January 2014 (thread 9) Pregnancy half time is over. Fast growing bumps, braxton hicks and we thought we would worry less!

[Frizz1986]

Hope its ok me setting up a new thread.
Couldnt see one, but if I am just being blind please tell me.....

Sultana we have close due dates, right? I went in to have movement checked yesterday after very very little for a couple of days. All fine, they said there may just be less room for big flips now baby has long legs. Maybe you're the same? They also said always go in if you're worried, so do if you're not successful with Doppler.

Took them ages to find heartbeat for me, which was terrifying, so I got bonus scan They also told me I might have DD earlier than predicted as she looks a couple of weeks further on than due date, but hard to say at this stage. Uh oh!!

extra think so. Due 27th Dec... I found the heartbeat straight away and heard what I think are movements. Called the hospital anyway and she said its really common at this stage and is probably because he has turned to face my back. Am welcome to come in, but all they will do is listen with a doppler. She said from 28 weeks they can hook u up to a machine to check foetal movement. Told me to down a cold drink and sit quietly for an hour and should feel 4 movements in an hour. Gonna try that and if still nothing may go in and just double check that I did actually hear bubs in case it was the placenta or whatever..... Feeling like a bit of a wreck! Just wanted them to scan me....

Great u got a bonus scan! Interesting yours is showing large for your dates too. Am so glad I decided to book a private one at 30 weeks so I can check on his size.....

Think I might book a private one for a few weeks' time too! Officially due 28/12 but MW said might be more like 14th (which is what happened with DS).

Hope you get movement this afternoon. Bet if you go in your little monkey will do what mine did and start bouncing about as soon as they scan you! Mine seems to object pretty strongly to being poked

Thanks extra! The pint of ice cold squash seems to have finally roused him! Just seen my whole tummy move with one big kick followed by a couple of little ones! Cant tell u how relieved I am! Hopefully that means he has flipped over and I will feel him again now! Keeping everything crossed! I hope my little man arrives a couple of weeks early too - around 14th would be good - bit concerned they will have skeleton staff on shift between xmas and new year and really dont wanna go overdue.... Still, as long as he arrives safe and sound....

Very jealous of those going on our just coming back from holidays! and of banana pancakes.

sultana on Thursday and Friday I felt hardly any movement and panicked a little. Found a heartbeat with the doppler and tried to relax, then yesterday she was the most active she's ever been! I felt a little bit beaten up!

Glad he's finally woken up sultana! Mine keeps doing this as well - one day of breakdancing all over the place followed by one or two of almost no movement at all. I'm trying not to stress about it too much, because everyone that I speak to tells me that their babies were much the same, but I'll be asking the midwife about it on Thursday when I see her. There's no way I can count kicks at the moment, because I never know when they are going to happen.

Thanks mrsg and book. He has done this once before, but not for so long! Once I started on that downward panic spiral I couldnt bring myself out of it! Have been getting more kicks since I last posted, so starting to feel much better! Honestly! Little monkey! The rational part of me thought things would be ok, but the stressed out paranoid part of me was yelling more loudly!

More kicks and a lush sunday roast! Things are looking up!,

Hope everyone has had a lovely Sunday. Stupid Monday tomorrow, but for now am in denial.....

Glad you've had a good day sultana :) I've had a very relaxed Sunday.

I am getting a little annoyed with DH. I love him to bits but he is so bad at staying in touch when he's away! I wouldn't mind usually but I'm stressed about an exam, my bp keeps dipping and making me feel faint and when he left I was worried about a possible infection, but if I hadn't made an effort I honestly think we might have gone the whole two weeks without speaking!

mrsg thats really frustrating! How would he react if u went away and did the same? Do u think he knows u will be in touch so relies on that?

He's the same whenever we're apart. He's also the same with everyone so I'm trying not to take it personally! He's been in the army 12 years so is away from loved ones a lot and copes by staying busy and keeping himself distracted. It's just a bit annoying!

