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Martians 2014: thread 10. More scans, bigger bumps and eating for two! Nearly halfway there, ladies!

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IceNoSlice · 25/09/2013 21:16

Thread 9

Shiny new thread. Welcome all those due to pop out a baby in March 14, whether you're an old hand or a newbie, come join the fun!

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MummyPig24 · 28/09/2013 16:34

Surnames: we gave dd dhs surname, we weren't married then. And last summer we changed ds name by deed poll (he has a different father who has not been involved and ds doesn't know exists. That's a whole other story!) Now dh and I are married we all have the same name, which is nice after feeling quite divided for a while, ds and me, dd and him. Now we are all Harpers!

I got my mum to be bounty pack today. When do we get the next one? Is it after the baby is born when they hassle you to have the pictures taken?

LyraSilvertongue · 28/09/2013 16:39

Was it fun, Jolls?

DS2 and I have been out to lunch today, just the two of us. DS1 is out paintballing with his dad and some of his friends for his belated birthday treat (August baby).

Then DS2 and I visited the market to buy fruit and veg. For the princely sum of £5 we got:

4 large ears of sweetcorn
10 peppers, red, green and yellow
A bulb of garlic
A large honeydew melon
5 pomegranates
One of those long white radishes
4kg of cherry tomatoes

Not bad, eh? Smile

Jolleigh · 28/09/2013 16:50

I enjoyed it. DP not so much. He was being proper grumpy for the first half. Cheered up later though. Quite a few freebies too. Went to the sea life centre after Grin

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 28/09/2013 16:52

Kara, your first stop with your dog has to be the vets. Get him thoroughly checked out. His behaviour may well ve caused by an underlying problem. Then maybe have a chat with a behaviourist. Start a thread in The Doghouse here on MN. There are a few fanatical sorts who will probably suggest that you should keep the dog and re home the baby, Confused but there's lots of very good Advice too. Your dog can probably sense subtle changes in your behaviour/personality, and is responding. Im sure he will be fine given time.
What breed is he?

lumpylumps · 28/09/2013 17:14

becca we got our new car yesterday. It's lovely but I feel like I'm driving a tank. I'm too young to be driving a car big enough for 3 car seats!!!

I've just been to a baby shower for 2 of the girls at work and got my 1st baby pressie, some booties, a bar of chocolate and a big bottle of badedas!!

BNmum · 28/09/2013 18:08

Sounds like a nightmare teddy, is the any chance the school will try and separate the 2 boys during class time so that your DS doesn't have an audience or a bad influence to distract him?

Even though I'm married and I've taken DH's surname I gave DS my maiden name as a middle name. There's only females left on my side of the family so I suppose that branch will die out Sad which upsets me and this was one way to continue it. I now have to decide whether this little bubba should also have it as a middle name.

Coolhand · 28/09/2013 18:25

Teddy sounds difficult. They should be discussing clear strategies with you to help deal with the situation rather than just pointing out the behaviours and additional stretch and challenge sounds like a very good strategy to at least attempt to me. Try and rest up because you need to get better. In terms of no movements, perhaps placenta is just in the way this time! Or maybe they are a bit more chilled out than the others.

I'm having one of those, I'm a crap mum afternoons. DS was just super difficult all afternoon and I lost it and really shouted at him. Hate it when that happens. But oh well, will keep it in perspective.

Prambo · 28/09/2013 18:54

Coolhand, you're not a shit mum! Kids can be shits, no? Nowt wrong with a bit o' yellin' They know you love 'em.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 28/09/2013 19:22

Teddy im 16.2 and have no movement either. I know the little buggers in there, ive had so many scans I should get my own tv channel! My placenta is in the front. Ive googled and some people with this don't feel anything until well after 20 weeks. It's poo because the little kicks are very reassuring, but try not to worry too much!

IceNoSlice · 28/09/2013 19:47

Hello all, been MIA since yesterday afternoon and just caught up. Pram sorry I just saw your FB and feel for you but have nothing to usefully add. I have been so sheltered- all the illness etc in my family happened with a generation between, so my mum took on most of the burden of dealing with my Nana's health conditions.

Welcome madwife and I agree with the others with a general respect and appreciation for your profession. How about we refrain from asking you loads of questions if you don't get uppity if we slate some MWs we come across on this journey? I'm sure you're aces in every way Smile but, as in every field, there seems quite a range.

I'm in a stinker of a mood today. My parents are here and did us a big favour by babysitting last night but they are driving me nuts today. It doesn't help that my brother just arrived and, whilst not exactly favouritism, they do treat him differently. They pander too him as the 'baby' and make allowances all the time. I'm 32, he's 30 so hardly a child.

I've spent a fair bit of today cooking a nice meal and he's turned up 4 hours later than he said he would (he did text but still, I was a bit put out). But my parents are all 'poor brother, all that traffic, I hope he's ok' and pandering to him - he did hit some traffic but not 4 hours worth. No consideration of me at all. Grump, grump, grump.

Sorry, as you were.

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NoMaybeAboutIt · 28/09/2013 20:21

I'm going to attempt to catch up, but my memory is awful today!!

Pram I promise I will reply on fb, my mind is like mush tonight, but I will x

Teddy so sorry you're having a rubbish time Sad. I'm sure the baby is just fine though. Have you got some antibiotics now? I hope so.

So I have felt the odd little movements. I'm 14+5. The only reason I know is cos I've heard them through the Doppler, so know what to expect.

