July 2013 - Holy Shit, this is IT!!

[dinkystinky]

New thread for us to natter away on as babies keep on arriving. 11 at last count already and not even in July yet.. Who will be next??

Just catching up quickly, congratulations on the new arrivals. There are some beautiful names being given to babies on this thread.

Glad that feeding is going better for people, can thoroughly recommend Savoy leaves, used those many a time! Feeding here seems to be going ok, F is now 6.4 so well above her birth weight. Still reluctant to feed but maybe she's just efficient.

And is interesting to hear that reflexology can help with cs recovery, I may give it a try as I'm still very sore and not at all back to normal yet. Had a couple of days on the sofa so will be glad to get out tomorrow.

Hope all of those still waiting aren't getting too fed up in this weather, won't be much longer now

Feel so tired from all the walking I had today. Also attended DS2 summer fete which I had forgotten. He reminded me when I went to pick him up. Glad nothing else had been planned and the whole family attended as we were all in the car.

Totally I have got all that I need but it's just not packed. I will pack my bag tommorow.

Been having strong Bhs and pressure pains. Hope they progress into something.

My mother is supposed to fly in on the 20/7 for the birth but not sure I want to wait anymore. Just want the baby out.

Anyone else overdue shocked at how utterly useless and unsupportive their family are? My (retired) parents just spent 4 days with my sister who lives an hour away from me sitting in sun etc, txt me to see if anything happening but never once offering any help at all. Despite me being more than a week overdue, looking after the 3 boys with no other support in a bloody heatwave.
No doubt they'll be straight up when baby finally arrives as they like newborns then bugger off again when it looks like they might have to actually help.
It is really pissing me off big time (to put it in perspective they visitors my sister several times in run up to her baby being born a month ago. Dsis has cleaner, gardener and her toddler is in nursery 3 full days a week

It's probably stressing over them that stopping me going in to labour

visited not visitors

thinking as soon as they visit the newborn, say something like 'god i am glad to see you! I really need someone to do the washing/cleaning/ironing/washing up' then go for a nap with the baby

evelyn you are going to be the most glamorous person who rocked up for an elcs. I really like the idea of an eyelash tint.

thinking and icing sorry your families are getting you down. thinking would you feel comfortable asking then to help? let them know you would like to see them. they might think they are helping by staying out of the way or just selfish but trying to see it positively.

icing that sucks. sorry shes snappy...but perhaps she is just tetchy as she knows you are right. I'm like that. the more I know I'm wrong the more I hiss but absorb the info none the less. can you introduce a new summer drink to have together...a little mocktail or something?

I've read that about cabbage! well all have bras that rival the hampton court flower show. glad it's helping though dinky.

I don't know if it's braxton hicks I've been having today but if they are I'm a total sissy as I think they are meant to be pain free and I'm still yelping. what will I do when the real thing starts? maybe I should drop something heavy on my foot when I get the first twinge so that I can have an excuse for faster pain relief!

I just caught up on everyone's news, and wanted to offer to those suffering from unsupportive parents, ignorant strangers and irritating dh's particularly icing and thinking. No advice whatsoever, just wanted to sympathise and hope things turn around for you.

I've been keeping up to date on fb, so haven't missed much! Really interesting to hear cabbage leaves work, my nct counsellor really recommended this, but it's hard to believe unless you hear from those who've tried it!

evelyn I've been similarly afflicted these last few days in particular and can only hope that the end is very near now...

On that note, have been switched to consultant care for 'legal reasons'! because of protein in a urine sample and reduced movements. I have a feeling baby was dehydrated as everything has been fine since and I've been drinking lots to compensate! Back pains have started kicking in over the past 24hrs so I think I may have entered the latent phase

Fingers crossed for all those waiting on babies, and soothing thoughts to uncomfortable LOs

I'll catch up properly later but just wanted to say: Yey!!! Water birth approved!! And I even have it confirmed on hospital headed notepaper

Thnk you all for your support!

Icing-I like your style, defo going to give everybody that visits a job when baby here-think I might actually warn them all now if I'm too emotional to tell them what to do & say do nothing, to just go clean a cupboard, cooker, toilet, do a wash etc anyway.

I think your mum is being unreasonable & that's talking as someone very fond of summer wine. Why don't you tell your mum that you understand she wants a drink but it's important to you to have a sober birth partner etc & maybe it's better to ask your mil to be a birth partner instead as she's happy not to drink?

Thanks all for the kind words-I was expecting baby blues after the birth but not really before-my family are all a bit rubbish at understanding hormones etc, they're lovely but just don't understand that I can't help crying & dreading now what it'll be like after. Also sick of them all saying they thought I'd have been away by now, sigh.

Thanks dinky for that feeding website-I'm dreading bf again as it was so hard before but will look at the site & get all the info I can.

Hope everyone has a good evening :)

38+4

Cheek and MrsRoss - sounds like things are starting to move in the right direction for both of you. Cheek - try focusing on breathing through the contractions/BH - deep breath in and slow breath out - helps you lose track of time and zone out.

Thinking - grr at your family - is your sister your younger sister? My parents are v used to me being the independent one and younger sister being the one that needs all the support, so I sympathise.

