March 2014 - thread 3....Boy can we chat!

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So sorry Captain x

Thinking of you today gawjus

captain look after yourself.

jk10 love the idea of sitting in the passenger seat. I'd love to be a fly on the wall if you did. As for the tests, I can totally understand what you're saying. You really have to think of the children you already have. I'm having all the tests. I haven't actually thought about what I'd do if there was anything wrong but I do know that at present, my priorities are my boys.

Has anyone done one of the clear blue tests lately?? The ones that tell you how many weeks you are?? I was just wondering if that might be a cheaper way of reassuring myself than paying for a scan.

Ignore the clear blue question, I've just googled it!!

Mind if i join ladies new to this.

A little info on me, im on dc 3 with unplanned pg, taken me while to get my head round things as i was happy to stop at two. Still not told people as i cant face reactions just yet.
I recently had prolapse repair surgery which was pretty major as it went tits up n i almost died due to massive internal bleeding and second emergency op, hence why i wouldnt be choosing to be pregnant if not for accident.
So ile be sectioned at 37ish weeks and im classed as high risk so bit stressful. First scan on 15th.
Ive had quick read thru posts, sorry to hear your bad news captain an how r u gawjus?

Hi Ladies. I am afraid that I have been lurking for a couple of weeks as very nervous about this pregnancy due to a previous mmc. I was planning to delurk this weekend anyway but I have just read CaptainCalamaris post and had to respond. Its such a numbing experience and when the units are closed over the weekend it's scary. My mmc in March was discovered at the 12 week scan on a Thursday, I was seen at the EPAU on the Friday but then had to wait until early the next week for the ERPC. Firstly, if you haven't bled until now then it may not happen naturally for a good while or until you can see someone and make a decision on your next steps, of course we all expect the worst after horrible news. The EPAU nurse I saw recommended that just in case I bled while waiting for my ERPC that I stock up on night time sanitary towels, pain killers and sugary fizzy drinks as your blood sugar will be low. I did not bleed so I did not need them but felt reassured that those things were there. She advised that if I did bleed and soaked more than 3 pads in an hour then to go to A&E. Also this time I had a small bleed and I had to call the NHS direct at the weekend and they were very helpful and had my out of hours doctor call me within the hour. If you call your GPs regular number there should be a redirect or a number that you can call. If possible please make sure someone is with you and that they have as much information as you do so that they know what to do if needed. Sorry for the long post ladies but I hope that that this information is of some use Captaincalamari.

Hi lozza I'm very similar to you. Although minus the major surgery. This will be dc3 and if I'm honest was also unplanned although wanted on my part. I told dh on the friday I wanted another. He didn't. I found out on the Monday I was pregnant. It's a scary time, so many mixed emotions for both of us. Although I wanted another I was still open to discussion. Decision made and here we are. I'm a strong believer in what will be will be and everything happens for a reason. Mother nature has decided and this baby is a gift!!

So sorry that this had to happen to you, captain, life can be really cruel. Take care of yourself x

I'm aching all over today - we had our company day out yesterday, which we spent doing voluntary work for the city council. Think lots of weeding, cutting down thistles and pulling out ragwort. I wasn't too happy about that, but there was little I could do if I didn't want to out myself being pg I was the first to grab the over-elbow rubber gloves they offered! Hope it'll be ok, tried to google it and have not found any massive warning not to touch ragwort when pg, so I hope I'll be ok.

Getting more and more nervous for my scan tomorrow, trying to steel myself for possible bad news...

In case all is well, I will be having every possible test under the sun, I need to know. I'm even thinking about having the harmony test. I also don't think that I could continue with the pregnancy, should anything come up - although that is a discussion DH and I still have to have, as I don't think he'll agree completely on this. We skimmed on it when I was pg with DS, but the risk for Down's came out so low with him that we did not have to worry too much (although you always do a little!).

