Martians 2014: thread 10. More scans, bigger bumps and eating for two! Nearly halfway there, ladies!

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Thread 9

Shiny new thread. Welcome all those due to pop out a baby in March 14, whether you're an old hand or a newbie, come join the fun!

grey your man sounds like a diamond! I'd quite like some kid glove treatment...my mums here being a total star though

hotcross I'm sure it would take more to offend you!

Gawj, what do you feel bad about? That your fiance has the ability to make you utterly miserable and afraid? Look after that baby.

Also has anyone booked themselves in for flu vaccine?

Gawj this is a really bad idea. I really don't have a good feeling about you seeing him again. Can I ask what made you want to meet him?

Scottish men are not all arseholes, just all the ones I know haha! OH never smoked with his other children pram he only started two years ago.

Grey I understand that it is a horrible thing to put my child through but is living in a homeless unit with my baby really better, total catch 22 and I'm just hoping that he will realise he's being a cunt before baby arrives!

Also been to the emergency doctor surgery about my stomach pain and its not round ligament pain. Something to do with an inflamed bladder, more urine samples have been sent away and I will hopefully get this sorted asap cause I bloody hurts!

Hope everyone is having a nice sunday!

disclaimer: Scottish men are not all arseholes!, I have snogged dated and loved many..Oh just has a major blind spot but one day I will come on here and tell u all how lovely he actually is

I've prop got no place to say this but ladies, some of you really seem to be choosing the wrong guys?! I can't believe some of the stuff i've read on here about OH / DHs. Seriously, there are some amazing men out there - please go and find them! You deserve so much better than this.

Hello everyone,

I'm 14 weeks pregnant with baby number 1, EDD: 24th March.

Pregnancy has been a nightmare so far - with the recent problem being a huge bleed on Thursday of fresh red blood. It was everywhere, scared the life out of me. I went straight to the hospital and baby was ok thankfully. That was my 3rd bleed of the pregnancy though the previous 2 bleeds had just been old/dried blood and spotting.

Due to bleeds and sickness I have only worked 3 days in the last 5 weeks and now, following this recent bleed my manager is keen to get me signed off Sick for the remainder of the pregnancy.

anyway - I just wanted to say hello and now I'm going to go and thread through the thread so I can familiarise myself with your names and stories

Gawj Try and remember how you felt a few nights ago. When you had your doors locked and curtains drawn and were terrified that he was going to break in to the house.

He hasn't shown one ounce of compassion for you or your baby. He won't ever change. Him feeling 'sad' and remorseful is an act, we all said he would do this.

No good is going to come from you meeting up with him. I'm sorry if this seems harsh but I've been in your position and you need to be strong and walk away for the sake of your baby if nothing else.

I've worked it out apprentice, it's regional. All my bad experiences with Scottish men have been with men from my neck of the woods (East Coast) Glasgow are where the real gems are

Writer Welcome!

All that bleeding must have been so scary. So glad that everything was okay. Rest sounds like the best plan and it sounds like you have a supportive manager, so take the time off

gaw do not let him weasel his way in my ex used to beat the shit out of me and I must have fallen for the 'I'm so sorry, I didn't mean it I'll change' shit about 50 times! Please be strong if not for you, for baby. Ex is in jail for hitting his new girlfriend and for threatening to kill her daughter. He will make you feel guilty please don't fall for it, you are beautiful, strong and you are going to be an amazing mummy!

All my bad experiences with men have been when they have a dick, two balls and are breathing.

Welcome writer cannot imagine how that must feel I was freaking out at a bit of tummy pain, hope you are feeling okay :)

Very true pram.. Idk I do miss him inknow I shouldnt but I really do :(

Think am gonna book myself in for flu jab in a week it seems only positives on nhs site so no reason not to ! X

Babybear, give me your definition of 'amazing men'. Those of us who have struggled recently with issues around our relationships would still say our men are 'amazing' in some ways. I know I would. If a man is cruel or emotionally or physically abusive, that is another matter. But men coming in late and smoking are not automatically consigned to the scrapheap. Some of these men are brilliant fathers, hard workers, loved by our mothers and friends and shit-hot in bed. You can't have it all, can you?

pram have to disagree, my friends OH only has 1 ball and he's a major cunt!

Welcome Writer! I'm so sorry to hear about your scare. Thank goodness everything is ok now. I'm due on the 24th too!!

Gawj definitely get the jab. They won't do it till you're better though. It's ok to miss him. That's totally understandable. But he will do this again.

Hi all, been away this weekend so trying to catch up!

Wonder I honestly don't think you can make him give up - when I was a smoker I had to reach the point where I wanted to quit, all previous attempts had failed because I wasn't ready to do it myself, I was quitting because others wanted me to. My stubborn nature kicked in :) I think as long as he's not smoking around you or the baby, I would just leave it for now, he may be more inclined to stop once the baby is here.

Kara I don't feel the same way about your DP - harming himself is one thing, but smoking around the baby is utterly disgusting - does he know that he is potentially risking his baby's life/health? Can you explain the higher risk of SIDS (cot death) and that your baby could end up with health problems for life because of his laziness? For me if that was DH I wouldn't be living with him, but obviously that is a personal thing. My DH and 2 of his siblings (all in their 30's and 40's) still have severe asthma, one doesn't and that is the only sibling to be born while his parents had quit smoking for a few years.

Hi Writer :)

Babybear I don't think there is such a thing as a perfect DP - I love my husband entirely, and wouldn't ever want to be without him, he's amazing. However that's not to say he doesn't have his faults, they are things that I love him despite/that are part of who he is and I'm happy that we can usually come to a compromise on any issues we have. It has taken a lot of hard work to get to this point though, and we have had incidents that have made me question the relationship particularly when we first had DS as he struggled a lot as a new dad (have since had diagnosis of male PND which neither of us knew existed before). If I had just thought "there's better out there" we never would have found the happiness we now have.

Hope everyone has had a lovely weekend :)

baby bear I'm sure your comments were intended to sound supportive but pram and the other poster has it well articulated. For all the foibles and character weaknesses of our oh like I said, you are not hearing the full picture. Having been with my oh for eight years , one child and three stepchildren who are amazing later and good as married, there is clearly more to him than I have mentioned. Please do not patronize or give glib advice..The forum must be a safe space to vent (and many a time my/our rants are disproportionate, due to other stressors and yep hormones). Hope this make sense (and please don't see it as an attack) bc I'm sure u meant well.

hotcross yep he's an east coaster! I'm a west coaster and must admit I'm biased towards weejie lads..Cheeky charm etc.

I also have a theory that pregnancy triggers male regression as they panic to make the most of remaining freedom! I've been this happen with my friends' dh before her wedding too..

My mum's cooking a roast lamb with all the trimmings. Smells lush . Bbeing a mum is a life's work..and I love mine to bits

girls, I rrally didn't mean to offend. theres some amazing women on here. I guess just hearing some of these things really shocked me and I can't imagine how hard it,must be to be pregnant and not have 100% support from OH! I'm not trying to be judgemental, just want you all to not have any shit to deal with.

Babybear, I'm sure you meant well but your comments are not appreciated. Some of our DPs have flaws and we should be working those out, not ditching them at the drop of a hat for all those "wonderful men" out there. All those of us having troubles have DPs who are wonderful in their own ways but there are issues to be addressed. I'm not about to bin the father of my unborn child because he's not perfect. I'm glad your DP/DH is so perfect that you never feel the need for a moan about him. Congrats.

Bit harsh Lyra but a cross post maybe?

Yes, cross post but I still think it needed to be said.