October 2013 - swollen hands, puffy feet and we all need a decent sleep

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Time to start thread #17!

Spreadsheet here

Ahhh, that song gets me every time too! Have a good old blub

Serious - agree, that's such a sad song!

Bridget re bednest sheets, I'm getting these JL ones.

P.S. The JL moses basket arrived and it is pretty awful, even given that it's the cheapest they sell. Maybe it's bad luck with the one we got.

Just back from the hairdressers- figured I'd get the last cut in for another 6months (plus)!

I'm finally sorting thru the baby clothes I've bought (GAP/H&M) and can't remember what a sensible quantity of each size/shape is! My brain just goes to fluff every time I try to think about it.
Anyone worked out a sensible list I could crib from?

Thanks Soup - think I'll do the same.

Oh and Natalie I'm with you on the maternity wardrobe- getting more limited by the day!

I just got one of these, life changer, I'm so thrilled with it. I thought I'd struggle to find a decent nursing bra for my massive boobs but this one actually fits and is so comfy! Hurrah.

www.bravadodesigns.com/mobile/uk-en/the-body-silk-seamless-nursing-bra

I'm having my hair done next week pink4boys although saying that as its fairly long and thick I can go a wee while before a cut and it looks ok left to dry naturally as its a bit wavy.

All my friends with kids have there's all back t school so trying to find something to do with dd today is a bit annoying. I want an easy option of something I can do with her which involves me sitting reading a mag and her playing! Off to a play place centre it is. I just don't have the energy to walk round the park!

serious I'm with you on the emotional stuff, I blubbed at the lady who had a water birth on the midwives on Tuesday.

In ready to cuddle my baby now... Wah!

just back from my breast feeding antenatal workshop. was good and good to hear of all the support that's available. they will see you in hospital then aim for a homr visit within 48 hours to see how you're doing then support you as much as you want after that. im very impressed!!

Just back from the midwife and I asked about the cervix pain. She said it is baby's head grinding and bumping against it. It will happen sometimes when you are walking and sometimes the baby will push themselves against it. It's apparently all very normal, if rather painful. She did a lovely demonstration by shmushing her fist into the palm of her other hand, the fist being the baby's head.

Hayleybop and pink - i'm having my hair cut next week too, I'm trying to find a nice easy maintenance haircut. Problem is i have flat hair that goes a bit flicky if left to its own devices. I'm hoping the hairdresser will perform some sort of miracle.

roofio - I'm really jealous of your bfing workshop! That sounds awesome. The most you can get round here is a helpline number to call :( once I'm up and about I will be going to a support group though so that's good :)

roof I'd add that the b-f helpline is also fantastic. I called when I had first signs of mastitis and they were brilliant. I was hallucinating and had really swollen sore boobs and they told me to have a really hot shower and massage out some milk. Worked like magic.
Maybe that's why they recommend hot baths/showers Chickie (was that you who said that?)

On that note- just got my boob-warming/cooling pad from Boots. Again worked a treat last time. Better than the red & savoy cabbages DH brought home! (I think it's the green one that's supposed to work)

oh dear... I can't keep up with all of you... the last two days of looking after DS while trying to work from home literally killed me... it all ended up in a massive tantrum and tears last night (me not DS!) sister I screamed yesterday too. DS wanted to negotiate everything and just didn't listen to anything I said - everything turned into a discussion "but mummy if I do this I can do that etc..." No you can't. "but mummy it's not fair that..." Well, life is not fair - learn it. I swear this child will be a lawyer.

