October 2013 - swollen hands, puffy feet and we all need a decent sleep

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Time to start thread #17!

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How r u this morning falcon

I miss- being able to fit behind my steering wheel properly
Being able to sleep on my front
Being able to sleep all night
Being able to get up from the sofa or bed without being in agony
Being able to wear more than about 5 items of clothing
Being able to pick things up off the floor without planning a military operation

Saying that, someone on Facebook has just announced the birth of their baby boy over night..... And they've stolen one of our front runner names 'theo' I didn't think we would pick that name but now I feel like I can't choose it I want it!!

Thank you for the well wishes over night, ladies, you are all so lovely. There isn't an option not to have a PN thread, we just have to, I think we'd all be lost without this support and outlet.

I miss;
Walking/moving without crutches and pain
Going out more than just once a week just for hospital
Sleeping on my stomach
Playing on the floor with DS
Hoovering (wtf!?)
Baking
Being able to sit up for more than 30 mins

But once I've had baby I will probably miss;
The gorgeous feeling of growing this amazing person inside
The movement, even annoying hiccups
Being able to legitimately lay in bed all day
Sleep whenever I like (or at least trying!)

Nat I like your other two names; Dexter and eppp forgotten. But if wobbling how about; Dylan, Zachary, Milo, Noah or Oscar?

Lol tarlia the other name is Harrison. I just feel like with dd being called honey that honey and Harrison could sound a bit much together? Dh says no to noah and Dylan and I say no to Oscar and milo and my near enough best friends son is called Zac. I really like Noah but dh won't even consider it.

Who knew naming a baby could be so stressful I found naming dd so easy! Xx

I can see why you might worry about 'Honey and Harrison' being a bit of a mouthful but they still 'go' together and are only little for such a short time that their names are constantly paired like that.

Jasper? Ethan? Luke?

I really like Theo too but mum has a gorgeous fluffy Tom called Theo so I can't name my baby after a cat hehe. Plus in out second language I hate the pronounciation it's said T-o not Th-eo

Damn iPhone. Maybe we should have a non correction pact? Avoid the MN snob thread police.

I also meant to ask yesterday, tucking are you around? You've gone AWOL! How are you? How did you and DS cope with the nights apart?

Falcon I hope they are happy with everything today x

Oh I remember missing DS moving in my bump, even when I was holding him!

I miss

• cured meats
• being able to turn over in bed without waking up
• not having a uterus digging in to my rib cage
• not having to wee so regularly
• being able to wear anything in my wardrobe
• sleeping on my tummy

I will miss

• the wriggles and kicks inside me
• having something to talk about (is it a boy or a girl, any cravings etc)
• no one having an opinion on how much I am eating
• people being protective of me (carrying stuff for me etc)
• random people smiling at me
• the feeling of the unknown excitement

I hope you're doing well today falcon!

Dp had a really annoying habit of holding me down and tickling me and blowing raspberries on my stomach while youngest dd lay across my face so I couldn't breathe shouting "Get her Daddy". I'm definetly not missing that.

On way to hospital now for midwife appointnent where I'll hopefully get my c-section date at long last. I really need a definite date in sight to get me through these last few weeks.

I'm loving all your miss/won't miss posts- I agree with them all, especially putting on socks and wiping with ease!

I won't miss doing pee tests and sitting in this darn GP waiting room. Mw said I cd just drop off a sample to be sent to the lab but instead I've had to wait to see a nurse and now wait to see a GP. Meanwhile Mr Posty is sposed to be delivering a parcel I'm going to miss [frustrated grimace]

Oh- and had cr@p night's sleep cos DH came home late, passed out on bed and sweated alcohol all night. He doesn't go out often but I just can't stand strong smells at the mo. and DS spent most of the night clinging to me (must break this habit before no.2!!!!) [grump]

A very wet morning here - DD and I got soaked on the school run even wearing waterproofs (I just managed to do mine up over my bump which was nothing short of a miracle!) Now, I'm preparing to get soaked again with the dog.

