January 2014(Thread 10) - Getting out of breath!Don't forget to squeeze when you sneeze laydeez!

[Toothfairy78]

Diddle-leee-deeeee. Diddle-lid-did-deee! It's the finaaaal countdown!

Oh yeah third trimester!

Hoping we bring space and idris with us....

Hi space. How are you doing?

International politics, alice? Fancy!

How is DS this morning, mythree?

I have the weirdest sore throat today. It came on last night, within an hour. It feels like someone's karate chopped my trachea. Ah well. It's an excuse to sit on my arse watching Breaking Bad and trying to finish the Blanket of Doom.

mythree that sounds terrifying - how is DS this morning?

Good to hear from you space. How are you?

Hi to alice and tree!

DP has had the flu since Thursday (still managed to have his stag do on Friday though but is off work. I have the week off to Do All The Things, but instead I am spending it trying to force him to take paracetamol (he won't, he'd rather suffer) and tiptoeing around. I am so sympathetic :)

mythree I hope you had good news updates overnight. He's in the best place but must be horrible to be away from him.

space good to see you :)

tooth I keep getting sore throats, wonder if it's something to do with the increased blood flow the midwives keep telling me about meaning I very attractively can't breath though my noise at night.

I'm off to work today but after two days out being sick I'm worried that something may be wrong. I know that being sick don't cause problems but can't shake the feeling.

Hi all and space really kind of you to pop in to say hi and lend support. Your concern is really lovely and encouraging.
well A and E thankfully confirmed no sceptacaemia or meningitis, and despite the fact that he vomited in the car on the way into hospital, they concluded that oral antibiotics are the best thing for him and sent him home at midnight. I was not that happy with this thinking he should be at least monitored for 24 hours. Anyhow, he of course woke at 3 am with raging fever back up to 39 and we took it in turns to stay with him, encouraging him to drink water. He then started the diahorrhea at which point I am pulling my hair out, but we kept him cool and stable and watered and he did eventually go back to sleep. Ds2 then woke at 7.30 am full of the joys of spring, so I got up to take him to nursery. Ds1 woke at 9am with fever of 39 again. My dilemma is this: I am 27 weeks with placenta praevia. I haven't slept properly for about a week (last week I had work stress related insomnia from psycho client). My four year old has a nasty infection but a least we know its nothing more serious than a uti. Do I carry in with original plans and fly to London tomorrow for a two night work event which involves being totally focused, charming, networking, and essentially, selling, ending with getting up at 5 am to fly back to Scotland and pick boys up from play group? These meetings are the culmination of six months work for me and could pay off big time. Or, do I stay here, lose what will have been a full weeks pay, potentially lose the deals I have been working towards (although other people can meet my people) piss my client off and potentially lose them too.
Wy is there such pressure for us not to be good parents (ie feel like we need to lut work first) when all I want to do is be here for my son.
Votes please.

Can DH stay with DS1 while you're away or does he have to work?

Oh gosh Mythree that's such a difficult decision to make...

My immediate instinct was stay at home, but would definitely be a shame for all your hard work to go to waste. Is there any way your parents or DH's could pop in for a couple of days so he has some support while you're away and someone can entertain non-poorly DS/do nursery mornings while DH concentrates on poorly DS? And can you cut your trip slightly shorter or fit more into less time somehow? Is there no way it can be postponed?

Don't forget yourself and your health. Do you feel you have the energy to do the trip? It's a fairly tall order even without the extra stress of family struggling.

Sorry I've just been totally unhelpful..! Poor you, must be so difficult. Think I'd see how the whole thing could be made easier/shorter and take it from there.

alice I was living away from home so I completed my first year when I was 6 months pregnant and planned to take a year off.
But I met my husband in my year off and never ended up going back. But it would of been possible if I had the drive to do it. But I wanted to concentrate on my son first and foremost so I didn't bother. But it can be done most definitely!!

mythree I know it's a hard decision but I say stick it out and go to work. The trip sounds fairly important and you will be back in no time, probably to your DS all better and well (hopefully).

alice mine wasn't personalised then.

