October 2013 - Are we neary *there* yet?!

[MrsHoratioNelson]

Welcome, welcome, sit down, put your feet up.

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Do you have a link, Badger?

Glad it's all eased off, Jelly. Take an easy day tomorrow! My 2.5 is doing the exact same, some nights he is still awake until 9:30. We are in an apartment and he stands at the sittingroom door looking, at first we told him off and took to bed which just make everyone wound up, now totally ignore him, he gets bored and either goes back himself or we take him back a few times without saying anything or giving attention after the first time(first time he gets another kiss good night). He seems to be learning that actually nothing is happening so he isn't missing anything and time is shortening.

Here you go Tarlia www.mumsnet.com/Talk/behaviour_development/1840448-Poor-DS-has-been-challenging-today?msgid=41254218#41254218

How are you today?

Happy birthday caz have a lovely day.

Just a quick one as sitting down to watch X factor.....autumn is def here..eek!

pseudo sorry you're having toddler trouble . Reminding you of the good old mumsnet motto " this too shall pass"

Busy day today. Ds up at 4 and then from 5.30 which is getting harder as the mornings are darker...starting to dread a winter baby!

Then went for lovely dog walk on the beach, out for lunch and to ikea so pretty tired now. Nice to get sitting down and treating myself to a glass of wine :) hope everyone has a relaxing night.

Jelly - Is he still having a daytime nap? DD (now 2.10) did this, bedtime getting later and later, until we stopped daytime naps altogether. Requires a little management as basically means no car or pushchair at any potential nap times for a couple of weeks. DD needs some "downtime" in that after lunch period, so I usually let her watch a film or something, which also gives us a little downtime!

We are trying to get him out his naps legally but by 2pm he is so tired he is falling about everywhere and moaning and crying. Think if I wasn't 36 weeks pregnant I would have more energy for him but need to be strong so can get this sorted before baby comes.

We are exactly the same with naps Jelly! We either have a pleasant day (with a nap) and awful bedtime, or horrendous day (no nap) and usually quick bedtime. I just don't have the strength....

At that 2pm time, is there anything he/you can do which is quiet and calm but not sleeping... Cbeebies with a snack or drink he really likes. We're only just coming out the other side of this and it is a nightmare time, but dropping the nap seems to be the only way to sort bedtime...

He's a bit of a cars 2 addict so will give him some quiet time starting tomorrow. Was easier with DD as she lived cuddling in with a book. Thanks for the advice

Thanks for the much welcomes sympathy ladies, I'm still gutted about the house though :-( but dh asked my sister to babysit so we dropped dd off to her house for a cpl of hours and went to the local Indian it made a change from sitting in moping around and dd loves it there so win win, dh is least impressed with his nan for lettingg us down. Also I have discovered that I can buy a ticket on the gate for tommorows day out but its a bit more expensive so its weighing up whether its worth it. So feeling a bit happier this evening.

jelly just a few weeks ago I had exact same with dd who is also 2 year 10 months she has always been a good sleeper and went to bed at 7 she went through about a 2 week phase of coming out her room crying at the top of the stairs after a few nights of putting her back to bed and excessive crying we decided to ignore and she would either put herself back to bed or fall asleep on the hallway then in the end we promised if she starts going to bed like a good girl then we would paint her room this dealt with the coming out her room problem but she would still cry for a good 15-20 mins though (just from her bed) and after a few more days of that it soon passed anyway what I'm trying to say is just be consistent whatever u decide to do. Cos once u start deviating from your plan they will realise
what your weak spot is (cunning little devils)

pseudo have u tried a time out spot? I usually say to dd 'I'm going to count to 3 and if u haven't stopped (insert irritating behaviour here) then I will put u on the stairs on your own then when she has calmed down i go and see her and she either apologises volunterily or prompted and if she refuses she has to stay there longer until she is ready go apologise and I would say 8/10 times it works especially if she is crying for absolutely reason which happens a rediculous amount for my liking only thing with a method like that is u might find in the first few days he will spend alot of time in the designated spot lol toddlers r so stressful aren't they!!! Sometimes she has me in years then when I have stopped crying she takes it upon herself to come and say sorry x

Sorry for essay, I'm no expert just sharing my personal experience

Fingers crossed everyone gets a good night's sleep, tonight.
I'm home alone and the four-pawed one has decided that he's allowed to sleep on the bed. I'm tempted to let him stay, as it's nice to have the company.

