October 2013 - Who is the least prepared?

[GTbaby]

just made it in time for last post on old thread... i hope

I liked the woman's face when Holly told her to shut up! Stupid woman.

I'll tell you all mine and DH's story, but I think I'll type it out on my work PC tomorrow rather than try to type it on my phone tonight!

I've been noticing for the past day or 2 that sections of my stomach go hard. Not like braxton hicks, more like there might be a little baby in there pressing their back up against my tummy! But surely it's too early (27+1) to actually be able to feel my baby from the outside? It's usually just to the right of my belly button. Anyone else?

just came back from the parents drinks to all these new lovely stories! it makes for such an amazing read! I love it how all our stories are so different. Seems so many people have been together for ages! can't believe how many have been with their other half for over 10 years!

So my awful day had a lovely ending. I met so many great people tonight. We both work full time so never have a chance to meet other parents. Really looking forward to my maternity leave now! most of them don't work so looks like I will have some good company.

orange I really hope they take you off the playground duties... surely they must do it out of health and safety concerns? You can't really rely on 5-6 year olds to be thoughtful and careful around you... they are still so small.. hope the pain goes away soon x

wicked 8 days... jealous jealous jealous

flyer watch "First Dates" too - very entertaining! all about internet dating

night everyone!

I meant earlier "most mums don't work" not "most parents don't work" :-)

roxvox it's not too early. I get it and I am only 24+2. I can sometimes tell how and where the baby is lying. Roughly.

Keep forgetting to say...
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Sry been a bit slack recently as I went bk to work. Thankfully only two weeks left

Have you felt ok being back at work GT? You could hardly move for a while. I thought you were signed off for the whole pregnancy?

Roxvox we have felt the baby kicking from the outside since 19 weeks and harder bits that press up against and sometimes distort my tummy that I think are a head/back for the last few weeks. I am 24+5 so not too early for you to be feeling it from the outside I don't think? Our babies are getting pretty big now!

25 week midwife appointment today.

Roxvox I'm another one with a baby that likes to stick its bum out- I think that's what it is most of the time! At my 24 week appointment the midwife had a feel and showed me where she thought the bum was- she thought it was too big to be a head. I hope so

Really enjoyed reading all the stories, so many are really coincidental/lucky/fate depending on how you look at it. Definitely meant to be though

I'm going to order 'stand and deliver' today as it sounds a lot more positive than the way people like to talk in RL. Getting a bit fed up of being expected to be really scared about labour and made to feel like a fool when I dare to say that actually I'm not. The fear may or may not hit me at a later date, but I don't see what I have to gain by making myself feel scared now. I've been a birth partner twice so not completely naive. I could rant forever but I shall spare you all!

Thanks ladies. I have been feeling kicks and been watching my stomach distort into random waves when baby is moving position, but this hard area that appears and stays there is a new thing! Quite exciting to think that could be baby's bum or head!

I see there is now a March 2014 thread

yes roxvox I've been feeling that for a few weeks now too. definitely baby, mw said she could easily feel the head at the top of my uterus at my 24 week app and I've been able to identity a hand on a few occasions!! mines definitely starting to push harder against the outside now!

I'm 27 weeks today, 3rd trimester here we come! sometimes I feel like its moving so slowly then suddenly its not!! going away with all my family this weekend to celebrate my mum's 60th and gran's 90th birthdays!! can't wait! just got to get through the.dentist first!!!

Love all of stories - I feel very bonded with you all now! Was talking about it to DP last night and he was very - wonder what our other halves would be discussing if they had a similar thread .

28 week appointment on Monday - quite excited as haven't seen a midwife since 16 weeks - seems so long! GTT though, not particularly looking forward to that, but looks like the weather will be good on Monday so will have a sunbathe in the grounds while I wait.

Sorting out Mat cover at work at the moment - I'm jiggling 3 people around, which is really nice as it gives them all an opportunity to step up into a more senior role while I'm away. The woman that is covering my job seems a bit apprehensive about seemingly being after my job - I keep telling her it's normal to want your bosses job. I suppose I should be a little bit threatened but don't have the energy! 34 days to go!!!!!!!!

