October 2013 - wobbling and sweating through the last trimester

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Baby due dates/sexes/name choices here

It looks like there will be no shortage of people willing to swap with me if I do end up in a private room again.

all being well I shall stay at home. My hospital experience wasn't bad, but I only stayed for 1 night. Mum next door was lovely and we kept an eye on each other's babies while we went to the toilet or whatever.

Just so much easier staying at home, and nothing beats your own bath and bed afterwards

Glad all is well Falcon x

oh and Mon funny really, I had 3 before I was 20...... but I agree that they get harder as they get older!

Glad today's appts were re assuring and hopefully the excess fluid will not be too much of a worry for u psuedo xx

I neither loved or hated my hospital stay. I liked the re assurance of having a midwife on tap to help if I needed it and dd only had one night feed which I woke her for it was everyone else's babies that kept me awake. I think I will spend a night in agen if I can as it means dd can come to the hospital and meet baby and go home and get used to the idea he is coming home before he's atchly right there in her face. X

Happy birthday, orange. Enjoy your cosy night at home.

falcon awful "problem" ;) though I can imagine annoying if you run out and have to order online!

Loved being in my hospital bubble last time. Private room, DP was allowed to stay the whole week, and a huge fab menu which you called to the kitchens to order what ever we wanted from - that's why our tax is 39.5% as it wasn't private. This time I have priority for a private room and will have to stay at least 4 nights so they can monitor me, but I'll be alone as DP obv has to be home with DS - I'm not really looking forward to it, but feeling more relaxed as I can mentally prepare that I will be staying and not be shocked after labour.

No idea what we will do about contraception this time. I've tried the pill and depo injection but neither have really suited me and not keen on the coil. Maybe an implant?

Hi all!

Thanks for your advice earlier. Been at the hospital all afternoon. Baby and are ok. I still have the pains but I've been told that its nothing to worry about and to go back if I notice the baby moving less.

Little one is currently doing sumersaults so hopefully all will be ok :-)

Glad everyone else is doing ok. I really must join in more as you've all helped me today :-)

Hope you're all having lovely evenings x

Glad all ok afteral, star. Amazing how much sorry such a small person can create isn't it!?

I know! I'm sure all the other first timers are the same... I just don't know what is normal and what isn't, so everything scares the life out of me! Hopefully it will get easier...

I had the implant before ttc ds. Didn't have any probs apart from very weird periods. Would have 3 months with no bleeding, but then a light period for about a month. I found that manageable, but obviously not ideal, think a lot of women don't bleed at all though. No idea what we'll do this time

Worry of course not 'sorry'. Grr phone.

Hehe it's not only first timers, don't worry. My pregnancy is very different so I do not feel terribly comfortable with it either and this is a 2nd.

clapham have a fab holiday ! (Forgot before)

I hated my hospital stay after dd - I was in loads of pain, hadn't expected to have her so early so was totally unprepared mentally, and actually really frightened and lonely

I had dd at 4:30am, my dp was made to leave at 9am "so I could have a rest" and come back during visiting hours. I was off my face on painkillers after an emergency section and had no idea what to do. Only one person was nice to me - that was an auxiliary nurse who brought me a cup of tea and helped me to have a wash in bed, then went and found me a crib which attached to the side of my bed so i could feed dd more easily. I remember crying with gratitude!

I'm really not looking forward to being in for 3 days again, but at least I will be better prepared, and hopefully won't have all the trauma beforehand. I (just about) know what to do with a baby this time too

Orange, happy birthday!

I think eligible for a private room as a trust employee, although of course they'd prioritise women who need it more than me. Being antisocial myself I would accept a room if offered. Like someone else upthread (orange?) I'm hoping to get discharged within 8 hours. My colleague gave birth at just after midnight and was home by 4 am! My instincts right now are a bit like an animal... I want to make a private nest somewhere and have my baby all by myself. Of course I may feel differently when I'm in my own trying to figure out how to take care of the baby!

I'm starting to think of home birth. DH would freak out but I'm starting to think it would suit me just fine. Do you guys think it's too late to ask the midwife about it?

Not too late Ana, midwife said we wouldn't even talk about it until we start doing my birth plan at 32ish weeks. Though I thought you got a different team of midwives all the way through for a home birth. I didn't really persue it as I thought we would probably go for the midwife led unit which is the plan at the moment. Like you I was more keen than DH who worried about transfer times etc if something went wrong.

Glad all is ok star.

DH is cooking me dinner and bought me lots of dairy free chocolates and sweets in place of a card as I said cards are a waste of money if you are seeing someone in person. yum yum.

no definitely not too late

x posts orange - here you have the same mw's whatever you choose, but your 36 week appt, and any subsequent ones are done at home. and you have a list of basic stuff to get.

Thats it!

I've certainly not been treated any different, midwife team-wise, though home birth is still my favoured plan. I'm yet to see the same mw more than once. Hoping that changes once birth plans are mentioned?

Oh, and after all the confusion over the flu vaccine, I was told today they don't start giving that until October. So why was it in the GP letter, then?!

Good to know I have some time. I think I'll ask about home birth at my mw appt on Friday. I told DH I was thinking about it and he did freak out a bit. He got very quiet, asked where in the house it would happen (I'm not sure) and wanted time to think about it. I said he could come to a mw appt and ask questions if he wants. I'm not even sure if I want it, but it feels good to explore this option, rather than just chickening out.

Also, in the last hour I had this tightening spread over most of my bump, towards the lower part. It was not painful but it was uncomfortable. It felt tight but not like bloating. It's over now. Could this be a Braxton hicks contraction? Does it sound like something to worry about?

ananikifo - my DH was initially very unsure/unhappy about the idea of a home birth. But I just asked him to research it for himself before talking it through properly with me.
He's still nervous, but knowing me well, totally understands why it's my preferred option.
Equally, as a first timer, I've accepted that with all the will in the world, I may well begin labour at home, but end up being admitted.

We just talked a bit more about it and DH is not against home birth necessarily. He just doesn't know much about it. We'll just have to keep this conversation going to make the right decision for us.

The Internet has reassured me that it probably was BH that I felt and that it's probably benign. So off to bed!

Good luck to those of you planning homebirths.

ana sounds exactly like a BH, nothing to worry about. To me BH feel like the baby is pushing its bum out as hard as it can, whilst someone behind me is pulling a sheet as hard as they can spread over my bump. Only need to worry if they are happening in a pattern, getting closer together and more and more intense.

Orange, it was my birthday yesterday too, birthday buddy! Left work early, and had a nice birthday tea at my Mums, with my brother and nephew there, who I don't see very often. Was very nice. We are going out for dinner on Saturday.

Contraception: like textbook I have had a very good experience with Yasmin. Improved my skin no end, removed my PMT and gave me much lighter periods. When I was bf they put me on cerazette which was awful, it made me bleed non stop. I was glad to get back on the Yasmin. I actually prefer being

I got given a private room after DS and then got thrown out of it onto the main ward after about 4 hours with no explanation. Can't say I enjoyed it much, no one spoke to each other really.

Oops, meant to say I actually prefer being on the pill to not being on the pill!
Posted too soon there!

Happy birthday for yesterday sanji. We had a lovely dinner then talked properly about baby names.

What a night, I had a vomiting bug that made me sick on the hour throughout the night , despite not being able to eat anything the little bits of water I was sipping were turning into bucketfuls. It's really scary when you have a baby to worry about too , but to be fair he was just wriggling and kicking me, he probably thought it was fun.

Aw slippy sorry to hear you're poorly!! I'm sure baby is totally fine, just make sure you stay hydrated!!