It's tricky. My friends' gorgeous DD has recently been diagnosed as severely (really really severely) disabled at 12 weeks - no one had any idea that something was wrong before that! It is such a shock, you think you've made it through pregnancy and that all is well now that the baby is here, then bam! Nothing had been picked up before during any of the antenatal checks and scans. They are devastated, but absolutely determined that both their DDs will have the best life and are gearing up to move heaven and earth to make that possible. I am in absolute awe of them, they are such troopers.

Morning all and welcome ikab and other recent joiners.

I too will be having all the tests I can. I like to be prepared. I won't have an amnio though because of the mc risk.

Thinking of you gawjus and captain calamari.

Morning peeps.....big love out to gawjus and Captain xxx

Oh my god thank you to every single person who prayed/thought of me! I was scanned both internally and externally and saw a healthy baby although only measuring 9+2 could clearly see her wriggling arms and legs and fluttering heartbeat :-) im so so so thankful :) on the way home my partner said 'its emotional seeing a baby' ha ha awwwh :') love to everyone xxx

Thanks lyra. Feel a bit nervous about joining as I'm crapping myself slightly anxious at the mo but in for a penny and all that.

Info is 36 years (I think this makes me a geriatric expectant mother!), no DCs, 7 weeks and 3 days, expected due date 18th March.

Not been physically sick but feel nauseous most of the time, due to previous issue this is making me quite happy. Yes I do realise that this is a bit twisted!

Congratulations gawjus, that's wonderful news!!

Fan news, gawjus
Ikab, I'll be 42 when this one is born. There's quite a few of us on here who are your age and older. Makes me a bit nervous with all the risks associated with being an older mother but will just have to wait and see.

*fab, not fan.

gawjus that is amazing news, so pleased and relieved for you..x

That's fantastic gawjus think my hormones are in crying mode today!!

If nothing else this thread has taught me that bleeding and pain doesn't always mean bad news!!

lumpylumps I can second that, it isn't always bad news. I had a bleed last Friday, and it was a bright red bleed, not spotting and I assumed that was it for me. I had an internal scan on the Monday and there was a lovely little flicker of a heartbeat. This was at 6 weeks and 6 days so I also have a reassurance scan in 2 weeks, so I have to wait and be anxious about the 9 week scan and then I'll be able to move on and be anxious about the next stage! Right - time to haul my geriatric arse off the sofa to hide the large empty grab bag of salt and vinegar squares before fit and active hubby returns home and discovers the truth about what he married. Have a peaceful day all.

Glad to hear your good news gawjus

What's the situation with cooking with alcohol? I have a hankering for a nice beef stew today and it wont be the same without half a bottle of red in it!

So sorry Captain x

I feel blessed :) although have had my worst day of sickness so far today hows everyone keeping up xx

Amazing news gawjus, so pleased for you

That's great news Gawjus

Thank you lovely ladies x

Today my DH told me I need to 'man up' and get on with things, I'm pregnant not ill. Yeah easier said than done! I am already feeling guilty about not being so hands in with my wonderful DS, like really guilty, he is my world and usually has 110% of my attention all the time, but since feeling so rough its not actually possible to give that attention As I simply don't have it :-( I hate feeling like I can't give him my all. On top of that I have had some quite strange pains since I carried a basket yesterday in sainsburys. Wasn't particularly heavy, it is in my right side under my rib cage and comes and goes, almost like a spasm/stabbing sort of pain but it stayed throughout the night and Is still there today, I would think if its baby it would be lower down but I can't figure what it is, its not overly painful but I do need to stop for a mo when they are happening.

Hot, I think cooking with alcohol is ok maybe reduce it to just under half a bottle mind, every little helps huh?! But if in doubt don't do it!
S X

I'm sure cooking with alcohol is fine- the heat burns the booze off doesn't it?

If not, I'm stuffed. I just make steak and ale stew (making a pie for dinner with my parents later) and gave some to DS (12mo) for lunch!