And this morning, back in the office, I spent over an hours trying to comfort a colleague who's just found out she is 7 weeks pregnant with twins. Totally distressed and has been crying for the last 3 days. She had some bleeding so they scanned her early - two clear heartbeats... she is in the middle of buying a house, she doesn't earn a lot (she is 3 levels below me so I can imagine) and her husband earns even less. She was up for promotion but, knowing my team, she is now convinced she won't get it. And she is absolutely petrified about the costs, her career, and all the life changes. On top of it, she is South African so not like her mum can fly over quickly if she needs any help... I feel so sorry for her and don't know what else to tell her. legally are there any twin MN threads I could point her to? Or any other support groups? And what else can I tell her to help?

heffalump what terrible news... such bad timing indeed... do you work yourself and do you get a decent maternity pay? Or do you rely entirely on his job? hope he will find something soon and you are not too stressed, although probably easier said than done...

tarlia sorry you are feeling rotten. Not long to go now xx (by the way, to answer your earlier question - DP is as English as they come, although technically half American, and speaks only English! My other two languages are Russian and Spanish - my uni degree)

pseudo good luck with your consultant appointment!

bridget my house-elves have stolen my breast pump and baby monitor... can't find them anywhere although definitely saw them after we moved in November... I've looked everywhere. So annoying and both expensive things to buy. I bet I will find them a week after I buy new ones

ana your colleague probably means well but is insensitive and rude in the process. Some people behave like this as money and possessions are the only things they have that make them feel good about themselves. Don't get upset - it's all about her not you xx I got most things for DS1 second hand from my best friend, including BF bras! (I would never ever take them from anyone else but they fitted me perfectly and she was my best friend so didn't feel weird!) She had another baby later though and moved back to Denmark, taking it all back, so I'm now having to buy all of it myself for this baby :-)

natalie hope you will get your baby shower this Saturday

pink hope all goes well with your wee test retake!

sorry for the mammoth post... so much happening

pink that's brilliant to hear the bfing helpline are good! I will not hesitate to call them for help then.

Oh and my midwife had my blood results and they are all good. Not anaemic :) she has told me the fainting is my bodies way of telling me to slow down. I'm really quite big now so it just seems to be taking quite a toll on my body. Feet up it is then!!

Thanks clapham unfortunately we were relying on his wage. I became poorly and had to stop my nursing degree halfway through then very unexpectedly fell pregnant. I trying to stay calm and just do the practical things to help the situation. Sorry you are having a trying time with your ds, but I have to agree he sounds like he will make a great lawyer one day!

Clapham sorry you've had some tough days :(

Ok I'm bored in the waiting room so.... Has anyone else got their head in the sand about anything?
I'm avoiding getting my Medela Swing out of the cupboard as I'm worried it's gone mouldy or something. And I'm avoiding getting my pram out of the car where it's lived (behind the seats - my car is big) covered in mud for about 12 months, as I don't want to clean it and I bet the hydraulics have gone.

I give up! I can't keep up with this particular thread for some reason..!

Umm...

Tarlia so sorry the PE is treating you badly. Tbh I do think you're lucky you are not admitted though... Here they seem v keen on hospital admissions from 35 weeks or so for constant monitoring...

Pseudo I hope your PE does not get too bad too soon...

Smitten I LOVE the bravado body silk bra... A few if us have it and have raved about it on other threads.

Heffy so sorry about your DH's job... It must be very stressful.

Clapham there is a multiple births thread (in being a parent, not becoming a parent) and she would get responses if she posted there. I can honestly say that I know how she feels... Even though my circs are different. I was in genuine shock, feeling v overwhelmed, for weeks. A close friend also has spontaneous twins now 2 months old) and found out at 7 weeks. She felt terrified too. I think it is entirely normal to feel fear more than excitement when you first discover its twins - I certainly did. It's exacerbated by the fact that at every appointment you're told how high risk it all is etc etc... TAMBA have a helpline staffed by twin mums, so she may want to google that and call them?

My friend in Australia gave birth to a gorgeous little girl this morning weighing 7lb 5oz, 6 hours in total from the very first contraction to the end result. So chuffed for her she is 43 and thought she'd never have a baby. Already been out in my lunch break to buy a little outfit to send to Oz. I shed a little tear of joy, I want my baby now :-)

Just finished my health visitors appt. she was a new lady, very supportive very helpfull lovely lady have me baby's red book and said I need to pack it in my hospital bag contents to that currently spread over my bed till dh gets home to reach the bag I want to use as when they do the newborn hearing screen at the hospital they need to write the results in it. Not sure if that's the same for all areas? Xx

How r u feeling legally really really not long to go now x

Well BP and urine all fine; the appointment was basically me signing elcs consent forms (scary!) and being given all the info. So I am booked for the afternoon list on the 7th October (39+2). But will be having an emcs if I go into labour before - DS was born at 38 weeks.....