Roxvox that will definitely be baby - wait for a few weeks, you will have a very weirdly shaped tummy at times, its very very odd! They are starting to get big now - they start putting on about half a pound a week around 28 weeks, so we will all be feeling pretty huge very very soon!

I noticed that as well cuillereasoupe - it doesn't seem so long ago that we were the newest group, very odd!

Congrats on scan pink, and falcon you are obviously a lovely home for bubba to be growing so well - I suppose birth might sting a bit though

I met DP (Neil) when I was 18 as I was going out with his friend. He then went out with my best friend for a short while. Dp's friend dumped me and I was desolate and started talking to Neil more and more. We eventually got together when I was 19. Gosh it's nearly 14 years!
He has his moody moments (mainly due to us having to live at my parents' for now) but is generally so very kind and lovely. He is an amazing dad.

roofio I often think like that one day it seems to be flying then the next I'm like hmmm I'm only 25+4 its taking forever I think the 20-30 week stage is the so near yet so far stage lol as your more than half way but its still such a long wait. I'm looking forward to being 30+1 so the weekly count down will be in single figures! Xx

It was lovely reading all of your 'How I met your Father' stories, so I thought I would contribute :)

Both DH and I are Cornish. I was a member of a surf life saving club in Cornwall from the age of 12(ish), and at 19 I started dating a guy who was also a member of the club. I was with him for 18 months, and it was a terrible (not physically abusive, but certainly mentally abusive) relationship that I knew I had to get out of, but he had some kind of strange hold over me. Then Andy (my now DH) joined the club and he was so tall, gregarious, gorgeous and charming and made me swoon. I fancied him, but denied myself the acknowledgement of the feelings due to my bf. We used to flirt a little bit whenever we saw each other, and then when I was away at uni he found a reason to get my number off of a mutual friend and we started texting (just friendly stuff). After a few months he told me that he had to stop texting me because he was falling for me and he didn't want to get hurt. I was so incredibly depressed and couldn't believe how much I missed his texts; that's when I realised how I truly felt about him. Silly really; the faster heart rate whenever I got a text from him and the fact that I was sure my heart skipped a beat whenever I would see him unexpectedly should have been the biggest clues, but like I say; I was in denial! Andy gave up after a week and started texting again because he missed me too much and I told him my intentions to break up with my bf. I drove home that weekend to break up with bf (who said "OK" about it). DH and I secretly dated for a couple of months (in which time my now ex-bf decided he wanted me back and said all of the things I wanted him to say when we were together, but they meant nothing to me anymore because of Andy). After 2 weeks Andy told me he was in love with me (he'd never said it to anyone before, and is a few years older so had had a few girlfriends). When we got married last April we had been together for 6 years. I can honestly say that he is my soul mate and I can't imagine life without him!

Ahhh, another lovely story roxvox - we really are a soppy love struck bunch! I had the same thought as Jelly i.e. it would be very interesting to read all our partners' versions of events.

Last night I was flicking through the diary I kept for 2006/7 and having a giggle. During my pregnancy with DD it is ridiculously full of praise for DP and how truly wonderful he is etc.. (think it was the hormones) but by a few months post-birth (both shell-shocked and sleep-deprived) he's driving me mad and I'm questioning the whole relationship.

Love the pants off him but I'm much more realistic these days

Pseudo - you're not alone with the chaffing - I think yesterday's panty
liner shifted into an awkward position and now... Ouch, ouch!

Clapham - I can barely watch 'First Dates' - I keep covering my eyes as I feel so embarrassed for them.

Right, enough delaying tactics, off to walk the dog..Sod's law that I feel really shitty (backache, tired and yucky hayfever) on a day when I've heaps to do.

Hope everyone has a good day x

Awww, loving all these 'how we met' stories!

My baby is driving me mad, it goes mental most of the day and then is quiet in the evening and starts moving again about 9:30pm. Every single time I'm on my own I can clearly see him moving about but as soon as I try and show DH he stops.

DH has only felt him kick once and has never seem him wriggle about at all, ridiculous!

