Graduated Elderberry Pavlovas - Thread 7

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Newly diffed right through to new Mums. A thread for the over 30's expecting their first baby.

There's nowt wrong with a maternity hoodie. Comfort is paramount, especially after no sleep!

Thanks for the suggestions girls. She eventually took an ounce which is better than nothing. Only downside is that she then woke up twice during the night rather than her usual once as she had not eaten as much. I will try again tonight before I buy more stuff.
As for another child, I think I am officially the oldest berry as I will be 40 in January so I am definitely running out of time. We have not talked about it but I know dh doesn't want one he was unsure about this one due to a chronic medical condition he has which scares the life out of him in terms of what the future brings so I reckon we might well just have the one. Having said that I had a much easier pregnancy than I thought I would and even the birth was not as bad so I can see myself wanting another one!

Oh re: bottles Lucy has Tomee tipee closer to nature ones, obviously she was exclusively on those for the first 5 weeks while I was expressing, she prefers the breast now she's got the hang of it but I still give her one bottle a day so she is still used to it if I ever need to leave her.

I hope I get my tiny waist and flat tummy back post pregnancy, I like that part of my body! makes up for my fat arse

DH and I talked about a second baby the other day funnily enough. Plenty of room because of the loft conversion and he was well up for another! To be fair we haven't had the first yet, might change his mind I really feel that I'd be happy and we'd be a family with just one as I remember ttc and thinking all I need is one and I'm fine. In an ideal world, I'd wait a couple of years and then think about trying. However someone at work left it three years and four/five years later she's thinking about IVF as struggling ttc, which is making me think maybe a short gap is best with my PCOS and stuff (as it could potentially still end up being a long gap if you see what I mean). Anyway one step at a time and we'll see how we get on with the first!

I'd happily try for another now, but you're supposed to wait for 12 months after a c section. So that means we could start trying at the start of July... But then we're getting married at the start if Sept. selfishly I'd like to drink on my wedding day so realistically I think that all being well we'll be trying next autumn. Shame really as I really wouldn't mind being pregnant again. Didn't love it but didn't hate it, and quite like the outcome
I would put the wedding back but DP, having only just turned 30, says there is NO WAY he's marrying a 40 year old, so I've got to do it by next Nov!

In terms of bottles anothe tommy tippee here. Starting to realise how lucky we are that he took a bottle from day one, and that I was able to express meaning he's now used to both bottle and boob. The only good thing about him being in intensive care I guess is that expressing and bottle feeding were established from the start out of traumatic necessity.

You won't believe me janey as I was such a stress-head about the cervix stuff but I love being preggers! (apart from the lack of wine involved! Although I treated myself to a mini glass of red whilst out for dinner with a friend last night and it was lovely!) I guess it will be harder with a small one to look after too though, more tiring.
I would be the same on the wedding front and really miss nice glasses of wine and fizz on the day and build up, and also I wouldn't want to feel first trimester roughness so if it were me, I'd wait and then start trying from the wedding night!

Oh and bonus, no contraception hassle on honeymoon

Hm somebody here is happily chewing and sucking on Sophie the Giraffe, but try the bottle and he screams like we're trying to kill him

I agree alex I quite like being preggo, I don't like the bouts of cystitis but that's about it. I hold judgement until I've pushed this boy out though before saying I'd like to have another too quickly. There are four years between me and my sibling and that was always quite nice as we weren't competing for the same toys/clothes etc.

My OH crazily suggested 3 the other day, I am pretty sure I only want 2 think he just enjoyed the trying bit. I would really really like a girl next time though, so much so that I would try all the 'eat certain stuff to make your CM hostile to male sperm' mumbo jumbo. I am one of 2 and my OH is one of 2 so I think 2 is a good number.

janey I agree re the wedding too, I would want to be able to drink otherwise my OH would be wasted and would annoy me. He mentioned the other day when he was tipsy that he plans on us getting engaged later next year, nice to know it is on his radar somewhere I guess.

Oh hazel what a little pickle you have on your hands!

See four years would be fine as a gap and a good friend has that, but I would just be worried that I'd leave that gap, then struggle to ttc again and it will end up being years or never! I do think ttc will be different for me next time with less fear/panic about infertility - I really can't say either of us enjoyed ttc as the longer it went on with no regular cycles, it became a bit of a nightmare especially for me! Will be nice to dtd soon without it being about ttc if we ever get a chance and aren't too tired! I'd consider three altogether if money were no object, but that's another factor! Lucky to just have one

Hazle have you tried him with an old fashioned cheap bottle with a yellow teat like you get in corner shops? Like this.

