October 2013 - Who is the least prepared?

[GTbaby]

just made it in time for last post on old thread... i hope

Also, just to extend my massively and random last post - who was it who said about their belly button piercing? Sorry I forgot who it was; but on a slightly related note, I have taken out my top ear piercing (which I have had for about 8 years) as it started to get really sore and itchy. I've never had a problem with it before, but now I can't stand having it in. I wondered if it was pregnancy related, and still think it probably isn't, but thought I would mention it anyway

"Women carrying girls will have more of a boob growth than if they were carrying a boy."

True in my case :)

My boob growth is the same with dd and it is with this blue bump x

it was carnage pseudo but managed to salvage 90% of it. looking lovely in my kitchen now.

DH and I have made the decision to pull out of our house purchase. It's absolutely terrifying but we feel we have no choice. We aren't sure if we'll be able to buy another property this year, although it would be tight with baby's due date only 3 1/2 months away.

Oh no, how comes u pulled out ana

Hope all those off work poorly are feeling better this eve and that your pain resides with rest GT xxx

Now I'm having a mind blank about what else I just read, r u ok haylebop don't recall seeing your name for a while?

I think most families have some kind of nightmare relative whether they are distant or close that always cause agro for me its my sister she's so far up my mums bum its rediculous yet recently since I was around 10 weeks pregnant she has become best friends with some new woman and now basically talks to none of us cos she's so obsessed with her! I no its petty but its almost as if we're back in school never mind the fact she's nearly 30 lol. For me family is like a kind of can't live with them can't live without them kind of thing but I'm probly closest to my dad out of everyone xx

Argh I need a quite rant, I am absolutely FUMING at DH right now, we have literally no money at all having just had to she'll out a ?5000 deposit (weird renting in Soain) on an unfurnished flat we move into in 2 weeks, I found a second hand furniture store in the next town, bought a mirror that was really old and shitty, it was actually a wardrobe door originally, bought some window cleaner, paint, sandpaper, painbrush etc, spent 2 hours cleaning, sanding, painting, DH comes outside to look at it, and bloody stands on it (it was lying in the floor). WHO THE HELL STANDS ON A MIRROR?!!

So I shouted, so he stormed out to 'leave me in peace.' I don't want some peace, I want a fucking mirror and a half-sane husband!

Am ashamed to say I am a right teary mess right now as the mirror was symbolic of my nesting and he has stood in my nest!!!! My baby has no home!!!!

Virtual slap please??? Xx

No slapping needed, umlauf just lots and lots of

Anyone would be cross and upset that their hard work was so easily damaged/broken
And I'm sure that's probably why DH has reacted badly; because he feels stupid and clumsy and really, really guilty - sometimes when we're cross at ourselves, we turn it outwards, if that makes sense?

Hugs x

Umlauf I totally understand your nesting and your pregnancy rage. No slap from me.

We had to pull out of this because we can't trust the vendor. We would have exchanged contracts more than a month ago but found out he had done structural work without building regs approval. After stressful negotiations a month ago he agreed to get the place inspected, then to do the work the inspector wanted done. He says he has done the work but has produced a building regs certificate that doesn't certify the work in question, refused to do other work he should have done, is trying to pressure us to close by the end of the week (ie stop asking questions) and bizarrely has accused us of having mail forwarded to the house, which we haven't done and has nothing to do with anything.

It's just really frustrating because we've stretched our finances and borrowed to try to buy in the first place and I'm not convinced we'd be approved if we need to apply for another mortgage. If we'd chosen a different house we could be living there now.

Umlauf - poor you! Agree with shirehobbit re. hubby's reaction. Sure you'll cuddle it out later :)

I'm being a bit slack today, serious CBA mode - meant to book my 28 week midwife appt and whooping cough jab but haven't done either! Maybe tomorrow....

This heat is killing me :( hair has doubled in size and makeup slid off my face the second I put it on. Have the fan going full whack but still feel very humid and uncomfortable. Moan moan moan!!!

Sorry so many of you are having hard time with family, house etc.

I have leaky boobs too. I tried breast pads for the first time today, they just made my boobs really hot, sweaty and itchy. Really inappropriate scratching my boobs in class! I have decided to just let it go on my bra until it gets so much that it seeps through which I presume won't be until the baby comes and proper milk comes in.

I can recommend Lanisoh (sp) breast pads, lovely and thin.