You might benefit from hypnotherapy or yoga ( try YouTube for free resources) to help you relax about the birth. I'm looking forward to the birth thanks to these things! Though I'm sceptical that I can " breathe" the baby out, I understand the correlation between fear and added pain.

Know its not birth but yesterday I had my anti d jab. It's my third this pregnancy and I'm not good with needles. The first two I had I was sitting in a waiting room (alone) nurse came over, and said here's the jab, stuck it in. Job done, I felt fine.
Yesterday the nurse handed me the vial to "warm it up?!" And spent 10 mins faffing with paperwork. My heart was racing, I felt faint and v unwell. I almost cried. The jab was more uncomfortable than the previous 2 times, or the blood samples they had just taken 15 mins before.

It was only afterwards (during my yoga class with v stiff arm from jab!) that I considered the differences and realised how fear changed everything. I wish I had thought to use meditation during the last jab - visualisation and breathing as a distraction.

I know it works as I get chest pains sometimes that have not yet been diagnosed. The last time I breathed and visualised to a "nature" meditation track on YouTube. It didn't stop the pain but it certainly dulled it.

Thanks girls, I think you are all right and it's a relief that you don't think I'm a monster for contemplating going. I have checked flights but cannot change my return (no time to get to the airport after final meeting) so have to stick to original timings, but I've arranged extra childcare on Thurs so DH can go to meetings, DS2 to nursery and DS1 at home with minder, comfortable amongst his things.

So far his fever has been good and reasonable (38) and he's watching a DVD and hopefully after a lunchtime sleep he'll pick up even more.

I'm feeling much more positive and grounded now that I've made a decision and I'm going to pack my bags and get organised now. THANK YOU ALL.

Well done Mythree! And good to hear DS is on the mend.

Hopefully his antibiotics will make him feel better really soon.

Hopefully ds will be feeling a bit better by then too mythree

Sorry can't remember who said awkward lying baby but mine is also transverse and seems to have been most of the time. When should we start worrying?

mythree you poor love. Take it easy in London - you CANNOT replace yourself, so no point you ending up in hospital from stressing out. Work is work, but you, your baby and your children are much more important. Of course you're not a monster - you wouldn't be worrying so much if you were!

space how are you? Good to see you around. How are things?

MrsA you poor duck. Bloody sickness, you've hardly had a break from it. This baby OWES YOU big time. I hope you won't let it forget

frizz we are both in the DH's with no job club! It's hard to stay totally positive, but you're doing brilliantly and if karma works as it should, yours will get a job soon. Mine needs to get the feck on with his novel. TBF, he has done ALL the work of moving house so far.

Back at work today after long weekend in Edinburgh with my best mate - so refreshing! I am now batting back wanky emails with a cheery 'terribly sorry, no way at all I can do that, but all best in the meantime!' and a whistle! Amazing what a nice break, and the chance to rant endlessly discuss rationally can do for a girl.
Today's gem - just in case you are all bored - boss emails to say he's away tomorrow, but he's arranged a publicity event for the evening. This is the first I've heard of it. Can I do name badges, and attend, and put together a whole load of publicity material and get it to the venue by 5pm tomorrow.
I said yes to badges, no to attending and said 'of course, happy to put the publicity material together, but since it's heavy, you'll need to make arrangements to have it sent over there, not something I can do'.
HA. Fuckface. He is such a cock! TWENTY FOUR DAYS (today is practically over) and counting.

Jabs this afternoon for me.

Can't remember most of anything else I read, but here's a blanket ((hug)) for anyone who needs it, a high-five to all of us, and a piece of to cover anything else.

Haha Humpty you tell him! He sounds like my boss. Absolutely no concept of how unreasonable what he's expecting is.

extra we've just exchanged a flurry of pass-agg emails, culminating in 'Well, whatever it takes!' from him.

Fucktard. I kind of hope the only other person in the office tomorrow (not in today, so not replying to emails) will say she can't take things in a cab. That'd learn him!

We should start a reform centre for unreasonable bosses. With painful obstacle courses, made of barbed wire and FIRE.

