October 2013 - Countdown to D-Day!

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Baby due dates/sexes/name choices here

flyer sorry to hear you're feeling so bad. I get the occasional day like that. Not very often at all, but they are horrible. I suggest plenty of fluids and an early night, and then if you're still feeling bad tomorrow then it might be worth speaking to your MW?

clapham cuddles for you too. Must be horrible to be home alone when you're used to having 3 of you there and after such a concentrated time together on holiday.

roofio I am looking to do the same as I will be staying at Mum and Dads before/for a week or so after the pregnancy and I don't want to ruin their mattress with either my waters or any after-birth pant spillages!

I am feeling ridiculously bloated this evening, I hate evenings like this because I can't get comfy! Am going to order a gym ball tonight I think.

MrsO27 it was me who said about feeling baby's foot! It is a lovely feeling, and sometimes I will rub it and he/she will pull it away quite quickly (which I like to think of as me tickling their foot) and other times baby will keep it pushed/push harder when I am rubbing it, which feels like a bonding moment to me DH has managed to have a little rub of the foot too which was special

I can't remember who asked after me but midwife went fine, she couldn't understand some of the terminology the specialist had written as it was rather complicated and didn't want to speculate so said to wait till next appt, I still have protein in my urine though and am now on iron tablets.

I've just been taking some time out from the thread as dh and I have hardly been speaking since Sunday I feel so down, dd is being a hand full I can't seem to stop crying about absolutely everything I'm not sure i can handle another 8 weeks 6 days of this!

Placentas- no I do not want to see mine or touch it or taste it in any way shape or form.

Sorry to those that are in pain/uncomfortable for u xx

clapham I hope u manage to speak to your dp and hope your ds has a good holiday (even if u are missing him like mad)

Push presents- last time I got some flowers this time I'm hoping for a pandora charm a teddy with a blue bow not that I'm being particularly fussy or anything

I too had a plastic sheet under my normal sheet last time with dd as I have a completely memory foam mattress so not ideal if my waters break in bed!!

Glad those having scans etc have all had good news- I think?

Sorry to those I've not responsed too I can't look back on iPhone. Hope everyone has a nice week x

Hi, everyone,

I haven't been on for two days and will probably miss people, so let me say hello to newbies and congrats to those those who've have good scans and tests.

I think someone was talking about "floaters." It depends what they actually look like, but sometimes fibre does that. Since we're talking about it I've gone in the other direction with hard sinking stools and I blame my junky low-fibre diet recently. You can keep a food diary or just think about how your diet has changed recently if you want to figure out what's causing it. I also just think pregnancy does weird things to digestive systems.

I was just thinking about buying a gym ball. I've had them in the past and love them. When I was a teenager I would stretch out on it when I had period cramps and it felt good so I imagine it would be the same in labour.

My colleagues have told me to take raspberry leaf tea (or capsules if you don't like the tea) from 36 weeks and they tell good stories about it. I would increase my consumption once I reached 37 weeks. I'm scared of a huge baby and I don't see the point of waiting till I'm overdue and fed up.

DH has just started a new job where he'll be travelling to France twice a month and doesn't see why I would be nervous about that. I told him he should avoid travelling in October and late Sept if possible. He has obviously not thought of this. His company's offices are not in Paris and flights to Manchester from small airports are unlikely to be very frequent. Flyer did you say airlines help a man who needs to get home for a wife in labour?

And finally I love trying to picture how my baby is lying. There are pointy wiggly things at the top of my uterus which I picture as feet, but they could be hands I suppose. I like to poke them and feel him respond. Baby is definitely pushing on my bladder. Does this mean his head is likely pointing down? I'm only 30 weeks, so he's still going to move around, right?

Sorry for the marathon post!

The talk of eating placentas is giving me the boak and also reminds me of birth of dc2. He was born with membranes intact so mw was telling to take membrane sack home and pin it to fireplace to stop DH drowning at sea told her I would pass but she could keep it if she wanted. Then I delivered placenta and main mw and trainee mw were oohing and aahing over it cause it was heart shaped and looked real pretty ( looked like a lump of liver to me but I not trained). Wonder what delights dc3 will bring me?

