December 2013 - waddling slowly onwards

[LadyMedea]

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xena I'm very ready for it to be over, pregnancy is very long I think.
I never mind up until about 30ish weeks but I think that's when the back aches and heartburn and everything else gets worse.

I'm not sleeping much at all and then getting up with the kids at 6am is really tiring me out now.
I feel really bad when complaining as this baby is very much wanted but the rest of life (cooking, cleaning, work etc) doesn't stop and I can't even bend down anymore lol

Had a weird dream last night, I was constantly sitting on the toilet as tmi alert my body was constantly having a number 2 cleaning itself out ready for labour then I kept waking up moaning to dp about where have these new baby things come from

Oops pressed post..... And there are no new recent baby things.

But only 7 weeks to go on Monday.

Have a good day everyone

Two hairy babies here too and heartburn with both! Heartburn this time too but I think I'm just suceptible to it (get it occasionally when not preggers too)

stomsorry to hear you weren't well-hope it doesn't happen again!

frouby (was it frouby? Can't check on my phone!) thanks for tip re tagine. I love my slow cooker and always looking for new recipes- and love tagines!

I've got really bad pelvic pain, stater yesterday but it's at the back-kind of lower back/pelvis where all those pelvic bones are. I've had it before it's almost like a bone has gone out of place and I need it clicked back. It causes me to limp the pain is so bad. not sure doc can help- need to see osteopath again I think. DH is away on business till Sunday too so I have to do everything including lifting ds2 into and out of his cot which I really shouldn't be doing- kills my back.

I really feel for those of you working at the moment-it must be really tough. Trying to keep a house tidy and clean and look after 2 kids is knackering but at least if I really am shattered I can just stop! (Hence house is not as clean or tidy as I would like!)

Mumof2, let me know if you can't find the recipe and I'll try and get it on here for you. Really is lovely! First time I've done a tangine so can't tell you how it compares to a normal one but it was delish. In fact there is enough for some more for lunch today lol.

How much is too much excercise wise? I'm 30 weeks tomorrow and really struggling with the school run on foot. Its half a mile there and half a mile back, done twice a day. I'm getting breathless half way through the walk unless I go really slowly and when I get home I have to rest for at least 20 mins.

I'm really pissed off as I like doing the school run. I take the dog so she gets out at set times each day and if I didn't do the school run with her I'd still have to take her out twice a day.

I'm also pissed off as when I was pg with DD 9 years ago I did a really physically demanding job right until the end where I walked miles each day. And always said that if i got pg again I'd carry on as normal.

I do have asthma and have stopped smoking early on which you think would make things better but am wheezing and rattling like an old man at min lol, which I didn't do before and I am using a lot more blue inhaler and started using the brown one again twice a day.

Sigh, just fed up with being physically fooked all the time but brain doing overtime all night. Got a list a mile long of things I want to get done today but all I can think about is sneaking back to bed for an hour. And I have the car sat outside so it's really tempting to use that one way on the school run. But then I worry if I can't manage 2 1 mile walks 5 days a week at 30 weeks how am I going to cope with labour and recovery at 40 weeks?

mum I was just thinking how much harder it's going to be physically when I do go off on maternity leave. At least at work I get to sit down at my desk. Once I'm off I can't justify sending DS1 (a very energetic 2.5 year old) to his child minder so am going be chasing after him myself! Aaargh!
Feel really bad for anyone who works on their feet all day. You have my respect!
Hope you all have good days.

frouby I am exactly the same. It is about a mile walk to town from our flat and I am really starting to find it a struggle. It usually takes me 10-15 minutes to walk there but yesterday it took nearly 45 minutes and I was gasping like anything.
I think it's because our bodies have so much going on and we are carrying extra weight. Even if you are normal weight for your weeks, the baby is an extra 2lbs alone then you add on the waters, placenta, giant boobs. It's no wonder we get tired easier!

You'll be fine frouby my breathlessness went away after babies were out, so did my painful bit under my right boob, babies came out and I was like ooh the pain under my boob has gone lol

Dp always said he couldn't believe the difference in me as soon as baby was out, although the tiredness still stays thanks to night feeds lol.

But I was quite lucky that both mine slept all though from 10 weeks and ds2 was the only baby on the labour ward that slept through the night after he was born, it was the lady and the baby in the next bed that kept me up.....typical while mine slept

Remember you were younger too Hun 9 years ago, I don't care what anyone says, I think this gets harder the older you are.

I have a very physical heavy lifting job and I walk constantly for 9 hours a day 5 days a week and I find it very difficult too, were carrying lots more weight with us than usual, I'm always telling dp to slow down, he may as well run ahead of me

Hop you feeling better soon

When you say breathless what do you mean? Could you hold a conversation or are you completely out of puff and gasping for air?