Ah ok. That makes sense. Understandable but sucks for you - particularly right now! Poor u mrsg! HTH

Glad to hear you're on the move again, Sultana!

MrsG that's annoying... Hope he's in touch sharpish!

Wideeeee awake with heartburn ouuuuch. Have been laying awake for over an hour now have sat up turned on tv and munching on gaviscon. Nothing decent to watch either lol. I have days when I worry abiut movement sultana. Then after couple of hours hes like Hellooo was just tricking u!!! Hes kicking away now so least im not the only one awake. Im another one that is feeling like oh driving me mad atm. We argue over everything it seems and yes I know I'm quite moody atm but he has nooo patience sometimes. Grrrr men haha. Oh plz can I get some sleep now as I will be extra moody and tired in morning too woops x

Ooh morning from Bruges!

It's lovely here but I am finding it knackering walking about. It's like bubs decided to be extra heavy specially for the trip! Just as well we have a centrally located hotel room, though it's a bit pokey with it's 15ft ceiling, titchy 8ft bed, tiny chandelier which appears to be only 4ft tall, and don't get me started on the Occitane nonsense in the bathroom!

Having a nice time eating moules, choccies and the odd sip of DH's beer!

Bit jealous of the F1 Singapore day though!

And bubs is busying away kicking and squiggling in anticipation of a fun packed day.

Let's see if I can wangle a visit to the Chocolate Museum today?

sorry mrsg that sucks a lot.
My dh sucks at keeping in touch and never bothers texting me when he is out and he is only playing dungeons and dragons with his friends!!

Soo so jealous tooth Eat some chocolate for me, I could so do with some right now

sultana i have random movement worries but bubs seems to wake up when I do at the moment and last night it was kicking like a trooper that dh finally managed to see my belly jump!

Just been writing down all my mat leave dates in prep for a hopeful meeting at some point to confirm everything.
Hopefully going to finish Dec 20 and I still have 7 days hol to take so hoping I can take them (carrying 2 over into Jan) and have my mat leave start on 6th Jan.
Its sneaky really if I can carry 2 days into jan as then i will get NYs day off as a BH as I am technically not on mat leave yet.

Then I work it out that if I take my full allowance of 52 weeks plus 33 days hol (I get 25 + BH as far as I am aware) I wouldn't have to be back at work until 19th Feb 2015
And I guess that the hols are all at full pay too and not mat pay??

Have a new started today at work (not my mat leave, they havent even started on that yet) but is always exciting!
Oh and I am wearing my mat leggings and my bump needs to be BIGGER to hold them up!

Thanks all, had a little text chat with him yesterday and he apologised. Hopefully we'll have a good chat over the phone later.

Very jealous tooth! I went to Bruges a few years ago and loved it :) there's some really beautiful churches, I love old buildings!

Hi ladies

Sorry I need to rant..

Me and dh were talking over text last night as he is offshore at the moment (luckily he gets a signal using wifi). I jokingly asked him if he remembered how many weeks I am ( I even put a funny face so he knew it was a joke) to which he replied, 27 weeks. So I again jokingly replied with an angry face and a big fat 'lol' and said no I'm 24 weeks. It really didn't bother me atall that he got it wrong. Then he sent me a really shitty message saying stop testing me etc. to which I ended up sat in tears all evening . I went totally irrational then and started saying how its obvious he isn't excited about the baby etc. dh never wanted anymore after Dd so this baby came as a shock!! He insists that he is looking forward to it but that he is worried how it will impact us as a family and the stress etc. everytime he mentions it all he can think of is sleepless nights, screaming baby etc, which I know he is right to a certain extent , it is bloody hard work ,
But I just feel like he is dreading it completely. He keeps saying ' I am excited BUT' ...and there comes the negative comment. I said to him it's more like he's just accepted he's having another baby rather than really looking forward to it, which of course he denies! But I'm not stupid,
Or maybe I am being over sensitive? He did seem a little excited at the scan and was guessing its a boy and stuff and he did text during the week to say we should buy the pram and car seat this month.