I've cross-posted.

Natalie I'm really sorry to hear you're feeling down. I hope it gets better soon for you.

And roxvox I think we do the same thing with babies' feet.

Natalie sorry to hear you are feeling sad and weepy I hope you and dh make up as that's bound to get you down days of hardly speaking.

Ana if your other half is travelling with an airline such as BA, Air France then they are usually pretty good at getting them home on the next available flight. If he travels with easyjet he may stand a small chance, if he is unfortunate enough to be travelling RyanAir then he hasn't got a cat in hells chance and they'd charge him to buy a new ticket.

Sorry that sounds really snobby I just cannot stand Ryanair I've had a fair few bad experiences with them and they treat their staff poorly!

Hope you feel better flyer and if not then maybe call mw tomorrow?

clapham must be hard without your two boys. for you

And for you too natalie

Regarding push present, I feel stupid now! After ds was born dh was insisting on getting me diamond earrings but I refused and said it was too extravagant! Now I would like a nice pressie but we cannot afford to even think about nice jewellery! To those of you who can or have obliging other halves I would say drop those hints big time :)

Thanks flyer. I have no idea what his company would use. We've had a horrible experience of Ryanair during the volcanic ash so I wouldn't expect much from harm, either.

Natalie I'm sorry you're feeling down. I can't remember how old your DD is? My DS is 2 and a half and is a real handful at the moment (yesterday he pretty much cried or whined all day) and you have my real sympathy x
I also think many DHs/DPs have had enough by now (and I have no sympathy with that they need to man the hell up) so if they can't show a bit of care just say to hell with them for now and get in as best you can. They'll come round xx

*from them

psuedo dd will be 3 on November 1st. I went to visit my friend and her 12 day old baby she also has a dd a cpl of weeks older than my dd and all they done was fight and dd non stop cried about it (usually they get on v we) so I had to leave there, then she spent our tesco trip telling me she was sorry so I took her to my mum and dads who happened to be babysitting my neice (who was 3 in march) and all she done was be spiteful to my dd which made her cry again rediculous amounts which resulted in me storming out with dd and sitting in my car outside my mums crying my eyes out. Me and dh still aren't talking now (sat on sofa in orquad silence) we originally fell out on Sunday has he had a massive tantrum about doing about an hours worth of jobs and since then we've also fallen out about a 3 bedroom house that came available for rent with a private landlord (not letting agent) that we couldn't afford too accept :-( I just feel like nothing's going to plan everything's getting on top of me and he isn't supporting me at all he's expecting me to everything as I did before I was 31 weeks pregnant! Sorry for the rant ladies just needed to let it all out.

Also one thing I forgot to comment in earlier is the 'floaters' I have the opposite problem mine r much more towards to 'loose' end of the scale and always have been for this pregnancy with the exception of the odd day or two of constipation

natalie sorry you are feeling so low. Thought you've been a bit quiet on the thread... did you argue about something specific or is he just being insensitive and difficult? I got my weekly pregnancy newsletter earlier today and it was saying how hormones change again in the last trimester and, combined with tiredness and different aches and pains, we can expect more emotional ups and downs in these last few weeks. I can certainly see it in myself. Hope you make up soon. You already got a lot of flowers so sending you a nice instead.

flyer not snobby at all. I also can't stand Ryanair but have no problems with Easyjet. Do you remember Ryanair's plans for standing tickets and plans to charge for using the toilet??!

ana just finished my big bowl of pasta reading your post about floaters and hard sinking stools. I love this thread!

and thanks for all your support - you are such a lovely bunch
DP tried to call twice in his lunch break just now but my stupid phone wasn't working. tarlia / chickien do you remember how terrible phone reception is here?!

chickien hope you get your diamond earrings soon. Good karma will get you :-)

natalie I hope things improve. It's hard dealing with anything on top of being pg.

flyer love your comments on Ryanair- the documentary last night was scary and just confirmed every view I have of them.

My DH has just come home all excited about a new cheap gym he's discovered. I tried to suggest that it might not be the best time to start going to the gym again given that I might need him home a little more in a couple of months time but he poopooed that and said he'd need it all the more. Hmmmm. (I shall not argue. I shall not argue)
Perhaps time for an early night....

