December 2013 - blue, pink, what do you think?

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New thread! Pile in!

Mildred I agree with the others! Don't let the consultant pressure you into changing your mind- at least I wouldn't, I couldn't do a 12 hour shift either and they shouldn't be endangering your health by making you work longer hours than you feel capable of. Good luck.

Congrats cc on your girl that's lovely!

anyone else still wearing 'normal' underwired bras? I have 2 maternity bras but my mum gave me a few she hasn't worn and they're really comfy tho underwired. Does it really matter??

Mildred, you have been treated appallingly and frankly if I were I'd go off sick. Your gp has said you shouldn't work those shifts, so has occ health. I don't know what your consultants problem is but he's being a massive bell end. That's the kind of comment we get from shitty employers, doctors should know better. Of course you're well enough to go on holiday, its a holiday! you're not being unreasonable AT ALL. I can barely manage 8 hours in the office! Stick to your guns love, put yourself and your baby first. If they refuse to accommodate you, just don't go in. I know that's.not ideal but they're not exactly being supportive are they? Your gp will give you a sick note I'm sure. And have a look at the working time regulations, they cover shift and night work and may mention pg specifically. By the way, are your employers undertaking annual health monitoring for you since you work nights? If not, they're breaking the law. Just sayin...

Apologies for this ?So much to comment on so I feel it will be a massive post!

Thanks to all who gave me advice about work. My head of dept has sorted it. He is my hero!! I now don?t have my own classroom (which I don?t mind, its only 2 months after all) but I will always be in an English classroom so that is perfect really!

My worries about not feeling pregnant seem to have disappeared too. I think I was getting so worked up about work and money (will get to that in a second) and now those worries have been sorted I just seem to feel so much more relaxed and happy. Money stuff - We have been having DIY/ceiling issues (although not as bad as Queen). Our bath was leaking, and although it isn?t too bad, work still needs to be done. Our bath has cracked and so we were looking at redoing the bathroom. (don'y think it's been done for decades!) Anyway, to get to the point, I was worrying about how to pay for it (what with upcoming mat leave). We went to a bathroom place which was doing a cheap deal. They gave us a goody bag with a scratch card with the top prize being a bathroom. I scratched it, and we only bloody won it! So now that means we have a brand new bathroom on the way and have not had to pay a penny for it. Huge weight lifted from my mind. Happy bunny! Just got to sort the ceiling now!

Yes MrsShrubs, we do have the same EDD. I think I have started to feel a few movements, not too sure really! It has made me feel a bit better though. I don't look pregnant ? ?just a bit fat? (as pointed out kindly by a group of year 8?s on Friday). Can?t wait to have a proper bump!

So sorry to hear about your job abc. Best of luck with the job hunt!

Lady, sorry to hear you are having a rough time. Hopefully you will be feeling more like yourself again soon!

Good news about the platelets Mum. Try not to worry too much, she sounds like a right wally!

Mildred, I agree with everyone else. You have been told not to do it, so you shouldn?t. I know it?s not always easy to do what you should when someone else is fighting against it though. I?m sorry you are in the situation ? it?s the last thing you need!

So exciting hearing about all of the 20 week scans. So many boys! I?m convinced I?m having a blue one too. Only 9 days to go!

Some great names being mentioned! Frouby, I LOVE Tobias! Just can't use it because a boy at school called Tobias is my nemesis at the moment!

How do we get a MatB1 form?

Again, aplogies about long post ? its nearly the summer hols though, so will probably be on here all the time then!

Ahh, so this is where you're all hiding! I thought it was weird there being no updates

Congratulations to everyone on the healthy scans and finding out the sex, it does seem to be particularly baby boy heavy thread so far!

lady, I'm sorry you're feeling so rubbish, but well done for being brave and taking action, I hope you feel better soon.

abcdemma, so sorry about your job, bigger and better things are waiting for you.