Icing - your mum sounds abit defensive. Hopefully whenn she calms down she'll realise its not an unreasonable request.

Time to feed (both J and me) again...

I have serious breast feeding munchies! I just haven't been able to stop eating all day. Constantly hungry.
It makes such a difference compared to the end of pregnancy when I felt there was barely any room left inside me for any food half the time.

Yet another fail at getting to bed early. Can't believe it's nearly 10 already.

Sleep well everybody.

Due date list (Innies):

CottonSocks - 24th June
Skelosia - DC2 - 1st July
QuinandThem - 1st July
Badgerwife - DC2 - 1st July
Cutandstick - 2nd July
Thinkingof4- DC4 -2nd July
Persuasion - DC1 - 3rd July
esme80 - 3rd july
Glup - 3rd July
PenguinsInThePantry - 5th July
Efme - 8th July
GeorgieWilson - 9th July
TwoOfThree - DC1 - 10th July
Specialknickers - 11th July
MrsMillions - DC1 - 11th July
Cheekbyjowl - DC1 - 11th July
Reikimummy - 12th July (DC1)
SlouchingPanda - 12th July
Thundercatz - 12th July
Twirliedobbit - DC4 - 12th July
Hai1988 - 12th July - DC2 - Girl!
LittleFlower888 - 14th July
Tashtastic - 14th July
Beaditsback - dc2 14th July
Mizar - 15th July
photographerlady - 15th July
Evelynj - 15th July
Guavasforbreakfast - DC1 - 16th July
MiniPenguinMaker - DC1 - 17th July
Pocopearl - 18th July - DC1
Boostar - 18th July - DC2
MrsWildermac - 18th July
SingingMomma - 18th July
MummyKanny - 18th July
Andrea75 - DC3 - 18th July
GingerJulep - DC1 - 19th July
Niktasha - 19th July
whitedaffodil - 19th July
Grannyapple DC2 - 19th July
Thinking positive thoughts - 20th July
Icingthecake - 20th July
PhieEl06 - DC1 - 20th July
AmaDablam - DC1 - 21st July
Lancslass83 -dc1- 21st July
butterflyexperience - 22nd July
AllYoursBabooshka - 22nd July
Orangebubbles - DC2 - 22nd July
Isitme1 - 23rd July
Scoutfinch - DC1 - 23rd July
MightBeMad - 26th July
Cantreachmytoes - 24th July
MrsRoss26 - 24th July
Camb79 - 25th July
Sashabella0 - 25th July
BoyMeetsWorld - 27th July
marimba - 27th July
JessicaMLH - DC2 - 27th July
Lizincornwall - 27th July
LorrieJ- 27 July
TomDaleysTrunks - DC2 - 27th July
Silver15 - DC3 - 28th July
Wavesandsmiles - DC3 - 30th July
Trickybarmby - 31st July

Arrivals List (Outies):

SuperShiv - DS, Oliver, aka the little fighter, born 13.04.13, 1 lb
Emblosion - DS, Oisin Michael, born 27.5.13, 6 lb 1 oz
Beginningofthejourney - DS, Theodore, born 28.05.13, 6 lb 11 oz
Elliejitny - DS, Ezekiel, born 3.6.13, 7 lb 2 oz
Paolocee/Donna - DDs, Leila Poppy and Caitlin Liv
Princessllama - DS, Humphrey
Devilforasideboard - DS, Will
Schrosawmargerydaw - DS, born 21.6.13, Caspar Neil Ruaridh, 4 lb 8 oz
BB01 - DD Rosie, born 22.06.13, 4 lb 9 oz
Differentnow - DD Posy, born 22.06.13 8lb 4oz
OhGood - DS (no name yet)
NotprincessKate - Amy Rose, born 26.6.13, 8 lb 14 oz
Shelley72 - DD2, Florence, born 27.6.13
Twinklestarstwinklestars - DS, Max, born 27.6.13, 5lbs 3 oz
Gingerpanther27 - DS, Callum, born 27.6.13, 8 lb 4 oz
McKTastic - DS, Murray, born 29.6.13
Bigbelly4 - DD2, Constance Rose, born 30.6.13, 7 lb 4 oz
Chinainthegarden - DD, Clara Elizabeth, born 30.6.13, 7 lb 7 oz
TotallyEggFlipped - DD2, Naomi, born 1.7.13, 5 lb 8 oz
Vinegardrinker - DD, Bethan, born 2.7.13 (bang on her due date!), 7 lb 13 oz
Abz - DS, Joseph Robert, born 2.7.13, 8 lb 4 oz
Wifey6 - DS, Kyle, born 2.7.13
Cheeseandbread- DD, Juno Olivia, born 3.7.13, 7lb 2 oz
Tryitonforsize - DS, Gray Everett, born 5.7.13, 8 lb 6 oz
MarieKL - DS, Alexander, born 5.7.13, 8 lb 2 oz
MysteryMeg - DD, Edith, born 6.7.13, 8 lb 4.5oz
Pinkballetshoes - DD, Rachel Amelia, born 6.7.13
SundaySunshine - DS (name to follow), born 6.7.13
CitizenOscar - DS2 (name to follow), born 7.7.13
Calmisthemantra - DS, Abraham John Anthony, born 7.7.13, 8 lb 5 oz
Dinkystinky - DS3, Jackson Rivan, born 7.7.13, 8 lb 7 oz
Marmitemad - DD2, Evelyn Grace, born 7.7.13, 7 lb 2 oz
Silverbirdie - DD, Edith Alice, born 8.7.13, 9 lb 1 oz
RunswithSquirrels - DD, Eden Rose, born 10.7.13, 9 lb 3 oz
BadmissM - ?

