MARTIANS 2014 - Thread 7: Are you due next March? Do you have wrecking balls for breasts? Getting moist over iCandys? Then come and talk shyte with us..

[PramQueen1971]

Thread 6

Sorry to hear of your loss rockchick and thank you for the words of advice. I would imagine I have got the peach 1 (bought jan 2011) so the conversion kit doesn't sound promising and I'm totally knackered if buggy board doesn't work with them .

I've also considered the sling and I'll have to do more research on this. I bought a moby for DS and it was the biggest waste of money (thankfully I sold it on ebay and recouped some costs). I have petite frame and struggled to fasten it properly without the help of DH which limited its use. DS didn't enjoy it and I felt like he could pop out at any time. I used a babybjorn with him when he was abit older and found it much better, I'll have to see if we still have it.

Also, the pain is a dull ache, and not near womb. 3 scans show baby is fine...

Yes think that what's it was called thanks! Was thinking perhaps I had imagine it all!

Doesn't sound good becca, would a warm bath and some bed rest help?

Rest does help, warm baths not really. I am wondering if it is the start of something like SPD. I say it is abdominal, but I'm not sure if I am identifying it's position very well.

Maybe you've overdone it today Becca and agree with BN a warm bath and rest might help.

If it is still bad tomorrow - maybe you should get it checked further?

Prammy - I'd personally say 'pick your battles'. This one sounds like it could easily become a very sore subject. And if his son already knows what he's getting, I'd definitely say you're fighting a losing one. I do think he's being thoughtless though. Maybe you can agree that you'll shortly be able to spend an equivalent amount on baby as soon as that kind of cash is available again? Or that while you're both adapting to the idea of parenthood, you'll spend a max of £20 on gifts for anyone from here on in as you need to focus on building your future?

Maybe also a good idea for you both to talk to each other with a bit more tact? Sounds quite narky to me on both sides (and with my relationship, I can be the queen of narky )

Brilliant advice, as per usual from you, Jolls. I'm so glad we're going for counselling tomorrow as I feel like we're slowly sliding backwards, you know? I actually hate him tonight

Definitely know that feeling! Hopefully tomorrow will be really productive for you both. It's all well and good you bouncing your thoughts off us but if he's not doing his bit too, it would be too difficult. You can't shoulder all the stress.

Becca, I've had really bad pains too, even get them when I go for a pee! I was really bad last week (bu I was moving furniture like an arsehole). Midwife and Dr told me completely normal even though they've made me cry and I'm not a crier, just make sure you rest up and keep going back to Dr if you're not happy.

pram I'm with joll on this one, but I agree £100 is ridiculous for an eight year old and a bike but like hottie I also have no clue about these things!

hottie love the goonie. I stole borrowed something similar from my aunties drawer..... Must say being pregnant hasn't made me the most desirable of women

Hey guys I'm still OK! Not been around much, back at work so busy, and some other stuff too. But hopefully still pg!

Not caught up, hope everyone is OK

Hi, I am still here but lurking really, too much to read to keep up with everyone!
I will try to join in with recentish stuff without offending anyone! Personally, I am not one for strict routines, do what suits you, baby and the rest of the family. For us dh found it impossible to ignore crying! He is an equal parent so it would have been unfair to dictate to him. I am pro bf but it is not easy for many. In my experience nipple confusion was bollocks but equally expressing a feed takes a hell of a lot more time and effort, so you may as well give it direct. I had loads of milk but could only express 3 or 4 oz absolute max at a time. Also nipple shields should be recommended by midwives before you aee at breaking point and I used them very successfully for months so anyone who tries to tell me my supply will be affected next time can feck off! Oops, as you see I have some ishoos about this! As I said a thread or two ago I found our travel system an expensive, bulky mistake and will be getting a loan of something lie flat for the early weeks and buying a maclaren xt as from seeing them in real life, they stand the test of time.

Re the bike, I wouldn't fight that battle. It is kind of nice that he cares about his son and maybe it is partly guilt about being absent. You could try to find some nice ebay ones though. We got dd a great second hand ridgeback for cheaper than a new halfords one and the quality is much better.

Becca and April, hope the pains ease. I was being smug about lack of pg symptoms. Well, now I have the vilest cold ever and I managed to knacker my back in a moment of stupidity. I had to rescue my inconsolable dd from the top of a slide. After the energetic climb up there I thought the slide would be an easier route down. It was, but the end of it was not long enough. I shot off it at high speed and had a two foot drop onto my arse. It was awful, I couldn't move for a minute or two. Lovely friends rallied round and after a dizzy spell I was able to shuffle about and have steadily improved. Gp was nice and reassuring re baby and paracetemol has helped with both cold and back pain! I could have done without a days teaching and a shit commute home today though. A critical road near Leeds was shut this eve!

