October 2013 - may our labours move as fast as our threads!

[PseudoBadger]

New thread!

Thanks for the tip pink - I bf DS and the CT vanished not long after birth, but I will certainly bear in mind if I have any probs this time.

Well BP still high and I now have 1+ protein so they've taken bloods again and I'm waiting for monitoring in MDU

sorry pseudo hope they look after you.
I can officially no longer sit up on the sofa without getting headed in the crotch and squashed in the ribs. I'm so uncomfortable!! sorry, being a right moaner today!!

pseudo, hope the BP goes down. When us the monitoring likely to be?

I think the prospect of visitors is the thing stressing me out most now that I don't have work to do that. All family live far away so it's not like we can tell them to go home and pop back tomorrow. When they're here, they're here and I just know that it's going to be overwhelming and I'll be stuck in the bedroom, crying, trying to establish breastfeeding and just wanting them to leave us in peace. I'm trying not to think about it as it does get me really stressed. I'm dreading it.

Just heard off my friend in Oz her baby is 2 weeks old she says take all the help off family you can they have no family there. She said she's not slept more than 3 hours in 2 weeks! Yikes

Pseudo hope all is ok xx

Afternoon Ladies, taking the opportunity whilst DD is watching a film to catch up... gosh these threads really are flying now!

Firstly, congratulations Kelly, hope all is well and you are with your baby getting snuggles. Seems to be the girls are too impatient!

sorry to hear your BP back up pseudo Glad they are monitoring you though and hopefully come up with a plan.

flyer I also quite vividly remember having a clear out very soon before going into labour. apparantly its your bodys way of making room for the baby to come out. So agreed, your dp may have read up on that part when he bought all those toilet rolls. However, I do think the slippers could make yopu a small fortune. Sell them as antenatal slippers at a fiver each. Tidy little profit!

roofio sorry to hear your employer being shit... If you are entitlted to Maternity allowance it goes through the job centre doesnt it? I hope you manage to sort it. Last thing you need is to be left with no money.

bowlfull even my bag is packed and I'm so unbelieably laid back about this pregnancy!

Had my whooping cough jab today. Nurse said its a similar dose to that they give to pre-school children and contains the tetnus, polio and diptheria vaccine..? Arm ok at the moment but we will see!

Spent all last night photographing and listing dd's old clothes on facebook selling sites. Made £25 today and got few people coming over next few days. I feel like Ive not achieved too much at home but looking back I have cuz they were taking up so much room!

Nothing much to report on the baby front. SC at 36+2, lots of pulled muscle type pains under bump and very achy hips, pelvis and back but apart from that I'm enjoying pottering around at home and doing all the school runs, not just a few when I wasnt working.

I think I could give you all some lessons on be how to be lazy and not feel guilty my daily routine atm involves arond 1hr housework and at least a 1hr nap!

Right off to check my bum crack....

What a day!

pseudo sorry your BP is still high ((Hugs))

So I got a doctor that listened to me today!

She asked what i would like and i said induced before I have to have an emergency CS which is my biggest fear.
She checked me over and gave me a SWEEP!!!

She explained she could not induce due to several reasons.

1. babys head is on the brim so not quite engaged (common with second babies) so if she broke my waters which she could do as I am a good 3-4 cms there is a risk of cord prolapse

1. if baby did not labour progress I would need hormones to push labour on and would have a high risk of pph or needing forceps ventouse also as i had the drugs i would need monitored from start to finish which could be troublesome due to my weight.

1. With induction there is higher risk of it ending up in CS, absolutely what i do not want.

So it benefits me to wait it out and hope i go myself its a bit of a balancing act but I am more likely to end up on the table with induction atm rather than my symptoms but hopefully I will go as i have had this sweep :) I have been told to keep active as i can next time i get the contractions to push her head to engage!

Sorry to hear about the protein pseudo lets hope that the bloods come back clear for u xx

falcon glad u came away feeling alot happier from your appt today, u deserve a bit of good news and to get to 3-4cms is amazing! Just think when labour fully kicks in u will have already done almost half of the dialating! Especially when u think if in hospital u can have a epidural from 4cms on wards for u too. get dtd lol

Well ctg trace was fine, but saw a doc and BP on the manual cuff is 170/108 so I'll be staying in on the labour ward for regular monitoring :(
Just waiting for them to take me there now. I'll pop in and out but will be preserving battery until DP delivers me a charger!

Thinking of you pseudo xxxxxxx

pseudo do you mean you're going to be in there at least all night? Poor you
I'll be on L3 having a scan tomorrow morning. Let me know if you want a morning McMuffin croissant dropping in. No-one would question me randomly shouting out for a 'Badger?' in the labour ward, would they?

Hope your BP lowers xx

oh pseudo so sorry you are in the hospital again... thinking of you xx

falcon good that you are feeling better and congrats on your sweep It also just goes to show that you needed someone to have a proper conversation with you and explain pros and cons of everything. Hope the sweep works! We had 3 babies on the last thread. Surely we should have more on this one??!!

bowlfull can we come and pack your bag please?

soup I have the same problem with our families, everyone lives far away so visits always mean overnight stays (at least), if not several days of people in the house. I've already told everyone we are not having any "proper" visitors for the first two weeks. I still remember my ex MIL "kidnapping" my 4 days old baby for 3-4 hours and how distressed I felt then. She was "special" I must say but still... I don't want anyone here. DP's mum is a bit gutted but at least she understands and will come after 2 weeks, once DP is back at work, to help me. I don't really want my own mum for a very long time as she is always more work and stress than help... she came over last time when DS was 5 weeks old and only made me more stressed and more tired. It felt like having 2 babies. I'm OK with visitors otherwise as long as I don't have to prepare anything for them and they stay for 30min or so.

flyer no, no slippers to be found in this house. We all walk barefoot. So need to purchase some tomorrow! You are your DP keep cracking me up - I now have visions of your house filled with toilet paper and spa / hotel slippers

hayle I'm also really enjoying my maternity leave so far, all pottering around, cleaning, food shopping and school runs. Amazing how satisfying these mundane things can be. And I feel so much better since I stopped working - no back pain, no leg pain, more energy etc...

