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March 2014 - thread 3....Boy can we chat!

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Souredstoneshasasouredpebble · 01/08/2013 21:09

thread 2

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HotCrossPun · 11/08/2013 20:33

No not high risk as far as I know. She asked me where I wanted to give birth and I said that I had been considering a home birth because I really wanted to have a pool and I knew I might not get one if I was in hospital.

She talked me out of home birth because she said I won't know how I deal with labour given it's my first time - which is a fair point.

I thought that the whole point of a waterbirth was that you were in the water when the baby was crowning so that it didn't burn as much. I'm going to do more research on it!

rosyryan · 11/08/2013 20:37

Don't know much about Caitlin Moran but she does live down the road from me. Tru fact.

Hope you are doing ok Sarah.

Brie. I'm not "medical" but there have been zero cases of listeriosis caused by cheese in the uk in the last twenty years. Zero. Butter on the other hand...

LyraSilvertongue · 11/08/2013 20:38

Hotcross, plenty of women give birth at home first time. Don't be easily dissuaded if it's what you want to do. If you're fairly close to a hospital then you could easily receive medical care if anything was to go wrong. Do your research and tell the midwife what you want.

rosyryan · 11/08/2013 20:38

HotCross your midwife sounds like she is from 1913 Confused

LyraSilvertongue · 11/08/2013 20:40

Really, Rosy? That's interesting. So the risk is so tiny it's pretty much negligible. And people worry so much over it.

rosyryan · 11/08/2013 20:41

I know two Mumsnetters who have had home water births for their first child and had an amazing time. Let me know if you want me to PM you their names.

LyraSilvertongue · 11/08/2013 20:44

Apparently pre-packed sandwiches are a listeria risk. Bloody hell.

Coolhand · 11/08/2013 20:53

Cannot believe your m/w said that! It seems really strange. Also know plenty of people who have given birth in water. Wanted to try it out last time but DS was breech (sigh).

In terms of guidelines, it does vary so much from country to country. I ate loads of cured meats in Spain yet know that is banned in certain countries. Have also continued to cook with prawns. I guess I avoid most though but don't panic if i discover I've eaten something on the banned list.

Sarah really glad you're getting the help you need and hope you're better soon. Off to have some noodles....

IceNoSlice · 11/08/2013 20:55

Lyra, I saw a news report a couple of months ago that said pregnant ladies should avoid new cars. Something to do with the plastics. New cars, I kid you not.

LyraSilvertongue · 11/08/2013 20:57

Coolhand, I'm sure cooked prawns aren't risky. I've also eaten parma ham and chorizo. I'm sure they're safe enough.

When i was pg the first time I craved oysters (uncooked) and ate them frequently. I had no idea I wasn't supposed to. Sometimes too much information can be a bad thing ;)

LyraSilvertongue · 11/08/2013 20:59

Ice, really? Lol! I'm sure stepping out your front door in the morning to go about your daily business is a far bigger 'risk' than most of the things we're told to avoid.

FrankelInFoal · 11/08/2013 20:59

Waterbirth's dangerous? How weird! Someone obviously forgot to tell Addenbrookes Hospital because their brand new maternity wing has a birthing pool in every room!

HotCrossPun · 11/08/2013 20:59

The more I read about home birth stories the more I want to do it, but everybody is advising me against it.

She did say that there was a community midwife centre that might be a good compromise but I had a look at it's website and it looked a bit scruffy and depressing Confused

When do these plans need to be decided for sure?

FrankelInFoal · 11/08/2013 21:00

Ice wasn't the new car thing to do with the chemicals they spray the upholstery with? I vaguely recall hearing something along those lines.

PiratesMam · 11/08/2013 21:01

Funnily enough, around the time we all got preg, there was a news story that pregnant ladies should avoid all cleaning products. Not saying that's why I got pregnant, but....

IceNoSlice · 11/08/2013 21:05

PiratesMam Grin clearly that one is true and we must abide by it. However we need to make sure home is hygienic, germ free etc so we don't expose the little beans to nastiness. So the only solution is for DH to do all the cleaning.

Frank could be. Not an issue for me as I never get to ride in new cars! I just thought it was a bit nuts, that's all.

ChocChaffinch · 11/08/2013 21:07

I remember that news story Wink

cleaning is dangerous. Fact.

FrankelInFoal · 11/08/2013 21:32

Agreed, I have never been in a new car so not really a risk for me.

To be on the safe side I shall avoid all cleaning Wink

SoSurprised · 11/08/2013 21:37

i must let OH know about tht cleaning is not good for the bean :D

Rockchick1984 · 11/08/2013 22:25

Hot I'm planning a home water birth this time (if all goes to plan). It's not dangerous in the slightest unless there are complications Confused I personally wouldn't have wanted a home birth for my first but I know I have a low pain threshold. Still managed drug free (apart from a bit of g&a) back to back birth so hoping I can do the same this time. I also know a few people who had first babies at home, and one who planned a home birth, struggled and chose to go into hospital instead.

The midwife told me its easier to plan a home birth then change your mind, than to plan a hospital birth and wish you had chosen home birth!

PramQueen1971 · 11/08/2013 22:32

Hottie, your midwife is a supercilious dick. Of course she will put you off home/water births because it's her job to keep labour as medicalised as possible because She Knows Everything and You Know Nothing. I swear if any fucker tries to boss me about in this pregnancy I'll have their fucking eyes out. Saying that, I have huge sympathy for midwives who have to put up with Cressida and Tarquil and their hippy birth plan and dotty doula. I'll bet they just want to drown them in the birth pool.

Is there any research on the dangers of the upholstery on buses in East Lancs? Fucking rancid.

Please forgive my swearing; I'm in a vile mood Angry

PramQueen1971 · 11/08/2013 22:34

Frank, I recently cleaned the pipework behind my toilet and it struck me that I hadn't done that since I was hooked on amphetamines.

apprenticemamma · 11/08/2013 22:40

pram queen guffaw! Grin

justmuddlingthroughit · 11/08/2013 22:54

On the subject of random shit we're supposed to avoid, you may have seen this:
^Latest advice about avoiding chemicals

The RCOG says pregnant women should 'play safe' and avoid products and foods that may contain chemicals, such as bisphenol A and phthalates, that could harm their unborn baby.

To do so, it recommends you avoid:

? Food in plastic containers and cans
? New cars
? Non-stick frying pans
? New furniture
? Air fresheners
? Paint fumes
? Pesticides and insect sprays

And you should minimise your exposure to toiletries, such as shower gel and sunscreen, which could theoretically pose a chemical risk. In short, assume there may be a risk, even if it may be minimal or eventually unfounded.

Breast Cancer UK has information on how to avoid potentially dangerous chemicals and carcinogens.^

If anyone wants me during the next seven months, I'll be lying in a darkened room. Eating nowt but boiled veg and cheddar.

Confused
justmuddlingthroughit · 11/08/2013 22:56

The bits between the ^s were supposed to be italicised, as they're not my words. Ho hum.