Martians 2014: thread 10. More scans, bigger bumps and eating for two! Nearly halfway there, ladies!

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Thread 9

Shiny new thread. Welcome all those due to pop out a baby in March 14, whether you're an old hand or a newbie, come join the fun!

I may need to buy all of those grey. Made me chuckle

I got some chewable vitamin D tablets from Tesco because trying to take tablets was making me sick. They are for children and are only 5ug so I've been taking two. They have calcium in them too but the pharmacist said this would be fine.

I'm sure I saw a variety of vitamin D supplements in Boots, including a liquid one, so I plan to have another look when I have a chance to get there (why do I live in the middle of nowhere again?) as otherwise the chewable ones will get a bit expensive.

Love those mugs!

Also having pizza for dinner, cos we quite simply can't be arsed to cook. Plus I have to work this weekend so need cheering up. Grumble grumble.

Finally watched the birth video. Was expecting worse tbh.

Owl, because she's a great cutter and cheap, two factors which enable me to overlook the fact that she's a trollop who thrives on slag-fests. I'm also horribly aware of how difficult it is these days to find a hairdresser who isn't a useless sack of shit.

I've just had a pizza and chips takeaway. I have taken a violent dislike to the new delivery man who appears to come from a country where it is deemed acceptable to hammer on a stranger's window, grinning inanely, and bellowing: 'Pizza for big bungalow?'

I forgot to tell you that I visited my old rehab today in Bury. The staff were so thrilled to see me and my bump and I felt so liberated and grateful to be stood in the place where I was so ill and so lacking in hope. I thank God for bringing me this far. It's a fucking miracle!

That's amazing news pram congratulations!

Pram you should be so proud of how far you have come

raspberry ds would love to call the baby batman, or rock baby. Dd is adamant it's a girl and she is calling it Lucy, which is the name of her guinea pig, and every doll she has!

It's moosey here just debuting my shiny new name

Not sure if I like it or not so may go back to good old greymoose I kind of miss it already haha

Ahhhh pram that's amazing

Pram that's lovely :)

Gaucho was amazing! DP and I have been working so hard all week so it was nice to actually sit down and have a conversation.

That's amazing pram! I hope you are feeling a little bit proud of yourself.

Like your new name, maternalwhowasformerlyknownasmoosey! I now have The Bangles running through my head...

That must be a right nuisance Fox not being able to take pills. Is it possible to get a liquid or powdered form of vitamin d as then you'd be able to tailor your dose?

We've just been to ikea and got a nice soft foam mattress topper so that I can sleep on my side in comfort - I had no idea how much of a difference it could make until we stayed with BIL/SIL a few weeks ago and they have a soft mattress topper on their guest bed. Wish I'd known last pregnancy! Had dinner there too and it only cost £7.75 for the four of us plus free hot chocolate.

Raspberry I've never worked in pregnancy apart from a very small amount of home based admin but if I was going out to work (which I think in theory I probably would be just about well enough for this time as long as it was a desk job) there's no way I would be doing anything after I came home as I just wouldn't be capable of it. In fact currently all I do is look after the children in the day, feed the toddler (because she's breastfed) and do any low energy tasks such as buying car insurance, other online shopping and home-ed planning and DH does all the other stuff (or doesn't based on the state of our stairs carpet!) You are making a baby which is a massive job so don't feel guilty if you are not doing other things. In terms of whether you "should" rest, I guess it depends on how you feel and what impact resting vs not resting will have. Earlier on, I was not even doing the admin things because if I stayed up to do them I would have ended up not well enough to manage at home on my own while DH was at work. Now I'm improving I'm gradually doing more but I'm careful to make sure I don't overdo it to the point that DH would need to stay home from work. If I didn't have a toddler I might push myself harder as I would have more leeway but at the same time, your physical well being is important both for your sake as well as the baby so it's not necessarily worth pushing yourself just because you can iyswim. (Sorry for the ridculously long essay - sometimes I have an inablity to be succinct.)

grey I love those mugs!

It must have been quite something to go back there Pram. I'm glad you have hope and a great future now.

DD1 thought Postman Pat would be a good name if we had a boy during one of my previous pregnancies. It was quite funny as her girl suggestions have always been very sensible (and once actually included the name we had already chosen) but her boy suggestions have always been ridiculous.

Grey we have those mugs at work!

ooooh what did you have comms??