I'm feeling low on energy too- I did read that around this time baby takes all the iron it needs form you and leaves you with very little. Time to up the supplements...

Big ((hugs)) to everyone who feels unwell/exhausted/misunderstood/lonely

I'm just back from late night shopping (needed to buy wedding presents before the weekend) and, due to both recommendations at today's yoga and today's thread conversation, I treated myself to a gym ball. Bouncing on it now (£17 from John Lewis with it's own pump).

Hope things look up for you soon Nat xx

Shower curtains also good for protecting bed/carpet for a home birth etc, waterproof, but more material like than plastic sheets

never tried raspberry leaf tea!

Ps I took raspberry leaf tea capsules last time with dd midwife said I can take 3x a day from 34 weeks as it doesn't induce labour it simply helps your cervix to be prepared

Pink I'm just going to watch that documentary now on catch up. Ugh they are a terrible airline they make their cabin crew pay for that hideous uniform they have to wear and they have money docked from their wages monthly to pay for their training course too....My ex was a captain for them before he joined Virgin he told me some awful stories I will not fly with them out of principle....Rant over

For those feeling down, check out this classy mother. I cringe hearing parents swearing at their kids but this is too funny!

Feeling very tired tonight after a 'challenging' bedtime with DD...

Big hugs to Clapham and Natalie

Falcon - hope your DS isn't feeling too nervous about tomorrow and managed to settle off to sleep ok. It's such big milestone...I remember feeling physically sick dropping DD off at school for the first time. Good luck to you both Xx

Strange that the topic of maternity mattress protector pads should come up on the thread today. I had a sad moment earlier today when I realised that I had an unopened packet at the bottom of my wardrobe left over from last year's miscarriage.

It was bittersweet digging it out and putting it with my pregnancy stuff. I still miss the baby that never got to be.

Suddenly remembered that I need to buy some Napisan before this baby arrives (hope they still make it!) Brilliant for pre-wash soaking of sick/poo/wee/milk covered laundry. Just thought some of the first time mums may not have heard of, or used, it before..

I think I'd die of shock if DP got me a 'push present'. It's a shame though as my Dad got my Mum a gorgeous Grandmother clock (and an umbrella!) when I was born and as a child I always loved hearing that story. I've always been promised that one day I'll inherit it....the clock that is, not the umbrella.

Jelly - gosh, how interesting for DC2 to be born with the membranes intact. We were talking about it at my NCT class last night. Was it a hospital birth? Our teacher was saying it rarely happens in hospital as MWs will routinely break them, even though there is no medical need to.

I knew there was sea related superstition but couldn't remember what it was. I got lots of disbelieving looks when I mentioned it.

Hi all, to natalie and all others feeling a bit rubbish.

Me and DH have actually started laughing at my hormonal rants now, and if he ever looks at me annoyed, I just use the 'I'm growing your baby' excuse and he smiles and potters on.

On a positive note, went to see a physio today as lots of lower back/right back of hip pain. He was lovely and thorough and reassured me its just pulled ligament, and recurrent pulled muscle from that, and won't get any worse, I am so relieved, was just panicking I'd be bed bound soon trying to look after a toddler.

Has anyone seen the international space station that's currently over the uk in the sky? A friend from London just saw it I believe it's over the east at the moment...I'm such a geek

Sorry to hear you're having a shit time Nat - it's awful when you're not speaking to your dp/h, even being in your own house feels all weird and awkward. Hope you sort it out soon and he starts being nicer to you

Clapham you must miss ds and dp terribly - hope you can chat to them both soon. I don't know how I would cope with dd being in a different country without me, it must be a horrible feeling .

I got some omeprazole from the doctor today, and so far indigestion has been miles better. Such a relief - now it'll just be the hourly toilet trips and spd keeping me awake... Yay!

flyer you just like anything that flies or is in the sky don't you?
can't see anything from South London and think it's quite cloudy tonight...

bridget must be so sad about the miscarriage but must be so lovely to know that this pregnancy is going well and your new baby is staying in and doing well. I can imagine it must feel quite bitter sweet...