June 2013 - thread 9 - not many babies left to arrive now :-)

[MrsBri]

New thread as we appear to be talking a fair bit!

Lets hope we've all given birth by the end of this one :-)

Been to the discharge appointment this morning with the midwife broke down in tears (no idea why) and they now think I have postnatal depression... I don't feel like I do apart from the odd cry in the last couple of days have a doctors appointment this afternoon just in case so will see what they say

Sunbeam weren't you only due on 18th? Why induction so soon?

Like Sarah I have been getting ut every day, and did so from day 2 post-section as Joe in hospital and didn't have a choice.

Since he's been home we ar rout once,maybe twice a day. I take a bottle or two out, depending on how long I plan to be out for (expressed boobjuice and/or formula) and have been known to stand on the street to feed him! Also discovering lots of places have change rooms and loos - BabyGap, for eg, tend to. I discovered this the other day when J had a massive tanty on the high st, I ran into BabyGap and thank god they had a loo. 2 massive craps in two clean nappies in under 5 mins! So I stayed and fed him there as well. All good....

Today I went out straight after a feed, fed when out but mad ensure I was already settled at a cafe before his next feed due and just fed him there. They do seem to sleep great in buggies, he did but woke up conveniently for his passport pics!

It's scary to take them out but does get easier as they get more predictable. Same as Sarah, I don't have a you ger child to care for and I am not breast feeding, although tbh my friend I was out with the other day is BF and she just fed when she needed. Has one of those Bebe au Lait things, pretty aces.

Good luck! Def good for sanity to get out and the worst thing a crying baby can do is make noise...

Pinkapples I'm sure that you're having normal hormonal feelings. And if it is a little more than that then its good that they're looking into it anyway so that they can help you out. Have a chat with them and see how it goes. Sending hugs!

Curious that sounds awful at the best of times let alone now. I agree with chatting to your mum and the docs. It's an awful feeling not being with them when they're unwell but you also don't want to end up with a d and v bug with your c section. Really feel for you as its a tough call. Sending hugs to you also!

Hawk I really hope that you feel better soon- how miserable.

Forget I reckon try to take the plunge and head out for a short amount of time and build it gradually each time until you feel more confident. I was exactly the same with ds even though it was probably easier for me as I was ff him. It make make you feel more confident to research in advance where the nappy changing/ feeding friendly places are so that you know where to head if there's anything needing doing.

Doc has given me some cream for my highly attractive boobs- eczema apparently and ok to feed is baby decides to arrive while they're still like this.

Sending hugs to all who need them!

And 'come on baby!' Vibes too!

Lol I've just realised I'm cooking curry for tea! This is not planned in anyway but maybe my subconscious is actually trying to tell me something

Learner, yes, due date was only on 18th but i was advised that I should only go a few days over my due date because I'm 40 and its my first baby.

Forget I'm getting more and more confident about just feeding her anywhere. I was even walking down the high street the other day with mum boob out but with a muslin jauntily draped over me. No one seemed to care.

Today we went to register Lily's birth officially. She decided to mark this momentous occasion with a giant poo (leakage), a burp and a scream. So I was sat in the registrars feeding. What really peed me off was our hunt for baby change facilities. The registrar didn't have them (council building) the library didn't have them (council cuts closed them 6 months ago) They suggested wetherspoons or the public loos. Went to the public loos which we pretty grim (ear marked for closure in the next 12 months). I've only just moved out of the city a few months ago and have been so used to finding decent facilities everywhere that this really surprised me. Think I'm going to have to start scouting out decent places to feed/change on my travels from now on.

Hello ladies

Curious that's rubbish for you, what a crap decision to have to make regarding possibly pushing back the CS. Hope your DD gets better soon.

Had a busy morning taking DD into town for a few errands and a ducklings lesson. I was getting so many twinges I thought - brilliant, I bet I start to labour in the swimming pool and then have to drive home Nothing this afternoon though...

I'm making curry tomorrow, though after 3 days of spicy food it's pretty much just greed.

Was going to say to ladies nervous about BFing in public, the Bebe au Lait feeding covers are really good for that period when you're still having to "get everything out" to latch on, makes it a lot less stressful. I think you can get them from Boots, I got mine online though after trying out a friend's for a fortnight. We found the main problem with going out with DD when she was tiny was more the explosive escapee poos and multiple outfit changes involved Kind of looking forward to that now in a "at least I'll be able to reach over the sinks in public loos to wash my hands" kind of way. (Thank goodness for disabled/kiddie sinks where your bump fits over the top!)

Good luck fellow still pregnant ladies, especially those with inductions/CSs coming up!

So midwife was a fail to say the least. I asked for a sweep and was told that because im going to hospital on thursday she wont do it I can have one there!!!!! I was kinda hoping to have a baby by then. :( my blood preasure was high too but agen wont do anything about it as im going in on thursday anyway :(
not a happy bunny.
Now im having a million (maybe 10) text from people asking me if I had my sweep.

Oh babybean how disappointing for you!

I got midwife tomorrow at 39+5, when I went to hospital at the weekend they said midwife will probably sweep but not getting my hopes up too much as one midwife will say wait till 40+5 and another will do it at 40 so depends who we get!

