Martians 2014, thread 11. KEGELS!

[LyraSilvertongue]

Shiny new thread, ladies :)

I think you are a real inspiration pram and as imeg has said, you will control how your child learns and understand the information about your life. I can imagine thy all of our children will give us hell at some point. But ultimately you are their mum and they will live you for who you are now and the wonderful mum that we all know that you are going to be.

Thanks comms just desperate to get into bed. I think it will be a 7.30 bedtime tonight!!

Pram - I just want to echo everyone else's comments and say you will be a great mum. And can I just say that your post actually made me cry? Which wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't sat at Gare du Nord waiting for my train home with 3 colleagues who already think I'm mental and have now had it confirmed!

pram you are not a loser! You've been through so much and also achieved so much. You will be a wonderful mum and you are such a strong woman!

Imeg will you need to see a paed consultant? Maybe you will be able to discuss options for after the birth with them.

Pram I can only echo what the others have already said. I think you're an amazingly brave and inspirational lady, and Prambino is very lucky to have you as a mother. And don't forget, he or she will love you unconditionally. No strings attached. And that will be all that matters in the world. Chin up lovely x

Pram, your baby will adore you. Don't be in any doubt about that. As has been said before they don't need to know every detail of your past and if they hear things, by then they'll be at an age to understand when you explain to them.

Comms, most likely a Turkish restaurant as that's DP's area of expertise. We have our eyes on one that's currently an Italian and it's just off the main shopping street in an affluent area of London so hopefully teeming with rich people with plenty of spare cash for meals out.
Might go and look at it from the outside this evening.

I've had a ruined-food disaster. My tomato soup was looking great till I added cream and it curdled. Now it looks like puke. DP reckons he can rescue it but I don't much fancy eating it now My apple turnovers were good though. Me and DS1 (home early from school) ate two each.

Apprentice, sorry you're having such a hard time. I can offer only hand-holding.

Right! It's time for the Tesco shop people. Give me a meal plan!

Stop being soft Pram! A little one doesn't care about your past...they care about the now. They only get judgy when they're hitting their tweens and by then they've had plenty of time to form their own opinions of their mummy based on your experiences together.

My parents were into all sorts before I came along...I didn't care when I was little (I only cared they wouldn't buy me the new care bears teddy and crap like that) and I don't care now (the last thing I'd want is to think my parents had had a boring life before my brother was born).

Breathe with me and repeat 'I will be fine'

fox this is what we are having roughly.
Tonight: pork belly strips, roasties and runner beans
Tomorrow: sausages, mash and peas
Friday: chicken casserole and veg
Saturday: cottage pie and veg
Sunday: roast chicken dinner
Monday: pizzas and salad

Then after that I don't know. We have an abundance of potatoes to use up, hence the potato heavy theme!

So I've baked a carrot cake, chocolate cupcakes, lemon shortbread, almond crinkle biscuits and some sausage rolls. Meanwhile the cat puked on the couch, the dog killed a chicken and a bomb must've exploded in the kitchen, I'm not even properly dressed and OH will be home in less than an hour.

Meh.

MummyP if you can't use all of the potatoes let them sprout and plant them in spring anyone can grow a few tatties, and it'll save you money :)

Thanks Mummypig. I've never used pork belly, do tell me about it.

I've never made a cottage pie either, but I think I would like it.

Blimey Kara. Move over nigella!!!

Fox I did spaghetti bolognese last night, leftovers are forming tonight's tea by having beans, kidney beans, chilli powder and rice added, then done in wraps and baked in the oven with a ton of cheese on top (sort of like burritos but not quite), roasted veg risotto tomorrow night, Friday is probably take away night, then Sat DH is at some sort of rugby thing so me and DS will probably have jacket potatoes :)

Oh yes, Burritos are a firm favourite here. So is spaghetti bolognaise. I make a well good bolognaise. Hmm, but probably can't have 2 mince beef dishes in a week, so might have to choose.

I would happily eat jacket potatoes for dinner too. Not sure about DH though. Unless it involves meat, carbs and two veg he's not convinced it is a real dinner.

Maybe do chicken instead of mince in the burritos? Get one of those fajita seasoning packets for about 30p, fry up chicken, onion, veg, mix in some passata and rice? I tend to make huge portions of things so I don't have to cook from scratch the next day lazy or I freeze half to use as a homemade ready meal!

Check you lot out with your meal plans and wholesome dishes. I'm having frozen chicken nuggets and chips

I need A TGI's. More specifically, jack daniels chicken strips. Last time we were at TGI's DP got food poisoning. But he's going to have to suck it up because I've decided this is a bona fide craving.

Thank you, girls, I'm sorry for being a puff. Until this fuckwit made a mockery of my circumstances I hadn't really worried about my child's reaction to my life if and when this shit came out (there is public information out there about me if s/he were curious enough). If I have been anxious it has been with regards to how and when to tell him/her that s/he has a donor mum. I will try to stay rational and live in the now. Good advice, that..

Apprentice, I'm glad you have been listened to by the GP. How do you feel about ametrypteline? I am on Seroxat because without it I would, by now, be in a mental institution. I am an advocate of drugs in all circumstances where quality of life is going down the toilet. You are struggling and there is fuck all wrong with that. Life is hard and sometimes feels intolerable.Take the meds and don't look back. Allow yourself to feel weird or 'otherworldly' for a couple of weeks while your brain adjusts. Always, always remember that your mental health is everything; not work; not money; not your partner or husband; not bills or childcare. These things will only fall into place and function properly if you are well. You must learn to value yourself above and beyond how you are perceived by your work colleagues and bosses and friends. I hope that makes sense x

And haud yer wheesht Pram. Everybody has a past. You don't need to tell your future child about it if you don't want to, and if anybody else does you can break their legs.

I want a Big Mac and chips with a vanilla milkshake.... But I will not be having one. Boo!

I'd stay away from amitrypitilne at all costs but that a personal experience!

Without a meal plan kara I would be in the supermarket every day (or rather DH would) and that is even worse than having to do it once a week, which is frankly too much for me.

I am so shattered I think I might spew.

Kara, that's an impressive lot of baking. Fox, cottage pie is really easy. I can give you my "recipe" if you like but it won't contain any specific weights or measurements.