I'm starting hypnobirthing tonight. Hope the other couples are ok and it's not too cringeworthy.

bridget I am under no illusion that there will be times when DH and I will probably hate each other over the first few months (years?!) of having another little person to care about! I just went and gave him a quick cuddle. Too true that it would be interesting to hear his version of events (I know that when he first met me he thought I was very attractive, but a bit crazy... but that's probably because I was stuttering over my words )

smitten I had a similar issue in that whenever I tried to get DH to see the wriggles, they would stop. I started to wonder if it was because baby was moving around in the silence and then I would speak to DH to say "Look at my tummy!" and disrupt the silence, so baby would stop. He's now seen the movements when I waved at him to get his attention and then pointed to my tummy. May have just been coincidence, after all, baby seems to stop kicking/wriggling whenever I get my video camera out too. Little bugger!

I might try that trick roxvox, silence from now on! I'm sure we'll be complaining soon that they are moving too much and jabbing us in the ribs and elsewhere!

My baby does exactly the same... I call DP over to make him feel the kicks and the baby stops kicking! DP now refuses to come over saying "it will stop as soon as I'm there anyway". He's felt only one small kick so far. Naughty baby!

bridget that Faliraki DJ guy on First Dates is unreal isn't he? The lines... OMG

bowlfull my DP is very scared of Mumsnet haha. He always asks me what on earth we are chatting about it. I tell him very very selectively :-)

And I wish my team were apprehensive about wanting my job! They are right out there to get it, sparing no punches! But my company likes to employee very ambitious people who all want to be CEOs so what can I expect... I know it's not personal and I don't intend to come back anyway (although noone knows) so I'm just observing (relatively) calmly and (only mildly) amused. Some punches still manage to get to me though... One guy is particularly annoying as, ironically, he is the weakest of all of them and even used to be on performance improvement plan, but he is married to another very senior guy on our team and, through his super connected husband, he is very well connected himself and definitely on some special terms... I found managing him a nightmare because of this set up and so glad to be leaving all these disgusting politics behind...

Talking about not going back... I got my June bank statement yesterday and was amazed how much we managed to spend last month... decorating and buying baby stuff but not really doing anything else or anything super extravagant. It's perfectly OK while I still earn but I wonder where all this money will come from once my salary is gone... I guess we will just have to adjust!

Hi everyone, I've just caught up on this thread after a couple of weeks and can't believe how chatty you've all been! 24 weeks tomorrow and my baby is ridiculously active, I don't get a moments peace! Apart from when dp wants a feel obviously - then it goes extremely still, the little devil

Dp and I were introduced by my best friend, we'd stood next to each other in the pub once but she gave him my number a month or so later and we texted for a week or so before arranging a date. Weirdly, neither of us were bowled over by that date but he stayed over (!) and virtually moved in with me the next day! A couple of months later we started renovating his house to move into and now, four and a half years later, we're renovating another one to be our family home!

Just logged onto the Facebook page we have where someone was asking about how many children people have.... So my question is do you intend on having anymore babies?

I'm pretty set on this being my first and last child. I've never been a hugely maternal person, but always wanted 1 child....DP is better with children and babies than I am but is also happy to stick to just the one..

That's what I said after DS Flyer :o

Watch me have about 4 children after saying that pseudo

With this being my 5th ceasarean I don't think my body could cope with another pregnancy and after all we've been through this time I don't think either of us could cope mentally.
I'd planned on being sterilized at the same time as my ceasarean but not so sure now as Eliana will be Dp's only child and if anything happened to her I'd be taking away his chance of being a father.

Sounds pretty annoying clapham - my place is not nearly as cut throat as that. Plus I'm in a fairly senior, but also quite thankless role, so not sure that many people want my job, lol.

flyer in theory this is our 2nd and last. DP and I have only discussed up to two, and in theory 2 is a good number for us - I think financially we will be able to offer 2 children a nice standard of living, anymore and things will be a stretch. But I know in my heart of hearts I'm going to want another, so we will see if heart or head rules . Then again, I might get another refluxy non sleeper who wants to be on my boob for 15 hours a day and actually decide that 2 is enough!

this is our first baby and I definitely want at least one more, but not for 4/5 years. I'm going to start childminding and don't want 2 full time.places taken up by my own children. we'll see if I can wait though!! if money was no object I'd have 3 or 4!! (again, who knows, I might decide after this lo that I'm done!!)