March 2014 - Thread 2 because we all love a good natter!

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Thread 2 for all us lovely chatterboxes!

JK10 I was feeling exactly the same as you a couple of weeks ago!

I got my bfp, feeling happy and content, told my 'd'm, who proceeded to do nothing but put me on a downer.

Silly questions like am I sure its the right thing to do? (well, I was mother but now I dunno!)

I then felt so miserable about it, and thought oh gosh what have I done, what if it isn't the right thing to do, am I making mistake?!

And my bean was planned btw! We chose to get pregnant.

Now though, all that has passed. It is pretty normal to have doubt feelings and anxiety after first finding out. Its all the shock and the surprise and the hormones Don't let your doctors negative reaction play on your mind for too long.

I now know for certain it is most def the right thing for me and my family. How could it not be?! Don't doubt yourself anymore than is natural :)

I had the doubt thing too. Mine was work related though. But I think I'm over it now. Haven't really though much about this new person though, because it still seems unreal. I think the first scan will help with that though.

Wow JK your doctor was incredibly rude!

Lady that sounds awful. I agree with others, if you aren't keeping liquids down you may be dehydrated and would need to go to hospital so look after yourself.

JK10 love that we can come on here and say what is really going on even when we wouldn't admit it to anyone in 'real' life. You're obviously a fab mother to have brought up 4 kids, so I'm sure it'll fall into place with no 5.

I wish my scan appnt would hurry up and come through - I keep checking the post the second it comes in every day!

To cheer myself up I've booked myself in for a tattoo after baby is born little things keep me smiling

Ladyflower, if you do decide you want another child, you won't necessarily have to go through this tough time again. It's not normal to feel this bad in early pregnancy and your next one might be nothing like this. Also, when you have your beautiful baby in your arms it will all seem worth it

Hello all, sorry to hear some of you have been having a rough time. Yesterday was the worst for me emotionally, so down in the dumps and had a massive head cold that literally knocked me out. Feeling more positive today. Learning that mostly my mood is determined by hormones and not actual me! It helps just knowing that other ladies feel the same thing. I am really struggling with feeling like I don't want this child even though I had always wanted to have one. Therefore I know it has to be hormones, because why would I irrationally change my mind like that?

I don't know how to add where I am on the map but I'm from Oxfordshire.

Oh, and to go back to yesterday's brief mention of communion wine, I'm an Anglican, and our communion wine is definitely alcoholic :-)

Well, I've had 2 healthy PGs, and I can reassure everybody that these worries and wobbles are entirely NORMAL! if its hour first, you are embarking on a whole new phase in your life. its totally unknown! if it isnt your first, you get all thw guilt of changing your first borns life, and the whole "will i love it enough" thing. Just you wait until you get to the point when you realise that you are having a baby, its inside you, and there is only ONE WAY it is coming out!
Seriously though, I hope that those of you who have doubts come to a decision that is right for you.

Need to vent, told my (interim arse wipe) boss last week that I was pg as I was feeling really rough and wanted to preempt any discussions about being off my game. I explained that it was very early days and that I wanted to keep it quite due to having had a couple of miscarriages in the last 9 months.

So today, not only do I get hauled over the coals for not being focused on my job for the last 2 weeks, but I find out from a senior manager that he's been announcing my pregnancy to various managers and directors!

I'm swaying between absolutely raging and tears.

Off course I'm off my fucking game, I haven't slept well in weeks, everything makes me nauseous, I can't stand up without falling over be fucking grateful I pull my arse out of bed and commute 2 hours each way and still put up with your shit!

I'm furious that he's broken my confidence, I have a meeting with HR (because I felt the earlier conversation about my decline in performance was coming) and I think I'll raise this with them - surely a manager told in confidence can't go around telling people?

Oh my God, MTB, definitely tell HR. What a dick!

Oh wow MTB that is just awful. It's absolutely outrageous that something told in confidence gets passed on to others. You are not remotely at fault here.

I am amazed at how ignorant some people (often employers) are about pregnancy. I think it's a bit of a taboo subject still, esp in a work environment. Before we started thinking of having any I had no idea how difficult early pregnancy is in terms of sickness/exhaustion/worry etc. And I think anyone who hasn't had kids (especially men, therefore!) really don't understand. Plus I always get the feeling that your employer thinks you're a nuisance if you get pregnant and have to go on maternity leave. That's my take on it anyway.

MTB, how awful and dispiriting for you. I can't believe you commute for four hours a day, either. Bless you, I hope you get to be treated respectfully.

Pram, 41, 8 weeks today!

I think you're right about the nuisance thing goldie. The other day a colleague was moaning to me about the length of time another colleague will be on maternity leave...

MTB I can't believe he has been telling people! You have told him something in confidence and explained the reason it needs to remain so and he completely disregarded you.

I would be fuming. Hopefully HR will sort him out for you.

I feel sick, I feel sick, I feel sick, I feel sick!!! :(

On another note, please can someone tell me how to update my stats?

MTB that's a terrible way for him to treat you - what a complete idiot. I hope the chat to HR is productive.

I actually found the first trimester the hardest of the 3 last time for those very reasons. Most people don't know and it's hard to stay on top of things. When things got difficult again towards the end of the pregnancy, people had the constant visual reminder and tended to cut you some slack. That goes for my DH as well - because I have been lucky enough not to vomit either pregnancy, I think he doesn't grasp just how rubbish I feel at the moment and I don't want to keep going on about it!

Well overdue update from me..

Had scan last Friday and put me a few days ahead so looks like I may be at the end of Feb/ beginning of March. All was well and had heartbeat and only one bean hurrah!

Bad news is signed off work for a second week which is now 3 weeks as took a week's holiday to begin with. Dr not worried as I can keep down fluids but feel almighty awful. Had booking in appointment with the midwife yesterday and she said some people just react badly to pregnancy hormones grrr. With the blood tests for DD, my hcg levels were 3x the level of someone having twins so that makes me feel less of a wuss although not sure how I am going to cope with work next week.

Lady - I said the same as you last time and yet am here again! They are worth it in the end and then your mind plays tricks and makes you forget just how bad it was..I threw up all the way through 3-4 times a day last time and lost 2 stone but never felt as bad as I did in the first trimester! It gets better..

Oh and I am Blackheath, SE London if someone could add me to the map!

Oh but trying to move to Berkshire, so if any of you Berkshire ladies knows of any nice houses within 10 mins drive of Theale station let me know!

Sorry ladies. Looking for a hand hold. Am bleeding, and scared.

Phoned antenatal unit /epu they told me to phone the doctors. gp has given me an appointment. I have left work and am sat in the Dr's surgery 30 mins early.

Mimil, don't despair. How much blood and what colour? Any cramps? Remember the ladies on here who've seen the same thing and are okay. Take courage x

Mimili
I hope everything turns out ok. Let us know how you get on.

thank you both. its light but I am having cramps. its a reddy brown / dark red.

its hard not to freak out isn't it.....

receptionist at my gp is a meany! made me feel like a naughty school child.

is this a situation where I should insist on a scan?

Here to hold your hand Mimili, I know how scary it can be.

Had my booking in appointment today, so paperwork filled in and what felt like an armful of blood given
12 week scan date will come in the post in the next week or so apparently.

Been seen. It is a locum. He is great.

He's asked me to sit down for ten mins whilst he phones hospital. he couldn't get hold of epu so has taken it upon himself to track down the on call registrar for the unit.

am now sitting listening to the same rude receptionist being incredibly rude to other patients.

How many weeks are you? I'm glad they're taking it seriously and doing something.