Having wanted a girl this time, I quite like the idea of a boy next time (if there is one) but another girl would be much more practical as we've already got all the gear.

Janey your wedding day is not one to spend sober and definitely not with morning sickness! I am fairly confident and unphazed by public speaking but on my wedding day I was unexpectedly absolutely bricking it before the ceremony and I think it's only my good friend Pimms which got me through it.

Bit gutted, was planning on going to pregnancy yoga this evening, I contacted them a couple of months ago and they were really nice and told me to just come when I'm ready.
Was planning on going tonight then I checked their website and it says booking essential, I phoned them to ask and the voicemail says to check the website to be sure which classes require booking, so now I can't go tonight. Bit of a bummer as its a 4 week course so I wanted to start it soon. My own fault but still annoying, may go swimming instead.

Mother will be interested in your pregnancy yoga review. I'm hoping to start as soon as I get to 14 weeks (recommended by my midwife as I'm the nutter who wants a home birth). However have never done yoga or anything similar so it should be amusing!
I shall have to admit I asked for a onesie last Xmas (without the night feeds/breast feeding excuse)! I love it for lounging on the sofa after work, plus I find its warm but because its loose its not too warm. Mine is from here and they also sell via Asos, they often have some mega bargains in the sale
Sorry to everyone who's having bottle trouble, clearly have nothing to add on that topic but FX they get the hang of it soon!

I shall report back merk, I should have started earlier really but we've been so busy it kind of didnt seem feasible until now. plus I didnt want to forget anything

just ordered 6 different teats to try, he'd better like one of them.

We would like to have a second one quite soon, but I'm not really looking forward to being pregnant again, even though I had the easiest pregnancy possible. It's the worrying - like you had the other day mother.
It's much more fun when the baby is actually here.

Thats true hazel, Monday was a scary day! Do not want to relive that in a hurry.

Fingers and everything else crossed he likes one of those teats!!!

Oh no! This bottle refusing seems to be catching!

That's a good point hazle. With the exception of his four day intensive care stint, knocked out on morphine and on a ventilator (which was, without doubt, the most terrifying time of my entire life) since Miles has been around there have been very few worries, far less than when i was pregnant. Yes, I do inspect his nappies and occasionally check he's breathing (not sure if I'd do that anyway or if it's the result of NICU doctors telling me to 'keep an eye' on his breathing) but generally I don't worry. If he's upset I can cuddle him better, if he's quiet I can look and check he's ok. Much easier.

Wouldn't wish those first few days on anyone though. God knows how people cope for longer with more serious issues - although I guess you just do. I still remember the consultant telling me that they couldn't tell me he was going to be ok because they didn't know if he would be, and that he needed a lot of support to help him alive. I was still high on morphine a bit hazy post-op and it clarified my mind totally and was the worst feeling. As was arguing with the midwives to take my catheter out to let me go and see him. Not much dignity in that!

Anyway I've got distracted... i was trying to say, before I got waylaid, that pregnancy worries are awful and it truly truly is better once they're here so pregnant berries don't fret, it does get easier!

I agree, it's definitely easier looking after a baby than being pregnant. It really is all worth it in the end!

How did you get on with the vultures Health Visitors Purple? And is Lucy refusing the bottle now as well?

You ladies who are saying you are enjoying pregnancy, just wait until you get to late 30's weeks and I will ask you again. But like others have said the end result is well worth the misery it.

cavort I'm 32 weeks today and am waiting for the walrus phase. It won't be pretty I know, after tomorrow I only have another 5 weeks at work though, counting down

Mother you do feel like a walrus right at the end, but it was the SPD, tiredness, sleeplessness, restlessness, aches, pains, waddling, breathlessness, constant hotness, constant peeing, the feeling that a large lead weight is about to fall out of your fanjo and all round general discomfort which made my weeks 37-41 pretty hard going. And my pregnancy was good compared to most! But you might be Superwoman like Hazle though who seemingly barely even noticed she was with child.

But yes, it is undeniably great once you finish work!

cav you should be in sales

Sounds less than awesome! Eeek.

On the plus side I got through a whole night without getting up to pee, horay for small victories.

Ha Mother it does sound all doom and gloom doesn't it? Those last few weeks were bad for me but good at the same time IYKWIM because I was only days from meeting my baby, which was really exciting. And I truly believe the end of pregnancy is uncomfortable so you don't fear the birth so much because you just can't wait to get the baby out of you!