Babybeann that's frustrating for you! I have mw tomrw which is our due date but she's already told me that she won't sweep me til next tues but that the consultant might do it this thurs. in some ways I want it to be done on thurs but on my own dates I'm not really due til Sunday so I think I'd rather wait til next weeks mw appt. I've heard that they only help if you're nearly ready to go yourself so don't want the pain without the gain iyswim. Although I'm wondering if that's my way of justifying it as I'm getting more and more nervous of the actual labour bit. With DS I was bouncing on my ball lots from 37 wks. This time I did start to but now I'm looking at it with suspicion instead. Aaargh! Having a wobble!

How's your dd curious? Have you been able to make a decision about tomrw?

You ladies already feeding on the go are very impressive! It gives me some hope!

Also- what does it feel like when your waters go? And how would you describe the contractions feeling? I was induced on DS do no idea what the beginning signs feel like naturally.

So, am I being unreasonable? Not posting in that forum as they are mean.

Tomorrow is my thirty fifth birthday. I've obviously just had a baby, and an operation. I'm at home alone tomorrow.

I was thinking that at the very least DH would have got me a card and present, and the same from Polly. I managed to sort something from her for him for Father's Day despite only having four days after being discharged from hospital.

He has now told me that as the last weeks have been manic he hasn't got me anything from him or from her. This has made me really sad. First birthday as a mum, no present from either DH or DD.

I know this is irrational and I probably shouldn't be this upset but I am. Am I being completely unreasonable to throw a strop at him this evening??

Thanks for all the getting out advice. Had a quick stroll out this afternoon, will do more again tomorrow. It is just doing it that is key - and not worrying about what might happen.

YANBU Sarah, I would probably be a bit stroppy too, but if he has been a good new dad I wouldn't be too hard on him (only because people cope differently, think if it was my dh's birthday this week I might have struggled!)

Sarah that's really upsetting, you're not being unreasonable at all... Get a mutual 'friend' to get him to sort it out now!

I've spoken to my mum and she's happy to have my DD, who is still poorly, regardless tomorrow, so I'm going in for my c section at 7 as planned but I don't feel like a good person about it at all

Hopefully it's a 24 thing and she'll wake up tomorrow feeling much better. She sleeps till 8 / 8.30 so I won't even be here when she gets up... Why today!!!?

Definitely not being unreasonable Sarah, that sucks . Hope you get a better nights sleep so you and Polly can get out for lunch somewhere nice. Birthday hugs from here x

Hope it all goes smoothly for you tomorrow Sunbeam .

Sarah, I don't think you are being remotely unreasonable! I would also be very upset. I think you need to make it clear to your DH that you are upset (we all know men need the obvious stated) and he will hopefully make amends tomorrow. Whatever happens, you've got the best possible birthday pressie in baby Polly! Xxx

Good luck georgie and sunbeam!

DDefinitely not being unreasonable Sarah. I'd feel exactly the same way. Maybe he'll surprise you tomrw after all?

Well done for getting out forget!

Good luck for tomrw curious and sunbeam! And curious don't feel guilty- it's the best thing for you all and would be much more if a panic if you out it off then went into labour in top of everything. Hope dd feels better soon!

Hope you feel a bit better now too hawk!

Sarah YANBU :o I'd be having a strop too. Has he not even looked at a computer to order something online for you?

Forget - well done for getting out the house today! It's the thought of it that's worse than actually doing it IME. If you have a folding changing pad in the changing bag you'll soon enough be willing to change LO anywhere you go - any bit of grass or similar works pretty well while they're small. Well, so long as it's not raining or similar which is looking unlikely this winter summer.

Georgie and sunbeam - good luck! And hope your DD is better tomorrow Georgie too.

Sunny - I gave up on washable pads pretty quickly tbh, but the Tommee Tippee ones are fantastic. Highly recommended :)

I'm chuffed today as I managed to buy a 2ndhand bouncy chair for a fiver off someone on FB, after DD and DS1 broke the old one - DS1 lay in it while DD stood on the sides. It doesn't bounce so much anymore, more kind of lies flat on the ground...

good luck tomorrow ladies.

georgie hope your dd improves over night - and don't feel bad, it's unfortunate timing but I doubt she'll hold it against you and your New lo will soon make it all worth it.

Sarah certainly tell Dh it's not on - if I were you I'd do some online shopping and treat myself to something really nice and then tell Dh that's just for starters and you look forward to what ever he too gets you from both him and Polly! bloody men

my friend had her little boy today - 8 wks early but he's doing well and so is mum.

Ooh things might be happening here....

Fingers crossed Learner.

Got a cranky baby here. Been cranky since 6pm. Literally nothing left in my boobs but she wont leave them alone. Ive got a ticket to an evening do at the zoo on friday - basically drinks and animals my two favourite things - which DH says i should go to. However if she is anything like this he may struggle because its only me she calms down for.

Thanks rue and amI - you're spot on, I was so nervous about him crying or needing changed/fed in a place where I 'couldn't' - well, I bloody well can :)

Exciting, learnermummy!! Three babies tomorrow perhaps?

me and Ethan are back at hospital, he had his 5 day check today and lost 13.8% of his weight so came in, they're keeping us overnight and tube feeding him, think it's because my supply isn't in fully and his first day or so he didn't really feed from being lethargic

so im hooked up to a pump with him tube feeding every 3 hours, he was so upset when he came back with the tube in and howled at them feeding him, it's just me for the next two feeds and if he howls im gonna cry more than me and dp did when both of us were here