I'm only 29 weeks but I don't really feel like I've had to slow down much over the course of pregnancy yet. I dropped a lot of stuff due to first trimester tiredness and obviously I've had to adapt some things I do to make way for bump, but I fully expect it to kick in over the next 2 weeks as my lungs get progressively squished. I do remember getting breathless more easily when walking with DS and having to consciously slow rather than do less.

I appear to be measuring very small :( 25cm at 29weeks. Got a scan on the 24th anyway but MW didn't seem at all concerned. I have no idea where the weight I've put on is going if it's not on baby!!!

Whisper, I know exactly what you mean! My username on every other site up until now has been 'thatliz' but when I started signing up to pregnancy/ parenting websites I was only about 8 weeks pg and didn't want to be outed

Big hugs to everyone that's struggling with aches and pains at the moment I think we've all reached a point where we need to accept that we should be taking it easy from now on!

At the moment I seem to be exhausted after doing the simplest of tasks like loading and unloading the washing machine, but feel absolutely fine after a 15 minute stroll into town...
I suppose that just goes to show the difference between going at your own pace and doing things quickly in short bursts, though!

DP and I are off to an 'expectant parent event' at Mothercare this evening. Apparently there's going to be product demonstrations, nursing bra fittings, baby yoga and massage experts on hand, safety advice, all that sort of thing... Ooh and a goodie bag and light refreshments!
Should be a nice, informative evening although I've got a feeling it might make me want to spend lots of money!

Nom I can hold a conversation but feel very panty if you know what I mean? If I walked at my usual pace I'd be buggered but waddling along and having a yes/no conversation is OK. Couldn't do a 5 min speech though. In fact have just been on phone to friend and had to get off after 10 mins as I was loading washing machine up at same time and it was too much effort!

Have my asthma review next week so going to have a chat with nurse and if it's not asthma and I know my iron levels OK can only assume its baby squishing my lungs. Little bugger lol. Plus as Whisper has said all the extra weight (stone and a half last time I got on scales 3 weeks ago) in a funny place (on tummy and boobs) is a bit much to carry around!

Try not to worry about your measurements too much. All M/Ws measure in different places I think and even the scans are open to interpretation. DD was supposed to be very, very small too. Around the 5lb mark I think but was actually 5lb 12oz with long, skinny legs!

I've got another scan too, but not whilst 24th of Oct. Can't wait to see him again, taking DD (aged 9) for a nosey so I hope he does stuff on camera for her! On the last one I could see him opening and closing his mouth and swallowing, and sucking his fingers so I hope he puts on a show for his big sister!

Don't know whether to do a pile of ironing or do the skirting boards on the stairs lol. Might do the ironing and get that out of the way and cheat tomorrow and use car for school run in morning then have loads of energy to do a big clean! In fact have to use car tomorrow in morn as she has to take her baritone (huge big brass trombone thing) back and it weighs a bloody ton lol.

I am feeling "strange". Not in a medical kind of way, but more an emotional way. I started back at work this week after two weeks off following a relativley big bleed at 26 weeks. My two weeks off were rounded up with a horrid cold which quickly turned into a chest infection.

I was really nervous about going back to work because amongst other reasons, the time off made me realise how fragile things can be.

I am really fortunate that I have a really good sick leave benefit and it will cover me until my maternity leave starts. I also have 11 days annual leave which will carry over to next financial year and which I plan to tag on to the end of my maternity leave. That will make up for my mat leave starting two weeks earlier than planned.

I had a consultant appointment yesterday and she has written in my notes to consider taking sick leave so I can get the GP to sign me off.

I have a very supportive line manager who seems to support this decision. we just need to make it official.

I went into the office today and have discretely cleared out my desk. I don't have a huge amount of stuff anyway and to anyone passing by I was just have a "nesting" tidy up.

So for once, all the cards are in my favour.

I work 45 miles away from my house and I am out of the house for at least 12 hours a day to include travel and a full on job, albeit a desk job. I do get two days a week for working from home, but topping it off with not sleeping, I am absolutely shattered by the time I get home, and when I work from home I end up doing really long days to keep up with my workload.

The consultant made it very clear that if I have another bleed, or feel any pain, or experience anything, I should go to the assesment unit as it might mean the baby has stopped growing or that I have gone into early labour. The chances are there is nothing wrong, and if I have no more bleeds and my placenta moves, I might still be able to have a home birth - but that means not knackering myself out with work. So it is a no brainer that I get signed off for work.

