Graduated Elderberry Pavlovas - Thread 7

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Newly diffed right through to new Mums. A thread for the over 30's expecting their first baby.

Some parents really don't do their children any favours. We meet that kind as well every now and then who scream, grab their DC and cross the street when they see our dogs. Who are totally harmless, under control and have very little interest in children in general. Dogs are everywhere, why make your child's life harder by telling them all dogs are evil beasts that must be feared?

purple when our dog was about 6 months old she got mauled badly by a gsd, had to have about 80 stitches poor wee lamb. Since then I have made a point of going up and talking to people walking gsd's so Cleo gets to see they are nothing to be afraid of, she now treats them like every other dog. I hate how people judge the breed, all dogs are fine by me until they prove otherwise.

I'm jealous of all these dogs! We want to get one at some point when we're ready to commit to it properly, for now we'll be happy with our lovely slightly stuck up cat - who will think it's a cheek having to share her home with a baby, yet alone if we got a dog Poor cleo getting mauled though she's so cute on the pic.

haha, alex I also have a stuck up cat! Love him dearly but god hes hormonal!

Yep, she was proper poorly for a while but shes fine now, doesnt seem to remember it at all. She also made lots of new friends in the area afterwards as she was a menace in the big lampshade collar (shes so low to the floor that it used to ground and stop her in her tracks when she put her head down) but we had to stop her licking her stitches, so we put her in a kids sized superman tshirt, the kids thought she was superdog Was good as it made her be sociable and not a scardy pooch.

not a good start to the weekend, me and my oh were meant to be going swimming this morning. He just got called asked if he wanted to play golf and has buggered off to do that instead so I get to go swimming alone now.

Plus he didnt even stroke the dog let alone feed her or walk her so now shes sat whining downstairs because hes gone without her.

So yet again I get to do the dog walking/feeding and house cleaning before anything for myself. How come men get to put themselves first and we dont?

Because they're wankers. I'd like to tell you that it all gets better once you've had the baby but it hasn't for me

He can just be so selfish, he seems to lack empathy most of the time. When did he get so used to putting himself first? I just find it so frustrating. I dont play the pregnancy card but sometimes Im so tempted!! How can I relax when I know I have to do everything myself if I want it done?

Sorry that was very me me me, sorry yours is still being a shit purple!

I remember how hard it is being pregnant and trying to do everything so you have my every sympathy. Being an unpaid full time housekeeper and nanny might be tiring but it's in no way as physically exhausting and painful as being pregnant and still having to run around after the selfish prick you live with. Funny, I had no idea quite how angry I am about it all until I wrote it down.

I play the pregnancy card all the time mother, have been since day 1! They have to realise they need to take on more in terms of housework/cooking etc!

I've been staying out of the house because of the plastering on the loft and stairs this week but DH is still there. He now has a really sore throat and red eyes. Turns out the plasterers finished on Tues but it's now Sat and he still hasn't tried to Hoover or get rid of the dust so no wonder! He had two nights out with work so was tired the other two nights. Better call him and nag remind him

You sound like me purple, I just get on with it on a daily basis its only when I think about it I realise how much it pisses me off! On the plus side I have a friends baby shower tomorrow so he'll have to fend for himself....I know he'll just spend the whole time playing gta though!

alex they're rubbish arent they, mine comments about how bins need emptying, how weve run out of stuff etc, I have to remind him we dont have fairies to do those things he needs to do them himself!

On a nicer not votes please for the following
Harvey Sebastian or Harvey Ross? The surname also begins with H. For arguments sake lets say its Howell (thats close enough to real life)

We started joking about Ross as it would make him HRH but we both quite like it and now we are torn. Ross is my OHs middle name and what I was going to be if I was a boy which in some ways is nice in some ways makes it over used?

That's hilarious Alex - despite the dust being really annoying he hasn't considered hoovering it up!
I was lucky as the builders used to Hoover quickly through every night before they left - but even with that we still used to Hoover again once more had settled later in the evening. (I say we, but I mean me or my mum!) Only a man wouldn't think of doing it at all!

Unless he's trying to keep you away Alex
(I can say that as it's very very obvious in real life how besotted her DH is with her )

Purple - you massively have my sympathies over the loft. Can't believe it's still so far from being finished

I can't complain too much really as mine is quite domesticated (haha sounds like a dog!) but one thing I have noticed is we have different standards of cleaning. So I like cleaning the bathroom usually as one of 'my jobs' because I need that room to be properly clean. Since I got preggers, DH does it and it just isn't to my standard! The funny thing is, he calls me in all proudly to show me how nice it is each time so it's not like he isn't trying!