Mildred, I am disgusted by the consultants' attitude. Please do not back down, I'm sure that is what he's hoping
To achieve by being vile. I'm finding shifts very difficult, I don't think you're being unreasonable at all.

Whoever asked about the bras, I went for a fitting at bravissimo last weekend (up 2 sizes!) and they said as long as the bra fits well and the wires do not dig into breast tissue, they are absolutely fine to wear as long as you feel comfortable.

I have a little question about bonding with baby....does anyone feel as if they've started to form a bond with their baby yet? Does it become easier after the 20wk scan? I ask because at the moment I'm still so worried that something may show up at the scan that i feel quite detached. I'm not sure if this is normal or not, or if you generally get more of a bond towards the end of pregnancy. Hopefully the scan and finding out the sex may help too?

Ahh, so this is where you're all hiding! I thought it was weird there being no updates

Congratulations to everyone on the healthy scans and finding out the sex, it does seem to be particularly baby boy heavy thread so far!

lady, I'm sorry you're feeling so rubbish, but well done for being brave and taking action, I hope you feel better soon.

abcdemma, so sorry about your job, bigger and better things are waiting for you.

Mildred, I am disgusted by the consultants' attitude. Please do not back down, I'm sure that is what he's hoping
To achieve by being vile. I'm finding shifts very difficult, I don't think you're being unreasonable at all.

Whoever asked about the bras, I went for a fitting at bravissimo last weekend (up 2 sizes!) and they said as long as the bra fits well and the wires do not dig into breast tissue, they are absolutely fine to wear as long as you feel comfortable.

I have a little question about bonding with baby....does anyone feel as if they've started to form a bond with their baby yet? Does it become easier after the 20wk scan? I ask because at the moment I'm still so worried that something may show up at the scan that i feel quite detached. I'm not sure if this is normal or not, or if you generally get more of a bond towards the end of pregnancy. Hopefully the scan and finding out the sex may help too?

Gannet, I've heard that you can pick up a MatB1 form from your GP, all you need to do is get it signed and filled in by your midwife.
I need to see about picking one up at the doctor's tomorrow so I'll let you know whether any of that is true or not!

After 16 weeks, I FINALLY got to meet my midwife on Friday! She's lovely, very down to earth and has a great sense of humour - and after being messed around by my doctor's and the hospital for so long, words can't quite describe how happy I am to have been given a nice midwife
Apparently my blood pressure was far too high though, so I have to go back and see her again tomorrow... Fingers crossed everything's ok!

Anyway, enough of my ramblings! Hope everyone is feeling a bit better now that the heat seems to have died down?

hi everyone!

Dinner party went well I think. :) Not a silly sarcastic comment during the entire evening! I got to see all my nieces in one room and felt soo very happy. Unfortunately DS went to bed early and stayed asleep throughout the entire party. Everyone really missed him.

Well, there was one sarcastic comment, but it was directed to my sister by her future mil; I don't want to meddle, but I just know she wont fit into her fiance's family. Unfortunately for her, his culture dictates he takes care of them as they get older so she will have to be okay with her in-laws living with her when they get older. Her fiance is a lovely guy and I know he will do whatever he can to make her happy. I just think that my sister has a lot of expectations to live up to when it comes to this relationship.

gannet amazing and well done for winning a new bathroom! maybe you could pass some of that luck down to me? x

Mildred!!! That's appalling! I thought my boss was an uncaring bitch but yours makes her look like Mother Theresa. You REALLY need to lodge a formal grievance about this, it's desperately important they aren't allowed to get away with it. You are in NO WAY being unreasonable, I've refused to do nights at all and got no argument!

pistachio I was feeling the same re. bonding but once we knew all was ok at the scan and found out the flavour it's staring to happen for me. Also when I feel him move it's like he's saying "hello I'm here" and I have started talking to him when it's just me around lol. It'll prob get easier as we get further along.

mildred I agree with everyone else, it's appalling how you've been treated by the consultant and your request is by no means unreasonable!