But I feel a little bit like I am cheating, but then every mile I drive away from my home (which is next to the hospital) the more panicky I get that I will be "caught out". I am also even more paranoid about all the twiches, aches etc. My baby goes quiet for a while every few days and it chose last night to be really quiet, so I was panicking about that. All fine today though :)

I don't know what I expect by sharing this with you. As of next tuesday, I am likely to be on sick leave, but I feel really edgy and needed to get things off my chest! And the more I think about it, the more I keep making it sound like a room full of negatives, which can't be further from the truth.

I know I am doing the right thing, but it still feels naughty. I am not the first pregnant woman to walk this earth, so why should I get the right to have two and a halve months at home before my official due date?

Oh pink stop beating yourself up. You are correct you are not the first pregnant lady, but everyone is different. You are doing this for your baby. You need rest and relaxation not work related stress. The doctors wouldn't have suggested it if it wasn't a good idea. I think we are so programmed to think working is the best thing to be doing that we forget that sometimes our bodies just need to slow down. Growing a person is incredibly hard work and it takes its toll. There will be some women who work up till their due date happily and there will be others who need to stop. It isn't worth getting worked up over. Just think of all the lie ins you can have now! Be nice to yourself and do all the things you wanted to do before baby comes.

Don't feel bad Pink it sounds like you'd be doing the best thing for you and your baby to take the time off. You sound like you work really hard and i'm sure you'll continue to for years to come, so is it really that bad that you take a teeny bit of extra time off in between?

Xena I'm soo fed up with being pregnant lol! The constant aches and pains, having to heave myself around, the heartburn and the breathlessness. I was doing a 3 mile walk everyday up until 29 weeks but now I'm 31 i just can't manage it all the time. Went out yesterday and where as it was taking me 30 mins it took me twice that and i fell asleep for an hour as soon as I got in. Also got overtaken by a couple who looked like they were in their 80's! I've recently started getting super emotional over things too. I cry at almost anything sad but also get over whelmed by feeling happy too. I'm a bit like a crazy drunk telling DP how much i love him and how happy i am, feel like a right twonk, haha.

Can I get something off my chest too? My anxiety levels are high at the moment because we've still got so much to sort out for when baby arrives. We decided earlier this year to stop using protection and see if we got pregnant, thinking that in the mean time there'd be plenty of time to get prepared. But it happened that we got preggo after having sex 3 times. I feel incredibly lucky that it was easy for us as I know that's often not the case but we've been playing catch up ever since and it's caused a lot of stress. DP has gone from freelance to a permanent job so we're more secure financially. He's now living away during the week with his mum and I'm at home living in a tiny village with no car and no friends or family around. We've put the house on the market and are trying to re-locate to DP's new job and closer to family. It's a bit of a mess but it's down to our own naivety, I feel so stupid that we didn't hold off and get things sorted before hand. I can't regret what we've done because we're going to have a baby because of it and both couldn't be happier. But I do feel like an idiot that we started trying without considering that it might happen straight away. Really sorry for the moan and feeling sorry for myself

Thank you Whisper :)

Pink, listen to Whisper, she is wise! I'm sure I've said it on mumsnet before, but I'm convinced the only reason so many women work so close to their due date is because its a toss up between that or spending less time with their baby afterwards because of the way maternity leave works in this country. It certainly is for me. In years gone by women stopped work at 6 months even with the most straightforward pregnancy, and no one batted an eyelid, so please don't worry about it

Hope you're feeling better Stom!

itsliz, did you post about the expectant parent event a few days ago? If it was you, thank you! DH and I are off to one tonight too. I'm excited, he looks less thrilled about it though

I am very wise No need to thank me pink just telling the truth

Thank you to all for your lovely support. I swear mumsnet has been a lifesaver for me as a first timer.

You make some good points which I will take on board :)

meandbumpy we were the same as you. We weren't actively trying, but it was more we would like a family and I am hating what the pill is doing to me, so I am going to come off the pill and we both know what that might mean. I came off the pill in January and was pregnant by the beginning of April.

We are super excited, but had already started demolishing the house for DIY and the house is no where near ready yet. But as other mumsnetters have said to me, it all seems worse than it is and it will be alright on the night.

I am sure your house will sell in good time, so perhaps you could start packing and sorting your stuff. I bet there is loads you can put on freecycle or chuck away. That might take the pressure off when it comes to moving, and it might even help sell the house.

Is it an option to rent out your house? then you could move before the baby comes, or not long after.

Take each thing one step at a time and remember all the positives.

Pink - we are also knocking through a wall and it seems that most of my yoga class are moving, refurbing or overhauling! I think it's a pregnancy thing!