Aw Fruit, I winced at your slide accident. Hope you're okay.

Thanks, ladies for your replies. I can't sleep but wanted to say I've given my head a shake and remembered how utterly and indescribably grateful I am to be carrying this IVF baby. I've been reminded of the ladies who have left us after losing their babies: Souredstones, Mortified, Holycow, Kat and anyone else who is suffering..I wish you the best for the future and hope you are finding strength and peace.

Just catching up
Pram-re:mum/pram topic maybe you could suggest you would like to "choose your first pram together"? So you can test it to see if its comfortable before mum gives you this generous gift. This allows her to be excited and involved but still giving you decision making powers.

Re: your partner. I agree you might have to pick your battles. I love your positive mental attitude. Take that energy and ask him " so whats your first purchase to this child going to be?"

Fruit Becca and April hope you guys fare better tomorrow.

Gawjus
Been in same situation jus recently.
I highly recommend going to citizens advice or join up with a union. They can get a representative to 'speak' on your behalf if you're not up to doing it yourself. But whatever you do, don't let it slide as this not only causes stress to you and mini-Gawjus but the more your boss will manipulate the situation to their advantage.

I had a bully of a boss to the point that left me in tears every time. One day she yes it was a woman said to me " I don't know why you're crying all the time. Are you pregnant?" And that was before I was pregnant!
bitter twisted egomaniac finally got the union involved and they helped every step of the way.
If nothing else it will put the fear of god in them and they'll have to tread lightly around you there after.

Gawjus so sorry your work are being so unsupportive. Great advice on here.

Because that sounds really painful. Hope you feel better soon

Thanks for that liberuna thats really helpful im going to make an appointment with cab on tues and try get some help. Thats the trouble with private they try and get away with murder ;/ definately going to take yourself and jolls advice thank you again :)

tmi / out of subject... But me and dp had make up errm dancing? But i was ontop and it really hurt my belly even like leaning forward or back was really pulling on my stomach is it just where ligaments are being pulled after theyve already bern stretching i suppose its just like a pulled muscle? Xx

Re. Prams im still uterlly in love eith bugaboo ber the look and the price as its one of the cheaper 'known' brands xx

Ber? I meant to say for lol.

And thankyou suprised xxx

Gawjus I'm glad you made up. But yes probably stretching ligaments and all of that. Or, did you need a wee? the bladder being Pushed onto the uterus is probably not comfortable. Pregnancy is totally glamorous! I'm sorry your boss is being such a bitch, she can't do that to you. Research your rights and arm yourself with them.

Pram, about the pram, could you and your mum go and look at it and see what you think? It probably feels like she is pushing you into it, but I know you won't let her. As for the bike, well £100 is a lot to spend. Could you suggest to dh that you go to Halfords or wherever together and see what's available and make a decision from there.

Our child free dinner out was lovely. Although I think I made a few pregnancy food faux pas. Am I right in thinkin you can have goats cheese cooked? Cos I did. I ordered my steak well done and it came pink, how I would usually eat it. And I ate it anyway. I will kick myself if I get ill but the likelihood is small, right?!

Mummy You'll be fine. I can't eat well cooked meat, I've had one steak and one duck breast since I became pregnant, both of them were pink.

As a one off I think it's fine!

Now it's 7am and I want a steak

Why can't I ever lie in!

Sorry I missed everything last night, it was a tough one. The vets think my puppy has some sort of brain growth/damage which is affecting his use of his back legs :(. He's got to go for a MRI scan next week to determine where/how bad. Luckily he's not in any pain and it's not really affecting his day to day life but it's still so sad and worrying for us.

Gawjus I'm glad you're doing something about work, you really don't deserve to be treated like that. Stomach sounds painful! Everything's more relaxed so it's much easier to stretch/pull something.

Pram Hope counselling goes well and you get what you're hoping out of it. Agree with picking your battles but doesn't mean you're not allowed to be angry! Maybe you could offer to help him find a cheaper bike? And make a date (when you're ready) to go look at prams together with your mum?

Sorry if I've missed anything major!

Mummy You'll be fine. Goats cheese cooked is perfectly okay and I wouldn't worry too much about pink meat! Tastes rubbish well done anyway...

Notice some of you talking a bit about baby routines? I read the secrets of the baby whisperer by Tracey Hogg, that seemed to have some good advice. Seems to be a middle ground between the Gina Ford military precision and letting the baby dictate everything.

Well I was secretly a bit glad when my steak came as I don't really like it well done but I wanted a slab of meat!

Comms I'm so sorry to hear about your puppy. Can they do anything for him?

So weird with no kids around. Pil are going away in their caravan today so we will pick them up around 10 I guess. Then we need to take ds school shoes back as they gave him a blister after 2 days!