Graduated elderberries - 30+ and looking forward to DC1! (Thread 5)

[Alexandra6]

Hi everyone, hope you had good wkends, I'm looking forward to my holiday next Saturday (although won't be the usual sunbathing with wine flowing!), still can't wait just to relax especially as I'm feeling a bit rough and sick today! Work are piling on the pressure ahead of my hols but who cares, in one week I will be off for two weeks woop!

Just wondered when the really preggers people started to get lightning crotch/cervix pangs? So I can be prepared and not go into cervix panic!

I think it's pretty safe to say that DS is starting his life by being late.

You might have said this hazle & I missed it but is your due date the French or English one? I heard from a French friend how they have an extra week so French babies are rarely late. If it's a French one then you really are late according to Anglo-Saxon medicine!

It's the 40-week one that's considered a normal length for a pregnancy in all other countries in the world except France. Here I am indeed due only next Friday - but will then be induced as well, they won't give you any extra time after that.

Morning all, anyone running odds on who is going to produce the first berry baby then? Hazle, Cavort or Janey are the front runners, don't think it will be me, not even a twinge.

It's obviously my OHs turn to be an utter wanker this week. He was moaning last night about how very inconvenient it is for me to have the baby midweek so he has to miss work and why can't they just induce me on a Friday afternoon so
He doesn't have to take time off? Because he's already had to miss three days work (for his bloody jolly with the boys!) and he needs to catch up and really the fact that my due date is a Tuesday is just massively inconvenient to him. KNOB HEAD.

Oh dear purple I could say he's just scared & that's what's making him like this but I think your analysis is probably correct. Over on the Jan 2014 thread they invented a new word for OHs acting like this: cuntpuffin. I think that covers it. One girl over there has left her OH already. They rowed & he seriously asked whether he was the father & a lot of other awful things.

Have also just remembered that my old boss (who was a lovely bloke in every other way) was really annoyed that his wife's hospital wouldn't give her an elcs so he could fit it round his work either. Men!

Yep he's just being an arse I'm afraid, it's bad enough that because he's self employed he doesn't get any paternity leave and it very much seems like his plan is to drive me home from hospital then feck straight off to work and leave me on my own and that was bad enough but now he's complaining that the actual birth will take up too much of his time I actually want to strangle him.

They are incredibly stupid (and quite brave) we are horrmonal women for gods sake do not anger us.

Why dont they think before they open their traps, mine lacks tact at the moment but hasnt entered the realm of the complete w@nker yet. I feel for you purple, why cant they actually open their eyes to the fact their priorities need to change, screw work, they are going to become daddies. I would say that was more important?!? Can you plat devils advocate and say you dont want him at the birth and will ask your mum/sister/best friend etc instead? Maybe that would make him think?

Oh no Purple I was expecting to log on this morning to find overnight updates of how your labour had started and even possible news of a baby arrival this morning.

But your OH does sound like he's being a bit of a dick about it. If time off work was an issue he should have cancelled his jolly. Bloody men!

Mine also 'hasn't got time' to have a baby now, and the little spare time he has got is mainly this week so if I go overdue we are screwed apparently and he will probably have to work via a wifi dongle while I am in labour. I am thinking of changing my birthing partner to be the dog.

I'll help to hide the body, Purple. If he had time for the bloody jolly, he should not complain about his child being born during work hours.

Not a twinge here either. Have to make some complicated and expensive to cancel plans, maybe this would encourage him to move.

Changing birthing partner to the dog...now there's an idea! He certainly wouldn't believe me if I said I wanted mum there but he knows I prefer my dog to him anyway

Trying to invoke the law of sod doesn't seem to work Hazle, I've tried everything, being woefully underprepared, letting OH bugger off all the way to Surrey, not packing my bag...nothing.

The bloody cat just burst my gym ball as well so I can't even bounce to encourage baby out although I'm not sure I would today anyway what with it being the weekend knobhead

i'm on my second birth ball for the same reason. Evil cats. Found one sleeping in the bugaboo again as well - and I have the rain cover over it, no idea how they even manage to squeeze in.

Evil cat slept in the Moses basket last night got to have words with these naughty cats. Thankfully it hasn't got the mattress or anything in it yet so hopefully nobody will feel the need to call social services about it.

