January 2014 - thread 5 - getting excited as we all start getting 12 week scans and move into our second trimester....

[LittlePeaPod]

Here we go again....

Not sure MrsAVB but I know you can add AL onto mat leave - I think (with reservations) at your discretion. I know several friends who have added an extra week or two on that way (at the beginning).
You also accrue it whilst on mat leave, so can extend the other end too if wanted.
HTH

Might depend on employer avb. Mine made me take it at the start of my maternity leave. I was on the last day oft holiday leave the day dd was born ( early!)

I've been looking for offers on palmers-I love the smell of it! I have masses of stretch marks on belly and boobs already. Wonder if it means in unlikely to get more unless I am bigger than last time ( hope not!)

Where I work holidays go Jan to Dec. You are only allowed to take a week over if you have a baby. Normally it's nothing.

I'm going on mat leave the sat before Christmas and then I'll have loads of holidays to take when I go back in sept

Evening all. I'm just back from my second private scan and everything fine. Was amazing to see bubs wriggling around so much. They dated me as 11+5 when I'm sure I can't be more than 11+1 big baby alert! . For all those whose symptoms have gone I have been feeling fine for almost a week now & all is still good despite my panic.

Sympathy to those still feeling rubbish. I know I have been v lucky to get off so lightly.

Yeay frog thats awesome! So pleased for you!

Mat leave wise, our holiday year is may-april, so saving all my hols for this year to hopefully tag onto the start of my mat leave, meaning hopefully I can go off mid november and then hopefully can tag what I accrue on the year off to the end, so hopefully will be off approx 1 year 2 months. Will have to see if they let me, but from others who have had mat leave they seem to prefer it all taken in one chunk, rather than broken up, which works for me! I think tagging on holidays is down to who u work for....

My hols run jan to dec and i still have 6 days to book (already have 4 on the board). Am hoping to finish the friday before xmas then have my 6 days hol before my mat leave starts in jan. Then from jan to dec next year i will accrue my normal 25 days hol plus all the bank holidays.

Warning! Just because you start feeling a bit better, does NOT apparently allow you to indulge in a Burger King craving at lunch without some seriously shite consequences! Omg the heartburn and nausea! Am completely averse to all fluids again now and yet I am gagging (literally) for something todrink! Having to suck ice cubes which seems to be least of all evils. Feel like I have just taken a massive step backwards!

Remember this feeling Sultana! Apples and celery from now on you complete idiot! That will teach me to start to relax a bit!

That's rubbish sultana. So sorry you're feeling bad. I have also sworn off junk food, though for other reasons entirely .

Need advice from you lovely ladies, especially those who've been through a miscarriage. My SIL had an ectopic pregnancy about two months ago and had the exact same due date as me. I didn't get round to telling her before she miscarried and after I have been reluctant to broach the subject. I will be seeing them in ten days time so want to call her tonight to let her know my news. Any things I should do/absolutely shouldn't do? Obviously will not go on about pregnancy and pregnancy symptoms etc. She will be the first to know in my family.

Thanks for any advice!

Evening all,
Thanks for all the well wishes. I have jut been woken up after a 2hr nap! Well I did go for a good long walk this afternoon scoring myself 2 bargainous maternity shirts at the local H&M (£7 Ea). The day was improved by getting a call for the boss saying I don't have to schlep out the West Mids tomorrow, nice people but a long way!

More importantly, we had our scan today, and it was awesome!! We saw one baby, having a very good wiggle about, waving their arms and stretching their legs!!! NT was fine and scan places me at 12+4, whereas lmp would say 12+1, so looking good so far! This was followed by well over an hour of cursing Apple devices and their crappy not talking to windows devices when trying to get scan pics onto iPad for the purposes of emailing! If they had been any other o/s we'd ve had the job done in under 10 freaking minutes! Grrr!

Was thinking I would pop over to egham tonight and tell the aikido club why I've been away so long but have inadvertently slept most of the evening. Oops.

Anyway, nice to see we're thinking ahead to stretch marks and mat leave. And I do love the smell of cocoa butter!

And pidgy nice to hear you are contemplating good solid food today these marmite sausages sound delicious. Are they something you make or buy?

tooth thats just awesome and you totally deserved the nap after so much excitement!,

altered I had an ectopic last October so maybe I can just tell you the things that DIDN'T help that people said?

• be grateful for the children you have (so not the point)
• not meant to be
• best just get on w it

The things I found helpful that people said were to say they were so sorry for our loss and to ask if there was anything they cd do. Anyone who had their own good news after my EP didn't really feel connected to my EP (my sister had a bfp and told me her news about 2 months after). I'd tell her that you appreciate it might be hard for her and that you're happy to talk about your pregnancy as much or as little as she likes. And maybe be aware that your EDD may be a tough day for her, for her own reasons. Even acknowledging that at the time would be lovely- I can't imagine she'd expect any more than that. You sound like a lovely SIL- I'm sure it'll be ok.

altered, its certainly tricky with it being so fresh and you having the same due date. I would just do as you are going to and be sensitive to her. I would let her know that what you have to tell her may not be easy to hear right now, which you completely understand, but you wanted her to be the first in the family to know and then take the lead from her....