Wonder who will be next...

Oh yes, that's what I meant to say earlier - Hurrah for waterbirth being approved Mightbemad - hope you feel alot happier about the impending birth etc now.
Right off to bed - cabbage leaves at the ready...

Evening all. Just thought I would update... mean midwife wont do a sweep until 41 weeks. Humph. She didn't seem to care about the consultant being a git. She did give me the bad news that baby has gone from being engaged to free which sucks. On top of this had to go have baby monitored this Eve for reduced movement which baby then promptly decided it was the time to dance around constantly and now tomorrow I have to go for s scan because I have gone from measuring 38cm at 38 weeks to 44cm a at 39 weeks.

Oh poco, that sounds rubbish. Any chance you can move elsewhere until the birth to get some supportive hcps?

I'd think about going back to see the consultant to set your mind at rest. At best he could have been having a bad day & just not paying any attention last time & apologise when you voice your concerns and at worst he could be a real useless article in which case you'd be sure to kick up a fuss & get someone who you've got confidence in.

Last night I started sleeping in the spare room (as the bed is lower so easier to get out of) but it is a bit depressing so don't want to go to bed but going to drag dh in from tomorrow night on.

G'night all & sweet dreams

icing and thinking sorry to hear of your unsupportive families, that's the last thing you need right now. My parents think they're being helpful by just their presence alone, but all they do is sit around making more work for me, it's so annoying, so you have my sympathies.

Yeay to mightbe that's great news, well done for sticking to your guns.

Ooh cheek if the BH really hurt this could be the start of something, hope you are in the middle of having a baby right now and you're coping with the pain ok.

I'm up feeding L he is being a bit rubbish tonight even though I had a visit from a bf support person today who said his latch was fine, but I hurts tonight. Might be something to do with me only using one hand and MN with the other one :/ guess I'll be investing in some cabbage leaves tomorrow!

Hope everyone else is ok. No news from badmissm? Also hope Oliver and Shiv are still improving. Best wishes to all x

Oh was also going to say to poco that those measurements are a bit hot and miss it seems, so hopefully nothing for concern, but good luck for the scan

Poco - if baby is floating free of course your measurements are going to go up. J wasn't engaged prelabour either and was still a quick birth - try not to worry too much round here they don't sweep till 41 wks either which wasp fine by me as sweeps don't seem to work for me, what does work is lots of walking to encourage baby down and relaxation I've found, so book yourself in for a pamper.

Sorry for typos in last post - one handed typing on phone not my forte.

Sunday - J is really sleepy tonight at feeds which isn't helping matters re engorgement. Could be feeding is still painful as nipples still bruised?

I'm sorry poco . do you see the same midwife each time? perhaps you might get someone more understanding next time. did you speak to pals about the consultant?

if anyone wants to keep this first timer company tonight esp with tips I'll be grateful. in early labour with regular painful contractions but went for a check and a long way off birth so at home, letting dh sleep and wishing I could also.don't have tens or bath so just biting duvet . this is going to take a while

Hi cheeky how is it going?

Hi cheeky. Try resting between contractions at least - you'll need your energy later on!

Things I found helpful in dealing with pain (bear in mind I ended up getting to 10cm dilated with no pain relief - as contractions were 5-10 mins apart I assumed I still had a while to go)

• a hot shower letting the water run over my belly, then on my lower back - bliss - could have stayed in all night

• counting out loud through the contractions - gives your mind something to focus on other than pain & reminds you there will be an end to it >> keep breathing though!

• making other sounds with your voice (humming, singing, counting, repeating positive mantras like "I can do this")

• making sounds with hands eg clapping, knocking on a hard surface (eg table/wardrobe)

• using legs/ feet eg walking on hard surface in bare feet do you can hear the "slapping" sound & feel the floor against your feet; stamping your feet; walking up & down counting your steps

• breathing exercises - long & slow, imagining slowly blowing out a candle on the out breath

• listening to calming music or hypnobirthing cd (this actually made me want to punch the hypnobirthing cd woman this time, but last time it did help)

That'll do for now! DH also slept through all my contractions so he'd be awake enough to drive but did manage the occasional "you're doing really well" which did help!

Hello Cheek! Exciting news!! Good luck.

Dinky, how do you use the cabbage leaves?

thanks citizen. trying the counting and hitting and breathing. will try the shower trick when dh wakes..I really want to sleep but it would be impossible.,

How you doing Cheek? hope you have found something to make you a little more comfortable. Sorry I can't be more help, am still baking DC1 so will be in your shoes soon hopefully :) xx