Martians 2014, thread 13. Who will win, team pink or team blue?

[LyraSilvertongue]

New thread, hoes!

Andie I know. My mum breastfed me and all my siblings, so I just always assumed that I would breastfeed my children. Once we announced the pregnancy the scare stories about BF started. My BIL was particularly vocal about it (they had problems trying to BF my neice.)

I know it doesn't work for everyone but I was surprised about how hard they tried to put me off it. They said I'd never be able to go out (because BF in public is a no no apparently ) my nipples would feel like they had hot pokers through them, the baby wouldn't sleep etc etc.

I'm more prepared to deal with this scaremongering now, but when I was 12 weeks and very hormonal it really upset me.

My DP had a word with his brother and told him in no uncertain terms that he hadn't to comment on our feeding choices or any hypothetical pain I might experience in my nipples again

Good for your DP sticking up for you. My ex wasn't supportive of my BFing as nobody in his family had done (which I find bizarre!) so I have up pretty early and never had the confidence to do it in public so mix fed anyway but with this baby I'll try harder. DP is all for me doing whatever is the best for me at the time an will defend me against anyone that dares tell me it's inappropriate to feed in public (I eat in public, why shouldn't my baby?!)
Generally it's only painful if your latch is wrong so you should always discuss painful nipples with your MW or a breast feeding support worker. People who really want to breast feed will do this, those who don't will use it as an excuse to stop. We see it in the hospital all the time, we usually know who's going to give up. Sadly.

Sorry if I sound like a sanctimonious BF pusher, I'm not, I promise. Everyone has the right to choose.

Hot, I didn't breastfeed in public with DD1 until she was around 12 months and it didn't stop me breastfeeding. If I went shopping or something I would just feed her in the car if needed, when visiting people I used to ask if they had a room I could go to feed in and when I went to things like weddings I just used to ask the venue for somewhere to feed and they provided it no problem. The main reason I did that was because early on I when I was less confident I needed to be able to see what I was doing when latching her on and then it was just habit to not do it in public until one day we were out at a shopping centre and decided to stay for a meal and I couldn't be bothered with going back to the car so just sat on a bench and fed her. Nobody batted an eyelid and I've breastfed everywhere since then without anyone ever commenting other than the occasional friend saying that they think it's a good idea to breastfeed if you can.

Wrt soreness, I only had it for a couple of days with DD2. With DD1 it lasted longer (long enough to seriously consider switching to formula) but after a few weeks it was fine. Now I've been able to compare with DD2 I realise that DD1 probably had a poor latch (despite having been told by multiple MWs that she had "a perfect latch") which wasn't bad enough to stop me breastfeeding or cause supply problems but probably is what made me sore for longer early on and why she was such a slow feeder so I do recommend if you experience any problems or soreness that doesn't go away within a few days that you see a lactation consultant as they are more likely to have the time and expertise to help you than the NHS MWs.

Happy birthday Owl (I would give you cake but I've eaten it all! Sorry!!!!)

Scan went well today - everything good. And .....It's a girl!!!! Team Pink is filling up! - we will have to have a recount when the yellows arrive.

Happy birthday Owl!

Feels like heart burn but its in the upper belly area. (From belly button go up two inches and then two to the left)

When I'm calm it seems to subside but just won't go away. . Maybe I m just freaking out about tomorrow's scan.

Go team pink!

Congratulations Block! Another girl, hey. Must be something in the water!

I've not posted here for aaagesss and cannot believe how many threads have been filled. Wow.

Had my 20 (or 19.1) week scan 2 weeks ago and it's a girl! I knew it was either a girl or twins - thankfully the latter!!

Sickness has eased and has been replaced with headaches and ever-creaky joints. Tut. Have been referred to physio, but have been ill with some shitty virus so had to cancel 2 appointments.

I like the team yellow idea - unfortunately, I'm not so patient.

BWP Andie Rockchick Have any of you met your home birth team yet? I'm meeting a midwife from mine tomorrow, she sounds lovely.

BWP I think I'll probably be the same as you. I'll need a lot of practice to be able to do it discreetly so I'll wait until then before doing it in public

Happy birthday owl!

Congratulations on your girls block and wuxi.

We are on our way back from Warwick Castle. It was brilliant, we all had a great time and the kids are passed out in the back now.

I've started having Braxton hicks which is just so bloody weird!

Thanks, Mummy!

Sounds like a good day. I'm not too far from Warwick Castle, but never actually been - well, I pottered about the perimeter once...

Brixton Hicks, already?!

I had Braxton hicks quite early last time but this is even earlier. My nipples are also still horrendously itchy and sore!

Warwick Castle was brilliant, really worth a trip there. Ds was the "dragon lord" in the Merlin tower and we saw a sword fight, a headless horseman, birds of prey, went into the witches tower and did spells. Such good fun.

I suggested a name to dh the other day and he actually liked it, could we be on to a winner? Amelie?

Wow, Mummy. Amelie is a forerunner with DP and I, too! We went through the alphabet and Amelie kind of stuck; so pretty.

I had itchy nipples a few weeks back - it's stopped now, thankfully, but yes, not pleasant. Hope it eases soon.

Amelie IS lovely, but the only thing is...isn't it French? Nowt wrong with French names, but...you're not French. Maybe it's not, it's just I think of the French movie Amelie when I hear it.

Arghh - Frenchsmench! It's a name. My name originates from Germany - not that many know, or care.

I'm the same - I just want to use good old fashioned English names because that is my heritage.

Yeah, fair enough. Probably most names we would consider English come from somewhere else originally.

I just have quite traditional tastes. My sister, for example, is married to an Egyptian, and her kids have middle eastern names. They're really nice names, but I would feel weird using them.

The name we've chosen is Irish, but we are using the Scottish spelling.

Our favourite is Amelie too, it's a German name. I'm massively Irish in my background, but I'm not allowed a Celtic name!

Glad you had a good time MummyP!

The thing is with names - we're not supposed to agree, otherwise all our kids would have the same name

Fox! That would just be weird!!

oooh hottie are u prepared to divulge? (nosey head tilt)

apprentice We are going for Orlaith. But spelled the Scottish way - Aurla- pronounced 'Orla'.

So many people use names from other cultures though. My name is Hebrew, I'm not Jewish though, I don't think many of the million other Sarah's are either. Wouldn't life be boring if we only chose names from our own culture? And a lot of names we think of as English probably aren't. And yes hottie, tell!

Cross post, I like Orla/Orlaith/Aurla. Dd has a little Irish friend called Orla, who has a sister Aoife.