Kara. 18 months is a tough age. Ours is 2 now and is much better, but 18 months felt like we had reverted to puppy again. He is very stubborn anyway. But he took it out on DH rather than me, as he is the soft touch and I'm not. We go to a special dog school that's run by behaviourists. They are amazing. One thing they taught us is you have to be so black and white with them. I think he can sense your pregnant, and it testing you. He certainly doesn't hate you though. I would definitely recommend a behaviourist, as they will be able to see you both in your own environment and then get to the bottom of it. I'm sorry your pain is no better x

And now my mind is blank Hmm

Prambo · 28/09/2013 20:27

Oh do fuck off, Abbey Clancy, you vacuous slut.

Prambo · 28/09/2013 20:32

IceAwAPuddyTat. Ugh. I hate hearing of silly parents pandering to their grown-up children. What makes them do this? It's very weird. I'm sorry the tardy little twat made you feel unappreciated. Here, have these: Thanks

Marbie, you have done enough. I love you xxx

Jolleigh · 28/09/2013 20:33

kara - my initial instinct says NoMaybe is probably right about your pup. Has he ever tested your dominance? Sight is a secondary sense for dogs after smell...you don't smell like his master any more. My old husky started testing the boundaries when she was about a year old. Not with me (my dominance wasn't in question) but with the ex. We got around it by making sure he was the one feeding her and he made her work for her food...to her, her behaviour for him then had a greater value. (It also helped me to get the lazy freeloading bastard out of bed).

In other news...I have an uber craving for creamed corn, eaten cold. But hee hum, none in.

BadlyWrittenPoem · 28/09/2013 20:38

"Today a colleague told me her daughter (who is new to the school) asked her, 'Who is the one that is really skinny but also pregnant and it just doesn't work?'" Cool I am appalled that she deemed it acceptable to pass it on! It's not like you're sporting a bump as some kind of fashion statement! (Incidentally, I'm not looking forward to becoming obviously pregnant because of the fact that I know people will think it acceptable to comment on my appearance. Why do people think it becomes acceptable to make such personal comments just because a person is pregnant!?)

Welcome Madwife. I don't object to MWs as long as they are not phoning up by husband with threats I can't have a home birth or frightening by child into thinking her baby sibling will die during birth. Since you are unlikely to do either of those I think you're safe. Smile

becca my inlaws wrote our car off last year and I felt really sad about it as it was my first car. (Though as it turns out it's been a good thing as we would've needed a new car to fit this baby in!)

JK, if your children sign the card then I think you should be able to collect them - before we were married, DH used to collect parcels for me by me doing that and we didn't even have the same address.

Teddy, that sounds very frustrating with your son's school. They are supposed to provide a suitable education and refusing to do so on the grounds that he is behaving badly because they aren't is outrageous! Also, if interaction with another child is making his behaviour worse then it is the school's responsibility to be keeping them separate as much as possible! I always made sure to arrange children in the classroom in a way that minimised those interactions that lead to a downward spiral of behaviour - I think it's a basic part of classroom management and really isn't difficult.

Teddy, I think feeling movements can be affected by where your placenta is - third time I felt movements two weeks later than the previous time which I think was because of an anterior placenta and I have a friend who said at her anomaly scan with either her third or fourth (I forget which), she could see the baby moving like crazy on the screen but still couldn't feel a thing.

Edamame I would have thought traditionally a child to unmarried parents would have had their mother's surname. I think it used to be the case that the father couldn't even be put on the birth certificate unless married to the mother. I know my something like four or five greats grandfather had his mother's surname due to his parents not being married.

Teddybear4 · 28/09/2013 20:41

Thanks for the suggestions. They won't separate BNmum as they say they need to learn to work properly together. Will definitely be asking for constructive strategies rather than pointing out what is wrong.

No idea on dogs - we have one and he's a pain so I'm not qualified to advise Smile

London meet sounds good will watch where you get to on dates and see if I can come. We're in a Not London backwater.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 28/09/2013 20:45

Badly, you try telling people your baby is different! Ive had some interesting conversations already! Hmm Confused

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 28/09/2013 20:46

Id quite like a bump for people to comment on. Im still shrinking! Confused

Prambo · 28/09/2013 20:48

BWP, I love reading the eminently sensible and levelled responses in your posts. They are always perfectly pitched and I see you as the thread prefect. Love it!

Prambo · 28/09/2013 21:04

Rosyran, Hoopins & Babybear, where are you? Are you okay?

BadlyWrittenPoem · 28/09/2013 21:05

Saggy I can imagine it must be very difficult. Sad

BadlyWrittenPoem · 28/09/2013 21:06

Thanks Pram

BadlyWrittenPoem · 28/09/2013 21:06

polishes not polished - why do s and d have to be next to each other?!

JK10 · 28/09/2013 21:08

Thanks for the tip BWP think they are a load of jobs worths at our postal office. Didn't say that would be acceptable so will try next time. I was basically told that anyone could collect their mail who have the same surname as my kids, the address was irrelevant which pissed me off even more considering their name is brown which is so common! Another person who don't even know my kids could collect my kids mail as long the name was brown! Wanted to scream "but I'm the kids mother!"

cool I shouted at one of mine today too! Don't feel bad, u can only take so much and caught at the wrong time even the calmest person shouts!

teddy seems crazy that they won't separate them! Surely it would make the teachers job easier too if they think the behaviour between them is that bad. Good luck for your meeting

ice I hope your evening has improved

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 28/09/2013 21:08

Sorry. That wasnt a self pitying post. It is quite amusing sometimes!

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