Martians 2014, thread 11. KEGELS!

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Shiny new thread, ladies :)

Is it safe to eat the Roquefort between my tits?

Pramembert spread it on a cracker

MTB brilliant advice as always from BWP. In your notes have you a number for another midwife/assessment unit? Maybe try them?

apprentice - I'm certain that post baby, I'll look back and laugh at how easy I currently have it . Mine and OH's dynamic is sometimes a bit blurry...the way I'd describe it is I expect things to be completely equal outside of the bedroom, he does sometimes apply bedroom dynamic to our day to day stuff though and I end up having to rebalance. Believe it or not, the cooking is the bigger job in our house (home cooked from scratch most nights, breakfast and lunches included). And his idea of day to day cleaning only actually includes dishes and laundry (not including ironing). Everything else is split and falls to me more often than it should.

I like my rants too

Pramembert!

Jolls, is it fair to say your fella wants his and to eat it?

BWP - my OH is the kind of pain in the arse who agrees to go and get checked out but then doesn't book the appointment and thinks I'll forget. I've had the diabetes test agreement from him 3 times so far...he has it in the family so when his energy levels and libido plummeted, it was the first thing I thought we need to eliminate. But hee hum, he's a pest!

Sorry some ladies are having such a bad day. Hope tomorrow is better.

They have brown cows in a cafe near us and in the village cafe they have then but called coke float. Yum yum yum.

I love the Halloween costume! As of yet not invited to a Halloween party tho so no excuse to buy one.

Pram he shall be getting a fecking dirty marmite cake if he carries on!

In all honesty, I know he'll make this one up to me...he did seem to realise how twatty he'd been as soon as I pointed it out.

Lots of men go off sex when their missus is pregnant.

My lovely DH agreed not to go to his mum's until they are all better - she's now not speaking to him

Still struggling with names - anyone having better luck than me with it? Bloody boys.

rock the joys of mils!!!!

grey I found boys names soooo hard. So much so that Muffin was nameless till week 3 . Although a bit like dresses and shoes after touring round 1000 options it was the first we loved! (James)

however puffins name whether pink or blue has already been chosen having had two years to decide! I found the names forum useful on mn and baby name finder section ..that's when/why I joined.

Well done, Mr. Rock!

Moosey, I found girls names much harder than boys simply because there was only one lad's name we liked!

Looking forward to the quacks tomorrow. I'm going to ask to be referred to a podiatrist; I really think I'm going to struggle for the rest of my pregnancy with these painful arches. I could barely walk today and there's no way I could tolerate being housebound for the next twenty weeks.

Babybear, please come back

greymoose I hate boys names. I'd love another box but dread the though of having to choose a name!!

I don't know what to do. I'm in agony with my pelvis. It's normally a bit easier in the morning and gets worse throughout the day but it's bad already. I could hardly walk last night. I can't face getting up and taking the kids and going to work but I don't want to let people down. I'm in tears at the thought of 21 more weeks of this only getting worse. I feel like such wimp!!! People don't understand. I know that if a non pregnant person felt like this they wouldn't hesitate to go off sick so why do I feel that I should keep going as long as I can?? What if as long is now? Will it feel better when I have the belt? Just feel really fed up today!!

Grey we're finding boys easier than girls!

Lumps I'm sorry you're having such a crap time. I understand you not wanting to let anyone down but don't push yourself too hard. You're definitely not being a wimp x

Lumpy if you need some time off then please take it - a close friend of mine suffered with her SPD until her daughter was 2 and was told it wasn't helped by her trying to carry on as normal and ignore the pain. It's your body telling you that something needs to change, if you need the time off then that's why pregnancy is a protected against being disciplined for time off - its normal to need it!!

lumpy you poor thing. Please rest and see if the gp/midwife can do anything to help.

grey I have only thought of boys names. Maybe it's because I'm so convinced I'm having a boy. I have had 2 dreams that the baby is a girl now though so I'm confused!

Jolls, mine can be a bit like that - I have on occasion actually logged into the online booking system for him, said, "Right can you go at such and such time?" and actually booked it for him! (Although his favoured method tends to be to refuse to agree to go in the first place on the basis that if he goes for something "minor" then if something serious happens he won't be able to get treatment due to having been "too much" already.)

Rock, glad to hear your DH agreed to not go (less glad about his mum though - how childish!)

Names I plan on presenting DH with options when I'm about eight months to save going round and round a million times while coming to the same decision each time.

lumpy it sounds like SPD which you should get help for as soon as possible as early intervention can reduce how bad it gets. You should be given a support belt, physiotherapy (which should include advice on what to do/not do to avoid making it worse) and pain killers. Don't just put up with it and carry on.

What the fuck, Lumpy? Take time off!

Where is everyone? This thread is going to get very boring very soon. Come back everyone, if this thread dries up we're fucked when these babies come.

Oh Lumpy I felt the same as you with the HG. I felt all sorts of guilty for being signed off, but I had to do it and I am now finally turning a corner. Still dreading going back to work though. Please see your GP. They can do things to minimise the discomfort and prevent it getting worse x

Grey we are fine in a boys name but are struggling to agree on girls.

Well done Rock for having a sensible DH

Jolls is it type 1 or 2 you are worried about?

Oh lumpy you poor thing. Definitely sounds like you should be taking it easy. When do you get your belt?

I've been rather pro-active this morning. I have booked myself in for pregnancy yoga & NHS antenatal classes (all the Jan ones were booked up, but I got a place on the Feb ones). I've accepted an offer of a nice buggy with all the trimmings for £75 & I've enquired to the NCT about their courses.

It's the sunshine, you know. I'm sure it is. It makes everything seem better.

Oh lumps I think I have a v mild equivalent of this, and it's so bad by bedtime. I had a little cry last night. Fine this morning though thank goodness!

I totally empathise with the not going off thing. I think part of me feels that I got myself into this situation, so it doesn't count as being properly sick. this is not true and I am a FOOL for thinking it!!

NOOOOO!! prambo, it's not safe on AIBU, even for you.

It's definitely quieter on here, although maybe that's not so bad as it makes it a little easier to keep up. I've also been finding a lot of my posts being lost with so many people posting within a few minutes. Even though I know it's not intentional, a small part of me does feel a bit ignored sometimes.