Ooh yeah FIRE!!
This afternoon mine saw me yawning (and probably just looking generally like crap) and went "Cheeky night out last night?" - no irony intended! Um... No?!? I'm just massively pregnant and you won't give me a break!?

Yay consultant happy with my blood sugars and not needing to see me in clinic unless sugars go high or something happens.

However, baby is laying transverse, hope it wriggles head down. Also measuring 32 weeks at 28 weeks.

My little girl is 2 today, she's cuddled up nursing and being kicked by the baby as I type :)

Must read and post more regularly, just spent all morning catching up and forgetting, damned pregnancy brain

space hugs for you and your precious baby, please stay lurking and posting, thinking of you

my three hope your son is on the mend, sounds like you have lots of support organised for while you will be away and you will be at the end of a phone call should your lad need to hear your voice. It won't be long till you are home

Hi to all, good to see appointments going well. For those with concerns/worries I hope you get reassurance soon

I had my flu jab the other week, 10 days later I got cold/flu symptoms and have been floored (lucky Ive been off shift since Saturday and not back till tomorrow) gott midwife tomorrow for 28week appointment and hope to be a bit better by then. I'm soooooo hot! And not in a sexy way :( more a sleeping with a wet towel than t-shirt lol. Have had to dig out my inhalers to try n help me breathe

We really are getting close to the finish line, not long now ladies :)

Hmm, well ds1 did wake at two from his lunchtime sleep with a fever of 40.1....highest yet and raises the question of are the antibiotics actually working. Back down to 37.5 now and playing with Lego but not anticipating much sleep again tonight. To make the decision to go even harder, the friend I was supposed to be staying with left a vm to say her daughter is in the throes of a vomiting bug which they have all had and she'd rather I didn't stay...felt like the world as conspiring against my trip totally. I have found someone else to stay with but...she has just moved house so we are going to be sharing a bed!!!! Me at 28 weeks pg and a complete insomniac in the first place, sharing a bed.

Hi mythree sounds like a nasty infection. I've had pylonephritis like toby and it can be hard to clear. There are lots of different antibiotics they can try though. Presumably they've done a culture on a urine sample so know exactly what sort of bacteria they should be targeting? So long as he's keeping down fluids that temp should come down eventually. Poor thing.

I'm glad that everyone's blood sugars are behaving themselves so far. I'm not managing my insulin:food balance very well and keep ending up a bit low. Diabetes nurse scared me on the phone yesterday because typically my sugars should be getting higher not lower and it can signal a problem with the baby. Getting lots of kicks though and have a scan tomorrow anyway so hopefully things are ok.

I hope your trip goes well mythree after all this hassle. Fx the antibiotics start working.

humpty my boss has been a bit of a pratt this week! Sent me an email expecting me to be responding to emails. I'm on leave this week although i am keeping an eye on emails for emergencies which this wasn't ! Given that I've been having to work from home because I have been working so hard and have made myself ill recently I think I earned a break! I still don't think he fully appreciates I won't be there next year so they will have to find some other way to sort these things out!

Thanks tarka and toby for your heads up about pyelonephritis. You are right, because of his hypospadias he is more at risk of kidney infections so this could be the actual problem. Test results from initial unions sample will be ready tomorrow or thurs, so after that we will be one step closer to knowing what on earth is going on. He hasn't complained of back ache at all which is one thing, just a really bad head ache. Anyhow, fingers x for a better night tonight.

For all those with babies lying in the wrong position, good luck with turning them around!

nature your boss's behaviour is the reason I was so stressed last week with one client expecting me to react to them 24/7 over the full week (when I only 'work' Mondays and Tuesdays for them.) they then had the audacity to say they couldn't pay me above and beyond the two days that I do. Era, ok well please don't call me at nine pm on a Thursday then!! People!

Er, urine, not unions. Bloody predictive text.

Ps humpty you go girl!! Well said and stick to your guns. We should all stop trying to bend over backwards for once. A lesson and inspiration to us all.

sarahleanne ah i'm certain if I take a break I'll never go back! Plus for stupidly long complicated reasons, I can't get income support but if I stop uni I can't get my maintenance loan - so I can't basically I need to study to get any finances!