Sorry for the rant.
Needed to get that off my chest !!

On a positive note,
Midwife app went well today. She's made a referral for physio for spd for me.
Apparently I don't have any signs of group b strep anymore so I don't have to be on a drip in labour. Weird though as the hospital told me with Dd that because I had it previously they will still give me anti biopics as a precaution whilst in labour. Maybe the rules have changed. It also means I don't have to rush into hospital as soon as I get contractions and I can labour at home for a while.
I got my mat b 1 form off her too.

Sorry I havnt had time to read through everyone's posts .

Have a good day xx

MrsG sorry to hear this, although glad he has cheered you up.
I have to confess I'm the one that does this in my marriage - when I'm off visiting friends/out shopping/away seeing my mum etc, I cannot for the life of me understand why DH needs to a) know exactly when I'll be home and b) speak to me on the phone - we see each other every day usually, surely he can go one day without speaking ? But then I'm mean and horrid.

frizz hols are at full pay, yes. Be careful with your leave years, though - mine are March - April, so if I took all my leave at the end of mat leave, I'd go back in Jan/Feb, but have no spare leave until 1st April (if bean were sick/I wanted a day off, for example). As it happens, I can't take all the accumulated leave at once, as we have a new rule that says no more than 2 weeks at once. Which essentially means I'll lose 2 weeks leave, as I don't plan on coming back - but I guess that's a small price to pay!

sarahl cross posted there. So sorry to hear you're having a bit of a crappy time.
If it helps, my DH is always the one telling me not to buy things (he has an imaginary group of 'people' who he assumes will buy us 'loads of stuff'. I know they won't, as they've dropped us like hot bricks since we announced we were expecting, but I shall enjoy being proved right ), and he was the one telling me not to get overexcited at first, in case we lost the baby (v sensible, but it made me INSANE with rage). I think he was being protective - but it used to upset me hugely. Him not being as excited as I am felt like a slap in the face - but I really, honestly think it's different for men. They aren't living with it hour to hour (the movements, the body changes, the feelings) and so they can be more detached.
Also, it could be that you caught him at a bad time, so he reacted badly. Have a and and enjoy that you had a good appt today and that you had good news about being on a drip. Hugs.

Sarah don't worry - I think it's a boy thing. My DH was absolutely amazing throughout pg1, massaging my feet, rubbing my back in the night, getting me water / apples in the night, making sure I was ok. In the second pg, he asked me what my last slave died of when I started murmuring about how a glass of water would be nice at 3am, and in this pg, I really don't think he's noticed I'm pg. He works away a lot and I'm left holding the fort, looking after DCs and freelancing, sorting house admin etc out in any spare time, I have just started my hypno CDs though (Maggie Howell) and hypno time is children's bath time, so if (ha!) he is back in time to help with bath, then I scoot off any do some deep relaxation and last night was the first night in AGES that I didn't spend hours awake with insomnia following a night wee visit. I'm also kicking him out of bed to tend to wailing children in the middle of the night (normally I go) and I suspect that the stronger / more capable that we look, the less attention and support we receive.

Also...to be honest - I don't think men are particularly interested in babies (even their own!) and my DH andmost of my friends DHs have become interested in their children when they reach the age of one and can crawl / move / make noises / interact a little bit. Just means more hard work, sore boobs, emotional wreckage and....milky cuddles for us.

mythree I agree - my grandad always said he couldn't be bothered with children until they were 18 months. He had four kids!

DP does look like he wants a sticker for remembering how many weeks I am. Bless him

sarahl def a boy thing.
My dh doesn't always seem excited about bubs but i know he is when he sees the belly go.

sultana my year runs from Jan to Dec so if I take the max allowed then i will return to work with another lot of hols to take. It is pretty much timed perfect holiday wise.

Will catch up on everything else at home as just finishing lunch break.

oops that should have been humpty
Can you tell that I am rushing to type, whilst eat lunch and also try and do my pelvic floor. (have been so bad at these)