March 2014 - Thread 4 - awaiting our dating scans

[MTBMummy]

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edamame that's so cheap I haven't seem it any less than 480 so far! I thought they preferred to do it later because of the higher volume of what they test in your blood?! Ahh ok I saw fetal sexing as one of the advantages when it's been spoken about!

Becca, what super news!

Moosey, there's a place in London doing the Harmony test for £180 but I've forgotten who it is! Probs the same place Edam's going.

I woke up to a note from my Other Half this morning: 'If there's any way I can sort this then I will. I love you and our baby and want to be part of your lives. I'm so sorry for what I've done to you.'

Why am I entirely unmoved?

Brilliant news Becca!

MTB what a nightmare. As if all of this isn't stressful enough!!

I think the £180 offer of the harmony test finished this week. I read that on another thread. I think it's ARGC that do it.

Prammy is it too little too late for you? Or is it because you don't want to get hurt anymore?

Edamame would you mind PMing me about the harmony test as well? I'm on my phone and stupid cant see how to message you.

Maybs, I think it's because I had got my head around us parting and me being free of what may still be an addict

Bloody hell MTB that Linda is such a dope! She said to me if I hadn't heard in a week to call her and she would chase it as Oxford can sometimes be slower than reading. But I got a date through within a week, then last week got another date through! I phoned and they had booked me twice and I could choose which I wanted. I chose the earlier one which will make me 11+4 I think!!

PramQueen - I've obviously missed something. What's OH done?

And you know exactly how hard it is to be free of a serious addiction Pram, and words are very easy to say. I feel for you. Do you have separate finances?

Ah, just caught on. PramQueen tread very carefully. My OH has had addictions and is being a twunt now he can't indulge. He's walking on very thin ice right now but if it looks like he's going to bring all the shite into my house when we have a child, I won't hesitate to wave goodbye. You're your child's protector so it's your job to trust your instincts.

Becca I am so pleased to read that everything is ok. What a relief! And not long til your next scan!

Pram has he given any indications of anything he has actually done so far to try to tackle the problem? Or is it all "I will do this, I will do that"?

raspberries bless you that tea and cake hit the spot!! I'm in a bit of a better mood now, we went shopping this morning for a bday present and the DCs were fairly well behaved. Now we have to go to the party this arvo can't be arsed

My new craving and retching cure is chocolate Pop Tarts. I'm not even sure this counts as food.

Can't wait to see the scans from today on FB! gawjus if yours isn't a boy then I'll eat my hat.

Pram I think I would find it hard to get excited about because he didn't actually come to you and confess - you caught him out. So what he is really sorry about is that fact that he has been caught :( it's a shitty situation. I'm really sorry you are going through this.

So pleased for you Becca!

*the fact. Arseing far fingers and typos.

*FAT fingers.

Pirates we share a craving! Chocolate pop tarts! Never thought I'd claim they settle my stomach, but they do.

MummyPig I must admit when you mentioned you'd got a second letter from JR I did wonder if Linda had accidentally sent your file again instead of mine, as it was about a week after I had my booking in appointment - sighs... At least JR have always been wonderful and seem to know Linda is fairly incompetent - when I had DD I ended up dealing directly with them.

Going to discuss the Harmony test with DP tonight, and see what he thinks

Pram I'd want actions/evidence/a plan, not a few words on a bit of paper. 'If there's anyway I can sort this...' is a complete cop out in my opinion!

Now I want a bloody pop tart. I don't even like them.

Comms, Joll, Rosy, Pirate & Edam: all very wise words and exactly my feelings, too. I have just rung him to say I am prepared to talk tonight but that I will not tolerate non-answers or simple hanging-of-head-in-shame. I said I knew he was ashamed and sorry but what I need is answers regarding how he intends to tackle this 'need' for escapism/excitement and is he prepared to start with counselling. The obvious stuff like setting up a joint account managed by me is a given; I don't see a way forward without it.

I will tell him the truth: that if I were not pregnant I would not even be giving him the time of day, let alone space for crisis talks. Even writing in this manner makes me feel slightly crestfallen; I am thus far utterly turned off by the idea of living like this

Neither to I commsgirl. Have hated most breakfasty food since I was a child. Majorly pisses me off that I'm craving all the processed shite that I hate, and that 'real' food like home made lasagna, made from scratch now makes me feel sick.

Not only that...I'm craving breakfast cereal which I've always hated because of the bland taste and the fact it goes soggy really quickly. I now love the taste but the soginess still disgusts me

PramQueen - always here if you need to talk. It only became clear to me that it was an addiction that DP has after my BFP. He'd always dressed it up as 'Being young and spontaneous' beforehand and it's not been an issue the whole time we've been together. All became clear to me the first weekend after the BFP when he quite literally had a toddler strop because I wouldn't allow him to do what he wanted. Quite a punch in the gut, I have to say.

She is pretty incompetent! I don't trust her to do anything right so as long as we don't expect anything from her then we will be fine!

mummy is it worth complaining? i know it sounds harsh but she doesnt actually sound like she can do her job! id rather have someone competent i could rely on to be of help!

Jolleigh on the soggy cereal problem, try having it with yoghurt instead of milk. I went through a stage were all I wanted was rice crispies [shudders] but I hated the sogginess, yoghurt definitely helps keep it a bit more crunchy, and I found the drinking yoghurts where the best as they're not too thick.

Grey I did put in a formal complaint about her last time, but it appears nothing will get done, I'm now looking to move doctors surgery to the one in the next village, they said they'd take me, it's such a pity as I love my GP, but hate my midwife.

Mummy you're spot on, I guess expecting her to get it right was a mistake one I shan't make again

All fine with scan

Due date adjusted to Feb 25th making me 13+1, which confuses me as I know when I ovulated and therefore conceived.

Baby was bouncing around in there and waving at his mum and dad

NT was 1.6mm which a quick google tells me is low risk. I'm having the combined test so they won't tell me my actual risk till they've analysed my blood.

20 week scan on October 18th.

Woohoo! Congrats Lyra !
How many days difference is there between the two dates?

Fab news becca!
Lyra!!! How exciting.

I am still awaiting my scan date. Just going home now. If there is no letter in the mail today for the scan date, I am gna start chasing it up.