January 2014 (Thread 11) - We demand answers like what to pack in our bags and who stole our energy?

[Toothfairy78]

OK before we start... SQUEEEZE!

And begin!

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curly sounds like you need to INSIST on being dated differently. You don't want to be induced etc just because they think they know better. Sorry the rota has become difficult - is there any cover at all?

mythree I had bloods at 28 weeks, as part of GTT (they were taking blood anyway, so just took one more vial!) - I would be insistent that they find someone for you to see. It's amazing how if you insist, they find a way. I am inspired to say this by the lovely old lady whose DH was in the bed next to mine in hospital. Overheard by shamelessly earwigging a very unpleasant doctor saying 'well, if he can pass urine, he can go home' and her quietly, firmly but insistently saying 'he can't walk. If he goes home, and has to come back in because he gets worse again, he has to be carried down 2 flights of stairs to an ambulance. I'm 89, he's 89, we don't need to be in and out of hospital like yo-yos. Please keep him in until you're certain'. They did

tooth I am signing up for Rager-cise. Love it

Wow, what is it with a nice shiny new thread. So much going on I can't keep up with you all!

tooth I'm in for ragercise, sounds just my cup of

humpty glad DH is home. I don't think you're daft at all for stressing, I was a complete wreck a few years ago when my DH was in for a few days. Felt like my arm had been cut off, I had no-one to tidy up after love your old lady earwig too, she sounds awesome.

another gentle hugs &

altered get yourself checked. Please, please don't ever feel like you're pestering or being silly. I'm pretty sure that it would have made no difference but I can't help wondering if I should have made more of a fuss or told people I was worried so please, just phone them or go and see them to put your mind at rest

Everyone else, apologies I've forgotten what you said.

We finally have a date! The funeral will be next week so now we can actually get on with stuff. Only organised a tiny amount of stuff today but absolutely shattered. Think I've come out in sympathy with you all. MIL is still being an absolute *puffin but have decided to ignore her as far as is possible.

Hope everyone else is doing ok & all bosses/ colleagues/ randoms are winding their respective necks in
x

Space, I actually love you. You're amazing

Aww thank you. Love you too Toby

Thanks for all the well wishes, not posting much as signal bad on ante-natal ward. Being kept in until Friday at earliest as a precaution, scan on Thursday morning to check placenta.

Special hugs to space, glad you have a date for the funeral, be gentle on yourself, it all tends to hit home again emotionally once the funeral is over.

altered phone your midwife just in case, pain can mean many things.

Will try to get back on later and catch up properly x

space I'm so glad you have a date for the funeral, that must feel like you've crossed a huge hurdle. Ignore your MIL to the ends of the earth, it is NOT about her, but about you and your DH and saying goodbye to Idris.

Did you get the PM results then? I hope it helped. Take care of yourself.

another grrr for being kept in. Do you have earplugs? Hope you're feeling okay.

Space your posts always strike me that you are acting in such a dignified and selfless manner. You are happy to think of us here moaning away about things that are much less than what you've experienced. Bless you, I think you are amazing. Hope the funeral goes as well as it can next week, will be thinking of you x

I'm getting myself worried tonight, he's been much less active today and I've had a crampy pain in the left side of my bump. I've been feeling sick and just 'not right' all day. I'm worrying about nothing aren't I? I had a cold drink and he did a kick and a wriggle but he's usually kicking me hard all evening! I think I'm worrying more than I need to because of the consultant mentioning amniotic fluid being borderline low and seeming concerned.

I know DH thinks I'm worrying needlessly because baby has been moving a bit. It's probably just anxiety related?

Sorry to but in when I know other people have a lot going on, I'm just sat here worrying and getting all anxious and need an opinion from someone other than DH.

Don't be daft madrat your not butting in

Do you have an out of hours number in your notes? Mine was the labour ward. I phoned them a couple of times. Always felt awful for disturbing them but they were so lovely. Give them a bell if it will put your mind at rest

Aaarrgh - I committed the cardinal sin!

you're not butting in

Sorry

I do have an out of hours number, I'm worried they'll just think I'm being neurotic because I phoned once before when he hadn't moved all afternoon a few weeks ago and they told me to do the cold drink thing which worked. He's moved a few times now although not the big kicks like he always seems to do on an evening, I think I'm just panicking, I've been anxious all day for no real reason.

I'll let you off for the lapse in grammar

I doubt they will think you're neurotic, and you know what, even if they do, who cares! It's your bubba, if anyone is entitled to worry then you are.

If you really, really think you're being paranoid then try cold drink & lying down quietly to see if that helps but if you feel something is wrong just phone them & have a chat.

Hope you feel better soon x

He's just started kicking as I decided to go and call. I guess I was worrying needlessly.