...and anyway, didn't we decide all these germs and cat hairs would be good for a newborn's immunity?

Hazle it bodes well that your pram is going to be super-cosy for baby if your cats are choosing to kip in it. It's not that hard to hoover off cat hair.

Another one here whose dog burst the birthing ball with a bit of help from a drunken DH. Trouble is, he (the dog, not DH ) thinks the new one is a toy for him and is constantly trying to swipe it from under me while I am on it so I wouldn't be surprised if another one bites the dust before baby arrives.

I cunningly seduced DH this morning with the phrase, "Do you want to put some prostaglandins on my cervix?" He replied saying he would take one for the team if he must. The romance in our relationship really is on fire at the moment.

We're off to our friends' posh Wedding this afternoon. They are both Solicitors and he is one of the Partners at a big firm. I am sure I will fit right in among their high-flying guests while sober and waddling around in a non-maternity dress which I have shoe-horned into and flip flops because none of my shoes fit.

Oh Purple that is knobbish. Clearly it hasn't dawned on him yet that a baby is going to mean a shift in priorities and having to put work second sometimes.
Mine is also self-employed and also earned minus points last week when he 'didn't have any time' (even though he was working at home all morning) to empty the bin and wash up despite me not being able to use the kitchen without retching because of the bin smell. I think I might have slammed the door on the way out to my 1.5hr commute.

Mine dared to sigh dramatically when I said I want to go to the market to get more cherries. Apparently he has been buying me cherries every day this week. The statement could be correct, if I now think about it. But I kindly reminded him not to argue with a heavily pregnant woman and cherries are healthy, I could be eating cookies instead.

Boo to all the rubbish OHs. Mine is being quite sweet at the moment & mega excitable about being a dad as I have temporarily stopped yelling at him hormonally. I think my DP can take a month paternity leave which did cause a minor panic as to whether I would actually want him home for that long!

Is a birthing ball just the same as a gym ball? I have one of those deflated in a cupboard somewhere.

Come on berry babies - I want some labour news by the time I come back from the pub later. I'll need done excitement after a night on the Becks blue!

Oh except not sweet enough to clean up the small animals guts that one of the cats left under the kitchen table last night. He has no idea how lucky he is that I'm not really sick as it was gross. Annoying how as two cats are mine & one is his he claims it must be my responsibility on the balance of probabilities!

frog due to toxo risk, you absolutely have an excuse not to clean up after the cats during pregnancy. I don't think dead mice are a risk, but you don't need to tell OH that.

Actually mine has been totally spoiling me, I barely do anything any more. Hoping to milk the breastfeeding the same way, pun intended - "Honeeeeyyyy, would you bring/take/do..."

Hazle - surely your job post-birth is to sit feeding whilst issuing instructions to DH?

Just got round to opening and constructing the pram. Bit more complicated to put together than I'd expected! Quick question though - did you all was the "soft furnishings" on your prams / carrycots? I wasn't planning to but have just realised I've pre-washed everything else, including bedding - which I guess is as close to the baby? Seems like a PITA to do it but feeling like a bad mum-to-be if I don't?!

Yes, that's the plan. If this baby ever arrives, of course.
I know you were just teasing me, but I am actually about to do some Bodycombat here, the more challenging tracks. slow walks are not doing the trick.

As for pram, I had to wash the pram mattress cover after cats had been sleeping there. If you have washed everything else then yes, would make sense I think.

You're what hazle?! Hats off, truly, am properly impressed. I'm too tired to have bothered getting dressed yet

wow Hazel, impressed!!! Hope it works!

I just got back from an hour dog walk and am now totally knackered I am now off to a picnic with 2 friends and a 2 year old.....going to be even more knackered later then

Oh yes hazle I abdicated from kitty litter as soon as I got my BFP! Unfortunately DP is a total wimp about dead or live cat 'presents'.
at the bodycombat too. I'm not yet dressed either & having shaken off the cough I've had for 10 weeks have now got a snotty nose so not really feeling up to swimming despite my new non-boob squashing supportive & allowing for tummy expansion tankini having arrived & wanting to try it out.

No it's not because I'm terribly fit and full of energy. And am about as flexible and light on my feet as an average hippo.
Just that this baby needs to get out at some point and even the easiest birth ever won't be exactly a walk in the park. I hate waiting and worrying about it, so the sooner the better.