Feeling rather tired again though, dunno if the heat is finally catching up with me or just having an off day. Cloudy up our way but can't be mithered to try and squeeze into my normal jeans that I haven't worn for weeks!
Job interview on Tues, and after much deliberation I've decided to wear a baggy top and only tell them I'm pg if I get offered the job. Just hoping rental company doesn't discover I've lost my job as then we've lost the admin fee :( Clearing out the loft though to see what I can flog online... Desperate times n all that...

Thanks for the support ladies. I just hate confrontation. It was one thing fighting with Occ health who I don't have to see daily but now the consultant I work under every day has taken against it as well it's horrible.

I'm not really sure why he's changed so dramatically after initially seeming supportive. Last wk we went for coffee after the ward round and he sat all friendly asking about my holiday and then used it against me in this email saying "he must say its lucky my condition allowed me to holiday abroad and travel around an island". It was 3 nights in a hotel
In Majorca ffs.

I've replied to his email saying I stand by what I say about nights. I pointed out that its not just the 12 hour shift itself, it's the fact we do weekends of them Fri, Sat, Sun after working normal hours Mon-Thurs. Totalling 69 hours in a week. I have relented and said if he feels it so unreasonable to just reduce these by a few hours to 8 hours then I will have to use my annual leave days to break up these long runs.

I'm dreading having to do the ward round with him tomorrow morning .

Would really love to tackle this and fight my corner but just can't face the confrontation and discomfort of having to carry on working in a relatively small hospital.

Totally ruined my weekend worrying about this.. Have been completely horrible to DH as a result and picked arguments about nothing. Luckily he's popped out for a bike ride. Will have to try and reconcile when he gets back!

Hope everyone else is ok and enjoying the sunny Sunday! X

Found you! Marking place, will catch up later on.

So happy I've finally, after 19 weeks, gone 1 whole week without morning sickness!! Gone from being sick nearly every day to it finally disappearing!

Morning all

Mildred you must stand your ground hun. Its a hospital for FFS and he should be more understanding than most bosses. Point out that it was just a 3 night break on an island 2 hours by plane, and that your total travel time, including transfers and waiting at airport for the full weekend was about half that of a normal night shift.

Find the relevant research on your health and the babies and fetal development etc etc and link him to it so he is 'up to speed' with current theories. Then point out that Occ Health and your GP agrees with you and demand a new risk assessment be done for insurance purposes. I know its confrontational and I know when you are PG its the last thing you want BUT you still have quite a way to go and work and don't want this issue hanging over you.

Then when he has to backtrack, do a licky arse email thanking him for his support and consideration in this matter as though HE was the one who fought your corner. That way he will forget the confrontational stuff and just remember the nice email you sent him.

And by the time you come back off mat leave this will all be forgotten!

First day of summer hols here. Grey and cloudy lol. DD just got up so off to play ponies for the morning before it chucks it down.

Hope everyone's doing well after the weekend - it cooled down a bit here so was a bit more manageable but I have heard it's heating up again this week which I am dreading as I have a fair bit of train and tube travel to contend with!

Mildred glad you had a good hol but sorry you are having a tough time with work and hope you manage to make them see sense soon.

I had hideous heartburn yesterday afternoon - was completely shocked as I only remember getting that quite late on when pregnant with DD. Hope it was just a blip and I don't have to start necking gaviscon on a daily basis.

I was also having a really uncomfortable stomach over the end of last week and into the weekend. I couldn't really put my finger on what it was but I just didn't feel comfortable at all. DH reckons it was everything getting squished inside but again I don't remember feeling like that last time. Anyway, it seems to have settled down so hopefully I will be more comfortable last week.

