you are pretty much stuck being a chaperone! This IS the hottest time of the day. Try again after 3 it might be a little better then.

do y ou have any shade or ice lollies pink?

sorry crossed posts - yes definitely wait til after 3

btw, I have found that the air conditioned shopping centre nearby is quite good for letting them hare around!!

no shade, suns beaming down on the whole grounds, aaarrgghhh, this is so annoying.... normally i'm the annoying woman sitting out in the sun all day long without a bother getting a lovely tan! have ice lollies but dd tends to eat more of them than me (can't resist when she gets excited and grabs for them ) so have to restrain myself from going at them too much. god this is such a stupid problem to be whinging about! sorry girls.

have you decided about the dog yet MIAQ?