Sounds so stressful ana but I would do the same. Structural work can cause a lot of issues if not done properly. It's not a small matter. It would also disqualify your building insurance if anything happens. And things do happen sometimes. It took us one whole year to buy our current house, and two of our purchases fell through. At one point we ended up living in a B&B for a month... then had to go renting. Our fault as we exchanged on our sale first, half an hour before we were supposed to exchange on the purchase. And then the vendor pulled out... all happened in the space of 10 minutes. It was a nightmare. The other purchase fell through because of survey report and I was thinking like you - we should have bought another house, why didn't we buy that other house we saw 6 months ago etc... these things are tough but usually they happen for a reason. You will probably look back at it in a year / two years time and know why it all happened. I do. I'm now so happy we didn't get that first house despite having to pack all our earthly belongings into storage and live in a scruffy B&B with poor DS... it wasn't the right house for us. Saying this I still see the lady who pulled out (she lives 3 streets away and her daughter goes to DS's school) and still want to strangle her :-)

umlauf I totally get your distress! Nesting instinct is a very funny and very strong thing! Last week DS scratched the wall in our newly painted nursery. I wanted to strangle him too! She ruin my baby's PERFECT home...

ps. I haven't strangled anyone in RL by the way... yet... :-)

Aw he's more than made it up to me by standing unto my father who having ignored all texts and emails, was shouting and swearing quite a lot at us down Skype (he was meant to transfer our money from England for the deposit as he has access to a quick-transfer bank and hasn't done so and if its not here by Friday we lose the ?1k we have already paid ) I couldn't cope with any more stress after the mirror episode and broke down immediately and left the room, but DH was very respectful but didn't back down (father was very drunk (Hes an alcoholic) and mother just giggling saying "oh dear")

Then we had a long cry and cuddle on the bathroom floor and although it feels like its just the two of us against the world that doesn't seem such a bad prospect now, even if he is enough of a wally to stand on a mirror!! Still so worried about being homeless though...

So I'm hoping my pregnancy breakdown has now been had and that its only going to get better from here on in!

Sorry to be so mememe this evening but talking to strangers helps sooo much!!

anani I am so sorry to hear you've had to pull out. Buying/renting houses seems to be the biggest stress ever, and none of us need any more stress It definitely sounds like you've done the right thing though, and been really sensible and practical when you must be so emotionally invested in the house, it will definitely be worth your peace of mind, I'm just so sorry for the frustration and disappointment of now.

untitled I am totally overheating too!! I've been moaning about the weather all year and now what I wouldn't give for some rain.

sorry I meant DP scratched the wall in our new nursery, not DS! I never want to strangle DS. I sometimes want to strangle DP. just wanted to clarify. And meant "he ruined" not "she ruined". Both DP and DS are male last time I checked.

Perfectly acceptable too want to strangle dp clapham it should be every woman's legal right lol xx

Umlauf that all sounds awful. The fear of being homeless is every scary. My biggest worry right now is actually that we will have to move into another rental between this one and buying a house, and how quickly and cheaply can we make that happen, because we need to move by the end of August.

clapham thanks. I think if I saw this house vendor I would probably want to strangle him, too.

I just keep telling myself that babies don't know that their homes are rented or temporary. They just need us to love and take care of them.

Exactly umlauf

So sorry to hear about your housing worried umlauf and ana. I have to say after moving a couple of weeks ago it really is a horribly stressful time even without any complications.
It sounds like your doing the best thing though ana although its stressful now could have been much worse if you had moved in had a tiny baby and then something was wrong with the work that had been done.

Also sorry to those of you struggling with difficult family members, Im very lucky to have a very close immediate family but only because my parents distanced themselves from certain members of the family when I was younger. Its amazing how many families are like this though. Makes me want to work especially hard with my little family xx
Hope everyone is surviving the heatwave! Looks a bit more cloudy here today and the pregnant lady part of me is actually quite greatful.

24 week midwife app today. I always feel useless because I never have any questions to ask, truth of the matter is, you lot always answer them!

Back to the hospital this afternoon for monitoring and got consultant appointment tomorrow morning (which is handy as that means i get out of a boring audit at work, yay!).

Came home from work yesterday with the hugest feet abd ankles ever! I thought they were going to burst. I facebooked a piccy for my friends and they all said take today off and them up. Feel guilty tho cos of appointments lately so just gonba see how it goes.

Sorry to those with family issues. Remember, its their issues, not yours

Fat finger typing, sorry for random letters!

Hope all goes well today pinklady x

Hi all,

Not posted in a while, mainly just lurk to see that everyone is getting on ok, but I have a question today...

I've had this annonying achey feeling down my right side for a couple of days. I mainly feel it when I am sitting downing and sometimes when I am walking. Does anyone know what this could be? Not sure if I should be worried!

I had braxton hicks strong enough to wake me last night .
I am exhausted and hubs is away to work all day till 9.30pm worrying i should not be getting them as strong at 28+4

Hope hospital goes ok 34pink