Also, remembered the midwife picked up slighty raised leukocytes in my urine when I saw her for the stupid consultant appt last week, so I need to remember to call for the results of that. Hope I don't have a UTI, but guess it's best to know and get the anti-b's. I have no symptoms whatsoever, so the midwife said it could just be the hot weather messing the results up, poss because of dehydration - she said she had seen loads of women that day with raised leukocytes, so am hoping it's nothing to worry about.

Am totally not a royalist but am stupidly interested in the royal birth story today! I think mainly because I want to know what they call it as I am worrying they will go for my #1 boy name choice (George) which will send me back to the drawing board if they choose it!!

Morning all! Quite excited that Kate's gone into labour (sad I know), and I think the whole world's just wondering what they'll call it too!

I'm actually quite excited for Kate too! I love a birth announcement me :)

I'm quite excited too! I'll take DS to leave a card at their gate later. He's soo excited. I'm hoping they don't take any of my names either. I think it'll be a girl named Charlotte.

Hi everyone, call I join you - though I know it's fairly late in the day :)?

I am expecting my first and had our 20 week scan a week ago today and.... it's A GIRL. So excited after the scary first 12-16 weeks, but things seem to be settling down now and I'm enjoying feeling her lovely little kicks.

I'm due 30 November but will be VERY surprised if I don't end up with a December baby.

Fingers crossed Kate doesn't steal our name either but that she has a good birth experience!

Hi, Rosenip my due date is the 27th November, was expecting it to be put back a few days at my scan as I have quite a long cycle, it happened with DD but not this time but I'm here now and staying put!

Got some baby vests and trousers from Morrisons in the half price sale, they are so cute! Now I've bought something there could be no stopping me (or so DP is afraid)

Just had 20week scan, baby all ok although took ages to find the kidneys!

The placenta is still low and they found a fibroid so got to go back for a scan at 32 weeks... And couldn't find out the sex if I wanted to because of the placenta and the baby being breech!!

Hoping placenta moves up or I will need a Caesarian and I've got my heart set on a homebirth now

hi everyone. another late joiner-iner. room for more?
im 20+2 with ds 2 (just found out the sex of no 2 on friday.) was a bit disappointed at first as really quite wanted a girl but after feeling guilty and giving myself a telling off im really excited now.
haven't had a chance to read through all the posts but hope to catch up in next couple if days.

Welcome Chilli and Rosenip congrats on your scans! Chilli, don't feel guilty about feeling disappointed- I've got 2 boys and I admit I had a pang of that when ds2 arrived but it vanished when I held him- he's just the most gorgeous happy little boy now! However...kind of wishing just as hard this time, that maybe DC3 will be a girl!!...

Welcome Rosenip and Chilli :) are you both due on the 30th of November? That's my due date

Congrats on your healthy scan b0nker5, hopefully your placenta moves up. Still plenty of time!

Mildred, please fight that consultant, that's absolutely bang out of order! Hope everything goes well for you

DP got to hear bubs heartbeat for the first time today, I've never seen him look so proud in all the time I've known him :) our little boy was wriggling about while the MW was trying to doppler him, he just wouldn't sit still

thanks for the welcome. i am due on the 7th of december but will probably be at least a week late going by last time.
mumofboys- thanks for the sympathy. my ds1 aged 2 is the most gorgeous loving child ever so wld be lucky to get another like him.
havi g said that, good luck with your scan.

Duh, I forgot that I'm 21+2, not 20+2

I wasn't going to share this but it's really been playing on my mind. My MIL decided yesterday to tell us that "I hate the names you've picked. If you call him any of them, I won't be calling him that. You'll have to change it." This was after her going on and on about how much weight I've put on and how fat I am, and how I've "put on weight everywhere! Like, all over!" I actually really haven't, my belly is huge but that's to be expected. I mean, I'm pregnant ffs. It doesn't bother me when people tell me how big I am normally, I quite like having a big bump but my MIL just says it out of nastiness and it's really getting me down. Is anyone else having trouble with their in laws? I just don't know how to deal with her.