Trying to remember the positives of being pregnant but have searing pain on the left side mid back - is it worth harassing the midwives for? I was in tears with the pain earlier when sat at my desk but lying down now, it's mostly okay.

Hello ladies,

I've been lurking for a while on this thread and thought it only polite I should introduce myself! I'm due dc1 on Boxing Day. I was on the January thread initially (initially due date 1st Jan), but couldn't keep up, the pace here suits me better! Things are going well mainly, after horrific morning sickness early on I've been quite lucky since. Today though I had a complete meltdown, I normally work 10+ hour days as a teacher and it's just starting to kill me, I cried in between every lesson today! So have made an early escape today hope I can rest enough to cope with tomorrow. I am putting on a play in mid November, hopefully once that's over I can slow down a bit, unless ofsted turn up ...!

I doubt I'll post much as I'm not much of a 'chatter', but I love reading this thread and seeing that I'm not alone! X

pink it's expected in France that you go off around 6 weeks before, longer if you have a big commute or a manual job. Don't worry about not being at work, just take the time to rest and relax and cook that baby!

mean the adjustment to parenthood is hard even when you've TTCed for more than a month! DS was a surprise, okay a stupid risk, so I understand that panic about thinking you would have more time but it will all work out in the end. They say the 3 most stressful life events are marriage, moving and having a baby and you're trying to do 2/3 at the same time so I reckon a little anxiety is normal

Pistachio Yes, it was! Hope you enjoy it Not really sure what to expect but I'm excited... Not sure if the same can be said for my OH either though! Which store are you going to, if you don't mind me asking?

Pink As everyone else has said, you really shouldn't feel bad. At the end of the day you have to do what's best for you and baby and whether you like it or not, any aches and pains and problems are your body's way of telling you to slow down!
I know it feels early to be taking time off, but it's easy to forget that we're all into the third trimester now and very much on the home stretch!
You're in a great position being able to leave work now and be on such good terms with your managers, so just try your best to enjoy it and make the most of your time off

I know it's easier said than done though - My contract finished at the end of August which means that I've been unemployed (or on 'extended maternity leave', depending on how you look at it ) for about 6 weeks now. Although I've been desperately searching for work, I'm very lucky in that DP has encouraged me to stay at home and let him pay for everything instead.
It's great but it doesn't stop me from feeling a bit worthless and guilty that I'm not contributing as much as I could be financially... I'm slowly starting to realise that it's more important that I relax, de-stress and prepare for our baby than slave away at a job I hate, though!

On a completely different note, my nesting is getting way out of control... I spent over an hour reading reviews of steam cleaners online earlier and I've convinced myself that we NEED one so that I can clean the flat from top to bottom before baby arrives.
DP is convinced that I've gone mad

Welcome qumquat :)

I'm feeling alot better today - baby's hasn't stopped wriggling all day - last night she was so happy i think because dp had returned home after 2 nights away! Hasn't stopped wiggling since!

Got a obstetrician appointment tomorrow! I don't have a clue what he will talk about or what to expect has anyone been to. One before? I take it we will discuss how. My condition affects pregnancy and birth etc?

Hi everyone, I really understand those of you who are feeling bad about considering/leaving work early -I have had to but in all honesty it is the best thing -I think not only for yourselves & babies but also work -I'm a teacher and I feel that at least now the students will get a long term replacement rather than just a different cover each lesson. Those of you who are still going are to be greatly admired!

I had a midwife app today and asked her about raspberry leaf -I had stocked up hoping to begin in the next day or so at 32 weeks but she said not to -instead wait until 36 as it can trigger early labour. -everywhere I've need reading online seems to suggest 32 -have any of you had experience of it?

I feel like I'm at the stage where I will try anything due to the fear of the unknown ahead, I am trying a hypnobirthing cd and also bananas for carpal tunnel!

Have any of you experienced braxton hicks at all? I have felt vague period type pains on and off -more so today but the midwife assured me its normal? I will still be dr googling later!

Dont Google! It'll scare you!! Period type pain could be just everything stretching as baby is getting bigger.. I had Bh all night while I was in the hospital... My tummy would just go really hard but ddidn't hurt at all

Dr Google is the worst decision! Saying that, I still do it and convince myself that I am dying of several ailments.

Tell you what, I am exhausted today. No idea why as I have had a 3 hour nap and not done anything other than shuffle around the flat. Was meant to be going to the cinema tonight too. Wednesday is the only night me and DP go out because we get the orange Wednesday code and he has an unlimited card so it's totally free. I cannot make the walk there though so I am upset and frustrated but have told him he can go anyway. No point him missing out on his night out just because I'm tired.