Oh pants pseudo... Hope it drops down ASAP xx

That sucks Pseudo but good to know they're keeping an eye on you

pseudo I'm sorry to hear about your BP. I hope they can control it.

flyer I am jealous of your slipper hoard because I don't own slippers at the moment. I keep meaning to get some but am not going much clothes shopping at the moment.

I don't really want my in laws to visit me too soon. They'll be really nice but they're awkward with food and they always offer to help but do things like clean the floor with the dish brush, and make me feel like my house is dirty and I wouldn't be comfortable breast feeding around them either. I know I'm a spoiled brat because they are really nice, but I'm afraid they would stress me out. I think I'd want them to wait at least a week but that's very unlikely.

My parents are visiting in November from Canada and although it'll be a full house with them staying, I wish they could stay for longer than two weeks. I miss them so much! They're bringing my one year old nephew which which will be interesting but I don't care. I just want them all here to meet my baby!

I went in early and stayed late today. So jealous of everyone on mat leave! Although a colleague won't see me again now because of her holidays and we said goodbye and I cried. I don't know what I'll be like on my last day!

Thanks everyone. They want me on labour ward as no can be done every 30 mins rather than longer gaps. There are women actually giving birth in adjacent rooms
It's the top number they are very worried about I think, I've already had a pill to hopefully drop the BP and then will put me on 'normal' meds.

Pink I think I'll be here all night but perhaps moved from labour to antenatal ward. I'll update you!

I'm worried about DS now, he was so clingy when I dropped him at the CM this morning.

clapham & ana can i tempt you with these?

or these ??
(Admittedly not the most practical for hospital...)

pseudo and pink It makes me chuckle u could possibly bump into each other and not even no it, on a more serious note its lucky u had an appt today to catch that bp on a manual cuff pseudo hopefully the meds work and all will be well. What gestation are u at now? I'm sure ds will be fine as mothers we worry about them but 9 times out of 20 they hardly notice the difference especially for one night xx

With dd we had alot of visitors to the hospital which I want to try and avoid this time or just have them come one or two at a time if un avoidable as I want to focus on dd having a little time of just us and baby too get used to the idea he's not in my tummy now and will be coming home with us before ppl bombard us to give him a 'quick' cuddle then hold into him for hours until he cries then they r quick to return him lol

Ahh hang in there Pseudo.

I've been reading lots but not posting much! (Mostly there's nothing happening chez Hotsoup! SC)

Oh, I have been crying at every little thing, mostly emotional pop music and obviously manipulative things like this video.

Like many of you, I've been angsting over relatives visiting. I've found it helpful to keep repeating to myself that I'm lucky that people care enough! But I'll have my fair share of visitors, like Clapham's mum, who are simply mentally draining to deal with. My MIL loves to be the centre of attention and has to comment on every blimmin thing!

clapham im enjoying the school runs (except today as it was pissin it down) as I live in an area where prodominently most mums are SAHM but I only like a select few others are quite full of themselves. It's quite strange when they talk about the school and teachers tbh because I went there and dd currently has my yr3 teacher! They all talk like they know the school really well etc but technically I do since I went there and was the second intake to start from the beginning. (It opened in 89/90)!!

Sorry to hear about your bp pseudo but you're in the right place
soup Can your dp take the visitors out at some point when they visit, or at least by suggesting it, it might make them realise you need some time alone with baby and they might clear off for a little while?

Well this isn't the most relaxing place to bring my BP down! There have been 2 emergency bleeps (I think one was for an abruption) in the last 30 mins! Cue staff sprinting down corridor outside!

I'm having the same dilemma re. post birth visitors.

DH family will be fine as there's only 3 of them and they're not the type to force themselves but will wait for invitation. They're also only up the road so can be sent packing after an hour or two.

My family however are spread all over the country so it's not like they can just drop in for an hour. When they come to visit at the moment it's practically a full on military op and they always stay for a couple of days.

I've already told them that I don't want visitors right away as I want to start establishing a routine and DH and I to get used to him but they've been laying the guilt trip on thick :(

They're very considerate house guests but regardless of that, there's always a huge mess left behind to clear up plus loads of laundry so it's not just their visit, it's the aftermath!

To be honest, I'm just going to be selfish and ignore the guilt trip. This is my first baby so I think I'm entitled to think of myself for once!

The visitors (esp ILs, who live a couple of hours away and are hard work) have been a source of friction here too. I think DH and I have an understanding and he will manage his parents, but it hasn't stopped me worrying.

Sounds positive, Falcon and hope the bp meds help, Pseudo.

So after fantasising about what I was going to be doing next week, on first week of maternity leave (I blame you all for the Homes Under the Hammer chat, yesterday) it turns out I won't be starting until the week after - we got 'the call' and the inspectors arrive a week today.
Oh well, another week at full pay, I guess.