Hello ladies 400 posts in 2 days! maybe the twins won't ve born on this thread legally! Really cant keep up but just checking in.
Exciting to have a date pseudo hope baby waits so get a calm elective experience.

Glad HV was ok natalie exciting to already have babies red book! don't think we get ours here until baby is born.

Cant remember who said but just to say thankyou aboutvthe explanation of sharp crotch pains. Have been getting so many and didnt understand how it feels like shes kicking her way out when shes head down.

35+5 here and hospitap bag packing commences today.
sorry to everyone Ive missed, no idea how Im going to keep up when everyones off work

Also meant to say Im sorry your feeling so rubbish tarlia what is BP doing? How is DS? x

I can't keep up either, maybe it'll be easier when I'm on mat leave? At the moment, I have a quick look at breakfast and then nothing until I get home (which is usually much later than this, had an appointment this afternoon). 1 week to go at work (+1 day) and if anything, I'm busier than ever!

smitten, if it's not too personal a question, what bra size are you and which body silk did you get? I think I'm too large but it'd be good to know if there is more room in them than I assume!

Just back from hospital scan. Growth is still on 50th centile, placenta blood flow fine so just need to go in for weekly monitoring from 36 weeks and, if all continues to be fine, hope desparately to go into labour by 40 weeks otherwise it's an induction.

I'm meeting some of the ladies from my NCT class for lunch tomorrow , hopefully we'll continue to meet up after the babies get here.

heffa, that's horrible news, sucky timing

Wow this thread is moving fast!

With all of mine, I have bought new mattresses for the crib and cot. I have a crib in my bedroom and another downstairs as the baby can stay in a crib a lot longer than a Moses basket.

I'm not bothering with a baby monitor........I only had one with my first and it kept picking up the neighbours baby too which annoyed me so I didn't bother with one when I had the boys.

Here we don't get the red books until about day 10 when the midwives "hand us over" to the health visitors.

I'm another one struggling to keep up. I think the tiredness I'd getting to us all now.

soupqueen there's a size chart on the web page. They only fit up to an f cup so were no use for me .

Dd came back from school much happier after the deputy head got her, my niece and the bullies together to discuss what had been happening. It's her 12th birthday today and I didn't want it marred by the bullying. I'm so glad I got it sorted out when I did.

Despite not gaining any weight in weeks I feel so much heavier. Turning over in bed is such an effort. I feel like I have bricks inside me and not a baby.

Soup, I went to from a 36F to a 40F in normal bras, but the 40F was really uncomfortable last week and I think was making me get heartburn and I could kind of feel the baby wriggling underneath it, so it was probably getting too tight.

I got the XL and there's plenty of room in the back still. It seems pretty stretchy. It also somehow makes my boobs look smaller - result!

I have cankles again today, even though I tried not to be on my feet all day.

One of the teachers had her baby today by emcs 2 days after being induced and 13 days late. She really wanted a natural birth. So did the DP of a male teacher at school who had an induction and epidural at the end of July, she wanted water birth in MLU. Brought it home that things don't always go to plan though still crossing fingers all will be ok for us. I suppose it doesn't matter once you get your baby safely out.

Little green sheep recommend their 35x75 cm sheets for the snuzpod even though smaller than the mattress as they stretch.

I didn't used to like the idea of 2nd hand and want the best for our baby but am trying to become more frugal in preparation for losing my income. Got my BF chair, some clothes, angelcare sensor pad monitor and a cot top changer 2nd hand so far and given a breast feeding pillow and playpen from friends. Also stopped being such a snob about the pound shop which I was angry replaced m&s food as it brings down the appearance of the area but actually has some useful bits. Got cheap vacuum seal bags for clothes, toothbrush for hospital bag and containers for freezing food there. We then spend lots on things that matter to me like the pushchair and things that I really wanted new because of germs/risks like bedding and carseat.

We've just booked a two evening baby and child first aid course for next week which should be useful.