I prefer Harvey Sebastian as a name, but then you've got the reasoning behind Ross, which sways me towards Ross! Both lovely though. Middle names are hardly ever used so if there can be a sentimental link, I think it's nice. If we have a girl, I would absolutely love to use my mum's name as the middle name but it's shit not a name I like! Hang on, would it be weird if I used my middle name for the girl's middle name? DH said I've got a nice name a while back, so if we use our partner's middle name quite often, we can do the same with girl's can't we?

Cross post janey but I know, he honestly sounded really chesty last night, coughing loads, but was too stuffed after a curry and hungover from Thurs night to do it! And he was too drunk tired on Weds and Thurs to do it when he got home from being out (he got in late as he called me for a chat on the way home each night forgetting that I'm sober, pregnant and in bed ridiculously early!) Our regular builders are good at hoovering up to be fair, but the plasterers come separately so the regulars wouldn't be around then. DH says it's not that bad but again, it could be different standards!

We have a cleaning lady, worth every cent. Still, plenty to do with all the hairy pets, but DH is very domesticated and sighs when he picks up my coffee cups that I habitually leave all over the house. When we moved in together, I was very careful not to take over any housework and make them my task - I lived with some relatives for a few years and in their house, the husband literally didn't move a finger and they both worked full time, so I certainly was not interested in a similar set-up. DH lived by himself before and managed to take care of everything, so no reason to assume he suddenly could not any more.

On a different topic, I saw this morning why sleeping bags are a good idea. Vic had managed to shuffle around on his back, so he woke up lying crosswise on the bed, head almost over the edge. That could have been quite dangerous if he had heavy blankets or some stuffed animals there.

ohhhh what message got deleted? What did I miss?

alex I totally agree re the different standards of cleaning!

Hazel yours sounds good! Mine had a cleaner and cook when growing up so has basically never had to do any of it himself. Our son will not be brought up like that I can assure you.

Wow, Vic was really wriggling huh!

Anyone want a dog? She is doing my nut today!

Not helped by the fact I tried to go swimming but nope closed for lessons, trying to have a relaxing bath instead as I'm feeling stressed and peed off and she is whinning and barking downstairs. My stress level is made worse by knowing my OH is no doubt having a lovely relaxing mornings golf. God a miserable bitch today! Sorry!!!

Well you're I good company mother as I feel positively murderous, the dogs must have picked up on the vicious moods dare keeping well out of my way!

The deleted message was just spam btw.

Funnily enough my DH lived on his own for years so maybe that's why he's quite good on the housework front overall though still not up to scratch by my standards Totally agree if we have a boy I want to try and teach him to look after himself. I'm willing to take on most of the housework during mat leave but as far as I'm concerned, when we're both working full time, you share housework and during pregnancy he should def be doing the majority.

Ps mother it's raining here so maybe he's getting rained on on the golf course hehe

Yeah I don't mind doing more during my maternity but the current chore split is wearing a little thin. I usually dont mind as I like being busy, plus I enjoy cooking, but I am more tired lately and to be offered a hald without having to ask would be amazing.

Plus the 'I wont be at golf long' at 8.30 this morning seems a bit of a lie at 12.20 this afternoon. He seriously lives the dream!

Haha, purple mine is picking up on the mood too but wants to be with me constantly to make it better, poor thing has no idea she is what is winding me up.

ohhh I like the way your mind works alex No rain where I am but he is about 20 mins away so FX

I want a cleaner! We will hopefully get one when we move to a bigger house and it's quite embarrassing that I struggle to keep on top of the housework in our current 3 bed semi, but I really don't get chance since Elodie arrived and constantly feel my house is dirtier and messier than I feel is acceptable, but admittedly I am a bit OCD about it so it's hopefully ok most of the time. DH works such long hours and usually carries on working when he gets home so he doesn't get chance to do much, although I do insist he does some and he happily does it. And to be honest I usually rather he entertains Elodie while I do it as he never does it to my standard. I also have a list of DIY which I can't do but needs doing and I would rather he do that than housework. Men!

Purple can't you give your OH a deadline and if it's not done by then you'll arrange to get someone in to bump off your OH finish it, which he will have to pay for?