Sending lots of good luck to Falcon and MoN.

Loving the "I miss..." posts and nodding in agreement at so many. I definitely won't miss the blasted heartburn...

Part of me felt quite bereft after DD was born and really missed the wriggly bump that I'd spent months bonding with (somehow the baby in my arms seemed like an entirely new and different person) This time I think I'm just going to be relieved not to be pregnant any more.

Having a strange mental block over bedding options - please help! Are people going for sleeping bags? Swaddling? Or sheets and blankets? If you are opting for sleeping bags what tog are choosing?

Hope you get home in time for the parcel Pink - I missed one yesterday and it was taken in by a neighbour....but one that we've totally fallen out with over a roofing issue. It was horrible having to go around and collect it - my heart sank I read the calling card left by the courier.

Thanks hotsoup good to know they aren't just for the chestily gifted.

This is my first baby, but I'm sure I'm going to miss my bump. I don't know if we will have any more children for various reasons so I'm feeling nostalgic already. Wondering if I will ever feel the wriggles and kicks again, share my body like this again.. I'll stop there or I might cry!!

I've also loved my body for the first time during pregnancy.. It's so womanly and it's growing something so amazing. I'm quite worried about how I will feel about it after my baby is born.

Good luck today mon and sorry you had a rough night falcon. Hope you manage to get some rest today.

bridget I'm sticking with blankets whilst baby is in the moses basket then moving up to a sleeping bag when we move her into her cot. I think we will buy a couple of each tog sleeping bag, then we are covered for colder and warmer nights.

I've got sleeping bags. I bought 2.5 togs, says its suitable for a room between 16º and 20º which seemed about right for 0-6 months between october and april!!

Very quiet today!

bridget we will use blankets to swaddle for first few weeks until baby is big enough for grobag. We've got 2.5 too as figured cold nights will come once he is right weight. However 0-6 you can always get the lighter yog and add blankets as they won't move so much.

For out in the pram we have a whispers baby duvet, which is very normal to use here.

Hugs to Heffa. Although this is my 2nd we wanted 4 but doubt I can go through this again, so know how you feel.

We decided to let the dog pick our name last night, so we put Hamish, Seth and Felix on bits of paper and rolled them into balls then threw them to see which one she'd pick up first.

She did very well, picked one and brought it back and it was Hamish! We'll see if he looks like a Hamish when he comes, still worried about the strongly Scottish name though as might seem odd in Hertfordshire.

Hmmm what do I miss?

I miss - Having a waist
- Sleeping on my front
- Clothes shopping
- Being able to turn over in bed without thinking about it
- Feeling fit and healthy

I will miss - Being able to get away with being a pig
- Shopping for the big ticket baby stuff
- Having a disposable income

I won't miss - Heartburn
- Being at work
- Feeling like a whale
- Worrying the baby hasn't moved enough
- All the appointments/ blood tests/scans
- Being out of breath
- Choosing a name
- Puffy feet/restless legs

Is it bad I don't have more to miss? I've been pretty healthy, but I can honestly say that I haven't enjoyed pregnancy one bit. I've really surprised myself, I though I'd love it.

Got my section date FINALLY. 4th October which is my dad's birthday. This is providing ofcourse that the fetal medicine team at the Southern General don't decide at my appointment on Thursday that they want me to deliver there. Getting excited now.

MoN- yey! Great to have something firm in the diary - and not long!!

Nat how close is your fb friend? Theo is a lovely name and it shouldn't matter if it's someone you don't see all that often. Mind you I also quite like 'Honey & Harrison'
(one day soon I'll 'fess up my name obsession and you can all laugh at me...)

I'm very excited- I've finally found the cheapest deal for my pushchair and have made the brave step in ordering it. Aaaagh!!! Madam's been wriggling around all morning reminding me that she really is there. That + Dr giving me a long shpiel about drug options during delivery (she had a baby recently and obv wanted to share!) has made me feel all the more aware of the imminent arrival.
I'm with you MoN - excited !!!!!!!

tarlia thanks! I'm rather emotional at the minute anyway, damned hormones, so I think it's making me even more sentimental about it all.

smitten I agree with pretty much all of yours, especially the restless legs. I have repeatedly asked dh to cut them off!! The only thing that has helped in any way is avoiding carby snacks in the evening. Apparently it makes it worse.