Aww shit. Shire ur post just reminded me my washing is still on the line!
Talia- dh also keeps mentioning number 3. I wana smack him. And if I say owt he goes "obviously we will have a bigger gap!" I'd love to have another kid but I don't think I could cope with another pregnancy

X factor is back! Yeppie.

Thanks. Sounds just like my DS some days, badger. He has sussed that I can't move fast or man handle him into doing stuff so really taking advantage. I think it's just a phase and ignoring it is that best way ie if he hits you, I always say 'no hitting, mummy would never hot you, so don't hit me.' If he tries again I catch him, no eye contact and walk away, usually he gets the message, other times he will whinge or cry, so I look him in the eye and say 'you hit mummy, it hurts and makes mummy sad. You need to stop hitting then we can do xyz. Are you going to stop?' Yes or no, decides if I walk away or not.
I cuddle through whingey tantrums as I cannot ignore it. Shouting fits (new thing) he is taken to his room and explained he can come out once he stops. Usually he stops soon, but often doesn't come out so 2 mins of silence ill go in and ask if he is ready to come out, or if he needs more quiet time - I don't think he has opted to stay in yet. I give him a cuddle and out he comes.
Some days like all parents I lose my temper and nothing goes to plan, he def responds worse to this as he knows he's got me.
I'm ok, thank you for asking - although should really be back at the hospital, got a reading of 161/103, that's with medication :/. How are you? How's bp?

Re naps, funnily enough on the days DS takes 3 hours he goes straight off to sleep. If he has been at nursery and only had 1.5 hours that's when he is a pickle at bedtime. For him sleep def breeds sleep, but they are all so different.

shire I know what you mean, kinda, have dd in bed with me atm, hoping dh doesn't move her and just gets in her bed tbh. The extra room is lovely!

nat oh I know that feeling. Sorry the house was disappointing but a move at 38 weeks sounds awfully hard work. I'm glad were staying put now.

Hope you had a nice day caz

Been out for lunch today with 3 friends. 2 of which are pregnant, both due November and they're so much more organised! I feel like I need to get the house organised before I can see where we can fit baby into it. Ie, sort him out some drawers in our chest of drawers. I'm giving myself targets. By Friday I want the house in complete order then over the weekend I will wash baby's clothes, blankets and towels. Then will pack both hospital bags and be totally prepared by 36 weeks. Although the reality being that with dd not starting school until the 9th I would just like to leave everything until then! If I have baby at 37+5 like dd I will be giving birth on 27th sept. scarily close!

shire aww I'd snuggle the dog, prob last chance as you won't want it all over bed when feeding baby.

GT I'm the same. We wanted four and would love a girl but at the moment I don't think I can put myself or my small family through this again. I think we will def wait until both boys are older, if at all, incase this happens again.

I also hope you all sleep tight. Will be interesting to see if I do tonight as I had a four hour nap which means I usually sleep through. Weird!

Sorry for the long absence, I'm here MoN and Shire and no Tarlia baby is still tucked up under my rib cage

It has taken me all week to catch up, I read a bit and then stop and then a new thread has started! Can't believe there has been a baby already since I last posted, hope 34pink and baby Josie are at home snuggled up together now. DP keeps asking if anyone else on the thread has had a baby and wanted me to 'fast forward' to the end but I refused!

Sorry to hear about Pink and Flyer let's just say I know the feeling a bit too well from both sides and I've recently come to the realisation that you often don't realise how much goes on behind closed doors in other people's relationships. My mum is the only person I can speak to with total honesty about relationship stuff (aside from DP) and I feel really lucky that I have that relationship with her. Sometimes wish I had a sister though...

On a brighter note, IT'S SEPTEMBER!! That means that there will be babies this month and next month I'm so excited. Went back to work last week after 6 weeks hols and finish this Friday. Started packing hospital bag earlier, feeling very real now. DP has actually said he is excited, and can't wait to have the baby sleeping on his chest. Made me quite teary eyed, I'm a hormonal wreck ATM.