I can't remember who it was who had the rude man on the tube but I was thinking about that earlier (while ranting about it to DH) and the way I would have understood it was that the point of the badges was that before you are obviously pregnant it can be made obvious so that people automatically offer you a seat rather than you having to ask. And also, if somebody turns to you and says that they are feeling ill and please can you have their seat then you should be giving it to them regardless of whether they are pregnant. (And DH told me that he thinks a man should be giving his seat up to a woman automatically anyway without being asked - he wouldn't take a seat for himself in the first place if it was crowded as by default he would leave them for those in need of them.)

Well done pram!
I go back once a month to the hospital were I was an in patient for PTSD and severe depression a couple of years ago. We have an aftercare group and it is a great way of remembering how to stay well. I get a bit funny going at this time of year, as it reminds me of being an inpatient as I was admitted in October.

I am in agony this evening, I tried to tidy the kitchen and do the washing up and had to sit down. DH had a little moan that I was making him do it all, and I got quite cross. I think he understands a bit more now about how f*cking exhausting growing a human is.

right I've just about caught up..and

pram you have just started me blubbing again, that's amazing. Could the rehab version of you ever have imagined this?

tAke aways. ..we've eaten 2 nights fish n chips 1 night kfc and two nights mums/mils home cooking..go for it ladies! the baby made me doo it.

wills....ice you have prompted me..will get to it in Nov. would be a single will due to over complicated dh situation etc.

sex..doggy style all the way & perfect for preggo Ness...

crying - perfectly acceptable no matter how trivial! Thanks to you all for your support. Mumsnetters aren't the bunch of bitches the media portrays. Love the banter & supportiveness here. Basically been batshit crazy this pregnancy, mainly hormones + relationship tension + severe work stress + ishoos with my two siblings neither of whom are speaking to me or parents (it's aibu material and I know WANBU!). Am gonna speak to mw also I'm wondering if there are any homeopathy herbal schmerbals safe to take..?

Paracetamol + Flowers from dh + 2 hours break from ds to do some work & relieve pressure =

raspberry my survival strategies for work/ pregnancy are:
-easy meals/batch cook/ take aways

• Lowering housework standards. It's ok if the house is a tip..
• outsourcing my housework, have a cleaner ..can u get one?
• recognizing that not all colleagues will get what it means to be pg so I hold it together as much as poss when working and then unravel once I've put ds down
• odd glass of wine
• pregnancy yoga due to start that soon
• bananas for their energy giving properties.

As you can see strategies have not been working so well this week but I'm determined!

bwp re baby badge on tube story.
I would have told him straight " well you don't have a badge saying you're a d*ck but its still true"

London transport is wonderful and weird, usually if you speak up people will fall in line as nobody likes to be singled out. The 'mob' try and hide in the crowd so as not to give up a seat. Best line j ever heard "you! Guy in the red jumper. I have a walking stick. Get up" never seen anyone move so fast.

Jol I had the fillet that they marinate in heaven. It was so good I don't ever want to eat another steak again unless it's that one! DP got a little wine tasting session as he didn't know what to have. I really wanted that pudding that you said you did in your review but I had no room either!

Ah so you found it in the end comms? Sorry I didn't link it...I'm practically always using my phone and I have no idea how I'd do it on here! The salted dulce de leche cheesecake sounds like heaven and I've vowed to go back when baby has vacated and made room for more than 1 course of food at a time! And my god their fillet steak is the softest piece of meat I've ever had in my mouth (there's a joke there somewhere!) What did your DP think of the wine? I enjoyed my virgin mojitos but definitely want alcohol next time

Jol yeah I did. He loved the wine. I would have tried some but the smell of alcohol has been making me feel so sick. The steak was like butter, so amazing. There was a guy on his own next to us who ordered four different cuts. No sides, no drink, just four plates of meat!

That man has the right idea! Though I can't recommend the bernaise highly enough.

Rasp, I am trying hard not to be glib or to undermine your housework anxieties but please..don't allow some 1950s notion of respectability weigh you down. It makes me sad that women are under this kind of pressure..it's fucking dust at the end of the day. Get someone else to do it.

Apprentice, I've been thinking of you quite a lot today. You are a witty woman who always cheers me up but you sound awfully shackled by stress at the moment. Is it you who has regular relationship counselling? If not, are you talking stuff through with a good friend? I hope you find some peace soon x

Super, you know, it's funny but 'pride' is not something I have felt at all throughout my recovery, just masses and masses of gratitude for the silent forces at work behind the scenes when I was so very ill. Becca, I would love to know more about your own journey of recovery from PTSD but acknowledge that maybe mumsnet is not the place. How are you nowadays and are you still on medication? Ignore that last question by all means.

Apprentice, do you miss your siblings or not? Did they enrich your life and make it better? If not they may as well be strangers. Fuck them off - you don't need them.