MoN that's fantastic news!! So pleased for you :) I'm still waiting to get my date, but it should be around the 6th, so a couple of days after you. How many weeks and days will you be?

MoN 4 October is my birthday too, I'll be thinking of you!

We've just had our first antenatal class. It was great, the midwife was really friendly and put our minds at rest about loads of stuff. I was dead proud of DP, he was only one of three blokes there and was dead keen while the other two sat there and played with their iPhones .

Good news MoN - less than a month to go!

I feel really upset with Dp today and need a moan... I just can't do the morning drop off anymore. The walk to school is 10min and then the walk from school to the tube station is about 25 minutes, half of it up the hill. DP was supposed to take DS this morning but realised he had a 9am meeting and I could see that he was stressing so much that I finally said I would take him. It ended up as a 40min walk in the pouring rain before I even got to the station, then 30min on Northern Line, and then walk from the station to the office. And there are three bloody lots of stairs to get out from Tottenham Court Road. I got to work not only very late but also totally soaked and in terrible pain. My lower back and pelvis are killing me so much that I want to cry... He only needed to leave the house 10-15min earlier to take DS to school and he would still make his 9am. For me, this drop off combined with the commute has ruined my day as I'm in so much pain now that I can't focus on anything else. I also screamed at DS like a mad woman this morning (more like a lion roar than a human scream) as he wouldn't listen. He didn't really do anything terrible and was quite good but I had to repeat everything 3 times and just screamed at some point - I think it was more about my overall frustration than him being naughty... so feeling guilty now and worried that this stress and terrible animal like screaming has scared and stressed the baby too...

Generally, DP is lovely and very supportive but sometimes I wish he could take more interest in learning about pregnancy, reading a bit about it and about labour, and show more involvement and excitement. His mum keeps telling me how excited he is about the baby and I only keep asking "really...? when...? where...?" I just can't see it... but perhaps I'm too used to South European kind of excitement when people just show it and talk about it. His mum keeps telling me how in their family they don't talk about emotions and I remember DP was like this when we met. But he's changed so much since we got together! Perhaps I'm just expecting too much? I would love him to seem more excited and more involved. I would love him to ask questions about things... but I seem to be starting and driving all the conversations.

I also haven't really slept much for the last 4 nights and feel exhausted but every time I mention something about not sleeping he just comments "what's new" (as I'm an insomniac anyway). I just find this kind of comments so upsetting these days. I know from reading your posts that 1. my pregnancy is actually much easier than for some of you, 2. the way I feel and the pains I have are completely normal. So I'm not being difficult, I'm just a normal 8 months pregnant woman. But he often makes me feel like I'm just being difficult and exaggerated...

Sorry for this long moan and this me me me post... just feeling fed up and lonely in this pregnancy today

cuille just read your post, how ironic you posted it right now... we haven't done ante-natal classes but DP is the "playing with his iPhone" type whenever I try to talk to him about something pregnancy or labour related...

Clapham has your employer reviewed your risk assessment recently? You could discuss the stress that the commute is giving you (leaving out drop off issues) and ask to come in after rush hour and leave before rush hour. I did this for the last few weeks before I left in my first pregnancy.

Last time I really missed resting my hands on my tummy.
Also missed wearing some of my tops. With a pregnant tummy they look flattering. With out bump I just looked fat and ill fitting. Lol

I'm all packed up now. Apart from snacks. I was induced at 38 weeks last time, so thought I better get a move on.

I was in a strop with dh last night for not being interested. A friend of his helped give birth to his baby at home as she progressed so quick and couldn't get to hospital.
So thought I'd discuss it with him.
But he was more interested in tv.

finished at work this afternoon. Sat at home now watching tv enjoying the idea of no work for 10 months!