Umlauf I think we have the same stretch marks- mine are on the side sort of under my bump, just above my hips. Mainly on one side though, but I'm beginning to see signs on the other side. Bit worried they are going to end up looking terrible, the palmers tummy butter is doing nothing. I told myself it doesn't make a difference what you put on them as its down to your skin but it doesn't stop me feeling disappointed!

Hope you had a lovely birthday Caz and I think I missed Haylebops too, so to both of you!

Feeling a bit apprehensive about starting maternity leave due to lack of friends around- went to a pregnancy gym class which nearly killed me but people were either already cliquey or didn't seem to want to talk. Maybe I came across like that too, who knows. Didn't really enjoy it though, not sure I'll be going back.

Shire I love Francesca ( our name for a girl too) and also quite like Gabriel. After convincing me on Raphael, DP has now started going back through the '40,001' baby names book. I've been through every name in the book, and called out each one I liked. We didn't get further than Raphael and Francesca. I refuse to look at the book again, just waiting to hear his suggestions!
I'm another one a bit about nicknames. I don't like Fran or Frankie, but know that Francesca would probably get shortened at some point. Just not by me

Still awake as DP went to a friends birthday. Roller-disco so I couldn't go so I'm staying up in the hope he brings some junk food home for me. Have now put on 3st and quite impressed with my new shape (round is a shape imo). People still saying I am all bump. Liars. As if baby and water weighs 3st what kind of fool do they think I am?!

And sorry you didn't like the new houses Nat and Haylebop I know that deflated feeling when it just doesn't look/feel/smell the way you want it to. Better to go with your instinct with homes I think, if it doesn't sit right then you don't want to live there fx you find somewhere you like when the time is right for you

Hi ladies. Been a while and I was so happy to have never missed reading all posts on all our threads but been so busy moving house last few weeks and too much now to catch up on.

am 36+3 and just moved this weekend from a flat into a 3/4 bed house, am exhausted and it was the most work I had ever done in my life, but glad it's done b4 baby gets here and now have to live out of boxes for a while. Also have the joy of changing hospitals/gp and speaking to new mw etc with technically less than four weeks to go.

MoN glad you mentioned the food stuff, I am West African and food is mainly tomato based / very spicy and pretty much most of what I have eaten all pregnancy, so doubt will change it for bf. baby should be used to it by now and I think may actually be more affected if I suddenly change my diet to non spicy foods.

Hope you had a good birthday caz

My sister-in-law is called Francesca and has always been known as Chess, Chessie or Chesca. I love the name

I just weighed myself and have put on exactly 1st 1/2lb

I think that's pretty good isn't it? X

Thanks Tarlia that's great advice. So are you going back to the hospital? How are your protein levels?
I'm checking my BP every day and there are the odd increases but nothing serious, it didn't shoot up until 36 weeks with DS (I was 34 weeks yesterday). I think my swelling/carpal tunnel are just as bad as last time so I do expect the BP to follow suit....

Nat that is very good!

Good to hear from you Feminist and Funkky

The furry one stayed on the bed for a while, then came back for an early morning hug.
Just waiting for my parents to arrive; I'm driving them to the airport as they're off to Canada until October.

Hello Feminist and funkyy!

Tarlia sorry about your bp.... That's a bit of a worry give you are on the meds already.... You know this far better than me but I am sure they'd want you in and to be monitoring your blood biochemistry.....

Nat glad your evening perked up!

Oh and I didn't change my diet at all for breast feeding and had no probs at all!

Eek toddlers are going to be hard work! Sorry so many of you are dealing with them being challenging at the moment.

How are you today Tarlia? Please keep a close eye and take care of yourself. What's the level you are meant to stay under?

Whoever had the table kicks, me too. If I lean against a table or rest iPad on my tummy the baby comes up to press against it.

It didnt move for most of yesterday but I was very busy and I don't think it liked all the loud music at the party. I tried sweet iced mocktails and lots of poking but it wouldn't out to play for my grandparents or friends who wanted to see/feel it. As soon as we got in the car home it had its own little party though :)

Not drinking is great when it means no late night tubes. I might keep being designated driver post baby.

Glad it was just BH jelly. Not long now until we will be crossing fingers that they are real contractions and not just BH.

Hmm yes strange not to hear from flyer. Hope all is well.

I hope Flyer pops in soon?

Orange my main toddler experience has been 'sunshine and showers'. But he really is a devil at the moment!