Good luck - I hope it goes OK, but dont take it personally if her reaction isnt great. Everyone handles things differently and what she has been through is just awful, but you must also try not to feel guilty about your mini bump. I feel for you both.

altered we were due same week as sil but it was us who mc. Was very sad time. Told them about mc (hadn't told them about pg yet) so they could understand why we weren't as happy for them. Her husband was nice and said all the right things like if there's anything they can do etc but sil never said anything and when we said this upset us age said its because we had said we didn't want to talk about it. This upset us as we obviously wanted her to axknowledge it. Mil was also a total cuntpuffin and said that we and dh were up ourselves because we weren't excited for sil. Still not made up with them properly. I think just say you understand if she doesn't want to talk about it but you wanted her to know first.

Thanks sultana! And sorry to hear about the crap Burger King experience today. That totally sucks balls!

Hello,

Been lurking for a while but first scan is on thurs so thought id join in. very excited to finally see baby but paranoid of there being something wrong/it not being real!

Im 11wks2d (i think) & quite fed up of the nausea now (although compared to the poor hg ladies i really havent got it too bad)

been in bed since 21:30 ( as is now normal for me) & am just exhausted...have any of you ladies found yourselves getting some energy back yet?? please give me hope that an end to this constant tiredness regardless of hoirs asleep is in sight!

alien I'm about the same as you & actually feel normal again so it will end. I saw my mum yesterday for first time in about a month & she said I looked 10 times better. Although she didn't say anything last time she said I'd looked sallow drawn & awful. Cheers!
My miracle recovery may also have something to do with the fact that I finished work on Fri & not done anything about getting a new job yet so am mega relaxed & hadn't been working that hard for 2 wks before I left either. Pls don't throw things at me from those of you struggling with work.
I do have a stinky cold tho so not everything is great.

Welcome littlealien!

I am 13 weeks tomorrow and I'm definitely feeling more full of energy this week. I was lucky that I only had nausea for the first 7 weeks or so but even so I'd been feeling pretty crap up til now.

Thanks apparently, sultana and mrsvdb for the wise words. In the end it was just DB home and SIL came in at the end knackered so decided to wait for a calmer day. I think things will be all right because we have been talking a lot about her loss and these past couple of weeks she's been very upbeat but of course this could bring things flooding back. Will definitely acknowledge her loss with something on the due date.

We live very far apart and I will be giving birth in paris so this should help as it won't be in her face and she'll only be as involved as she wants to be. I won't have any relatives with me either and they're not the clucking type so she shouldn't hear too much about it from them either hopefully.

Once this is done it's just the small matter of getting up the courage to tell my dad!

Welcome alien! Congratulations!

Glad you are feeling better frog despite the stinky cold!

altered it really sounds as though hopefully everything will work out all things considered - without clucky family and being in her face she can take the space she needs and as you say, be as involved as she wants!

Soooo...the burger king hangover lives on it would seem! Also humpty I tried changing to a more healthy brekkie of porridge this morning, hoping it would help, but now my stomach is making ominous noises so think I may be about to regret it! Ah well!

I have official NHS "12 week" scan today (13+5)!! DH hasn't seen Smudge in the flesh yet so exciting

altered, could you perhaps tell her a slightly different due date? Or even just say 'january'? It won't help much, but it might be a little less painful.

Good luck, extra!

Good luck extra! How exciting for your DH!

Welcome and congrats alien! I (very tentatively) think my energy is starting to one back up. Am 13 weeks today. But this might be more because I've resigned myself to having an hours nap after work, then going to bed at 9ish, and trying to avoid all after work evening socialising. I'm on meds for sickness and these make me tired too, so hopefully soon I'll be able to wean off these and then will feel even better. Bring on the bloom!
sultana commiserations on the BK fiasco. Changing breakfast is risky business... I think I am resigned to 1 slice of toast indefinitely.
extra good luck for scan today!
X

Morning all.

tooth - I think we might live close! If you live near Egham anyway! I'm not too far away. The sausages are from a local farm shop (Lyne). Cheese and marmite - they are lovely!! Need to stock up on some more. I think they made them as a joke but they are now one of the most popular ones they sell!

alien - welcome!

My memory is so useless I can't remember specific names and stories. Sorry!

For all those positive scans- yay! Such a lovely feeling seeing them for the first time!

Who here is planning on finding out the flavour at 20 weeks?

I really want a surprise but I just know we'll find out again. We did with our first and for me it really helped me bond with him before he was born. There were no regrets. I did plan on keeping it secret too, but I'm useless at keeping secrets and I think everyone knew within a few days as I let slip by saying things like 'he'.

Have a good day everyone. X

Pidgy we're definitely finding out - same reason.

Forgot to say welcome alien!