I've got another scan on Friday to check amniotic fluid levels.

Madrat, mine seems to not be quite so vigorous atm too, its maybe because they're getting bigger, with less room?

That makes sense lovelillies, for some reason I've turned into an emotional nervous wreck over the past few days though.

I got a form today to fill in for work to notify them of my pregnancy and planned start of maternity leave. Never mind the fact that I notified them in writing of my due date and requested my SMP1 so that I could apply for my MA four sodding weeks ago. I want to start Mat leave in 7 weeks, god knows how long it'll take them to return my MAT1B and give me the SMP1 now, never mind however long it'll take for the actual MA application. This is not helping the OTT anxiety!

madrat I've also felt less movement over last couple if days but had midwife apt yesterday and everything seemed fine. I think some movement is ok but call if your worried

sultana I had dinner in the shard tonight and the toilet cubicle had mirror on every wall and door. You could see everything from every angle and reminded me of you ha ha

Madrat call them whenever you are worried, that's what they are there for. I have days where wee yin is quieter than usual, worries me, then there's days where I could greet coz he won't stop moving! But if you don't feel right-call

Space thinking of you and I so admire your strength. I hope with all my heart that next week goes as well as it can

Another- hope you are not too bored being kept in and scan on Thursday goes well

MrsG knowing my luck I will have gestational diabetes!

Humpty I reckon I will be the one asking for an earlier induction, I'm petrified of being left too long and if I don't have GD I will be demanding they change my due date at next scan :)
I will find out if they have sorted staffing in the morning. Decided I'm not going to stress about it counting down shifts and 9 to go

I've stopped worrying now he's woken up a bit, i think i'll go to bed, where of course he'll keep me awake kicking after worrying me all day!

I agree with others Space, you sound like an incredibly strong person.

Staffing is a pain Curly, I need a couple of hours out of my shift on Friday and a day off next Thursday and my assisstant manager whi is lovely is unfortunately rubbish at sorting the rota, it comes out about 2 days before the previous rota ends and I know he won't have remembered either of those appointments I tried to tell him about so I'll have to swap shifts if I'm scheduled to work, when we're short staffed anyway so I have very few people to swap with.

space thats excellent you finally have a date. I think you are amazing and really hope things go smoothly for you.

mythree my little monkey has been similar to yours all day and has suddenly started wriggling and kicking in the last hour finally! Also had what I think were hiccups!

mrsv

humpty hurray your DH is finally home! Bet you feel better already!

NCT was great tonight - the previous group came in and talked to us with their babies. Gave me lots of reassurance....Was surprised at how many of them ended up with c sections....!

Also arranged to go to an aquanatal class with a couple of the girls from NCT which will be great!

That should have been madrat and not mythree! Sorry!

another at least they are keeping a close eye on things and can reassure you further which must be comforting...

Morning ladies.

I agree with everyone else. space you seems like such a strong and incredibly understanding person. I really hope that the PM gave you the answers that you hoped to get and that the funeral goes as planned. If your MIL becomes an idiot again just ignore her immaturity.

madrat glad bubs has awoken and settled your mind.

Yay humpty that dh has made it home.

sultana oh know the dreaded C I really dont want one of those!

I have the second class of this week tonight. The leader couldn't make the one a few weeks back so she rearranged, but i am exhausted. Fell asleep on the sofa again last night!

Well the maternity cover plans have gone down the pan again at work! The girl who was possibly going to have to relocate after we lost her customer is now going to stay with us as my friend currently on mat leave isnt coming back so there is a job free.
The girl is now being trained on her new customer by the girl who was supposed to be my cover. And as her customer wont finish until Dec and i am the only other person who knows how to do it, i am now covering that while she trains as its stupid training someone for a customer that is going at the end of the year.
So the plan is now....i do this customer (prob until i finish - gutted as the girl who went on mat last year had 2 months of handover and chilled out work), oh and the customer can't know i am doing it as the other girl is still on contract with them, then the girl who is to cover me is going to train and support others until prob end of Nov, then she might get trained on my stuff.
So annoyed as they are just so unorganised. Every time we have a plan and i feel like my stuff will actually get sorted something changes and i go to the bottom of the pile even though i am their hardest worker. Will be asking for my meeting next week to go through my leave and dates etc as only 7 and a half weeks until i leave. Hope that'll force them to realise how soon i go.
And breathe....must get to work!

another good shout on the Primark pants, prob more comfortable than the disposables.

Frizz hopefully it gives them the kick in the ass they need! I'm training someone in my job just now, it's a shame for them, but I just can not be assed! Glad I'm doing it now who knows we're my mind will be next month, I'm already on maternity leave mode!